#my whole gender is dyke

[ileaveclawmarks]

Photography by Lydia Garnett

Models: Silver and Marlo

#leather dyke #ftm t4t #butch dyke #butch lesbian #gender nonconforming #lesbian photography #lesbianism #i dont think ive ever seen 2 sexier people in my whole life LOL

[skeletood]

#hylics #hylics 2 #mason lindroth #hylics wayne #hylics somsnosa #a skele fanart #as far as im concerned. theyre punk transgender dykes #and thats all there really is to say on the matter #dedus and pon are in a whole other gender ballpark you cant even comprehend #my art

[thedreadvampy]

so to recap we're going for eyelets to lace the sleeves on

I've settled on CIS DYKES FOR TRANS RIGHTS as the thing to paint on the back and I think I'm gonna see if I can find some rainbow, trans and bi flag pattern ribbon to frame that and I might put some spikes on there too depending on if I think it'll make my backpack uncomfortable

I have several patch ideas for the front and sleeves including

MORE LIFE embroidered in white over an applique red ribbon

QUEER AS IN FUCK YOUR BORDERS embroidered quite big over a bleach painting background of a swallow breaking through barbed wire

FUCK THE FUCKING TORIES obviously

black patch. small white bird flying at the top. At the bottom, in small lowercase, I THINK I'LL CARRY ON

Bi SCUM flag based on a design @lifetheuniverseandnothing did a while back

My classic rainbow FUCK

Stylised cunt overlaid with the words EAT OUT TO HELP OUT

I am toying with some ideas about a removable spiked pauldron, and planning on attaching some miscellaneous D rings bc miscellaneous D rings are nice to have. Also gonna run a chain across the back and probably a couple across the chest, and spikes on the chest pockets. I think I would also like to write things on the sleeves and cuffs.

if I have time around cooking dinner tonight I wanna mark out and pierce the spots for the eyelets (haven't got enough to actually eyelet them yet), cut the arms off, and make a start on the bleach painting. things like the studding, chains, D rings and patches are all long term stuff but it would be nice to get a bit stuck in while I'm hyped up.

#red said #the slogan was an obvious choice once i said it to jay and they immediately lit up #i have decided my reluctance to call myself a dyke publicly is pretty much entirely Discourse Brain Poisoning #and the thing stopping me being the radgy punk i wanna be is mostly a compulsive need to never say anything wrong #which is. a bad way to be radgy. sometimes you're gonna fuck up you can't get so stuck in overthinking you never do anything #and 5bh CIS DYKES FOR TRANS RIGHTS very much sums up my personal specific part in the Gender Bullshit #cause like. me being cis and queer are really very vital to my relationship to gender and to the whole. i do not want to say question. #fucking. honking great pile of bullshit coming from transphobes. #it's about protecting and loving trans people but my relationship to the struggle is also really closely tied to my own gender identity #which is. cis dyke. among other things. #also you know it rhymes so that's a winner right there #dyke jacket

[just-rogi]

I’m fucking venting here bc I’m angry and don’t have anyone to talk to and I’m not sure if this is political correct or right or whatever but I’m fucking pissed - I’m a public school teacher who works in the inner city and this year alone there have been two shootings in my neighborhood involving students not dying school hours- and one student who went missing due to gang ties (they were found ALIVE a DAYS later) -

I’m fucking TIRED I’m FREAKED OUT and I’m ANGRY because I have to go into work tomorrow and I have to have that conversation with the kids during our SEL block because they will have questions and bc they are in middle school some will not know how to process it and will joke while others will be genuinely upset

and I feel nauseous thinking about the fact that my mother and four of my closest friends are all going through the same fucking shit as teachers at different schools right now- and my roommate who is trans- and unrelated to his identity is also kinda an asshole- has been shitting on me all night about how I’m not I’m danger like he is and how I don’t know his pain (and while I’m not making excuses I’m an openly gay teacher who works directly with the lgbt students and activly educated my kids on trans rights AND I work for a nonprofit organization that directly works to protect trans and queer rights and JUST LAST WEEK put out a video for our organization on antitrans laws - I’m not saying I fucking get what it’s like to be trans but Jesus fuck I’m fighting the fight for trans youth more than you are working at Whole Foods) why the FUCK are you quantifying suffering, why the FUCK are you lashing out at ME of all people, and why the fuck are you telling a public school teacher in inner city Boston that I have no idea what it’s like to be afraid- motherfucker I’m angry I’m sorry but why the fuck are you monopolizing suffering why do you think you have the right to talk to me this fucking way. I get you are scared but you work in Whole Foods in Massachusetts- the bluest state there is- )

there is no fucking cap on grief- sorry I’m upset at this as well but you saying it doesn’t directly effect me is just so fucking ignorant and suffering shouldn’t be quantifiable mf we are on the same fucking side why are you infighting right now (and I know this isn’t relevant and this is entirely unrelated to him being trans but god he is so fucking sexist- saying shit like I have no idea what it’s like to have my bodily autonomy at risk as if roe v wade didn’t get overturned THIS year???) sometimes it pisses me off like fucking sorry I’m being over emotional and overreacting to a school shooting as a fucking public school teacher GOD I should be allowed to be angry too in my own goddamn apartment-

you don’t get to sit on your high horse and say you suffer more than me and that I’m not allowed to be afraid ok I’m done I’m gonna go in tomorrow and make sure to hug my one openly trans kid extra hard bc I know they are suffering just like I know my roomate is suffering and needs a place to express his anger- I get I’m an easy target bc I’m a safe person to lash out at and I’m not telling anyone how to grieve and I know a lot of this is just knee jerk reaction to violence and anger- I just wish he wasn’t expressing it at the one fucking person who doesn’t deserve it, like fuck, the one thing people always say about public school teachers is that we have it TOO easy, especially the night after a school shooting

*Also fuck terfs and fuck anyone who is using a tragedy as an excuse to hate trans people*

#he keeps talking about how cis people need to do better #as if a) I haven’t talked in depth about my own gender identity and how I’m not entirely aligned with ‘cis womanhood’ as a lesbian #with a complexed identity #and b) even if I was cis (which in most cases it’s just easier to say that I am) IM THE ONE GETTING MY FUCKING BOOTS DIRTY HERE #IM THE ONE BRINGING IN BOOKS FOR MY QUEER KIDS WHEN THE LIBRARY DOESNT HAVE ANY #IM THE ONE ADVOCATING FOR CALLING OUR TRANS KIDS BY THEIR PREFERED PRONOUNS AND NAME #IM THE ONE GOING TO MEETINGS TWICE A WEEK TO ORGANIZE QUEER EVENTS IN RURAL AMERICA THAT PUT TRANS WOMEN AND DRAG QUEENS FRONT AND CENTER #IM THE ONE RESEARCHING LOCAL CIVIL RIGHTS LAWS ABOUT OUR TOWN DENYING APPROVAL FOR OUR EVENT ON THE BASIS OF CROSSDRESSING #NOT BEINF CHILD FRIENDLY (we are working on it dw we have a team on this ) #IM LACING UP MY DYKE BOOTS EVERY FUCKING DAY AND SHAKING HANDS WITH SISTERS WHO HAVE WATCHED THEIR FRIENDS AND LOVERS DIE- INCLUDING #A SISTER WHO WAS AT FUCKING STONEWALL #I’m not trying to pull the whole ‘I’m gay so I get it ‘ card bc that’s not cool when cis people do that shit #but I’m a fucking public school teacher- I’m allowed to grieve a fucking school shooting FUCK #god why are you fucking quantifying suffering mf you work in a grocery store your life and the lives of others aren’t on the line daily #^^that also isn’t a dig at his work - working in a grocery store is a fine career and he deserves a living wage and dignity #but also… there haven’t been 130 shootings at Whole Foods market in 2023 alone so maybe fucking let me be angry #god #i really hope this shit doesn’t get twisted I just need to vent #if you don’t like this just block me idc I’m not fighting anymore #tw school shooting #tw gun violence #tw gun mention #school shooting

[dykeredhood]

wearing an undershirt is very gender

#Arnold in his gay lil t-shirt and boxers… #…we don’t need to talk about how scandalized my mother was when she saw I bought boxers to wear as undies #*bought boxers from fucken Ross with my own money #i didn’t realize I was even allowed to wear boxers as like… everyday underwear until I saw one of my fraternity brothers #service fraternity that allows people of all assorted genders to join as brothers btw #up until then I knew I was allowed to wear novelty boxer shorts as jammies #I’m not having something so dire as a gender crisis #but I’m working through a whole hell of a lot of repression xoxoxox #anyway i saw my BEAUTIFUL dyke fraternity brother dressing in her marching band uniform and using boxers as undies #and it was a fucking revelation for me #I’m aware that I’m v repressed #it’s still wrecking me thinking of how much I wasn’t permitted to be my own person as a child #raucous wry laughter #personal #rant in tags #this got away from me

[sanguinaryrot]

gender can be so confusing :/

#me when im always agender but my alignment changes #but it changes so infrequently that i will often begin to feel detached not only from one alignment #but from genderfludity or bigenderism as a whole #ive been in transfaggotry territory for so long that im like. its literally not a thing that im sapphic #and i know that i sometimes shift that direction. i know thats a part of my identity #but im so not over there that its like. i want to give up on that label. but i know im genderfluid. ive done this enough times now #idk... #its like. im so proud and happy being a trans bi agender achillean #that im like. oh yeah.....there are other parts of my identity. :/ #and sometime ill have a shift and be the other way. thats how it goes #but like i said. im so happy where im at that i dread having a shift. i know that once it happens ill be like wooo agender sapphic lets goo #but for now im like. lets pretend that wont happen #im not embarassed or ashamed or anything #i just. am so happy with this gender right here #idk. im always happy with my gender its just that when im x im always like i dont wanna be y #and then im y and im like this is the best thing that ever happened. and vice versa #this is lowkey about me being like should i change my pronoun page to reflect that im not currently identifying as a dyke. lol

[munamania]

damn sometimes i try i really do try to follow along on the posts where people try to address intracommunity issues among queer people and different relationship dynamics etc but as much as y’all want to say This isn’t abt hating women/lesbians/etc that’s. very much what you’re saying. like you realize that right. like you realize saying that women being bitchy and whiny about uwu their oppressors :((( while being no better than them and etc like. is fucking bullshit. like you realize how shitty that is right. like you realize that once again trying to pin these issues on lesbians and women for discussing misogyny and talking about how that affects our lives isn’t always just about Bonding over Victimhood lol it’s like. sure there are those people they sure exist but. talking abt misogyny doesn’t inherently hurt other queer people including masc presenting ones and like. it’s not our fault that we still exist in a patriarchy….? like i feel like i can pick apart what you’re saying and it’s very much about White Feminism but that’s not. every post on here discussing misogyny. like you realize how fucked up your stupid ass discourse is right. you realize how fucking stupid you’re being. how fucking idiotic it is to lump all those discussions into the same fucking category. sorry i’m being mean but like. you have to get there at some point right. we can’t keep going in these fucking circles kill me

#it’s possible to have these conversations and acknowledge the way race and gender and class etc intermingle and affect peoples experience #without having to qualify that each and every time we make a post oh my fucking god #i just can’t believe that. Whining about the oppressors while being no better than them. are you fucking stupid #truly usually among the community dont care how ppl interact w me but if your bi4bi ass could not call me a fucking dyke that’d be great #when you’re sitting over here having to continuously say you don’t Hate Lesbians because well. that’s what your fuckingnposts imply #i refuse to reblog and engage in discourse this is fucking stupid i just can’t believe the shit that just came up in a recommended post #like. oh my god. #abby talks #‘people doing the whole man hating dyke thing are actually the abusers’ like fr? fr? i’m sorry you’ve had some shit experienced with afab #people but if you could not drag us into this for whatever demented fucking reason #ok sorry gonna cool it <3 #long post

[nerdyqueerr]

The problem with being a fan of things like my chemical romance is that when you get a nosebleed on your bike in the rain and then you go to the bathroom to see how fucked up you are and you realise you have blood all over the bottom of your face and your hair is plastered to your head with rainwater your initial reaction is not "yikes! I need to clean up asap" but rather "wow i look so fucking cool right now". And i think maybe this is why my girlfriend bullies emos

#i did not take a picture but it was tempting. it must be said #i was like wow i look fucking epic -> wait the whole campground saw me walk here -> uh oh gotta wash my face #local dyke has gender moment in campground bathroom (good) whilst covered in blood and kinda looking like shit (bad) #my shit #i wont tag this mcr i wont

[chainmail-butch]

I'm going to talk about being transfem and butch.

I get misgendered in public a lot. Never cruelly. Just a lot. Which makes sense.

I'm 190lbs of muscle with a deep voice. Which I enjoy. Typically I'm wearing leather and jeans. The vast majority of people are going to gender me as male because my gender presentation is inherently masculine, and other parts of me are also masculine.

This is a problem that cis butches face regularly, and that fact helps me cope with constantly being read as male. But it aches the most when I see other lesbians/queer women.

I don't really get to be 'publicly' lesbian. If I see another dyke on the street, I'm just a man. There's no quiet solidarity there. There's no recognition.

Femmes don't preen under my gaze at a bar. Instead, I have to walk up and explain my whole situation and hope that they're cool. Which is rough, because sometimes they're not. Or, worse, they say they are, but they aren't. Which results in a lot of wasted time for everybody.

It takes a supreme amount of self-confidence to walk up to a cute girl and boldly declare yourself also a girl in a voice that immediately gives some kind of lie to what you're saying.

So, baseline, I'm pushing and establishing boundaries. I'm already testing her just by talking to her. Which makes flirting hard, you see? If I feel like I'm already toeing a line, then I'm not going to make a sly comment about her dress. I am, instead, going to be as non-threatening as possible.

This is a great way to make new friends and acquaintances (I have a lot), but a terrible way to get laid.

So, my point is that if you meet a transbutch girl understand that she's already putting up a LOT of work just be here. So, you know, maybe touch my her arm and give me her a compliment if you're interested.

#butch #trangender #lesbian #please see the reblogged version of this post #archive

[oliviasoddessey]

My specific flavour of bisexuality is so funny bc I took one of my friends aside recently when I was having my Monthly Crisis and asked "How surprised would you be if I turned out a lesbian?" And she gave it a moment's thought and said "pretty surprised, honestly. Like I wouldn't have seen it coming". Same friend who a few months ago told me she "could not ever picture you in a relationship with a man", only with a woman,

Then in the middle of telling one of my friends abt this guy I am a bit stupid over (while pointing out how weird it felt bc I am so rarely stupid over men), I tried out the words "my boyfriend" and he made a face and said "ew. That sounds wrong. Never say that again" so I had to say "my girlfriend" instead like some kind of LGBT anti-curse superstitious ritual.

#I know we went through the whole 'DON'T say you're basically a lesbian if you're a bi girl bc you are NOT WEIRD AND WRONG FOR LIKING MEN' b #but I mean #functionally????????? #and I was saying this same thing to my friend that I can feel my relationship with gender get weird when I talk about the men I like #I'm like 'ew no I sound like a WOMAN' #vs talking abt girls and being like 'I'm a WOMAN *dreamy sigh*'... #mutuals and friends pls weigh in if you have similar experiences #it's very interesting having grown up functionally the resident crazy feminist dyke and then continue to turn out liking men #Liv has thoughts #a capsule of time set to burst #bisexual posting

[spinner-of-yarns]

anyway. how’d your holidays go?

#i’ll add id tomorrow i need to sleep #anyway mom READ THE ROOM #like im grateful and all but. it could have waited till my birthday. or hell. a week from now when grandma’s not staying with us #any other time #im not explaining im a dyke to my grandma #and that’s not even touching the whole gender thing

[impeccably-imbecilic]

Trying to explain my gender as concisely as possible like...

I'm a woman in a way I can't escape from (at the moment). I'm seen as a woman by strangers and by people I'm not out to. I experience misogyny in a cis-woman-like fashion but I'm not a woman by choice and I'm not cis. The only way I'm a woman by choice is in a very explicitly dyke-ish lesbo way. I'm a man as a performance. I'm a man in a very exaggeratedly goofy way, like weird al, or those guys from the upside down show, or like a comedic drag king. I'm also a man in the way Roland Orzabal is a man, in a sort of emotional way (think The Hurting, Seeds of Love, and Songs from the Big Chair). I'm just some guy, in an autistic way, like David Byrne. I used to be a weird little girl in every way and though I am no longer a girl nor child, I carry her with me and try to make up for what she missed when she was here. I keep dolls and pony figures for her. She's my little sister. I'm nonbinary in a very personal way. As a friend. As a partner. As a sibling and as a cousin and as a child and a grandchild and as whatever the gender neutral words for aunt/uncle and niece/nephew are. I am, though my family doesn't know it yet. I'm nonbinary as an artist and in the way I experience life. I'm flexible and multifaceted and nuanced and my whole life can't fit into one gendered box. I want to have a voice like Elvis. I want to wear a pink frilly skirt. I want to have a beard like an old wizard. I want to dance in high heels. I want to confuse cis people. I want to keep them guessing. I'm a rubicks cube that was disassembled and put back together in mismatched order, and there's no need to fix it. Each piece changes color every time you turn the sides or try to reassemble again. It mostly depends on the angle. The stickers don't peel off. Changing in the shifting of the environment and by the position of the sun but not by artificial interference. That's the way I am.

Career search website I'm making an account for: that's great but all I needed was your pronouns.

#transgender #nonbinary #multigender #genderqueer

[ridetheluck]

My mom: why don’t you shave your legs or wear makeup or dress more femininely :( I feel like you’re trying to be unattractive (translation: trying to look like a lesbian)

My mom 2 seconds later: I bought your favorite cheese :))))

#I AM a whole ass dyke #but I’m not out yet to my mom and she’s desperately struggling with my gender nonconformity #also she’s a bitch

[ms-demeanor]

i really liked OJST in the mid-2010s but i didn’t stop reading cause of the cuck comic - wasn’t there also a comic erika moen wrote about (functionally) harassing lesbians with her now-husband?

In the mid 2010s closet-keys criticized one of Erika Moen's early diary comics and described Erika Moen as "Reassuring a cishet partner that it’s totally okay to use hate speech towards wlw at Pride" and condoning the harassment and fetishization of lesbians because of a 2007 comic that she had made as part of a webcomic she had written about gender and her interactions with her queerness.

The hate speech in question is the partner asking "are you sure you want to hold my hand with all these dykes around?" while they are pretty clearly at a Dyke Day event during pride, and the reassurance that 'it's totally okay to use hate speech toward wlw' is Erika responding "sweetie, I'm proud to be with you."

The comic is still up with a disclaimer that it was written at a different time, and I know that's probably not going to fly with a lot of people but if you were a bi woman in the early to mid 2000s it was pretty common to use statements like "lol yeah i'm into women my boyfriend is fine with it as long as I take pictures" to diffuse the biphobia from straight people AND to say shit like "I'm not a party bi, I actually love pussy, thanks" to diffuse the biphobia from queer people. (if you were a bi guy in the early to mid 2000s i'm sorry and I'm sorry now because we got LUG but that mostly went away and you *still* have to deal with the "gay in waiting" bullshit).

That comic ends with Erika and her partner looking at a woman and saying "I'd totally do her" while the woman thinks "pigs" and if you think that means that they literally sat on the street and vocally commented about lesbians passing by them or that they condone harassing lesbians (in, I cannot stress this enough, a diary comic written by someone in their early twenties who is realizing they are occasionally interested in some men some of the time after identifying as a lesbian their whole life), then I'm gonna go ahead and recommend signing up for some variety or other of literary analysis class. Do we think that Erika is seriously implying that she is going to make her boyfriend gay if she fucks him in this comic from a year later?

If this comic bothers you and you see it as a straight-passing couple giving the go-ahead to harass lesbians, you do you, I'm not saying you have to read the comic or enjoy Erika Moen.

I am saying it's a bit of a stretch, though, and certainly the least charitable explanation possible, and that we should probably give people some space to say awkward things about their sexuality and to make missteps when discussing it in their early twenties and not call them lesbophobic fifteen years after the fact for a college comic.

Moen also gets called transphobic because she has described trans men as adorable/cute in a way that could be read as patronizing in one comic and because she made a comic about wearing a packer for fun and for sexual gratification with her cis male partner as a cis woman.

Appropriately, all of these things feel very "late twenty teens tumblr callout post."

If it bugs you, you don't have to read the comics but I've talked about Moen before and I've gotten the anons in my inbox calling me lesbophobic for recommending her comic when in 2007 she made a comic about catcalling lesbians and condoning street harassment.

Which is frustrating because Erika Moen writes a comic about sex toys that has incredible body and gender diversity and is interested in making sure that people of all sexualities are having safe, enjoyable sex and talking openly about it. This is Rebecca Sugar condones war crimes level discourse over a creator who makes a genuinely good comic and gets dismissed as cringe by people who hate open discussions of sex and gets dismissed as a bigot (in ways that I think are incredibly unfair given the vast majority of her work) among people who *claim* to love open discussions of sex but who *actually* love witch hunts.

[olderthannetfic]

Until I read the comments on that one post I had no idea the Bechdel Test was a joke and wasn't supposed to be a serious measuring stick by which you gauged if something was feminist or not. Everywhere I'd ever heard it brought up, it was brought up as a very serious thing, and it was a failure of media if it didn't pass it. I remember the debate about Mako Mori from Pacific Rim and if she was a character you were "allowed" to like as a progressive person despite the fact that Pacific Rim doesn't pass the Bechdel Test, the discourse, the discussion of if the director was sexist for not writing in another woman for her to chat with about non-men related stuff, the camp of people trying to insist that having a fully realized character arc and being as developed as any of the male leads = good writing even if she doesn't talk to another girl...

And I've also had the remark about my writing not passing the test, just not to my face. I searched my fanfic's name once, curious to see if anyone was discussing it outside of tumblr and AO3, and found a Tiktok complaining about it not passing the Bechdel Test. The top comment was "motherfucker YOU don't pass the test but we still watch your ass". I cackled and moved on, but neither the commenter, poster, nor I had any awareness this wasn't Feminist Media Critique 101 theory and was, in fact, a goof.

Right now there's a segment of fandom debating if Blue Eye Samurai is feminist since when Mizu and Akemi talk, they do bring up men, since, y'know. Women aren't considered people with rights in their era in Japan and thus it's something they mention instead of only talking about being cool girlboss badasses who never bring up gender. If something doesn't pass the Bechdel Test, a smug segment of the internet high-fives itself and congratulates one another on being More Feminist Than Thou.

They then get really angry if you disagree, even though by this metric, Sleeping Beauty (the original animated one, where Aurora has only 16 lines of dialogue) is more feminist than Blue Eye Samurai.

--

*DYING*

Okay, so, nonnie....

Dykes to Watch Out For (1983-2008) was a long-running comic and major piece of lesbian media. I grew up buying compiled volumes at the bookstore. To be honest, that kind of 90s-ish lesbian culture isn't really my scene despite me being bi, but it was very nice to have this slice of life-y somewhat realistic, occasionally somewhat parody, look at the queer communities around me. It's up there with Tales of the City for me in terms of being a window into a particular culture and time and place.

If anybody is interested in queer history, in addition to looking up factual info, I think a read of the complete Dykes would give a really good overview of how people were thinking about things and what issues came up a lot. You'll see things like Barnes & Noble increasingly putting feminist bookstores out of business in the 90s, attitudes towards porn in lesbian circles—all kinds of cultural issues of the day.

I drifted away as I got later in my teens and found more genre fiction I cared about, but at one point, this comic was a very welcome antidote to the glurgey coming out stories that made up a lot of the more realistic media.

Anyway, here's the comic itself, reproduced in its entirety because I think it's important to actually understand the context.

This is from 1985, so the era of Rambo, Conan, and Death Wish, each of which you can see being made fun of here. It's based on Bechdel's friend Liz Wallace's actual rule for seeing movies.

That's it. That's the origin of this whole stupid test.

"LOL, fuck 80s action movies". That's it. That's the joke.

The fact that blockbusters still routinely fail to pass in the 2020s is shameful, but that was never the point of the strip.

[chapst1ckmcdyke]

So ive had this saved in my drafts for a while now- but theres a point id like to make about butch/femme identity and expression and think this is ready despite the crap i might catch for it

On my days off and when i go out for fun, lots of times i look like this vvv

And other times, especially because im a blue collar dyke, i look like this vvv

The thing that both these photos have in common is that, regardless of how i may appear, i am a femme lesbian. I am not magically butch at work just because i have to wear jeans and work boots for safety. On the clock I am often mistaken for a man and harassed for using the women’s bathroom, people call me sir and damn near keel over trying to correct themselves. I understand that people will look at me as masculine because im in a mans trade.

And yet im still a femme!

You know why? Because being femme is not about how i dress or how long my hair is or the job i work or the body im in, but who i am, how i love, and how i want to be loved back. Its my reclamation of my gender and sexuality and romantic life.

Theres this idea that femme lesbians are “the girl” lesbians and butches are “the boy” lesbians. Femmes are stereotyped as straight passing hyper feminine (and often times cis) girls. But if youve ever met a femme thats not always (in my experience- USUALLY) the case. We often are nonbinary (hi! Also me!) and/or gender nonconforming even in our femininity- taking the things that cishet society hates the most in women (ie body hair/body fat/masculine jobs/deep booming voices- etc) and owning those characteristics in ways that make us feel free and most like femmes 💕

I personally feel most comfortable being feminine off the clock and covering myself in glitter and being a tacky fat furry muppet because its how i feel best recognized by the butches i adore so much! But i get to reclaim womanhood or whatever adjacent, gender-fucked, lesbiany, thing ive got going on, and that doesn’t change when i wear jeans and work boots.

Femmes get to be whatever the hell we want- being broad shouldered and deep voiced and fat and furry and in a trade are not traits that magically make me incapable of being femme- and im over this whole ordeal where y’all assign butches and femmes as either “the boy” or “the girl” of the relationship and expect us to be exclusively feminine or masculine and never cross or mix- just recreating useless gender roles that we have zero reason to uphold.

(And this goes the absolute same for butches/studs who express feminine traits and DOUBLE for trans butches/studs/femmes)

#butch/femme #femme lesbian #gnc femme #gnc femme lesbian #butch #femme #nb lesbian #lesbian #dyke #femme4butch #butch4femme #this whole post has been brought to you by- #the fact that me existing in my body makes people scratch their heads and assign me labels based off their perception #im t i r e d