#narcissisticmother

[letsgetyourshifttogether]

As a fellow adult child of a narcissist, I know first hand what a complete shitstorm this time of year can be. It can be really challenging to keep your boundaries when the manipulation tactics are in full force. It’s important to know what to look out for, and stay grounded in reality when this happens to prevent any disappointment when the cycle of abuse inevitably repeats if you give in to your narc parent’s demands for supply and attention. This is why each year I host a holiday workshop for the family scapegoat. If you want to… ✅ Start setting or stick to your low or no contact boundaries with narcissistic or toxic family members this year ✅ Gain tools to be able to deal with the narcissist at the family dinner if low/no contact isn't possible for you at this time ✅ Learn how to release the emotions of guilt and shame that narcissists use to try and control their targets ✅ Understand how to deal with people who say "FaMiLy iS eVeRyThInG" and have no real understanding that for some people, family is a great source of damage to their sense of self and ability to feel safe in the world But you don’t ❌ Know if you have the courage to set or keep boundaries, and are afraid of a potential smear campaign ❌ Want to waste more time on strategies that don't work ❌ Think it will be as bad this year, maybe the narcissist in your family changed and will keep being nice to you moving forward? ❌ Know where to start or if it's possible to get through the next couple of weeks as un-triggered as possible Then Surviving the Holidays When You're the Family Scapegoat is perfect for you! The workshop is happening LIVE this Friday at 12:00 pm EST (replay access will be available for 90 days if you can’t make it live), so make sure you register before then so you can secure your spot! Register today for only $57 (or included in tier 2 of my community membership!) at the link in my bio!🔥🔥🔥 #Narcissisticmother #daughtersofnarcissisticmothers #adultchildrenofnarcissists #scapegoat #blacksheepofthefamily #blacksheep #manipulators #estranged #motherwound #cyclebreakers #dysfunctionalfamily #narcissisticabuserecovery #redflags #toxicmother #toxicfamily https://www.instagram.com/p/CmbXMX5sRoX/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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[thissarahgirl]

Severed ties

There I was sitting on the arm of my leather couch listening to your voice on the other side of my phone and me feeling completely numb but utterly confused. My brain had shut down as it normally does in moments of confrontation. Especially when it’s conversations with you. I instantly go into fight or flight mode. I understood what was being said but I couldn’t comprehend the words. An instant feeling of confusion filled me. In this moment I knew our relationship had finally reached the fork of the road, and the wrong pathway was going to cause havoc and destruction or peace and quiet. Drama free. But how do you make that choice when it means going no contact with your own flesh and blood? Especially when she’s your mother.

In my ear I hear how you were made to feel uncomfortable, that you weren’t treated how you feel you should have been, that if this problem wasn’t fixed it would end with visits only occurring when my husband wasn’t home. What struck me the most is how you compared this situation to the relationship my dad’s parents had. I remember thinking “You’ve got to be joking!?” My grandad would threaten and belittle, he would speak with ill tone and would physically hurt. He was abusive. My husband is most definitely not my grandad! You comparing these two men just shows how little you know about my husband and any sense of understanding our relationship.

Weeks later in a heated phone call, I recall you vehemently denying you ever said that. Once again, I’m confused. I often feel like my memory fails me, causing me to constantly doubt myself, but then again that is one of your talents. I wonder how many times you have gaslit me.

Minutes, hours, days later I’m still reflecting on this conversation. My mind takes time to process such dramatic events, and it was occurring to me more strongly how this conversation was about how you felt. And how I had to fix it, it was my responsibility to fix the actions because he was MY husband. I had to make him apologise, make him see sense in what he did.

But he did nothing wrong, except express that he didn’t need any help at our son’s first birthday party. I reflect on this day by looking back at photos, and it doesn’t take me long to notice that you are the centre of every single photo. I have no photos with anyone else holding our son. Not even us. It’s just you.

I’m struck by a light bulb moment.

I do more research.

Slowly, moments in my life come back to me, triggered by my fixation of this issue as well as with conversations.

Again, more photos with just you. But there was more than just you celebrating our eldest turning 2 and then 3. What about the other family members who want to be a part of these memories? Our child will look back at these photos when she’s older and I’m sure she’s going to be confused why there’s no photos with anyone else.

You demand to have a conversation with my husband that I must organise.

The conversation doesn’t last long, even if you have written notes and emails to yourself. You’re just using your viewpoints to continue to play the victim and make my husband look the enemy. But I shut this conversation down quickly. Your demand for respect astounds me, because you may be my mother, but you will also respect my husband. What’s that Bible verse again?

“You won’t call back.” It often replays in my mind, as this moment is a constant open file in the back of my mind. You are supposed to be the one constant support in my life, and within moments you broke us, and it is irreparable.

This conversation and the actions that follow this event consume me for months. Something my poor husband has had to deal with, helping me sort through all the random thoughts that come to mind so I can make sense. My mind is warped by it and my body holds onto the damage that’s been caused.

Your slander campaign with our family doesn’t work and makes me wonder what other lies you’ve been spreading.

The funny thing is what you might have foreseen only came true due to what you have said and done beyond that conversation. The damage you’ve caused I will never get my mind around and I will never forgive you for trying to break my family.

I continue my research beyond just looking at photos. My friend Google contains a world of information, the thoughts in my mind are starting to make sense the more information I find. Of course, I have doubts in my mind, as you can’t rely on self-initiated research without professional confirmation. But my mind won’t let go of what I’ve found.

Everything points at you being a covert narcissist. You probably don’t even know you are. But I’m shocked, my personality, my upbringing, my lack of positive childhood memories – it’s all starting to make sense.

I’m still standing at this fork in the road. In reality, I know this has probably been on the horizon for a while, something that I have been trying to work around in hopes our relationships would improve. But this final action proves to me again that I need to decide.

Choice 1 - Do I continue to stay, dealing with the anxiety that weighs heavily on my chest each time I even think of calling or visiting you and confront this ugliness head on? Choice 2 – Do I break the chains, work, and reflect on myself in the hopes of breaking this wheel of generational trauma so I don’t spread this ugliness on to my own children?

Either option is going to be a hard road to choose. But I know in my soul I can’t live with this anymore. My heart is forever broken. I shouldn’t have to choose between a life with the family I made without the family I’m from, but I know that if I’m ever going to have a chance, I can’t do this anymore. This ugliness will only spread and poison more and more of my life and the most important people in it.

You’re right with one thing – I won’t call back.

So, I’m officially done.

I choose me.

#memory #narcissisticmother #childhood #life #memoir #my life

[resilientwhispers]

Within a narcissistic mother-daughter relationship, lovebombing takes on a deceptive form. It involves the abuser showering excessive praises, bestowing gifts, and feigning affection, all with a hidden agenda to gain control and exploit. Let's expose this manipulative tactic, support one another, and break free from its grip. Together, we reclaim our worth and cultivate authentic connections based on genuine love, respect, and honesty. Remember, you deserve authentic love and nurturing relationships.

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[whatdoicallthisthing]

Does anybody else dealing with the parental abandonment/narcissistic parent things have days that just suck? Like you wonder how it’s possible, even though you understand that it’s part of it, that things could be this way?

How could all of this time pass, and the world explode, and they not even try to reach out to me?

Why did my accomplishments matter more than me? Why couldn’t I have been enough?

How is it possible to dislike your child so much?

I think I understand that it’s a narcissist thing, but I still have these feelings of why can’t they just put aside their pride and want me more than wanting to control me?

What do they even say anymore? It was one thing in the first few years, but now it’ll be nine years in a few weeks, and that hits a bit like a truck. What story do you have going that makes you not look awful, that probably makes you look like a grieving parent who’s the victim in all this? What story have you managed to wind for yourself that stretches almost ten years, a global pandemic, and doesn’t make you look like shit? I imagine there is one, or maybe many parts to one, and that I’m the person who abandoned their family and didn’t bother to check in on their aging relatives through everything. I can imagine it. And the thing is, that’s not entirely wrong. In fact, it’s almost entirely right. It’s not the whole story, and I didn’t do this, but it wouldn’t be wrong, exactly.

But even if it isn’t about how it looks — which it almost always was with them, I don’t understand how you, personally, wouldn’t care enough about the things that you missed to at least try and show you care.

I guess, I’ve been consistent. I set the boundary in response to what happened, and I was consistent. Until they apologized for their part, with words, we couldn’t move forward and I wasn’t engaging in this anymore. Until they were also willing to talk about what we actually needed to talk about.

I knew they never would. I knew almost nine years ago now. My friends and people around me found it hard to believe, and couldn’t really imagine it. They have families who want them, and parents who called them more than once every 3-6 months on special occasions or when they realized they forgot they had another kid (my guess is someone asked about me and they realized they had no information, because that’s when I’d get my communications blowing up and them suddenly wanting to know things). Like whoops, are you being a bad parent? Maybe. Are you being a crappy friend? Definitely. Are you not being a great family member? Probably.

My brain just keeps going over and over sometimes. Because the more I learn about things, the more I just feel like a little child who just wants to be loved and wanted by their parent, in the face of the glaring test results that this may not be the case — even though I naturally fight back against that as well.

So, I guess, is there anybody else who has been or is going down this road and had experienced this kind of thing?

#questions #narcissisticmother #abandonment #thoughts #hamster wheel #brain bicycle

[saramackenzie1982]

The character of Miranda is haunted by her mother. There are reminders of her failure everywhere. Eventually, it'll come between life and death. Miranda had an aversion to the flames. Get yourself wrapped up in the relationships. Some of them are strong. Others are fraught with danger. Beware! #MotherDaughterRelationship #DaughterDetox #VerbalAbuse #NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissisticMother #UnlovedDaughters #MotherYourself #SelfSoothe #TraumaSurvivor #BreakTheGlassCeiling #ImpossibleExpectations #Gaslighting #TheDuchess #TheRoyalFamily #DuchessAndQueen #ActionAdventure #RomanceAndLove #LBGTQIA https://www.instagram.com/p/Co8QtV8v07v/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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[pokingholes-cptsdwarrior]

Please share so my fellow warriors can find me!! I truly can't believe that this has happened as I haven't done anything to violate community guidelines. 😪😠☹️😤 Please follow me here at my back up account as my main account has been deactivated. @cptsdwarrior_pokingholes 🌟Click the link in my bio to Subscribe to my YouTube channel, follow me on my other Social Media, and sign up to my email list on my Website/Blog so you can always find me. @cptsdwarrior_pokingholes Sharing my healing journey to help you feel less alone. Wanda aka CPTSD Warrior ❤️ #cptsd #complexptsd #complextrauma #cptsdwarrior #cptsdsurvivor #nocontact #smearcampaign #flyingmonkeys #dysfunctionalfamilysystem #toxicfamily #narcissisticfamily #narcissisticmother https://www.instagram.com/p/CmGRoUJutWC/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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[mischiefmanifold]

me: hey, a cool person to follow! let’s check out their content!

their content: #narcabuse #narcissisticmother #narctok

me: goodbye

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[thewaywardbruja]

Living with a #NarcissisticParent was not easy, and some of the things that where said to me, as a daughter completely broke me. Things I didnt deserve. No parent should tell their child that. It hasnt left me, and I got away four years ago, and went no contact two years ago. Some things just stick with you. I can remember the exact moment as well, my parent - drunk and drugged, crying and jumping up and down like a toddler, screaming it at me in hope they would get a reaction. But I was just numb. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy.

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[narcissisticmomvent]

How many narcissists does it take to screw in a lightbulb? None, they don't use bulbs, they use gaslighting!

#narcissist #narcmom #narcissisticmother #immaturemother #immatureparent #fuckmymom #whyismymomsoimmature #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #quote

[resilientwhispers]

When your own mother lacks empathy, the emotional void can be overwhelming. But know that you're not alone in this journey. Embrace your resilience, reclaim your voice, and build a life filled with compassion and understanding. You deserve empathy, and you have the power to break free and thrive.

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[smokemirrorsmasks]

It’s doesn’t happen overnight but slowly and methodically. Comment 💯 if you agree. Comment ✋🏻if you have experienced this or witnessed it happening to someone. #repost @dr_anniephd @takingoffmasks . . Narcissists need to have a zombified partner in their life. Ideally, the more zombified the better. Given half a chance, they will deny you any space in the “relationship”. . . #smokeandmirrors #narcissisticmother #manipulation #femalenarcissist #narcissisticwife #narcissism #narcissist #celebrity #publicitystunt #toxicrelationship #conartist #redflags #attentionwhore #trauma #opportunist #himtoo #toxic #stockholmsyndrome #psychology #isolation #zombie #autopilot #belittle #behindcloseddoors #coercivecontrol #laurenkittcarter #meghanmarkle #nickcarter #princeharry https://www.instagram.com/p/CPVyGVEDID3/?utm_medium=tumblr

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[psycrow7official]

The harsh truth. 😂😂😂 👉 @psycrow7official follow 4 more 👈 . Psychology memes daily . . . . . #psycrow7official #psycrow7 #Psychology #narcissistmemes #narcissisticmother #narcissistmemes #psychologymemes #anxietyrelief #Introvertproblems #narcissist #narcissism #narcissistic #truestory #relatablememes #psychotherapist #psychologystudent #psychologytips #sadbuttrue #schoolmemes #collegememes #universitymemes #moodbooster #therapymemes #memeoftheday #dailyhumor #relatablememes https://www.instagram.com/p/CTHcPBFK5Mf/?utm_medium=tumblr

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[pourincuniverse]

“Are you hearing me?”

Today I’ve been yelled at for asking “are you hearing me?” which got interpreted as words of disrespect. 

A full fledged adult can't speak their mind and ask a simple question of frustration when words spoken are never acknowledged. 

If this isn’t the hallmarks of narcissistic behaviour, I don't know what is. 

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[pokingholes-cptsdwarrior]

Word. ✌❤

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[renewyourheart]

A reminder to not get wrapped up in the tornado of others. 🌪 Not your chaos to get involved with. ⁣ Thanks @paulgeller for the simple yet powerful reminder.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #histrionicpersonalitydisorder #histrionic #clusterB #dramaticpersonality #needfordrama #manipulation #darktriadtraits #gaslighting #mentalhealth #NFD #psychology #drama #codependency #chaos #emotionaladdiction #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissism #narcissisticmother #narcissiticabuserecovery (at New York City, N.Y.) https://www.instagram.com/p/CWbJkddr8uA/?utm_medium=tumblr

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[ikeallen]

Got a Narcissist in your life? Watch the free series to free yourself now! wwwAVAIYA.com . . . #narcissist #narcissisticmother #narcissticabuseawareness https://www.instagram.com/p/CWWKVdMvUWG/?utm_medium=tumblr

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