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asimphehehe · 1 month

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Do yall really get triggered by this?

I noticed recently in the MXTX community that people were getting pissed that Hua Cheng or Xie Lian x Female Readers exist. Their argument is that it is fetishizing gay men. How????

To the extent of my knowledge as an MXTX fan of several years, MXTX never clarified their sexualities. They could be gay, bi, pan, who knows? Also, I know for a fact that Hua Cheng would still love Xie Lian if he was a woman and vice versa.

More importantly, liking a potentially gay man isn’t a fetish? If someone likes Hua Cheng because he’s gay (which he might not be), then that’s a fetish. Liking Hua Cheng and having him be potentially gay as one of his many characteristics is not a fetish. Source: I’m a Bi woman who has seen several men fetishizing lesbians 😀

Overall I think this is really ridiculous. Am I wrong?

#heavens official blessing #hua cheng #xie lian #tian guan ci fu #tgcf x reader #tgcf #hua cheng x reader #hualian x reader #xie lian x reader #lgbtq #need advice #mxtx

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tofu-bento-box · 15 days

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here’s the thing i don’t get: people tell you to communicate your feelings, and then react negatively when you feel something they don’t think you should.

i’m ill in six different directions: my feelings are mostly negative and generally illogical. i get upset for reasons that i know don’t matter in the bigger scheme of things. but i can’t express that anger or hurt, because then people think that i am selfish, and entitled, and a bad friend. on the other hand, though, i’m also bad at hiding my feelings, and saying you’re okay when you clearly aren’t is also rude. so it’s just a constant struggle between “how much can i say to make this person feel that i’m answering truthfully, without them deciding i’m a selfish asshole.”

people tell me that you can’t rationalize away your emotions, and then react with disgust when i can’t do that for “the things that matter.” i’m upset. i know i shouldn’t be, i’m upset that i’m upset, but you sitting there judging me isn’t exactly going to help the situation. i know that whatever’s going on with my friends is more important than how it affects me. but then what does selflessness look like? is it not being upset in the first place, or is it just hiding your expression of your hurt? am i incapable of being a good friend because i can’t keep myself from feeling things i shouldn’t?

i just don’t get people sometimes. it’s like everyone has a rulebook for what’s allowed, and they just forgot to give me a copy. i get told communicate, communicate, communicate, over and over, and everyone forgets to mention what i’m meant to be conveying. because sometimes it really seems that what they want isn’t the truth.

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devildomwriter · 4 months

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Some people are telling me they already have relationships level 35+ in Nightbringer! How???? I don’t even have 35+ in the original

#obey me shall we date #need advice

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xx-thedarklord-xx · 2 years

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Love advice needed!!

Shsk okay. So I’ve got this coworker who I’ve known for about 2 years. Super nice guy, weird as fuck but I like that about him.

He likes his personal space and backs away whenever anyone comes near. He’s got an invisible bubble that he doesn’t want invaded. I respect that and try not to get close. Some coworkers think it’s funny to bug him and get in his bubble. I always make sure to chase them off because that’s rude.

He participates in conversations but never starts them. Doesn’t offer personal info so despite working with him for so long I actually don’t know anything about him now that I think about it 🤔

But I’ve never even had a single romantic thought about him. He was just a coworker that I could rely on and vice versa.

Until now.

The other day he showed up to work hungover and he randomly told me that I should marry him.

When I tell you my whole world view shifted Shsksk

Now he was hungover so I don’t know how much of it was a joke let alone if there’s any kind of interest but where I didn’t think of him that way previously, now I totally am.

He tells me stuff like, “you’re the best” or “you’re my favorite” but it’s usually only when he’s hungover.

And!! He. Let. Me. In. His. Bubble.

Some of the mechanics think he’s interested but I’m not sold 🤔

Hungover thoughts are better than drunk thoughts but is it any different from sober thoughts??

I’m so confused.

The techs think I should ask him out but I don’t know. I don’t think he’s interested and I do not have the guts to ask Shsk

#work story #need advice #I’ll probably do nothing #lol

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popironrye · 1 month

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Need Writing Advice Lost Boys (1987) Ships!

Hello poppies! I've been chipping away at an oc story for the lost boys and I wanted everyone's opinion if they're willing to give it. 😊

I need advice on how to write a polamorous relationship. For context, the relationships in this story are the boys (David, Dwayne, Paul, and Marko), Star, and three female OCs.

Is there anyone who engages in poly lost boys content or have experience with poly relationships willing to share some tips or share their thoughts? 🥹👉👈

#the lost boys #fanfiction #writing advice #writing ideas #polyamory #poly lost boys #need advice

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girlsjustwannahavefun444 · 15 days

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Don’t worry about it sweetheart ♥️

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mereeples · 1 month

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Maybe somebody can help me with this better on here.

I recently came out as aroace to my family (took 2 years to do, we’re a Christian family and was scared of getting backlash. They were very supportive with my decision though).

(This got long, added the read more so it’s not giant on my page, lol)

I wanted to find some content pertaining to the aroace spectrum because I wanted to see other opinions and experiences. I’m still trying to figure out where I am on it, y’know? But whenever I look up aroace content, especially on tumblr, it’s a bunch of people yelling about shipping aroace characters and why you’re a terrible person if you do ship them? I get it for some, because some of the ships don’t make sense to me depending on the character, but, I don’t know, I just feel hurt I guess when I see someone say that character CAN’T be with someone just because they’re aroace.

Now before anyone yells, bear with me on this: I’m not referring to romantic or sexual relationships. That argument I can understand, but some make it sound like someone whose aroace is incapable of love or compassion.

I know that I’m aroace because I’ve never been attracted romantically or sexually to someone before. I honestly don’t see myself in that kind of relationship at all. But it doesn’t mean I can’t love or someone else can’t. There are more loving relationships other than just romantic or sexual, a relationship can be a platonic or family oriented scenario.

I’m currently writing a story regarding a platonic marriage, because I was curious about the thought of one. The relationship is way different from a typical marriage, and I honestly like the thought of such relationships where you know you love that person but you don’t show it in a normal sort of way. Like, you just vibe well together and that’s all there is to it.

I don’t know, I guess I just want people to know some of the stuff I see being said hurts sometimes. I get your side of the argument when it comes to people getting romantic or sexual with a character, but it doesn’t mean they are incapable of other types of love or relationships. I’m still new to my spectrum, and I’m still trying to figure out things, but I can’t be the only one getting a tad hurt by this indirectly. I just want people to be a little more empathetic about the topic, I guess. This topic involves a person’s identity, and like all identities, they are not cookie cut the same.

I don’t know, does anyone else have a say about this? (Also, please be nice or let me know if I’m coming off offensive. I’m really just trying to get reassurance or someone else’s opinion on the subject).

(Also, does anyone have any other character interpretations of someone being aroace? I only know of one that I like and I don’t want to talk about him on this blog because I try to keep it PG 13. Only other fictional character I know about is SpongeBob, apparently he’s asexual…)

Keep your smiles bright even during the most bleakest moments in life. 🙂

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #fandom #just kinda need a friend #love #relationships #queer platonic relationship #need advice #need reassurance #I’d like more education on the topic too #be patient with me I’m autistic. and I’m not saying that to be cute

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liesmultixxx · 3 months

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is it a good sign if the person you like always comes with you to talk even though they actually have to go the opposite direction? lol

#personal #daily life #need advice #advice #just asking #asking for a friend #send help #i need help #question #having a crush #crush #crush culture #crush core #crushing #falling in love #love #romance #boy crush

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heatheniousmaterials · 6 months

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Hey, uh, this might be a longshot, but I kinda need religious advice. I have an issue I'd like to talk to a friend about, but it has a religious bent that I'm not sure any of them would understand

I really need a Pagan, ideally a Norse Heathen, to talk to

#norse heathen #heathenry #heathen #mental heath support #need advice #norse pagan #norse paganism #paganism #pagan #paganblr #pagans of tumblr #religious advice #religious support #tara says shit

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eikkoloveskiller · 1 year

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Totally my fault, I fell too hard for those pretty brown eyes

#gay #mlm #nblm #pansexual #unrequited feelings #unrequited love #i need him #need advice #i need sleep

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cavity-cripple · 3 days

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does anyone know what the cause could be of weird “episodes” where i feel like just. Bad. like im super weak and cant lift my limbs and feel short of breath and like i dont have blood or something. “lethargy” seems to be the word for some of it. ive thought it was just my POTS for a long time, but i just cant find anything that supports these symptoms and my heartrate is always completely fine (im usually on the higher side, but with meds my resting is around 87bpm)

the closest thing that describes the feeling online is t1 diabetes but i don’t know enough about that to actually figure out if my symptoms line up or not, and im pretty sure if it were as serious as diabetes something way worse would’ve happened by now (its been going on for like a year and half, i have 1-2 episodes per month)

ive tried talking to doctors about it before but they always just push it aside and dont listen bcz im bad at talking outloud and they dont understand what im saying.

#bug speak #need advice #disability #pots #pots syndrome #t1diabetes #t1d #chronic fatigue #spoonie

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cringelordofchaos · 5 months

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I THINK IM NEURODIVERGENT?.?. specifically ADHD but it could b something else idk

IDK I've been questioning it for a LONGGG time I've been sent to the school psychologist twice and neither time helped I relate WAYYYYYYY too much to neurodivergent people and I have for a long time now, ever since I found out ADHD existed really.

I've heard many times "self diagnosis with throughout research is valid!" But I don't trust myself enough I'm too fucking stupid for this

Also I'm scared. What if all the traits commonly associated with ADHD are just there bc I'm online wayy to much. That's probably the case. I mean, bad memory. Horrible attention span. impulsivity. Underperformance at school. Emotional dysregulation. Being disorganized. Etc. Idk man

Idk what to do anymore. I guess labels don't exactly matter I can still get help without diagnosis (I doubt I can get tested for a professional diagnosis bc I'm too much of a coward to ask my mom abt it + the country I live in is not as progressive as the USA is in terms of neurodivergence n stuff (I'm pretty sure)) but like I'm worried if it's MY fault I'm like this. Doesn't matter

WHAT IF IM QUESTIONING THIS JUST BC I WANT TO BE "QUIRKY". What if these r all signs of me just being chronically online

Idek man

I'll still work on myself (how I manage emotions, how I manage healing, how I manage studying (I don't lol), my attention span, etc) but I just want answers to my questions

#adhd #neurodivergent #possibly neurodivergent #questioning neurodivergent #need advice #wtmf do i do #nd

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rosyjn · 7 months

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guys I’m writing rn and I feel like I’m running out of words for penis should I just give up dignity and use “member”

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eric-the-bmo · 2 years

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Hey ya’ll what are small little things that make us human? Writing about an eldritch being who wants to experience/see those things and I need a list.

Not really looking for emotion things, I think, but those are welcome. Only things I can thing of is stuff like how bread and certain foods are prevalent within every culture, humming little songs, and storytelling. Idk, little actions and things that people do. But yeah anything yall can think of is welcome