#need some advice

[breelynnxoxoxo]

WHAT TO DO? WHERE TO GO? 💋💋💋

#need some advice #need some help #which direction #no direction #new directions #guidance #blonde babe #blonde ambition

[aerkame]

NSFW for Finfolk AU Q&A

I've been on the fence about this since I am simply not comfortable with NSFW for normal Welcome Home characters, I just can't see them like that, but for the Finfolk AU their personalities are so different or are on point with Finfolk lore that I wouldn't be bothered with it.

My issue is that I am afraid minors will simply ignore any warnings I put or they will read it regardless. I can not stop minors from doing that or reading what they want, but I know I can write what I want, it's my account/blog. I just want to make absolutely sure that this is alright with those who are following me for the reading. You will not have to see any NSFW writing on it as it will of course be censored behind the Mature audience only post options and the writing I have planned is tame and will not be a frequent kind of posting.

I am considering on just posting any NSFW posts on AO3, but I am not sure others who followed me for that will know it's on AO3. This would be the same for any other fandom I write NSFW for.

So, I will leave this post up for anyone to ask questions about this. Just simply comment below or send an anonymous ask if you prefer and I will answer.

#welcome home #welcome home finfolk au #playfellowxxx #need some advice

[kimberly-spirits13]

From one amigo to the next. For college dorms would you pick the really small suite style (bathroom shared by four) dorm with yucky carpet and a kinda ugly sink OR the newly renovated traditional style (bathroom at the end of the hallway) bedroom with a way larger space and nicer closet/ sink? I'm pretty sure that this would be obvious to do the traditional but I need insight from college people

ARE THERE THINGS I AM NOT PICKING UP AND NEED TO HAVE PUT DOWN OVER HERE?!

#dream college #college life #college #university student #university life #help others #send help #please help #us schools #school system #high school #school #dorm room #dorm life #question #questions #survey #need some help #need some advice #advice for school #advice for life

[tiny-brain]

Ok, I'm sorry, but does anyone out there have any advice on getting oneself to draw more often? Like, I don't necessarily have art block, in fact I have too many ideas, but between ADHD and constant unfinished homework getting in the way, sitting down to draw just never seems appealing to the subconscious part my dopamine-starved brain. So like, to any artists out there who know how to overcome this... how? How do you do it? How are you able to more consistently set time aside to sit down and get yourself to draw something? TEACH ME YOUR SECRETS, DANGIT

#need some advice #i just want to draw #random talk #art help #art #artist struggles

[zaacataac]

I was today years old when I discovered that ADHD does NOT cause tics and it’s very likely that I have Tourette’s or a tic disorder and should see a professional about it

Tbh I’m not really sure what to do? I’m a legal adult but just barely so I’m still reliant on my parents and idk how to talk to them about this because they don’t really get it? Like- they try their best, but my mom was the one that told me that my tics came from anxiety and I don’t have a tic disorder because sometimes I tic less then other times?

I am actually in potential medical danger because of one of my tics but I’m scared I won’t be able to help for that part without getting diagnosed with a tic disorder and I’m not sure where to start there or even how to talk to my parents about it???

someone please help

#Tics #tic disorder #Tourettes #motor tics #vocal tics #Need some advice

[anyablackwood]

Any advice on where to post a short story? I haven't 100% finished it (I'm still thinking of expanding it) but I'm thinking of posting what I have anyway for feedback and all that, but I'm not really sure where I'd put it. It's about 20 pages in my Google docs, so I feel like even if I tried to cut it in pieces it'd be a little too long for a Tumblr post... but I don't know where else I'd put it! I've looked it up but there are so many websites (few of which I've seen before) and I really don't know where to begin.

#writeblr #fiction writing #writing advice #short story #writing help #need some advice #writing community

[kura-tsuki]

Question : Which one is better to you??

#my art #oc design #need some advice

[thora-sniper]

Some original photos that I use in first panels about brothers reunion. We all need hugs sometimes. I'm in that situation that even my very close persons can't help me to fill better, so I'll continue this series like something new for me.

I'll use only brother's patterns in this stoty. If you're in other way of thought it's not here.

#tbb echo #tbb crosshair #the bad batch #lost in life #very upset #need some advice #need some help

[bruh-anator3000]

Would Machine Herald bring his s/o back to life using technology he used to save himself despite knowing the s/o was against that type of extreme augmentations?

I don't play league bc I just don't wanna, let's be honest here, but I know a little abt machine Herald and Viktor did all that to save himself, and he turned off the emotional part of his brain so it would only be logic, right? So if he had a s/o that he lost, do you think he would be logical and let them rest in peace or would he go hysterical and try to bring them back to life, knowing that the s/o didn't like the necromancy he could commit?

I genuinely need answers because my storyline stops after their death amd i cant figure out if Viktor, as Machine Herald, would revive them or not. If he did, it would make the death less impactful to the story but is it more in character to do so? I mean, isn't his whole thing about how human flesh is weak and the glorious evolution is metal man?

Idk so im sending this out in hopes someone will see my S.O.S, I wanna know what you think!

#arcane league of legends #viktor league of legends #machine herald #machine herald viktor #viktor arcane #arcane viktor #arcane #viktor #need some advice

[x3no9]

Who should I write about next? I have devoured the CoD universe and after I finish the healing/love/comfort one I am working on featuring a secretly soft and damaged Simon, I need to move on. Need another fandom. Any ideas? Especially if you have read anything I do, need some inspiration lol. Just a fandom/pairing is good.

Thanks all!

#need some advice #what fandom should i corrupt next #moving on to another spot #fanfiction #m/m #ask #need help about next thing to obsess over

[aap-kaisi-ladhki-hain-kammo-ji]

What to do when your heart is feeling heavy for no reason at all !!!

#need some advice

[breelynnxoxoxo]

NOT MUCH OF A COOK! 🍳🍳🍳

#cooking #a challenge #not a chef #kitchen #kitchen fun #baking #flour #all purpose flour #need some advice #need some help #help me

[dreamm3mos]

My Life just reached that point where I have to keep coffee powder by my side to snort so I don't fall asleep but not enough so that I can sleep at some point

all while listening to an airplane engine to help me focus on my current task cause if I put music on I'll start vibing and get nothing done

#send help #i'm so tired #genuinely #everything is a mess #and a distraction once I stare long enough #need some advice #cause im getting burnt-out too fast #ADHD sucks

[mokeonn]

"But if college was free, then people would abuse that and get useless degrees" hell yeah I would! If I could go to college without debt I would make it my job to get a degree in every little thing that interested me. I'd get a doctorate in film studies. I'd have a bachelor's degree for every science I like. I'd try to learn at least 5 languages with varying results. I would learn something "useful" like coding and then follow it up with a ""useless"" degree like art history. I'd be the world record speed run holder for getting every degree possible.

But I can't afford college without going into massive debt, so instead I spent the last 5 years trying to figure out what I am passionate enough about to consider going into debt over, because unfortunately being passionate about everything is extremely expensive to pursue.

#simon says #i love learning so much and I hate the USA's college debt system #once they make that shit free I will be unstoppable #this topic sprung up because I had the idea that im very academic and annoyingly analytical that I might as well get a degree in it #because without a degree you just seem like an autistic asshole #but with a degree? then you look like a CREDIBLE autistic asshole #don't worry I will still learn but I still want that funky piece of paper to tell everyone I learnt it #also there's some things that are VERY difficult to learn #like I would love to persue this topic further but unfortunately I would need help with that #also before you say 'try taking [blank] classes instead! it's less expensive than a degree!' im broke #my only learning resource is the library sorry about that #also this is not the post to give me unwarranted financial advice #finances are one of the topics I DO NOT care about and I WILL NOT listen to a word you say

[astral-from-afar]

additional tags are KILLING ME

#astral at work #should I have a top 10 #or just everything #need some advice #lowkey

[inkskinned]

there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

#this is objectively bad advice #don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this #but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries #.... it IS fun #i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him. #bc i used to get SO fucking upset #i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it #and now i just LITERALLY do not engage #instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation #i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection #they like the rush they get from arguing #but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me #so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru #NORMAL CONVERSATION #he doesn't get it yet #i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?'' #'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''