#negative emotions

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Accepting what has happened doesn't mean forgiving. Accepting and welcoming to nurture whatever negative situation you had been through doesn't mean you have to forgive at all costs who made you go through that, nor forget the pain. Accepting means knowing you cannot change what has happened but you can change how you look at and feel about it now, so that you can change your future too. You can free yourself from all that and move on. And it's all up to you. Also the amount of time you need to get there is up to you, do not fret it.

#words #healing #important #positivity #thoughts #self love #self healing #positive thinking #healingjourney #love yourself #acceptance #welcome #negative emotions #trauma #tw trauma #life #life lessons #self care #self embrace #self help #self improvement #self growth

[positivelypositive]

🌱

here to remind you...

...that feeling the way you do is not always a bad thing.

you're human. you have emotions. and your emotions in reaction to certain situations can be negative from time to time.

that's okay. that's normal. as long as the negativity is not in your actions. as long as you trace the path of those emotions to understand why you feel that way. as long you try to resolve those knots inside of you, so that you can be free, it's okay.

it's okay to be human. it's okay to feel any way you do. you're okay ✨

#positively positive #positive affirmations #mental health #daily affirmations #affirmations #self love #self care #love yourself #mental health tips #mental health support #emotional #emotive #emotions #feelings are confusing #do what feels right #feeling low #feelings #negative thoughts #negative thinking #negative emotions #anger #fear #nervousness #stress #anxiety #you're human #it's okay #it's okay to not be okay #positive mental attitude #mental health awareness

[desultory-suggestions]

Anxiety can make you feel disproportionately about many things. Maybe you made a mistake, and it’s ok to feel guilty or ashamed. But if it starts to overwhelm you, absorb you, leave you paralyzed, etc. that’s not normal. Spend time learning to release that intense and excess energy while allowing space for reasonable discomfort.

#suggestions #suggestion blog #emotional regulation #emotional health #emotional wellness #shame #embarrassment #guilt #negative emotions #mental health #ed recovery #self love #anxiety #depression #relationships #mistakes

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Aaaand it’s done! Man this one is dark... I mean, literally XD.

I made Nightmare's aura extra smaller and weaker than his brother's. While the hatred of the angry mob penetrates him and poisons his aura, the dull, calm and dark colors of the tentacles are inviting and thus a beguiling refuge.

At least that was my idea when I painted it.

PS: I am now also glad that I have separated the two brothers. With both opposite and the larger background, I would never have managed to create this depth in the picture (with the tentacles).

Art inspirations:

Nightmare!Sans Pose: LV --> www.youtube.com/watch?v=9x2bWj…

Art Style: 水綿 --> www.youtube.com/watch?v=LF2DOU…

Nightmare!Sans by: @jokublog

#@a-place-to-hide-blog #nightmare!sans #nightmare sans #dreamtale fanart #dreamtale brothers #dark apple #black apple #negative emotions #angry mob #hate #hide in the safety of negative emotions #corrupted nightmare sans #creation of depth #digital art

[unwelcome-ozian]

#negative emotions #feelings #connecting with feelings #trauma recovery #abuse recovery

[thepastisalreadywritten]

NOTE: Additional photos have been included in this article.

#Prince William #Prince of Wales #Princess of Wales #Catherine Princess of Wales #Catherine Middleton #Kate Middleton #British Royal Family #cancer #chemotherapy #conspiracy theories #fake news #social media #misinformation #disinformation #Imran Ahmed #Centre for Countering Digital Hate #algorithms #hate #negative emotions #trolls #public awareness #Facebook #Tiktok #X #Instagram #Meta #WhatsApp

[shiutsu]

Reminder that if you insult someone multiple times and then you're mad that they're getting irritated, you're the bad one here.

Nobody owes you kindness if you insult them severely,so stop expecting they're gonna be "🥺☺😊",let people be fucking angry.

#dealing with anger #anger post #repressed anger #anger issues #angercore #anger #anger and rage #ragecore #negative emotions #emotions #trauma coping #coping mechanism #coping methods

[odd-god]

Horrible mental health day.

Just.

Feeling every negative feeling

All at once.

Feels..like I'm in Hell.

Anyway. Trying to remind myself this is a normal reaction when one is autistic and has cptsd. When they're isolated and have been more or less alone their whole life

Dealing with the same and more of what everyone else is dealing with

Coming home and being like.

Wow. We're all just very hurt and tired. And even I - a cinnamon roll - feel like an absolute demon and shit stain of a human just because I HAVE and experience these negative feelings

Even when they're perfectly reasonable

And I try not to dwell on the things that bother me but

It was like a tsunami of negative feelings

I feel a bit better. Having talked to someone

But they're all still there. It was like releasing a bit of steam

I know what will fix me (love)(understanding)(support)(of many types)

Unfortunately I just feel like.. I can't accept anything but.. what I need most.

Everything else feels more or less meaningless and like ash. Except a few things.

Sigh

Anyone else?

#emotions #negative emotions #overwhelm #shutdown #autistic shutdown #autistic burnout #burnout #cptsd #queer #brown #trans #transgender #trans man #trans masc #voidpunk #trauma #vent #feels #big feels #my feels are always big #in a way #depression #anxiety #social anxiety #hsp #highly sensitive person

[fashionlandscapeblog]

Normalize getting things out of your chest online, normalize ranting, normalize saying 'I'm not OK' or 'I don't find this OK', normalize expressing your emotions. By the latter, I don't only mean the rAinBow BrItE variety, which is what we mostly see, I mean the feelings that seem forbidden to convey online. That's right, those precise feelings, which once expressed, make you fear people labeling you as a 'negative person', because yes, there is some sort of ongoing widespread witchhunt against anything that doesn't paint the world as a shiny happy place. It's an unwritten law.

How is it possible to think that living in a society where everything should be reminiscent of a Colgate Smile is healthy or normal in any way? We have become a species that represses its true emotions for the sake of a picture perfect online persona or simply for the fear of being even slightly perceived as 'negative'.

The worst part about is not only that ignoring reality and lying to ourselves has only made things worse, but that showing that hidden part of yourself that wants to scream and say all of those unsaid things would actually not only help you, but you would be suprised at the amount of people who would relate and would be helped as well. It is only healthy to do so. If to express the socalled 'negative' emotions is widely looked down on, then remember that 'sanity is not statistical'.

We live in a neoliberal society of toxic positivity that doesn't forgive you not being OK, because being happy at all times is only your responsability and if you aren't, you should resort to some sort of disciplinary emotional self-flagellation reproaching yourself, because you have 'failed' and 'attracted the negative' which affects your performance. This victim blaming is all based on an illusion portrayed by the socalled 'positive psychology', founded by psychologist Martin Seligman, who has strong financial ties to the Evangelical John Templeton Foundation (financing anti-abortion, homophobic and transphobic legislations), being one of Seligman's research biggest donors as well as of the father of neoliberalism himself, Milton Friedman. So yes, our behavioural patterns have been designed and tailored to fit the neoliberal system and to keep the status quo intact. Positive psychology is taught in schools, employee training, in quotes on Facebook, it has dominated the self-help industry, it's everywhere in our lives. This is biopower in the works.

#positive psychology #positivity #the burnout society #toxic positivity #the law of attraction #neoliberalism #negative emotions #negativity #rant #food for thought #biopolitics #biopower #politics

[dk-thrive]

You want to mute the pain? You’ll also mute the joy.

These negative emotions only become toxic when they block out all the other emotions. When we feel so much sadness that we can’t let any joy in. When we feel so much anger that we cannot soften around others. True mental health looks like a balance of these good and bad feelings. As Lori Gottlieb says in her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, “Many people come to therapy seeking closure. Help me not to feel. What they eventually discover is that you can’t mute one emotion without muting the others. You want to mute the pain? You’ll also mute the joy.”

— Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma (Ballantine Books, February 22, 2022) 

#Stephanie Foo #negative emotions #pain #hurt #suffer #feelings #mute

[randomreasonstolive]

Reason to Live #8442

  Releasing your negative emotions when they don’t matter anymore. – Guest Submission

(Please don't add negative comments to these posts.)

#sad #help #hope #reason to live #depressed #depression #empty #alone #mental illness #anxiety #trauma #guest submission #mental health #release #releasing #negativity #negative emotions #coping #growth #progress #strength

[moonlit-positivity]

Some affirmations I am telling myself today (hard day dealing with emotions):

• I am allowed to feel whatever it is I need to feel

• I am allowed to feel whatever it is I need to feel about any given situation at any given time

• I am allowed to let myself experience all of my emotions in their entirety

• I do not have to immediately make myself feel better, try to always see the positives or bright side, or always make myself happy- especially if I am feeling upset angry or experiencing negative emotions

• I am allowed to be upset, I am allowed to cry, I am allowed to voice my concerns and take up space

• I am allowed to voice myself even if it inconveniences others

• I am allowed to take up space even if my negative emotions are taking over

• I am allowed to creatively express all my feelings in a manner that keeps me and my peers safe

• I am allowed to say I am upset if I am upset, I am sad if I am sad, I am allowed to call and name my emotions as they appear even the negative ones

• I am allowed to have my own thoughts and opinions at any give time of the day, in any given company

• I am allowed to disagree

• I am allowed to decide what situations best fit me and I am allowed to leave a conversation if I do not feel safe

• I am allowed to experience all of myself as I am without needing to change who I am to fit someone else

• I am allowed. Period.

#ptsd #recovery #boundaries #trauma #bpd #mental health #cptsd #dbt #therapy #trauma recovery #emotional health #emotions #feeling emotions #negative emotions #self love #affirmations #positive affirmations

[solarpunkpresentspodcast]

Hope, but not right away

This is more of a half-formed thought than a complete article, so bear with me, but I wanted to put it out there especially on this gloomsome spring day, where the sun is mostly hidden by clouds that will not resolve into anything so reliable as precipitation.

Spring is often a time of joy, full of bright pastels, celebrations of life, rebirth, renewal, the return of green things to our lives. I think part of the reason that we put the focus so much on these things is their singularity within a world that is more often full of mud, grey skies, and barren trees. The snow melts away to reveal a rotting corpse, as it were, for the first few weeks of spring, at least around here. Branches stab at the sky and are not so much full of potential as skeletal imagery.

The solarpunk lens of rumination on this would focus on the way that the rotting detritus of last fall is composting, pregnant with possibility, working to become the literal ground from which life will spring. But I worry that, in that focus, we too often skip over the dull feeling of drear that can come between the absence of snow and the advent of greenery.

Ugly feelings, to poach a phrase from theorist Sianne Ngai, are very valid and worth acknowledging. Especially when the world around me is ugly, I have some pretty ugly thoughts. I mourn the fact that the double-whammy of climate weirding and El Niño meant that we didn’t really get a winter at all in these parts. I resent the rawness of the wind, too cold when the sun isn’t shining, and still wet as hell and - it seems - tailored to produce the most amount of misery in the least amount of time. I am frustrated by the fact that every single one of my coats (ranging from heavy-duty winterwear to light rain jackets) are needed within the span of a week, and yet none of them are truly adequate for the weather conditions I walk through. I think dark thoughts about the humans of this city when I walk the trails and see the incredible amount of litter - plastic bags/bottles, old Timmies cups, cigarette butts, wrappers, and other detritus - on the sides of the path, now revealed by the melting of the snow.

These are all problems that I know will pass, or that at least my brain will skim over. Take climate weirding and El Niño for example - I can’t do anything about weather patterns, and I’m doing my best right now to tackle climate change and catastrophe given my situation; they’re not going to go away any time soon, and they are a reality that I can accept, like the shitty wind. Doesn’t mean I’m not going to change my behaviour or do something about them, but it’s not like I myself can just nip the problem in the bud. Given past experience, I know that temperatures will continue to climb, solving my multiple coats problems. The City has already emailed me and many others subscribed to its newsletter that it is time for an annual spring community clean-ups: and if one registers with a group, they will provide gloves, grabbers, and garbage bags for each person, along with a tips sheet about safety, especially with handling any sharps such as broken glass or discarded needles.

So I can pass pretty quickly on to feeling fairly okay about my immediate situation. As I’ve said before both here and on the podcast, I really do believe that solarpunk is about looking around at the detritus of the early twenty-first century, then choosing deliberately to roll up one’s sleeves and get to work making a better world using the materials at hand, despite all the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. However, moving rapidly away from negative feelings does them a disservice, and more importantly, may be doing solarpunk a disservice. Let me explain.

This is because solarpunk’s investment in optimism and hope is explicitly not a dismissal of badness, but instead a deliberately positive affective orientation arising from negative conditions, and so I am of the firm belief that there is room in the solarpunk movement to acknowledge and sit with the terrible truths of our existence.

I confess to being extremely inspired and deeply affected by JD Harlock’s conversation with Christina in our second season, especially the bit where he baldly states that he has no hope that the conditions in Lebanon will improve, and yet he still calls himself a solarpunk and works towards a better future anyways. It reminds me of an article I came across while doing research for my masters - this time explicitly about hope within the environmental movement, and the first part of the title says it all: “Hope, But Not for Us”.* It is by scholar Gerry Canavan and it came out in 2014, years before the Jonathan Franzen article. The basic gist is that yeah, there’s plenty of hope for people and animals in the future, even if we ourselves are stuck in this time of the Anthropocene, so we cannot see or access that future place of hope, but we can contribute now to making conditions better for beings we will perhaps never meet.**

If solarpunks were solely interpreted as liberal individuals fantasizing about a better world that they themselves will get to enjoy, the skeptical charge that solarpunk is naively optimistic would be pretty accurate. In that estimation, there is no room for negativity, for accepting the world as it is, for allowing for people to feel kinda crappy sometimes, for acknowledging that serious mental health struggles with depression can’t be cured by just getting a plant or going outside for a walk on the regular, et cetera. There’s no room for the actual reality of being human. The solarpunk strawman (strawperson, really), has zero nuance or grounding in the actual lived experience of being human in 2024.

That is why I am such an ardent proponent of holding space for negative emotions: whether that’s through seeing a climate grief counsellor or chaplain, attending climate grief circles, simply talking to friends and loved ones about fears about the climate, creating art about it, venting in a Discord channel, et cetera. Note they’re all community actions. Solarpunk is a deliberate reaction to and disruption of the status quo in which we are mired: pretending that we’re not experiencing terrible things is not going to get us anywhere, literally and intellectually.

I confess I don’t actually know how to end this. Academic articles tend to build towards a triumphant or at least neat conclusion and I’d like to leave you with more than just a mess. Perhaps it’s appropriate, though, since emotions, especially the negative ones, are messy and complicated.

Don’t feel bad for feeling bad, I guess? It’s from that ground that radical solarpunk action is grown.

*The full title is “Hope, But Not for Us: Ecological Science Fiction and the End of the World in Margaret Atwood’s Oryx and Crake and The Year of the Flood” and given that my master’s major research was interpreting the MaddAddam trilogy through the lens of posthuman feminism, it was pretty much exactly up my alley. This also, sidenote to the footnote, was one of the articles instrumental in my feeling extremely alienated from my peers who weren’t also taking Masters courses in ecocriticism, because nobody around me / on the corners of the Internet that I frequented at that time seemed to be talking at all about climate breakdown, or even admitting that maybe global warming was a problem (except the environmental activists, of course). It was a weird, WEIRD time.

**I imagine that this is how society as a whole used to think about doing noble things like building housing and implementing social policies for the sake of future generations, which seems to have largely exited the concern of the majority political discussion these days around everything except perhaps climate change, since it forces people to think according to a scale of deep time. (I’m aware of the fact that most Indigenous groups on Turtle Island tend to have a tradition of thinking/principle about how actions taken now will reverberate seven generations into the future, but settler society isn’t exactly taking that cue up)

#Affect Theory #negative emotions #climate grief #climate anxiety #hope

[trushe3]

Well,the title says 'wtf' cuz that was my immediate reaction after writing this....its not some piece of poetry rather my own negative self talk but rhymed.....i wrote this sm time back but never found the confidence to post it here.....idk wht got in me today haha....tho some lines may feel insignificant and unnecessary in the poem they personally mean a lot to me...I hope u dnt enjoy this negative self talk by me (cuz that's just mean!😂)

#writers and poets #female poets #poets on tumblr #poetscommunity #3 #negative emotions #personal vent #vent post #venting #self talk #self improvement #negative self talk

[a-place-to-hide-blog]

And now it's Nightys turn!

Again, here are the inspirations:

Nightmare!Sans Pose: LV --> www.youtube.com/watch?v=9x2bWj…

Art Style: 水綿 --> www.youtube.com/watch?v=LF2DOU…

Nightmare!Sans by: @jokublog

#nightmare sans #nightmare!sans #black apple #darkapple #tree of feelings #negative emotions #guardian of emotions #dreamtale fanart #dreamtale brothers #sketch to art #analog to digital #sketch #fanart #art style #@a-place-to-hide-blog

[unwelcome-ozian]

#toxic positivity #emotional truth #sadness #being human #trauma effects #abuse effects #grief #negative emotions