#neurodivergent blog

[gender-hellbender]

Intro Post!

Howdy! I'm Jack, I'm 21, and my pronouns are he/him. I identify as bisexual and FtM (but sometimes Non-binary/transmasc). I'm pre everything, but am free to start as soon as I feel safe enough to do so. 🔞 please!

I moved here from Instagram after finding it's much more suited to my rambling, and most importantly NOT Twitter. (I'm also here cause of Strange Aeons lol). Here I like to ramble about mostly queer and mental health related things, but also general life stuff.

Some bonus things about me are that I love learning about space and radiation, and I'm super obsessed with Brandon Sanderson's cosmere novels.

#intro post #ftm blog #queer blog #lgbt blog #neurodivergent blog

[jodjuya]

Image originally created by @brieflycleverspoons

#actually adhd #invisible disability #adult adhd #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #neurospicy #neurodivergencies #its the neurodivergency #ableism #internalised ableism #disabilties #autistic spectrum #blogging

[bpdbecca]

Do you ever see it coming or is it always a surprise when it hits?

#actually bpd #living with borderline #being borderline #borderline personality disorder #bpd #neurodivergent #actually borderline #bpd blog

[athena5898]

I often think when people hear "infantilizing a group of people", they think of it literarily that we are actively being made a infant. While this is a part of it, I think people miss the subtle things that end up causing chasms in their relationships with that group of people.

It's actually hard to pinpoint because it's never a singular event, it's many tiny things but the end result is always "I am the authority, I will always know more then you, I will never take your advice, I will never be honest with you (you know to spare *your* feelings), any disagreement is your fault, any problem in your life is my cross to bear and you must follow how I tell you to fix it, I will never stoop myself to understanding what your needs are as X group and will view everything from my own lens and judge you accordingly, we are not equals, and we never will be. (This is not a exhausted list, nor will everyone have all the same traits)

It is very hard to connect with someone who just automatically assumes a higher status to you just because of something you can't change. All the while the offender thinks what they are doing is actually a good thing. They are somehow helping you by just assuming they are better then you (which in the end, that's kinda what this is).

I have a few people in my life that I care for a lot, but they are not that much older then me yet they act like I can't possibly understand them and automatically shove this "child" label on my forhead.

And here is the thing, they will voluntarily bring up why they think this if you pay attention. It might be trauma they've dealt with, it might be that they have kids and you don't, age, or anything else like this. However I think it's important to note that I have friends who do not talk down to me and respect me as my own person with autonomy and also have these things going on in their life. So it's not like it's impossible to treat someone with respect and have these differences.

Now what do some of these subtle differences look like? There are many ways they can materialize but to name a few.

- Demanding the person solves a problem their way despite the person telling them why their circumstances do not allow that.

- assuming...well anything and all the time. These people have a tendency to think they know exactly what you are feeling and other such things and if you try to correct them then they will actually get upset at you or show some type of passive aggressiveness.

-Speaking on your behalf without asking permission

-never valuing your expertise on any subject. They are older/more mature then you, therefore to them they know more about everything. What's really fun (/s) about this is when they will explain to you, why you are wrong, by repeating what you said back at you.

- any reason why you can't do a thing, or why you need an aide is an excuse. You could do it if you *really* wanted to, but you are just being lazy. Now the real adult has to take up your burden.

- they do not/cannot listen to you. No matter what you say or how you say it, or if they even confirm what you say, there is always a part of them that is not listening. Or hell, they could of listened to you, but since what you say isn't important to them, they will quickly forget it and may even try and claim you never said anything to them.

- I'm not sure if this counts as infantilizing, but I notice that it happens a lot in tandem. While they think less of you and treat you like a child whose facts and opinions don't matter, all of this will change at a moment's notice when they need something from you...oddly enough something they probably normally do not take seriously from you on a normal day. Suddenly thrusting you with this burden of taking care of them even though they are never there for you in any meaningful actually helpful way most of the time. Like you will literally be demanded to stop what you are doing, and get over whatever you are going through to help them and their problem. I cannot explain how frustrating it is to be demanded to be the mature one while most of the time being denied respect.

I could go on, but honestly if I sat here and thought of every single tiny thing they do to make sure there is distance between you and them up on their self made pedestals, I'd be here all day.

The worst part on all of this is that I have no idea how to resolve it. People who do this are not inherently bad people, hell they might not even realize they do it. But this can actually make it more difficult to bring to their attention. I have tried many ways and many different times to resolve this, but I haven't been successful yet. Anyone who has corrected themselves were people who just had a little mess up but still obviously viewed me as a person from the start.

These subtle ways someone can dehumanize you, it can cause terrible rifts and of course the other person never understands why (see point above about not listening)

I am writing this as a autistic person, but I know there are others who go through this. Please check the ways you create artificial authority over someone.

Edit: someone reblogged this with hashtags about how we shouldn't do this to children either and I completely agree, I was using the term because it's the one often used to explain these things. Adding the edit cause I have no idea how to respond to the hashtag thing and I think it's a important thing to note.

#actually autistic #autism #disability #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #infantilism #blog #why do people gotta be weird about shit

[ace-agere]

Bingo Heeler Moodboard !! 🧡🌱

#agere sfw #moodboard #request #age regression #age regressor #agere blog #agere community #agere moodboard #mine #i do moodboards #bingo heeler #reqs closed #no reqs please #sfw only #no like #meow #what does txt. mean???? #neurodivergent #meow? #bingo #bluey of course #i love bluey #SoundCloud

[neurodivergenttales]

BPD is watching yourself burn your own life to the ground over and over again

#bpd blog #bpd problems #bpd vent #journal #journaling #living with bpd #diaryposting #mental health #mental illness #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #sadcore #bpd thoughts #quiet bpd #bpd shit #actually bpd

[sharkboywrites]

Wait, This Is a Date!?

Riddle, Idia, and Malleus with an autistic reader who didn't realize they were on a date

Male/gn reader, autistic reader, missed signals, Idia is implied to also be autistic

A/N: I've noticed that some people aren't very obvious when asking someone out or generally establishing their feelings. I actually realized that one of my ex-friends stopped being friends with me because I wasn't picking up on their signals, what's up with people lmao

One afternoon after you had finished all of your classes, your closest "friend" approached you looking rather nervous and asked you to accompany them later. Seeing this as just a request to hang out was friends, you accepted. When he suddenly thanks you for going on a date with him halfway through your activity your caught off guard.

"Wait, this is a date!?"

Riddle Rosehearts

Oh boy, be prepared to start apologizing because the once surprised look on his face at your sudden outburst melted to one of pure sadness. He was absolutely dejected

He took this as you rejecting him halfway through the date he put so much effort into

He even baked all the pastries for your little tea party date :(

He cleared his throat and straightened his posture. He put on a serious face despite clearly being on the verge of tears, and apologized for... making you uncomfortable? Wasting your time?

Well that wasn't what you wanted

In another quick outburst you cut him off and say that you didn't actually mean it in a negative way

You started doing the usual over-explaining hoping that he wouldn't get the wrong idea (more than he already had) and apologizing for not getting his signals

The relief he felt in that moment was something he doesn't think he can compare to anything else in his life

He actually started crying for the fact that "oh thank the sevens they're not rejecting me"

After he calmed down the two of you went back to your tea party date, although both of you aware aware that it was a date this time

bonus: Trey and Cater screaming internally after watching all of that from afar (They'd be there for Riddle's first date as emotional support you can't convince me otherwise)

Idia Shroud

Lord have mercy you're going to kill him

It took him so much to build up the courage Ortho blackmailing him to come over and play video games just for you to not know he was asking you on a date???

He played Stardew Valley with you what could be more romantic than that???

He kinda just sits there and stares at you

He's processing give him a minute

Literally the only response he gives you is just a "Uhh..yeah. Duh." (he's trying to not give away how disappointed he is)

And in you just respond with an "Oh."

Awkward level 100%

After sitting there for a few seconds rocking back and forth to make yourself a little more comfortable, you take a deep breath and lean your head on his shoulder

"Well I like this date."

He tries to hide his flustered face after that, but you can see the tips of his hair turn a soft pink in contrast to the usual blue

He really is bad at hiding his emotions

for the rest of the night the two of you keep playing video games together, and you eventually fall asleep on him, which he freaks out about but tries not to wake you up

Really just two autistics trying to figure out how to date and flirt

Malleus Draconia

So funny thing

He thought the two of you were a couple long before the two of you went on your "first date"

You know that thing on tiktok that's like "check with your autistic s/o that they know your dating because it turns out I've been dating someone for months and had no clue" Yeah that's the two of you

In his eyes it was established that the two of you had been dating. He probably confessed in his old poetic fae way of talking.

So he was just like "You are the sunrise to my day, the cool breeze on a summers day, the blood in my veins." and you were just like "Yep me and my good ol' pal Malleus. besties :)"

What do you mean friends don't give each other little trinkets they find pretty? What to you mean that's fae courting?

What do you mean friends aren't that affectionate? What do you mean friends don't hold hands, hug, and tell each other how much they appreciate them?

Honestly when you burst out with the question, he just laughs after a minute while you sit there flustered and confused

he has to sit you down and explain to you that you've both been dating for at least three months by this point. Lilia was even starting to ask him if he was going to ask you to marry him (he's impatient)

He does make sure that you're okay with this relationship and that you actually want to date him

After this you're relationship grows even stronger rather than growing weaker, he thinks it's endearing

He'll make sure to be more forward and literal with you from now on

if I'm being honest all three of them give me "autistic just not diagnosed yet" vibes. Ty for reading and have a nice day

#sharkboywrites #male reader #twst x male reader #twst x reader #gn reader #mlm #mlm blog #twst #twst fanfic #riddle x reader #riddle rosehearts x reader #riddle x male reader #idia x reader #idia shroud x reader #idia x male reader #malleus x reader #malleus draconia x reader #malleus x male reader #autistic reader #neurodivergent reader #twst x autistic reader #x male reader #x gn reader #gender neutral reader

[salti-thelatediagnosedautist]

part of being autistic is slowly realising that you actually live in chronic pain and all your random little physical blips and errors might actually be caused by a chronic illness???

No, but seriously, no one told me that it doesn't hurt their elbows when they shake sauce bottles... it doesn't hurt their wrists and hands to write.... it doesn't hurt their feet to drive.... they don't randomly "lose grip" on objects or find keyboards or controllers difficult to hold... I was under the assumption this was all relatively normal?

Part of the reason I didn't realise this is because I don't always realise I'm in pain. My autism already makes me hyposensitive to pain, but because my "neutral" is to always be in like a 3/10 pain state, I don't always know that I'm in pain...

#autism #asd #actually autistic #oc #neurodivergent #autism spectrum disorder #late diagnosed autistic #autistic blog #autism diagnosis #autistic life #chronic illness #chronically ill #disabled adult #disabled #probably heds #?

[deludedcrayon]

i am actually so fucking alone it’s not even funny anymore i take a step back and look at my life these past few years and realize how pathetic it’s been and how lackluster i’ve become and i can’t even tell if i made myself this way or if i’ve always been this way but in denial

#actually paranoid #actually traumatized #mental health #trauma #adhd #anti psychotics #neurodivergent #vent #bpd vent #bpd splitting #bpd #bpd feels #bpd mood #bpd blog #actually bpd #actually borderline

[schizopositivity]

Warning to anyone who posts about having a schizo-spec disorder, psychosis or psychotic symptoms openly online:

• it's possible that people will be sanist to you

• it's possible people will claim you are lying

• it's possible people will try to trigger you and make you paranoid

These have all happened to me, so here's some advice on how I deal with that:

• only check that platform when you are in a good headspace

• know that people are doing this to get a reaction out of you because they are sanist and want to see a "crazy" reaction, try not to feed into it, don't reply, ignore it, you don't even have to read the whole thing

• turn off anons if you need to (they tend to hide behind anons)

• block people right away

• delete asks right away so you don't have to see it again

• try not to take any of it personally, some people online don't see us as people, they see us as a label that they want to discredit, trigger or laugh at, they are either ignorant or hateful and don't deserve your time

It's important that we have our voices heard, don't let assholes on the Internet stop you from doing that.

#it doesnt even upset me anymore its just annoying #but its worth it to delete a bunch of asks to get to the shit i care about #cause no sanist asshole is gonna keep me from keeping this blog up #mental illness #nd #schizophrenia #neurodivergent #schizophrenic #psychosis #actuallyschizophrenic #mental health awareness #pseriouslypsychotic

[c4nnib4lc0rpse]

“autism is a superpower!”

yeah not being able to communicate verbally, internalising my feelings, shutting down, self harm, flapping my arms around crying, isolating, chronic loneliness, pulling my hair out and not being able to eat make me batman 💪😎

#blocking weird/rude responses & tags #don’t come to MY blog & act like dat lol #bye #autism #mental health #actually autistic #neurodivergencies #neurodiverse stuff #neurodiversity #that damn spectrum #tism moment #the tism #tism posting #she in awe of my tism #tism tag #tism things #autistic things #autistic adult #autistic burnout

[larphis]

As an adhd person I just want to say that I love every autistic person on this website.

You guys are literally the best fandom archivers out there. I’m so serious.

If you are new in just about any fandom search for the one autistic person whose special interest your newfound fandom is and it’ll be like you just met god at a nightclub.

You guys are too powerful and I thank you for your service from the bottom of my heart.

#autism #autistic community #special interest #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #adhd autism solidarity #adhd #fandoms #new to fandom #tumblr guide #advice #i‘m so serious though… I used to be part of a tiny fandom and there was one lady who had archived everything about the people in question #it has been her special interest for 16 years - she‘s in her late 30s now #and that woman is on such a different level of obsession and I love her so much for it #don‘t care for that fandom anymore but I still sometimes read her blog because she inspires me #never stop being yourself

[bpdbecca]

Truth

#actually bpd #being borderline #borderline personality disorder #living with borderline #bpd #neurodivergent #actually borderline #bpd blog #bpd thoughts

[a-mushroom-wizard]

Hocus pocus I've lost my focus

#neurodivergent #adhd #adhd things #actually adhd #adhd brain #wizardblogging #wizard posting #Wizard #wizardcore #wizardblr #wizard tumblr #wizard blogging #wizardposting #Spells #hocus pocus #witchcraft

[youraverageventblog]

It’s all “my autism doesn’t effect me that much” until my sandwich I planned on eating this morning is gone and nothing feels right and I can’t eat at all or even function

#vent blog #tw vent #tw depressing thoughts #mentally fucked #actually autistic #neurodivergent

[neurodivergenttales]

I can’t remember a time when I could actually recognise myself in the mirror.

Ever since I was a kid when I’ve seen my reflection it has felt like looking at a stranger.

I’ve genuinely never been able to identify with myself.

#actually bpd #bpd blog #bpd problems #bpd vent #journal #journaling #living with bpd #diaryposting #mental health #mental illness #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #sadcore #bpd feels #bpd shit #quiet bpd