#no i did not forget affleck

[justenjoythegossip]

CHRIS WILL BE JUST FINE…

A portion of Chris’ fandom is really mad at him for accepting to be part of a shitshow with such a problematic girl. And rightfully so. But it’s important to keep something in perspective: Chris is going to be just fine.

Stars have gotten away with much worse

I saw this article this morning about celebrities being involved in big scandals. https://www.buzzfeed.com/hannahmarder/wild-forgotten-celeb-controversies

There are many more that didn’t make the list and definitely could have. Even recently, Greta Gerwig’s partner left the mother of his unborn child to be with her. It’s awards season so of course, it has been buried. Same situation with Claire Danes’ sordid affair with Billy Crudup a long time ago. 

So many of these Hollywood folks are problematic and have gotten away with it and continue to get away with it. 

Their behavior range from the problematic to the horrific and criminal. 

Casey Affleck allegedly assaulted a woman sexually and settled his case out of court. He won an Oscar for Manchester by the sea anyway. If people are curious, look at how Brie Larson handed his awards. She knew!

According to Rose McGowan, his brother Ben Affleck would have told her after she had confessed to him that Weinstein (let's not even discuss him) raped her: “I told him to stop doing that”.  

Allegedly a former girlfriend of Fassbender pressed charges against him after he violently assaulted her. And I could go on and on. 

Many have done much worse than being in a PR relationship with someone problematic and have gotten away with it. So in the grand scheme of things, Chris will be just fine. His “relationship” with Abba will be buried and soon it will be a forgotten memory, only remembered by a small portion of his fandom. 

Chris’ darker side

Chris’ history is rather tame compared to all those super problematic people and or criminals that are still on the loose. 

But yes, he has made mistakes in the past like everyone else and he has done his fair share of problematic stuff as well. In his younger days, there were rumors of fights and being thrown out of bars. There has been rumors of drug use. There was that messy affair with a married costar during the shooting of Gifted. Also let’s not forget the more recent papwalk in London with Lily James during Covid Lockdown to clean her sniffing cocaine in the park. The pairing of Captain America and Cinderella was a good idea on paper but the execution was atrocious and tactless. It was already a sign of his team’s gross incompetence and miscalculation. There was also the leak of the screenshot of his phone. The d..k pic was all people talked about but some of the other pictures were even more problematic, not as embarrassing of course but more problematic.

Also Chris’ friends and family and Chris himself have trolled his fandom for years. A day before he left for Portugal at the beginning of this shitshow, he tweeted a pic of himself and wrote something like: “I love my fans and Dodger loves you too”. He then hopped on a plane and purposefully filmed a video for that teacher from his hotel room in Lisbon so that his fans (plants?) could place him there. And surprise surprise, there was some backlash on certain platforms and just afterwards he or his team tweeted a picture of him with a bald kid with cancer. It was actually the low point for me. Much worse than anything he did with Abba. I think the picture was 2 years old and I know celebrities use charities to make themselves look good all the time. But using the pic of a sick child for damaged control was as low as you can get. I am not sure he promoted Christopher’s Haven ever since. 

And of course, there are still the ongoing shenanigans with the Nazi sympathizing yacht girl…

But like Chris said in an interview the past year, the industry makes you do things you don’t want to do. Hollywood is indeed a snake pit where they sometimes force you to compromise yourself and play certain games if you want to be successful. That is part of the price to pay.  

He needed a change in his PR image

Chris was at a good place in his career after Endgame. Knives Out was a huge hit and Defending Jacob got good reviews. He seemed to have diversified but Covid happened and derailed a lot of stuff. Little shop of Horrors was canceled. He didn’t have Marvel to fall back on and he seemed to be at a crossroads career wise and PR-wise. He couldn’t remain the perfect internet boyfriend and play Prince charming waiting for the one forever. He had to evolve into more adults parts as well: husbands, fathers etc. 

This is probably why his team came up with this PR relationship and those kinda of weddings. Again it was a good idea on paper because it enabled them to change his image in a natural and organic way. But the execution was again as disastrous as it gets. Abba was not a good fit for him and she was not a good choice especially if they wanted to rebrand him as a family man. 

The question remains whether she is the only one who agreed to this charade. Indeed the contract’s terms seem rather drastic. She has never been able to even post anything about him (just his dog) or about marrying him. She has mostly hid for the past years and just popped up for PR events or reasons. And given the GQ event, it's likely she is not even allowed to speak in public. Remember the articles saying she was rude and refused to talk to the media. Who would agree to this kind of contract but a desperate clout chaser with little prospect? 

An artist’s career is full of ups and downs. Hopefully, once this is over, Chris will get opportunities to expand on his body of work with more diverse roles. I think Pain Hustlers was supposed to do that for him but even if he was rather good in it, the movie wasn’t. I do think he has the acting chops to do it. Whether or not he will get such opportunities is another question… I am not sure this shitshow would have helped him at all in that regard but time will tell.

[justa-smalltown-gargoyle]

Hey batman/batfam people, I wanted to talk about something. I know this might not be received well, but...this is my blog. So if you disagree with me, feel free to block me! Literally that's what's great about this site. (I've been trying to do so on my end, but I thought I'd reach out a bit.....idk maybe try to form some understanding?)

I have been a batman fan since like...age 13 or something. Batman as a character means so fucking much to me, as does all his kids and massive extended family. (can't forget Alfred, Kate, Lucius, and Jeff Gordon!!) And I know that they mean a lot to you guys too.

In comic book and fandom spaces we talk a lot about misrepresentation of characters in fandom, but even in "canon" or rather published/produced content. I have beef with a lot of live action adaptions of Batman for example.

The thing with comic book characters, even more than some fandoms/pieces of media, is that there is SO MUCH content out there, that two people can say they like this one character but those two versions might be in total contradiction. But does that make one right over the other? does that make one superior?

Now, I hate Ben Affleck's Batman. And to fans of his, I'd say, you want the punisher, not Batman, because to me, that goes against who Batman is fundamentally. I read the comics, watch a lot of the animated stuff, and formed my own opinion and version of Batman. However, and this seems to be a controversial take, i really enjoy Wayne Family Adventures.

I see a lot of hate on here for WFA (and on tiktok but they're another beast), which, it's not for everyone, that's okay! Not everyone has to like what I like. But what I don't agree with, is that people who like WFA are seen as "not true batman fans", "they haven't ever read a comic". "they only like the flat fanon versions of the characters", etc.

These comments I would like to rebut- some comic readers such as myself might enjoy WFA. There might be people that have never read a comic or even watched anything batman related but like WFA. Are they not valid to enjoy that and have their own fandom for that? Are they not allowed to be fans of Batman?

I also would ask, how much of WFA did you actually read? In it's nature, it's suppose to be the bat family on their time off, or more light stories, but it actually addresses things like Jason's trauma, Duke moving in to the Manor, Damian struggling to fit in at school, things like that. Now if you read pretty far and still didn't like the portrayal of the characters, that's fine, I'm not asking you to change your opinion, however I am asking you to make space for those who do enjoy it, or that WFA is their first introduction or only experience with the Batman and co.

WFA isn't perfect, but it holds a special place in my heart, and gives me more content for Not Perfect but Trying and Cares Dad Bruce Wayne which I am grateful for. And tbh I feel like it just shows other sides to the characters we don't see that often!

And again, obvi people have their opinions, I guess I'm just asking for us to be more aware and create a space where people can feel free and excited to talk about these characters that we all love. I enjoy content and discussions I see in the tags and different blogs but then I see the hate for WFA fans and it just puts a real damper on otherwise really good content.

Anyways, thanks for reading!

#maddy if you see this i know this is dumb but i had to talk about it #batfam #batman #dc #fandom #and like we all agree we don't like male fantasy batman right? #i mean maybe some do #idk #also again yeah i could block everyone that disagrees and i do that sometimes but i dont want to do that all the time #and yakno #im gonna say it #getting mad at people for only reading wfa and not the comics its giving dude bro #do you really want to be that way #so do we think this was how the ancient greeks were about their gods or no #because tbh comics and mythology are very similar #anyways

[nancydrewwouldnever]

Affleck is a good director but as an actor he sucks. Let's not forget he has two Oscars. Hartnett is a good actor and maybe I read the situation wrong, but I think he activelly stepped back from HW and started working less and lives a truly private life?

No, you didn't read the situation wrong, that's exactly what he did. Hartnett was really uncomfortable with the whole "heartthrob" thing and the way he was being represented, so way back then he made the decision to move from L.A. back to his home state of Minnesota. Now he lives in the UK with his wife and children. He also actively took a 15-month break from acting to "recenter" his life. He seems now to look for smaller, more quality roles and projects.

I think there are a lot of ways in which you can see that Josh's life is the actual lived reality of the stuff Evans just talks about doing.

#ask

[katnissgirlsmakedo]

beth i know this is a really hard christmas for you so i just hope it's as good as it possibly can be and i'm sending all my love... i hope something you want to happen happens in your fanfiction whatever that is... to be honest at this point i know but there was a long time where you really got me with your redacteds. for a while i earnestly thought you were reading a lot of matt damon/ben affleck rpf. and i was like good for her but are the fics even that high quality... of course before i had considered that it was what it is but then you mentioned tenth grade and i was baffled... i was pacing back an forth i was tying red string to a corkboard you really gave me the runaround. (i did realise the tenth grade thing eventually because i LISTEN. i swear i do it just took a while...) it was similar to the himym thing the only sitcom i could think of was like the big bang theory and i was like no way would you watch that there's just no way... i did fully forget that show ever existed to be honest. anyway i thought you'd get a kick out of that. whenever you're thinking you're not being subtle enough know that i'm out there and i'm very stupid... anyway merry christmas <33

kind of dying at the idea that you thought redacted was matt damon ben affleck rpf…. that’s actually real as hell of you that’s pretty reasonable to assume for me….. imagining you pacing around thinking why the FUCK would she have been into old man rpf in tenth grade…. well we figured it out in the end <3 or i got more obvious about it. at one point i remember i got worried people would assume i was talking about bbc sherlock and i was so embarrassed by that thought i had to get more overt for a bit. it happens. anyway merry christmas to you too tee i love you 🫶🫶🫶🫶

#can u believe we didn’t even say anything yesterday about the horrors. i forgot…… #asks #lonesomedotmp3

[spacecowboycas]

#supernatural #spn #dean winchester #supernatural polls #spn polls #opinion #debate #batman

[sleepydelights]

7: Have tattoos?

8: Want any tattoos?

12: Relationship status

13: Biggest turn ons

14: Biggest turn offs

15: Favorite movie

16: I’ll love you if

25: My idea of a perfect date

27: A description of the girl/boy I like

34: What I find attractive in women

35: What I find attractive in men

36: Where I would like to live

oop i didn't think it was so many sorry

Wow! Don’t be sorry nonnie I’m happy for the attention and distraction from packing ^.^

7. Yes, but they’re all simple, black, and family related. I’m itching to get a number of new ones though.

8. Haha yes, I want a beetle in the crook of my arm so when I open and close my arm, the elytra open revealing the wings beneath. I want a 747 wingtip to wingtip, elbow to pinky. I have a number of finger tattoos I want; bone outline on the back of one hand. I want my entire left leg to be beautiful vibrant flowers, each representing an important person to me. There are so many more tbh but that’s a start.

12. I am married and poly. I’m not actively seeking, but then that’s never been my style. My wife landed in my lap 10 years ago by luck. I tend to deal in extremes so if I’m honest I never dated much at all. Just pined.

13. Biggest turn ons? It’s hard to rank them because they all have different effects but I guess decisiveness, intention, and calmness.

14. Turnoffs? Gah it’s so situational and I never know when something is going to give me the ick. I think willful ignorance is number one. Like if someone sends a message with my pinned word but the message contains unsolicited sexy roleplay, I’m immediately squicked. Like brother (it’s always men in my experience) you read it but did you -read- it? That’s a lame example but yeah ignorance and boundary pressing behavior.

15. Favorite movie. I get so much shit for this all the time but it’s Armageddon. Bruce Willis was in his peak imho in 97 for The Fifth Element and in 98 for Armageddon. It’s a stellar fucking cast- Steve Buscemi, Liv Tyler, Michael Clarke Duncan,Billy Bob Thornton, and there’s also Ben Affleck and Owen Wilson. Yes. I know. It’s a Michael Bay film but I feel like it gets a pass because it’s pre-Transformers. It’s so bad it’s good again, from hysterically bad dialogue to criminally incorrect representations of vacuum physics, all to the fucking tune of Aerosmith. Fun fact - NASA uses (or used) Armageddon for management trainees, tasking them to spot as many errors as possible and so far 168 have been noted. Let’s not forget the bonus dvd features interviewing Ben Affleck who essentially laughs his way through every plot hole for five minutes. Suspend your disbelief of any of it making logical sense in a real world environment and it’s a fantastic film and I will die on this hill to the tune of I Don’t Wanna Miss a Thing.

16. I’ll love you if you… think of me fondly.

25. My idea of a perfect date? April 25th. It’s not too hot and not too cold. All you need is light jacket. ^.^ But for real? Probably going for tapas and drinks, maybe a show. Then we come back and get comfy because fuck being out too long and we snuggle and talk and let things go where they may.

27. A description of a person I like. She has the most vibrant brown eyes I’ve ever seen. Black as night sometimes but sometimes they are a rich amber or even chocolate with hints of sienna. Her skin is so soft and inviting. Her hands are soft but strong. She’s taller than me which is nice because sometimes I need to feel small. She’s a talented writer and she’s funny and smart but not a know it all. She does know it all though. About everything. She has a thirst for knowledge that rivals no one else I’ve met. Some of it might be useless knowledge but fuck if she doesn’t retain it like she does cables and puns. I like her a lot.

34. What I find attractive in women? The list of what I don’t find attractive in women would be much shorter. I have been obsessed with the female form for as long as I can remember. I was always embarrassed about it but here it’s okay and welcome to openly worship women and I love that for me.

35. What I find attractive in men? I don’t find many men attractive and the ones I do? They don’t have many physical attributes in common. It’s about how they make me feel. I can’t stand a man who yells. I do appreciate some hair and a squishy tummy and big hands though.

36. Where I would like to live? It’s between California and Barcelona right now. California for friends mostly. Barcelona to escape the political fuckery of this hellscape country. I don’t feel like my family is safe here anymore.

Thanks for all the questions! I really need to pack my tech bag and go to bed soon though. My Lyft will be here in 7 hours. 🫣

#asked and answered #thank you!

[fortressofserenity]

Superhero Style

When it comes to trying to do a faithful adaptation of a superhero outfit these days, for some people a good number of superhero outfits either as they are or made are kind of rather very sexualised for their tastes. Ben Affleck admitted that his Daredevil outfit was evocative of bondage, that some men aren’t keen on showing their things to others suggest that many superhero outfits as they are in the funnybooks are too revealing for their tastes. Kind of gay if you believe Peter Bagge, not helped by that sometimes such outfits look as if they’re painted on. Also I think no matter how many times cosplayers actualise those outfits, they always look ugly and as my relative pointed out superheroes have next to no fashion sense.

That’s not to say people can’t appreciate tights and flamboyant outfits on real life characters, it can be pulled off but in ways that don’t always resemble what we see in the funnybooks. Male sprinters wear tights but it’s kind of skimpier than what the Flash wears, as if he were redesigned to dress like an actual sprinter he’d have to dress less than what he does. Let’s not also forget that while wrestlers do wear tights and sometimes what appears to be underwear over their tights, they don’t accessorise them with capes and other times it is skimpier than what you see in DC and Marvel. Sometimes it’s just briefs, sometimes it’s just leotards.

Same goes for weightlifters to some extent, that’s not to say tights can’t be pulled off in real life. But that they have to be pulled off in a way that’s either practical, doable within religious restrictions or stylish and many superhero outfits fail these. I think if people were so desperate to make realistic superhero outfits work, they should really take more cues from actual athletes and pop musicians to show you what it could’ve and should’ve been. More Usain Bolt and David Bowie than Jack Kirby, more in lines with what a real person has worn. Maybe superhero designers are trying their hardest, but the problem is they’re too married to the archetypal superhero look to ever bother venturing out more.

If people were to make the Flash dress more like an actual sprinter, he’d have to be this heavily redesigned to even wear like what they do. Superhero designers and cartoonists are too married to bother doing anything out of the blue with superhero outfits, that’s without resorting to the casual superhero look but when it comes to style I get the nagging feeling that some of them aren’t too familiar with other kinds of outfits. Especially when they’re worn by not just athletes, dancers and musicians but also those belonging to music subcultures, like Goths and punks.

Maybe they did to some extent, well with some characters but not as much as they could’ve. Even if these kinds of outfits provide the right balance between real life seriousness with superhero flamboyance, if because an actual person has worn those outfits. At other times I believe superhero outfits tend to be ugly, if because most superhero cartoonists aren’t that keen on fashion and sports to make such outfits both presentable and practical. That might have changed for the better these days, but when most superhero cartoonists’ point of references are either superhero comics, porn or underwear catalogues that’s probably why they look the way they do.

#peter bagge #the flash #dc comics #marvel #marvel comics #sprinting #usain bolt #david bowie #fashion #character design #haute couture #wrestling

[comicweek]

Just to get this out of the way at the top, this isn’t really the space for me to critique the promotional and commercial system that justifies the sale of Ezra Miller’s image in relation to this movie, given all they stand accused of. Nor is it my place to judge Miller for the numerous legal issues swirling around them. While I don’t believe in separating art from the artist, film is a collaborative medium that hundreds of other people worked on to bring a movie to light. Miller’s off-screen episodes are the least of this film’s problems unless you want to get into a discussion about the film’s marketing. If you don’t want to see this movie because of Miller’s involvement in it, go right ahead. The Flash is, ultimately at best, a middling film that offers nothing new and perpetuates the reflexive hollow nostalgia that has propped up Hollywood blockbusters since Batman (1989). If this is one of the best superhero films DC Studios co-head James Gunn has ever seen, either he hasn’t seen very many of them or has a low opinion of the genre. Now if you want to find out why I think of the film in this way, read on.

Honestly, the fact that this film isn’t a Suicide Squad (2016)-style garbage fire – because of the sheer amount of developmental hell, corporate changes in direction, and everything in between – is commendable. It isn’t technically broken in the way that film was butchered, most likely because reshooting major chunks of the film would’ve been cost-prohibitive. This movie had three endings shot! So much has changed about this film that I am certainly forgetting something. The swirl of intrigue around the meta-narrative of this film is more interesting because the film itself is honestly kind of boring. To screenwriter Christina Hodson, director Andy Muschietti, and his producing partner Barbara Muschietti’s credit, this isn’t a bad movie. It just never offers viewers anything new.

Timing is everything, something the lead character Barry Allen (Ezra Miller), abundantly lacks. He’s always late to work at the CCPD crime lab, which makes it fitting that The Flash is ultimately so late to the comic book movie party, any novelty over the promise of the multiverse in storytelling or the nostalgic extended cameos of heroes from previous eras feels like old hat. Now some of this lateness isn’t entirely the film’s fault, the COVID pandemic did set off a chain of events that pushed the film from July 1, 2022 to June 2023. But that is after the films original release date of March 23, 2018, where it would’ve beaten Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse to the punch and introduced the multiverse to cinemas. (Which still would’ve been well after the The Flash TV show as part of the Arrowverse had already done that years prior.) Instead of being one of the first films, The Flash is one of the last with Spider-Man: No Way Home, Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness, and Across the Spider-verse all coming out and laying the groundwork for how audiences understand these multiverse movies. To say nothing of Everything Everywhere All At Once coming out last year and really showing everyone how it is done.

The “Flashpoint” story-event from 2011 inspires the core of this film, wherein Barry goes back in time to stop the murder of his mother and the imprisonment of his father, something the show also already did, better in their own way. In the process, he creates a nightmarish alternate earth where there is no Justice League, or in the case of the film, Superman, to stop General Zod during the events of Man of Steel. To try and fix this Barry must go on a search with an alternate version of himself, also played by Miller and Ed Wade, and find Batman. Only this Batman isn’t Ben Affleck; it’s Michael Keaton reprising the role, and the Superman is Supergirl, Kara Zor-el played by Sasha Calle.

The film’s core themes of accepting the bad things in our past and learning to move forward are essentially what Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness wanted to be about. This film is perhaps more structurally competent than Multiverse of Madness but lacks any sequence on par with the Rami-esque energy of Wanda’s horrifying destruction of the Illuminati. There is nothing about this film that is emotionally or thematically new or interesting. The fact that this movie comes out a couple of weeks after Across the Spider-verse is perhaps the worst timing imaginable. The animated Spider-man sequel is a plainly better movie on every level. Go see that or watch Everything Everywhere All at Once.

#The Flash #Michael Keaton #Sasha Calle #DCEU #andy muschietti #movie review

[ash-and-books]

Rating: 4/5

Book Blurb: A wedding planner and her grumpy ex must work together to plan a celebrity event in this deliciously spicy and funny novel from Ali Hazelwood's "favorite writer." Ama Torres is an optimistic wedding planner who doesn’t believe in marriage. But weddings? They’re amazing. Elliot Bloom is a brooding florist who hates owning a flower shop…until a certain bright-eyed, donut-loving workaholic shows up at his door. Once upon a time, they collaborated on events by day, and by night, Ama traced the intricate flower tattoos etched along his body. Then Ama shattered his heart and never spoke to Elliot again.     Now they’re working on an event that could make or break both of their careers—except neither of them has gotten over what happened two years ago. Things are not helped by the two brides, who see the obvious chemistry between Ama and Elliot and are determined to set them up, not knowing their complicated history. But as the wedding takes on a life of its own, Ama and Elliot are about to discover that some things can survive a complete catastrophe . . . Smart and hilarious, Forget Me Not is about two people giving themselves—and love!—a second chance.

Review:

When a wedding planner and florist who just happen to be exes are forced to plan a high profile wedding together... things are about to get complicated, especially because of the way their relationship ended... but could this be a second chance at romance? Ama Torres loves her job, she loves giving people the perfect wedding, despite the fact that she doesn’t believe in marriage herself. Elliot Bloom is a brooding florist who hates owning a flower shop, except he’s grown to love it.... and then his entire life is turned upside down when a very bright-eyed, dout-loving workaholic shows up at his door and steals his heart. Ama doesn’t do serious relationships, Elliot is firmly in the “forever” kind of relationship, yet what starts off as some light flirting soon turns into hook ups at weddings, to dates and working together and possibly something more..... yet the moment it does everything crashes, and now years later they have to face each other again and all the old complicated feelings come bubbling back, but can they make it work a second time? Will they want to give it a go again? This book was giving me gender switched “he’s just not that into you” Jennifer Aniston’s and Ben Affleck’s characters. Ama doesn’t want a serious relationship after seeing her mom go through 16 weddings and divorces, she so deeply believes that all relationships end and that if you get married it would end. Elliot wants nothing more than to be in a forever kind of relationship, he wants marriage, he wants a serious relationship despite his parents divorcing. They both have different perspectives on relationships, yet they both know there’s something between them and can’t help but fall for one another. Yet while being in a “relationship not relationship” and Elliot asks for more, Ama runs and now they are forced to see each other again and face the fall out of their relationship and where they stand and how they feel about each other now. While this was a good book and I did love seeing both their perspectives on their relationship, I just kind of wish there was more. We get to see Elliot’s pov from mostly the past about their relationship while Ama’s is all in the present. The book essentially ends with them finally getting back together but thats like exactly one chapter before the epilogue and I kind of wish there was more going on, more about how they’re handling being back together, more discussion on what exactly happened leading to their breakup and how they see their relationship going, and getting more moments of them actually still being in love with each other and such. It kind of just abruptly ends and I wish there was a bit more. Overall it was a cute second chance romance and I would definitely recommend it for people who enjoy that trope! I loved Elliot as a romantic lead and I enjoyed seeing how chaotic but adorable Ama was. I loved the flowers in this story and had fun with it!

*Thanks Netgalley and Forever (Grand Central Publishing), Forever for sending me an arc in exchange for an honest review*

#book review #bookish #book #forget me not

[kernyen-xo]

Chapter One

As some of you know, I lost my job. At one point I felt like I was never going to find another one because I was scared which caused me to think of the worst scenarios.  You know how that goes, but about a month later, I found a job as an executive assistant supporting the COO of a staffing agency.  I also support the CMO.  We specialize in placement of physicians, advanced practitioners, and mental health staffing for hospitals, clinics and virtual care.  So far I like it.  It’s an industry that I’ve never worked in before.  The best part?  I have my own office!  First time ever in my career.  It even has a window.

My cousin that passed away last November was a twin.  Not too long after she died, her twin was diagnosed with breast cancer.  She opted to have her breasts removed, but soon thereafter the doctors found that the cancer had spread to her lymph nodes.  She has been undergoing chemo treatment. 

Spattie, my 14 year old cat is in stage 4 of kidney disease.  His vitals are doing fine, but he’s lost a ton of weight.  His appetite is good.  I can tell though that he’s growing weaker. He needs help in getting to certain places, specifically like jumping on the couch or on the bed.  He’s holding his own and I am keeping a watchful eye on him. 

My birthday just passed as did my daughter’s and granddaughter’s.  We’re April babies.  My daughter took us to see Broadway’s Wicked and before that she took us to a French restaurant, Brasserie du Monde, where I wanted to have some bouillabaisse, but they serve the dish seasonally and tis not the season, much to my disappointment.  Instead I had the Bœuf Bourguignon, which is a burgundy style short rib, served with roasted root vegetables, creamy Polenta, gremolata.  It was very good.  It was my first experience in a French restaurant and I hope not my last.

As a parent, sometimes I forget my kid isn’t a kid, but as a grandma my brain refuses to see the fact that my 12 year old granddaughter is no longer 4 years old.  Just a couple of weeks ago I bought them a new electric toothbrush and as I handed it to them, they slightly paused – I almost missed it.  It was then that I realized that I shouldn’t have bought them a Disney Princess electric toothbrush.  They’re a sweet kid and didn’t say anything but, “Thank you, bachan.”  I gave myself an eye-roll.  Smooth one, Karen.

You know the Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez thing?  I have to admit that I love them together.  Maybe the 2nd time around will be a charm.

So this year, I turned 61, but for the longest time I thought I was going to be 62 and I was really excited about it because it meant that I was closer to retirement.  And then while I was at lunch with my cousin, it hit me.  “Oh.  Wait a second.  I’m just 61!  WTH!”  My cousin laughed.  I guess I’m glad I’m 61 instead of 62.  Honestly, maybe when I’m 81 instead of 82 I’ll care, but now 62 seems like a good number to me!

Guess what? I cut my hair shorter.  I got rid of the Prince Valiant look.  It’s somewhat of an improvement although my hair is still long enough to bug me.  I am going to get a hack job, maybe a buzz cut.  I’m kidding! But seriously...

Btw, this is my farmer shirt...you know, gingham and such...har, har.

Anyway.

So things that haven’t changed since I last posted: 

I like to sleep in because I’m still not a morning person, although I wish that I was.

I read a lot.

Oh yeah and I read a lot.

Oh no! I just realized I’m still pretty boring.

#this has been a kernyen update

[sheavoid]

anonymous asked:  Does Kai'sa have depression? Is she neuro spicy? Give us the Ted Talk.

My baby girl definitely is the definition of that one meme photo of Ben Affleck. Like can you imagine surviving a horrific accident that left your entire village and everyone in it gone where you ended up being the only survivor, listening to your friends and everyone else you knew succumbing to their injuries or dying due to starvation/thirst? That’s almost difficult to picture, but at the same time, that was Kai’sa’s reality. I imagined she stopped being a kid once she started having to fend for herself all the while having something foreign attached to her body that’s feeding off from her body—and still is. She’s been living alongside and fighting the Void longer than having a childhood she could now barely remember.

Society rejected her due to the fact she had been touched by the Void, seeing her only as a monster rather than the little girl who’d been protecting all those who fear her. She’s been alone and isolated for so long to the point where she had forgotten how to interact with others, often pushing them away first and giving them another reason to fear her whenever curiosity gets the best of those people; it is best to let them be afraid, after all, the Void isn’t merciful and this is a fight she thinks she alone can only fight.

People forget she was a little girl too once upon a time and she still gets sad too, but maybe, it’s best to let them forget. With each and passing day, she doesn’t experience the same type of human needs she once did. And that fact honestly terrifies her.

#[ answered :: your calls have been heard ] #ask #[ anonymous :: friend or foe ] #// thanks for the ask~ #[ musing / about :: a prowler amongst hunters ]

[nsfwhiphop]

Incoming Text for Jlo from the Bronx:

Hey, Jennifer Lopez! It's me, Angelo!

I'm sorry, I know you pay them to appear on my Tumblr feed, it was two days ago, I didn't have the time to respond but now I do, so tell me, Jlo, what can I do for you?

I swear, I don't know what to tell you, it's crowded on this boat, there is no available seat on this boat.

(Fun fact: did you know that the actress Jennifer Love Hewitt keeps flooding my Tumblr feed with her pictures? And it happens every day, it's not once every week, no, no, it's EVERY DAY!!! She posts sexy pictures of her every day on my Tumblr feed and I still haven't spoken to her, I ignore her, I don't know what to say. She is so suspicious, she is like bait, a thirst trap on my Tumblr feed, some of my enemies have paid her to thirst trap me and she thinks I don't know, nice try Jennifer Love Hewitt, nice try, but you failed. She thinks I will save her like that Enrique Iglesias "Hero" song, well, guess what? She thought wrong, ain't nobody got time for that.)

Okay, now where were we, let me continue our conversation.

I was saying that there is no seat available on my boat. That ship has sailed, buddy, you gotta find another lifeboat, remember Titanic?

I gotta let you know that this is like that Titanic ending when everyone is trying to find a lifeboat to save their lives, well, it's exactly like that, and I'm telling ya! My boat is already full.

My three sisters, Salma Hayek & Penélope Cruz & Zoe Saldana are the captains of my boat. And trust me when I tell you this, Spain & Mexico & Dominican Republic have very big families and every one is on my boat now. There is no seat available for you on my boat.

I have a solution for you though, that solution is Mr.Amazon himself, why don't you call Jeff Bezos? He has plenty of lifeboats and I'm sure he will find an available seat on his lifeboat, Jeff is a great guy, you should give him a call, he will be honored to help you.

I hope I didn't hurt your feelings, it was never my intention, I wanted to give you the honest truth, I don't want to lie to you and keep you hangin' on, so that's what I did, I told you that my lifeboat is full. There, I said it.

Also, I know you're the Godmother of YesJulz, so consider yourself lucky because YesJulz is one of the lucky girls with a seat on my boat, so you can hangout with her, she will eventually share some of the wealth with you, like Godmother, like Goddaughter.

@Yesjulz is your Goddaughter, keep an eye on her, she might help you win the lottery, you never know, fingers crossed.

Also, say hello to Ben Affleck, and tell him to never give up the "Horror filmmaking" start-up company because it will help you make easy money in the next few years, it's easy money, never forget that, okay? I encourage you to never give up your Film start-up company because this will help you stay afloat for the next 8 years, from 2024 until 2032, it's easy money, so never give up horror filmmaking, your good friend Jason Blum will help you learn, he will teach you his skills.

Okay, this chat was fun.

Love you, JLO! Have fun, big hug for you.

[criticalbennifer]

He and Garner are really working overtime to create the “illusion” of Ben’s discontent. Really trying to drive Lopez to be so hated in the public she just leaves, without Ben getting blamed. Everyone will blame Lopez. It’s like everyone keeps forgetting Ben is straight up trash (nannies, shookus, alcoholism, drinking on a couch where his kids can see him). You have a mouth Ben! Just tell her you want to break up and leave. He’s just a terrible person. And a coward too. Garner’s always been a fake b. She’s the one instructing him.

Lopez ruined her career twice for this “man.” It’d be one thing if they separated and he went off with some other woman, but for him to go back to the ex-wife he left her for the first time? It’s brand damaging. And he’s not even going to care. When has he ever? Garner’s probably already made him burn that watch. And she’s going to gloat. And he’ll gloat too.

If they want to pap stroll so much, Bennifer could clear this by getting photographed together on vacation somewhere with no kids (or entourage!) around & without looking at the cameras (with long lenses). But of course Ben will act sullen and miserable, so it can’t really work can it? I guess he dropped Jlo of at rehearsal then went to Garner’s house. I don’t know the order. No children in the car and I didn’t see any other cars in that garage….must be nice.

What did his shirt look like before he went in the house

#jennifer lopez #jlo #ben affleck #bennifer #jennifer garner #page six #Youtube

[judasisgayriot]

Actually your analysis reminds me of a couple things

1. Nathan’s locus of control; he’s spent his whole life being controlled by others that even having control of just his life doesn’t feel like enough when he gets it. That combined with how he’s been raised to “change the world” or whatever leads me to believe that he only feels like he’s the one in control if he’s controlling others’ lives as well. He can’t give himself mental breakdown bangs alone, he has to drag someone else along (such as Claire in s3), and then he acts almost surprised when the other people involved don’t like the results.

2. Nathan’s identity/lack thereof/lack of awareness of it. If Nathan’s got a true self, I think it’s hidden WAAAAY down deep, so deep down that even he doesn’t know where or what it is. This leads him to “not know” who he is without his family or others to tell him. So repressed that his surface-level brain doesn’t even know what gay is.

3. You know, you’re right that this man spends basically every episode of this show utterly in the trenches, with vibes resembling a cat that fell into the bathtub.

4. All that said, I think part of why I feel the way I do about Nathan is a factor of timing. When I got into Heroes, I was at a stage of processing/healing from my own childhood emotional neglect that involved deliberately NOT sympathizing with a parent’s plight and instead prioritizing whether the child is having their needs met, because a lot of my CEN trauma came from not wanting to put a burden on my mom due to her own problems. Thus, I’m super sensitive to when fictional kids are going through CEN. So first, I was like, put off by Nathan’s jerky persona, and then I was seeing all the ways that Claire, Monty, and Simon weren’t having their needs for support and validation met just- white hot rage on their behalf tbh. Like yeah Claire DOESN’T have reason to trust him at the end of S1, yeah she DOES have the right to be disappointed in him during S3!! And yeah okay maybe she cuts him “too much slack imo” in Mexico, but that’s probably more of a “I’m trying to have a relationship with you” thing than an “actually I do believe you can 100% fix this” thing.

I guess all this is why I’m more inclined to point and laugh at Nathan personifying the Ben Affleck Smoking meme than to sympathize, but I really appreciate the conversation— did a lot to help me understand the ins and outs of how he personifies said meme!

Completely fair tbh - we all bring our own experiences and perceptions etc to everything really. I guess in the context of the show Simon and Monty are such non-characters that the show basically just forgets they exist, and so do I a lot of the time lol (not to be callous, the show just doesn’t bother to do anything with them lol). I see what you mean 100% though, although I think in the very few scenes we do have it seems like he is genuinely good with his kids, or wants to be (Claire saying he wants to be a good person in Into Asylum is very astute) - it’s very open to interpretation, although I think Nathan is just like, bad at giving his full emotional self to anybody, lol. He’s fuckin broken. A shell of a man. With Claire, I think he means it when he’s like, I missed out on all this time with you and now you’re grown up and idk how I even fit in your life now. He did Severely Fuck Up (and you’re right that he ends up dragging others into his personal trauma spiral lol) but I do love their scenes in Mexico just bc I think both of them really *want* to have a relationship but don’t rly know how to yet and Claire is. Just so good to him and they both break my heart :( I think it’s so sad how he literally thought she was dead for most of his life too. Has to fuck someone up. Not that that’s an excuse but eh. Idk. He’s just like a sad wet cat to me. I love him whether or no. Lol

#but like it does totally depend where you’re coming from when you approach something how you react to any character rly #anon #asks #heroes #nathan petrelli #am i an angel or a monster #heroes ramblings #anyway the Nathan tswift antihero edit is coming #not a joke I’m literally making it right now lmao