#non toxic positivity

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

#I hate running #are there any options without exertion #it’s a marathon not a sprint #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #self love #healing #recovery #non toxic positivity

[stivaktis]

A collection of swords I did last year when I wanted to escape the toxic positivity trends I kept seeing.

All these are available as stickers and other merch and I'm also open for commissions if you want one with your own reminder!

#stivaktisart #non toxic positivity #swords!

[repostedpoliticalarts]

The Bob’s Burgers movie really got to me, man.

Like Sunny Side Up Summer is just SO optimistic but there’s the constant threat underneath. It’s “Smile” by Charlie Chaplin. Just trying to make it through when it feel like absolutely no one is on your side.

And how does it end? It cuts off abruptly with the bank representative just flatly saying No. he won’t even TRY the burger and fries Bob made JUST for him. These are people who did ALL the right things. They followed their passion and bootstrapped their little hearts out, skrimped and saved and did EVERYTHING they could, and the system NEVER rewarded all that self-determination and hard work.

For the next two hours we watch each of these characters pour themselves into pursuing their goals. If no one’s going to help them, if no one’s going to be on their side, then they’ll each have to fight tooth and nail for what they want. And as Tina shows, what if they do ALL of that, and it STILL isn’t worth it.

And you know what? They do everything they can and some things DON’T work out. But what they can do at the end of the day is lean on each other.

Sometimes we have to acknowledge that things are never going to go the way we planned or hoped for. But what we HAVE is each other. If we just reach for one another. It doesn’t mean that EVERYTHING will have the happy ending we want. But no matter what the outcome, we can choose to find the good in it.

#the bob's burgers movie #bob belcher #bobs burgers #🍔 #capitalism #american dream #american lies #the myth of pulling yourself up by your bootstraps #optomism #non toxic positivity

[livisnotlee]

Just a small reminder that it’s okay to do things for your mental health without needing to give justification.

You’re allowed to not form an opinion on something because you don’t have the energy.

You’re allowed to have a different opinion as long as its not harmful.

Youre allowed to just not engage with drama if it will only drain you and stress you out.

You’re allowed to take time to breathe before you respond.

You’re allowed to follow people who make you happy and block people who don’t.

You’re allowed to say no.

You’re allowed to take time off.

You’re allowed to distance yourself to keep yourself safe.

You’re allowed to make boundaries with people to avoid your triggers.

You’re allowed to do the things that make you happy and ignore people who try to bring you down.

You’re allowed to change.

You’re allowed to have bad days.

You’re allowed to be unapologetically yourself. 💖

#mental health #self care #self love #self care reminder #non toxic positivity #@ all my mutuals #take care of yourself #I know this isn’t the kind of post i usually make #I just figured this would help some people #obviously follow the rules and don’t hurt anyone #like don’t be an asshat #non tickles #sfw tickling community #sfw tickle community #sfw tk community #sfw tickling

[curiouschaosstarlight]

person #1: "[character i really love] should die violently!"

me: okay, bye

person #2: "i love this character!"

person #2: "[other character i really love] should die violently!"

me:

#not important #chaotic rants #if i had a nickle for every time one of my non-villain favorites got bashed i'd... #i'd be rich honestly why the fuck does this keep happening to me #i feel like i've made this post before #anyways i dont want to get directly specific because i dont want this to show up in searches #but if anyone's wondering the characters are Sampo and Argenti from HSR #i love those two immensely #i also love Kafka WHO ALSO gets bashed a lot i've noticed :\ #i think i'd be deeply uncomfortable with ANYONE wishing violent death on any character #it's a feeling i genuinely cannot relate to in the slightest despite having characters i dislike and dont really want to see #but it's especially distressing when it's my favorite characters #in case you're wondering this is why you'll never see me participate in direct character or ship bashing on my stuff #maybe i would have in the past but everyone is someone's favorite #and whenever im about to directly namedrop a character or ship that frustrates or annoys me i just kinda pause and go #'okay but what if someone who really likes this character/ship sees this and feels ashamed for their enjoyment?' #And Then I Don't Do It #not because anyone's making me but because the internet is a public space and frankly #there's already enough toxicity in the world #...i should post more character positivity and dress up/picrew stuff (and art but my art block's been severe lately) #maybe i'll build a queue in a bit if i can get my energy up #(if y'all are wondering why i have so many posts that are me complaining about fandom attitudes) #(it's 'cause spite gives me a temporary energy boost and i've been severely lacking in energy lately) #i -am- a bit hesitant because i know my takes on certain characters (particularly Dottore) are #insanely niche in a way i dont think anyone reading this before i've posted anything demonstrative of that fact will expect #and then i feel self conscious putting my niche stuff out there to be looked at #but! that's why i have custom character tags anyway i s'pose

[neonsbian]

who are your least favorite neos

p much every member of dream except mark :/ they annoy me greatly and theyre like a prime example of why nobody should debut until they graduate high school to me

also jungwoo, not bc hes like a bad person or anything (afaik) but whenever i watch 127 variety (back when i used to be a full time nctzen) or full group stuff, he has like chronic needs to be the funniest guy in the room syndrome and i hate to say it but he is simply not that funny </3 and sometimes it borders on annoying tbh

#ik i call myself a toxic weishennie but im p neutral on most of the other members #i think the only non weishen member i have positive feelings for is yt and tbh even he gets on my nerves when he does his fanservice thing #asks

[simstryingtheirbestok]

The way Tumblr Featured keeps trying to put that Good Vibes Only post in my face.

That's a top-tier way to make sure I have only bad vibes for ya.

#non sims #toxic positivity #just tumblr things

[bookgirl120720]

As I've learned and grown and my relationships have progressed, I've started to become more and more convinced that enforced monogamy is actively harming society. Now, I want to start by clarifying that I have nothing against monogamy. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, I don't think monogamous relationships always fail, none of that. I just think that as an enforced institution, it creates some insanely harmful learned attitudes and behaviors. These are purely my opinions and the only people I know for certain my preferred style of relationship works for are me and the people I'm with.

First off, I feel like the learned jealousy that monogamy enforces can do a lot of damage to a relationship. The idea of being jealous or threatened when a partner is attracted to, spends a lot of time with, or is even intimate with someone else is entirely a social construct. Like, I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it is a common consensus that getting jealous of a partner's close friend is unreasonable. And yet it is considered completely reasonable to take issue with your partner even being attracted to other people. It doesn't make sense.

For another thing, it inextricably binds sex and romance in a way that I think harms a lot of relationships. The amount of times I've seen or heard of relationships being destroyed because of sexual dissatisfaction is ridiculous. The general societal response to this is to assert that the romantic connection should be more powerful than the sexual one, and I agree, but people never take that to what I feel is often the logical conclusion. Uncoupling romantic love from sexual attraction means that people aren't forced to make an arbitrary choice between two things that, frankly, I don't feel have much material connection. I have a hard time understanding why we allow loving relationships to be destroyed because something that some people consider a basic need must go unfulfilled for them to prosper.

And drawing on that concept, a lot of issues that we see today with toxic masculinity and incel culture also draw on this notion of this enforced link between sex and romantic relationships, in this case in that many men are incapable of separating one from the other. When you examine incel culture, what you realize is that these are people who don't want a relationship. They want sex. These ideas of basically pretending to be someone's friend just so that you can sleep with them and that being "nice" entitles you to a woman's body are direct products of a few ideas reenforced by monogamous culture. One is that the criteria for a romantic partner and a sexual partner are exactly the same. This inability to realize that a woman's standards for who they would date, who they would be friends with, and who they would sleep with stem in no small part from the fact that many people are trained to believe that the ideal romantic partner is just a really good friend who you sleep with, while also being taught that a romantic partner is by definition a sexual one and that the criteria must therefore be the same. This creates cognitive dissonance when one realizes that physical attractiveness does often factor into one's sexual preferences. It creates this twofold false assumption where the criteria for a friend and a romantic partner are the exact same, but also somehow the way you look factors into the criteria for a romantic partner because the criteria for a romantic partner and a sexual partner are somehow the same. It is utterly false nonsense, makes no sense, and I doubt even many monogamous people would agree with that logic. When sex and romance are uncoupled, what you realize is that someone wants some things in a romantic partner, some things in a sexual one, and those things don't always line up. A romantic partner is not just a friend, and a friend is definitely not by definition a sexual partner. It dashes away that learned fantasy. Additionally, it prevents romantic feelings from being manipulated and used as tools for sexual purposes. Now I'm not saying for a second that this is the sole factor in these gross cultures, but enforced monogamy does definitely feed into the mindset.

None of this has even begun to acknowledge the existence of asexuality. That sounds like it's own rant and this is already a disjointed midnight word vomit. Please be kind if I haven't made my points well, for I am unfathomably eepy, and please keep in mind that this is not meant to be an attack on monogamy as anything other than an enforced institution. I have lots of monogamous friends, I swear!

#polyamory #polyamourous #poly #monogamy #polyam positivity #polyam life #love #we live in a society where trans girls can't form international lesbian polycules over discord #culture #toxic masculinity #i hope i dont get shit for this #please be kind #eepy time #monogamous #ethical non monogamy #toxic monogamy #consensual non monogamy #incel #incel culture #OwO

[peggy-sue-reads-a-book]

#my poem #non toxic masculinity #positive masculinity #my dad #birthday trout #free verse #new poets society #new poetry #poets on tumblr

[angelnamedcreature]

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Hi! I’m Angel :)

I also go by Demon & Creature.

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✧ 19 years old!

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Preferred pronouns:

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Come join me if you need some positivity!!

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[escapismqueen]

This may sound weird considering that I'm talking about a show that's literally 'aimed at teens' about teens, or whatever, but watching Jeremiah Fisher as a love interest has genuinely helped me learn what's healthy in relationships and how you should be treated. I'm 22 and I've never been in a relationship, but I feel like I've always had a pretty good grasp on boundaries and what's toxic in a relationship and what's healthy. But after being introduced to his character, I realised that I actually was still clinging onto some traits in others that I thought were 'okay' and even 'attractive' which are really just not okay. I feel like I'm all of a sudden starting to notice things that I didn't before and the rose coloured glasses are slipping and I'm actually seeing things I would previously see as 'attractive' as what they actually are; messed up. Obviously, I'm not talking about everything, but there's a lot of 'toxicity' in media shown as romantic and I don't think I actually realised how much I'd bought into it until I was shown a character who was the complete opposite of toxic. And this is coming from someone who has always thought she could spot toxicity from a mile off and tends to always spot the signs when my friends tell me certain stories.

So if this doesn't tell you how important having a jelly endgame is, then I don't know what will.

#tsitp #team jelly #the summer i turned pretty #team jeremiah #anti bonrad #i ship a lot of non toxic couples but there's just something about jeremiah that slapped me in the face (in a positive way)

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

#it’s ok! #not all days are good days #cat #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #non toxic positivity

[stivaktis]

So I’ll just be here slowly reuploading like four years’ worth of art lol

#motivation #fantasy art #stivaktis #non toxic positivity

[screamingfromuz]

there is a conversation to be had, a conversation we do need to have, about the fact that there is a point where the amount of fat in your body is unhealthy, but we don't really know what it is.

Because there is a point where your weight puts you at a major risk, but because medical research bias, we lack information on it. this is also a problem of personalized medicine, different body types handle fat differently, and so excess fat in one person is different then excess fat in another! or on the opposite side, some body types can handle having less fat then other body types better!

So the definition of healthy weight requires such personalization that the universal one we have is so flawed we can't really be sure if most people are in the best weight for them

And then we have to talk about the fact that obesity and or extreme thinness should be treated like a chronic illness. To get to the optimal fat percentage for you you need a long term plan and support, and even then sometimes it is not possible! So you manage your symptoms and live with it and all it's consequences.

But because of fatphobia, toxic body positivity and the tendency to just flip the narrative and not deconstruct it, I hardly hear this conversations be had.

#fatphobia #toxic body positivity #this is not to diminish the fight against fatphobia #it's to say that we need to change the way we understand healthy weight completly #deconstruct the narrative and start a better one #I know women who are healthy but because of their petit body size are considered underweight #I know people who are just big people and are considered overweight even though they are perfectly healthy #and we do need to talk about unhealthy weight and it's effect in a non-glamorisin/non-vilifing way #being unbalanced in the amount of fat in your body can cause long term effects and should be treated correctly #with support and not humiliation

[cloud-based-and-rainpilled]

just found out my ex best friend from a few years ago isn’t just shallow/ “oh we grew apart” but actually is a pathological liar and actively ruined/tried to ruin friendships under the guise of being an empath 🙃🙃🙃

basically if someone identifies as an empath, run. they’re going to ruin your life

#i knew she was shady but i can’t believe i’m only learning this now #i’m an empath so to speak so i get that empathic ppl seek each other out #but when someone makes it their whole personality get OUT of there #they are trying to ruin your life #non sücc related #personal #toxic #bad friend #toxic friends #ex friends #wow i hate her and of course she’s successful because she’ll stop at nothing to feed her id #just a lust for drama what a fucking asshole #empath #toxic positivity

[kill-worthy]

Remember friends, anything you can do I can do bleeding.

#killworthy #menstrualcup #periodcup #selflove #feelgood #cuplife #periodsbelike #periodpositive #periodpower #menstruation #menstrualhealth #menstruationmatters #menstrualmagic #periodtalk #periodproud #periodproblems #plasticfree #nontoxicliving #femininepower #feminism

#killworthy #menstruation #period cup #self love #feel good #cup life #periods be like #period positive #period power #menstrual health #menstruation matters #menstrual magic #period talk #period proud #period problems #plastic free #non toxic living #feminine power #feminism