And now I’m thinking I might just be straight up ace instead of grayace.
I’ve just been using grayace because I thought I might be ace but I wasn’t sure and I identified with parts of what I knew but I was mostly just confused.
Then I saw this and it kinda slapped me in the face. I don’t think I’ve ever felt sexual attraction. I’ve definitely felt attraction, whether that be romantic, aesthetic, or other, but I don’t think ever sexual. Sex stuff is a pretty personal thing imo, so I’m not going to go into detail, but I don’t think I really understood what sexual attraction meant before, but if I’m going by that definition, then I am definitely asexual.
I would say I’m definitely sex-positive and not sex-repulsed (although I think I definitely need romantic attraction (which is somewhat rare since I’m demi) before doing anything sexual). I can still get sexual desires occasionally, but I don’t feel sexual attraction. I think the fact of me being ace explains why I never understood what sexual attraction was, what it meant, or what it felt like no matter what research I did. (literally googling stuff like ‘what does sexual attraction feel like’ and confusing myself even further lol). I didn’t know or understand what was and wasn’t sexual attraction. And I think that’s why I also went through phases of identifying as grayromantic and aromantic instead of demi.
So yeah. I’m definitely demiromantic, definitely bi, and definitely a sex-positive asexual!
Anyway, just wanted to share my revelation with y'all.
*masculine in this case refers to gender masculinity and/or masculine presentation (or any other form of masculinity that is important to the individual). masculinity and masculine genders are entirely separate from being male/-aligned, and masculine =/= male-ish.
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