#nonbinary hate mention

[uncanny-tranny]

To parents of trans kids who are scared of their kids facing transphobia:

Don't force your child out of being trans. Don't force them to detransition. This is not how your child from facing transphobia. Realistically, you are pushing them toward more dangerous situations because they will be desperate to find acceptance from anywhere they can.

I can't imagine how it feels to be a parent and worry about your child's safety or life because they are trans in this world. You have my full sympathy. While I can't speak from the experiences of a parent, I can speak from the experiences of a trans person who was once a child and why the above line of thinking is dangerous.

When I came out as trans, there was a huge proportion of time where my dad was very resistant to my transness. I couldn't understand why, but I believe part of why he was so resistant was because he was afraid somebody would assault or kill me because I am trans. That is a huge burden for him to think about. However, he went about this (valid) fear in a very destructive way.

He threatened my transition, he threatened to force me to detransition, and he threatened a lot of things. I retreated away from him, I couldn't talk to him about anything. I felt confined, unaccepted. I am lucky my friends and school were accepting, because I was vulnerable. Others haven't been lucky - so many people in that position have been taken advantage of by truly evil people.

You might think that you are protecting your child by making them appear cis, but that isn't how that plays out. Your child won't feel accepted, and chances are that if something horrific happened to them, gd-forbid, they won't come to you about that. This isn't protection, and I am sorry to say that. I am sorry that this isn't simple.

Here is how you can protect your trans child:

Make it clear you support them

Teach them self-respect, and how to listen to their gut feeling

Teach them appropriate versus inappropriate ways people can interact with them. Make sure they understand what harassment and abuse can look like - verbal, physical, and sexual

If you are still concerned for their physical safety, sign them up for self-defense classes

Leave the floor open for them to express how they are feeling and what they are thinking. Be non-judgmental when they are upset or worried

Please remember that trans people are painfully aware of the consequences of being trans in a transphobic world. Hell, one of the first trans people I learned about as a kid was killed as a result of a hate crime. We are aware of the world we live in. We have to live with that knowledge, and that is why it is imperative that you allow your trans child to express who they are and how they feel. You very well could save them by doing so.

We protect trans youth by empowering trans youth.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #ally advice #parenting #transphobia #transphobia tw #hate crime tw #death tw #murder tw #assault tw #rape tw #rape mention tw #abuse tw #long post #youth liberation

[nonbinarymlm]

Inspired by @fixing-bad-posts I have decided to some the transphobic tweets I've seen.

[Image ID: Three images where everything has been editing away by soothing photos of water except for a few words. The first reads "non binaryism teaches that they can be if they don't match up to patriarchal expectations and teaches that being is positive" with a nonbinary flag filter over the background water. The second one reads "talking about having breasts estrogen induced cool" with a transfeminine filter over the background water. The last one reads "what people are can be a lot bigger than their bodies. There's no reason why you can't identify as what you actually are, other than patriarchy". End description.]

#fixing posts #black out poetry #trans positivity #transgender positive #nonbinary positivity #transfeminine positivity #i find it cathartic to change hateful things into positive things #edits #water #loving queue #implied transphobia #breast mention #transgender #nonbinary

[hells-ringleader]

Before I get anymore questions on this. Based on the tweet by vivzie about luci making charlie, I headcanon hes technically nonbinary cuz he's a celestial angelic thing. But he chose to go by he/they mostly liking he tho . He's masculine presenting. Unlike a majority of seraphim in heaven. And he did create charlie most likely the way he can create animals and objects. His angelic powers. He and lilly wanted a daughter so he made one. And same w any other children if any he had. With angelic magic. Maybe some dust like how humans were made. Lilith being a sinner technically could not so he made her. That is all. He can make anything. He's a celestial being. He most likely was made from dust of stars he can do the same for others.

That is all.

#i hate what some have been mentioning or saying. it makes me uncomfortable . #also nonbinary fits most muses i fall for lol #celestial beings wouldn't have gender its true #headcanons: a bit about luci #lucifer: the short king himself #lucifer hazbin hotel #lucifer magne #lucifer morningstar #hazbin hotel headcanons #hazbin hotel #ooc: out of apples

[our-trans-youth-experience]

Idk how to properly explain this (sleepy and confused), but I'll try So I'm a trans teenager (trans guy) and these people at school are harassing me for it and I can't do shit I have one teacher who helps me (thank you ms. Betten), but ideally speaking my parents would help too, but I'm not fully out to them Last time I tried, everything went wrong andmy mental health plummeted and yeah, not gonna try again (Like they know I'm trans, but not that I'm out at school and stuff)

So here I am now, basically no actual support, still getting harassed and basically no adult to help me (except ms. Betten, she's wonderful, but can't do anything except telling other adults and hoping that all will be well) Do you think this is common? Or am I the only one lmao

You aren't the only one, but that doesn't make your situation any less horrible. I have an almost all transmasc friend group, and almost all of them have incredibly difficult situations because they are trans. Multiple of them have been hate crimed or have unsupportive parents or both. As for me, I am only out to some people my age including this group of friends. I have tried to come out to my parents multiple times, but they are very transphobic and attempting to come out again would put me in an extremely unsafe situation, so i completely understand. I get called slurs and have no support or the ability to properly socially transition. So basically, I understand what you're going through and it sucks. It is horrible and should not be a trans experience but it is. Just remember that in a few years time (when you are an adult) you will be able to be yourself and be openly queer and proud. People might always pick on us because we are different, but trans kids have eachother's backs and we'll always look out for eachother. Stay safe, I've got your back <3

#trans youth #our trans youth experience #trans kids #transgender #transmasc #enby #nonbinary #trans #queer #hate crime mention #unsupportive family #transphobia

[chaogongoozles]

// vent , journal?, letter to the void to a specific person? Whatever, if ya know ya know//

Didn't think I'd have a close pal choose to be a dirty fucking pig (cop) apologist knowing damn well everything they do and done to marginalized groups, all while trying to tell me "I don't support them!.. but also don't call my coworkers pigs that's disrespectful >:(" bitch??? Blow it out your ass, you wanna fuck around with the pig squad thinking you can 'be a good one' while still supporting them because you work with them? Fine by me, but you're not my friend or ever will be as long as you keep that bluelivesmatter mentality knowing damn well who I am, or who my partner is, or everyone close who has been directly affected by them. Already trying to say the 'negative talk' that cops get is what's the main issue in society™ without wondering WHY so many people fucking hate cops? Or thinking the horrible conditions prisoners are put in is the police 'being underfunded ' when that's by fucking design? Crying that people are calling you horrible shit for being a cop apologist? Boohoo cry me a river, that'll never be nearly as bad as the abuse and deaths millions of people (majority black or Native American) face from the hands of the police.

Damn fucking shame you listened to all the goons around you + those back at home who brought you and your amazing artwork down to the point you even had to work with dirty swine. Thinking that's the only way you can "help people" when you know damn well there's many more opportunities and positions that actually help people (even incorporating your art into it), but instead choosing the very thing that's suppressing us while throwing away your hard work/passions. Fuck you. If you're going to chalk up the horrors that are happening as "fake news/online garbage" or "dumb people recording cops and wondering why they're getting arrested", you're already too far gone.

RIP to the person I once knew and loved. Guess what they say is true, you either grow with friends from childhood/highschool or grow apart. We've obviously grown apart. So good bye.

#shutupchao #this month has been eventful but god damn ... #love it when my loved ones choose to be bigots while telling the nonbinary lesbian with their black nonbinary partner to stop hating cops... #like... you fucking serious rn? oh you are? damn alright guess you're my enemy now #so be it #that won't stop me from doing what i can to not only have a successful career but one that helps people while we dismantle this shit system #you say its impossible i say fuck you #I'll die trying and satan be damned I'll fucking fight back if you get in my way with your piggy squad #having the audacity to say im doing nothing but 'complaining' while fighting back on what im trying to explain to ya the systemic issues smh #this is enough im done im moving on this is weight off my fucking chest #12-7-2023 #acab #again the audacity to say people are recording dumb shit when they're recording for their safety #not to mention the thousands of videos of murders happening at the hands of cops but you gonna call those victims 'dumb'... you're sick

[everyothermouse]

I love it when victims are written as actual characters and not just victims. Characters who are just written to be poor suffering bodies at the hands of murderers and abusers are BORING. If I'm being really honest with you, I would much rather read about interesting and dynamic victim than an interesting abuser, even though I like writing both.

#thats what i love abt cayanne. if you took away his abuse storyline hed still be a full character wirh a storyline #and within the story hes actually written with ALL the emotions of an abuse victim. hes angry and depressed and fawning trying not to be #hurt and fighting trying not to be hurt and doing everything he can but ultimately feeling lost and hopeless and!!!! #HES ALSO A NONBINARY MAN. HAVE I EVER MENTIONED HOW IMPORTANT REPRESENTING MALE VICTIMS IS!!!!! #also no im not misgendering him he identifies as a nonbinary man. hes both bcus hes cool like that #i could ramble about him forever i love everything abt him #i love his personality i love his age i love his design i love his guilt i love him #ALSO THE BASE POST OF THIS IS ALSO ABOUT EDGAR. BTW #not my oc but omg i love edgar. edgar is such a good victim char #i hate to even boil him down to being a victim because edgar is SUCH a full character to me ugh i love him #not art #cayanne

[squuote]

realizing that maybe I am just some crow who does not like labels. or at least using too many

#crow thoughts #sorry this is about queer stuff tehe ^___^ #but fr I’ve kinda decided that queer is enough for me. like I’m comfy with aro and enby as defining terms #but in terms of my overall sexuality queer is enough for me :-) #honestly while this is about queer stuff I think this also can be used for an sort of identity label for myself #I think I’ve just come to the conclusion that I hate being put inside a defining box for others to assume of me #aside from the ones I actually want to be in #finding out I was aro was kind like one of the best things for me in terms of identity #cause I’ve never rlly given a shit about my sexuality. if I think someone’s cute I think they’re cute #if I don’t think they’re cute then I don’t think they’re cute! simple easy and flows just right for me #in the end it doesn’t matter because to me that aspect of myself is tiny like it doesn’t rlly define me that much #I’m glad to have any identity that allows me to push away the forceful nature of heteronormativity #same with being nonbinary! tho that one was an easy fit hehe #but I’ve also been thinking about other identity stuff as of late too. not just gender n sexuality #like religion and the whatnot. you know the deal #and like yknow what? nah you don’t get a defining term on that personal shit #you don’t get to know why I like calling myself a crow or my religion or whatever other personal shit I got going on #I’m just me. just foster. I’m not one defining characteristic I’m just me #I’m more comfortable with myself than I’ve ever been in my life. I know myself and I will continue to learn more #but I’m comfy not telling anyone until I wanna mention it :-)

[queerbauten]

if you refer to Blixa by his birthname, as though it's, like, a fun bit of trivia (or, worse, his "real name"), I'm turning you into an oyster

#Blixa Bargeld #<- has been his legal name for over 20 years. cope. #it's not that there are *never* contexts where referring to him as (H)CE is appropriate #it's that I never see people use that name in genuinely appropriate contexts #also like... given that Blixa is openly nonbinary #maybe think about what you're *actually* doing for two seconds?? please?? thank you #and even if we want to ignore the whole. y'know. transphobic element. #it's just rude to presume that level of intimacy with someone #as someone who goes by a shortened version of her first name on a day-to-day basis #I hate it when just anyone uses my full first name #there are people who are allowed; there are people (most people) who are not #cut it out #transphobia mention #body horror mention #? just in case

[biblicalhorror]

God poor Lisa. Every time he's onscreen after Alice r*ped him I just feel so sad for him

#sa mention #he just seems so sweet and genuine and alice treats him like fucking garbage just because he's basically just nonbinary #and the writers wanna be like 'haha look at this man who calls himself a lesbian let's all point and laugh' #makes me fully hate alice as a character already #j watches the l word

[uncanny-tranny]

I just came to a really obvious conclusion, and honestly, I think it can explain a lot.

I think a big reason why there is so much petty in-fighting in (some) queer spaces is simply because it is easy. It is easy to yell at other queer people for the language they use, or what labels they do or don't have, if they transition "right" or at all, if they are the "right" kind of queer, or whatever else. That shit is very easy.

It isn't easy, however, to fight queerphobia. It isn't easy to fight what can feel like a losing battle, and many queer people seem to almost give up because it feels like a losing battle. All those negative feelings bottle up, until it explodes and the shrapnel from those bottled-up feelings hits other queer people.

A recent anti-queer hate crime happened so close to my home town, and it really scared me. Those feelings of dread and doom and despair are indescribable. It's hard to wake up sometimes and intentionally decide to go outside because of it. This is an example, but it sometimes does feel like there's little I can do, y'know? So I think other queer people also feel like me, but they turn those feelings inward at other queer people.

I don't think this excuses anti-queerness coming from other queer people. But I think it can give us an idea of what that mindset is like. We need, more than ever, to defend each other. Queerphobia targets every queer person. To leave one queer person behind is to leave us all behind. Leaving one queer behind paints a target on all our backs. So be careful not to leave them to face queerphobia alone.

#lesbian #gay #bi #bisexual #trans #transgender #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #queerphobia tw #hate crime tw #hate crime mention tw #i am so desperate to stop this shit though #i get that it feels easy. i get that you think you're doing something positive for queer people. but you aren't. it's doing the opposite #i don't want to see any queer person on the chopping block. if one queer person can be on that chopping block... #...that means YOU can wind up on that very same chopping block.

[bees-b]

quietly says something

#amber talks #ahem #perhaps #delete later #I haven’t seen it in a while but I hate the ‘nonbinary pussy’ meme #in a landscape where nonbinary people are treated as ‘girls lite’ the explicitly pussy jokes are really unfunny to me #not to mention like. oversexualizing for no reason #and I’ve seen a couple ‘nonbinary dick’ jokes but those are far fewer #and tma nonbinary people really get left out of the conversation entirely #and tme nonbinary people are getting sexualized #so nobody wins #anyway #this is what I have to say #thank u #if I see one more Peter griffin ‘you couldn’t handle nb pussy’ meme I might start unfollowing #again haven’t seen it in a while #but been on my mind #if it’s not a mutual I’m for Sure blocking #if you’re tme and like the jokes maybe examine why #if you’re tma and like the jokes you can do whatever you want forever #but it feelsbad to me

[unproduciblesmackdown]

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#and i don't even hardly know about it or like it. proof positive #cam stone #i even looked up typical pixel to dpi ratios so my art would be high res enough for printing. Canvas Big & my laptop hated it lol.... #but indeed there's three cam pics including an effort at a kind of pinup adjacent Ooh Cam Stone one lol. carefully placed torque wrenches #anyone look up f&f posting on this site....there's gotta be; right. this whole zine is an ode to that. well here goes a few tags: #fast & furious #f&f #2 fast 2 furious #gets a special shoutout. inspiring us all well beyond [even seeing any f&f related stuff. tfatf.... #also would be one less contributer if not scholar nothingunrealistic.tumblr.com; also the source of my knowing abt cam stone in general; #being the one to know of this project & go ''perfect cam stone opportunity'' like it Really is isn't it #and thus; against all odds but also appropriately; Racing to actually create a page abt them to spread the good news #in that there was like a month & a half's heads up but i still exponentially did most of the actual execution days before the deadline #ran into some technical difficulties in the final hours lol but then seized a Post Submission Editing Opportunity to amend that w/more time #and to go ''i wrote it as fast & furious: crossroads which is what many sources format it as But official materials write it like #fast & furious crossroads without the colon & it's nbd but i would prefer to change it =('' getting a yeah no prob lol.... #fixed up some very minor visual errors & changed one instance of word ordering so that it had some more Prosody imo. didn't mention that lo #plus going ''yeah there can/should be an editor's note to emphasize This Is Really Real Not An OC b/c that's clearer And funnier'' #fast & furious extended universe really has a nonbinary character & if they're for real abt this finale Trilogy call akd up please.... #let's get that cam & vienna cameo it's fast(tm) easy & free (it's not free....might not even be easy but it's more than worth it) #fast & furious crossroads #anyone looking That up has gotta get in on this #pdf / virtual option tba as mentioned....but physical copy rules too. i forget if i sent them my mailing address but i think i did lol #the ideal of being Gifted one like yeah i Will take this around with me then thank you #truly the most formal publishing my Work has ever seen. besides ''online'' or ''once i did a painting that i think was on the wapo site'' #and a very appropriate way to achieve that....but fr what's great is So Many More Ppl Can Now Learn Cam Stone Exists #we've got The Scoop as attested babey!!! 🍨 #and in turn we owe it all to akd everyone say thank you akd for acting that pwns & a je ne sais quoi to boot #which; in turn; thank you kompenso; thank you will roland's pwning acting/je ne sais quoi; thank you michael greif What Works understander. #i have remembered that pixels are implicit in the term ''dpi''....but it's a wash on clarity yet funnier to leave it as i wrote it

[thecommunityoftrustworthysinks]

genderqueer is an important word and an important identity and it has not been superseded by nonbinary and it exists alongside and with nonbinary and anyone can use either to mean what they please about their own gender and it is more important than ever right now to speak up about genderqueer as an identity because t3rfs are starting to use the suffragette flag which shares colors. im so sick of not seeing genderqueer merch or flags fucking anywhere people make pride shit. genderqueer is important and im gonna start being a bitch about it

i don’t care if you’re not genderqueer please start actually acknowledging we exist and we don’t all want to be called nonbinary

#x #genderqueer #queer #lgbtq #pride month #trans #transgender #i accept nonbinary as a passing umbrella term but literally only because i fucking have to #because nobody ever wants to mention gq people or even remembers we exist #like i don't hate the word nonbinary and nonbinary people are awesome but it's just not a word that i feel like reflects my identity #genderqueer is not an outdated word it is not an unneeded word it is not just a gender expression #it is an identity it is expansive it is old and it is important #(it CAN be an expression and it definitely is also that for me but i mean it's not just another word for gnc)

[alostlittleriverlotus]

one frustrating experience I had with my last therapist, and being LGBTQ+ at all cuz my good second therapist did this with me being gay, is how they want to talk about it. Like I'm there for mental health treatment yet I'm asked how I settled on a name, how I experience my identity, shit like that. I'm there having a train of thought and one of the first things my therapist asked to talk about was my gender. I honestly hate it. All I did was say my pronouns are they/them and my name is River, but to use my deadname and she/her pronouns around my mom who would bring me to my appointments.

I don't really like explaining things to people. I'll be happy to help educate others that need clarification, like when people would ask me what aceflux is. But asking me about MY identity and having to go over it as if it's important is stressful and exhausting. Especially knowing I'm a system now and how fluid my gender really is. It can be genuinely stressful to think about and end up triggering dysphoria pretty bad. So I just exist in the "this describes me and I'm happy" sort of way to protect myself. I hate the idea overall that you have to have your gender perfectly figured out. I've been genderfluid since 16 though went back in the closet for a few years and came back out at 19. I have other descriptors for my identity and other more niche identities as well as neopronouns my loved ones use. But all of that, that's really private in my eyes. I'm genderfluid/nonbinary. Use my they/them pronouns. I don't want to have to explain my identity to every therapist. It's exhausting.

My second therapist was the least bad, but one of my big gripes was how it was like explaining technology to your very confused grandparent. The age difference was too much. I'm not there to explain my sexuality or what a fanfic website is like. I'm there for therapy. It's just too much for me to think especially when they interrupt my thoughts to ask. It's so difficult for me to get my thoughts out cause of dissociation and being semiverbal and easily overwhelmed. It's one thing if it's on topic, but I don't want to have to explain what being gay/trans is like to a cishet therapist when I'm there for mental help.

But overall, I fucking hate therapy cause of ableism, sanism, the expectation to function as a neurotypical, and how judgemental so many can be. Finding a good therapist is tough and I do not have the energy for it. Therapy only ever made me more suicidal and blame myself more. So yeah, I hate therapy and won't seek most mental health help especially with how it is in America and my trauma over finances so I always feel like it's a "waste."

#therapy #rant #trans #nonbinary #actually disabled #actually traumatized #actually autistic #therapists #I hate therapy #sanism mention #tired

[rantsbymee]

please for the love of god can someone use he/him pronouns for me? i would like masc compliments as well please.

ik i said the pronoun order didnt matter but im about to put he ahead of she. i hate only being viewed as a girl. might buy some mens pants to alleviate some of the dysphoria.

edit: i did move pronouns around. not that anyone i know follows me (on this account, main tumblr is a different story)

#lgbtqia #enby #nonbinary #aroace #asexual #aromantic #dysphoria mention #nonbinary dysphoria #i hate being afab #afab dysphoria #bottom dysphoria