Finished June 4, 2020. Three stars.
Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship by Kayleen Schaefer
I am in the habit of declaring that I have no friends. This is, of course, factually incorrect, but I am so protective of the word “friend” because I think it means more than just someone I hang out with because we work together or have class together and get along. So much so that I’ve definitely gotten into arguments with people about whether we’re friends or not. It just seems like a disservice to call someone who I get along with the same term that I call my very best friend who is the one who bought this book for me. Roommates and friends have actually made fun of me for how often I start sentences with “My best friend Katelyn,” to the point that just the other day one of these friends said “I Know who Katelyn is, you can just say her name.” Ha, sorry. Anyways, my very best friend Katelyn bought me this book (at my suggestion) for Galentine’s Day a few years ago, a holiday that we’ve been celebrating since my sophomore year of undergrad.
The book itself is fairly straightforward, talking about, yeah, exactly what the title says, kind of the evolution of female friendship, including lots of TV shows and movies as examples of shifting attitudes. The author includes lots of personal info about herself, her friendships, and her past. There were some interesting things throughout, like the section about the “mean girl” and “queen bee” stereotype, and some really good discussion about friends being supportive of life changes/decisions, and also when friendships fall apart. I guess I just didn’t feel like anything was particularly groundbreaking, her research didn’t wow me, the tone was overall very conversational.
It was a sweet book, and a good reminder that I’m grateful for all the women in my life I call friends, even if I forget to send them Galentine’s Day presents, only sometimes respond to their texts, or speak to them twice a year.