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puppys-tiny-space · 27 days

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🧁Games to play with your plushies/sibbies/cg's🧁

This list is mainly focused on games I like to play and aren't focused on proper pretend play but more things that follow a script of sorts as I'm autistic and don't enjoy playing differently

🩹doctor office, I love playing doctors office, I even make little patient sheets for everyone, set up a proper office, and waiting room, this games is great because there is a clear structure to play with and focus on🩹

🍨ice cream shop, ice cream shop is such a fun game, I have a Play-Doh set to make ice cream with that's really fun to play with, I like to set up my plushies in a line and give them fake money and then arrange them in groups to eat that candy together🍨

🦴puppy pound, playing things like animal shelter can be lots of fun with your plushies, you can make little introduction cards for each of them and makeup backstories, then you can lead another plushie or imaginary person through your shelter and introduce the animals🦴

🍼tea party, now this one is a classic, having real or pretend tea and cakes or other snacks with your plushies, discussing funny gossip or plushie land political issues, maybe even giving good life advice to your furry friends all this and more can be super great for playing tea party🍼

🪽funeral, this might seem morbid for some but for me it's very fun as I want to become a mortician, you can craft a pretty casket for the plushie, make a flower bouquet with paper, write a eulogy and set everything up nice and pretty, don't forget to make sure it worn make you sad though🪽

🧴beauty salon, I adore this game, giving a silly makeover to your plushies or human friends is so much fun, you can put bows in their hair, pretend to wash it, put makeup on them, paint their nails, give them silly outfits and talk about their life's🧴

🍥grocery store, playing grocery store isn't for everyone and I have to admit it's not something I like too much but for some people it can still be lots of fun, I especially like the organizing part🍥

📖library, this is a game I adore, you can make little library cards for your plushies and friends, set up books in piles, read story times to the visitors, help everyone find thr books they would like and give your recommendations📖

🌸flower store, for this game you can draw and craft lots of pretty flowers to sell to your plushies, advice them on the perfect way to put together their bouquet, add beautiful ribbons and lave to the flowers ans write nice cards for them, I think especially flowers out of pipe cleaners are amazing for this🌸

🩰ballet, now this could either mean you out on a show for or with your plushies or even going to a ballet with them, either way you can dress up beautifully and either dance together or watch a ballet on YouTube and pretend you are in a theater, I really like the Russian ballet's 🩰

Fun fact of the day: a cloud weighs around a million tonnes

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mortuarymorticia · 1 year

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[ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ] ——— [ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ]

support & normalize chronically-ill carers. 🤍

— 🤕 be open to accommodations when ur carer is having a pain flare, like a chair next to the tub for them to sit when they run u a bath. have a pillow ready if they are kneeling to tie ur shoes or snap up a onesie.

—— 🩹 offer to help out more! clean off ur plate without asking, double down on chores, maybe take one of theirs off their plate. doing things without asking will make u feel like baba’s little helper & also probably be much appreciated.

——— ❤️‍🩹 spend some time nourishing them the way they nourish u. temple massages with tiger balm for migraines or an ice pack & a scalp massage. lotion their feet & ankles if they are swollen. rewrap their bandages for them.

———— 🩹 incorporate their mobility aids into ur regressive relationship, such as drawing them with their wheelchair in pictures or covering their cane with stickers! (with permission, of course.) normalize their illness as just a part of who they are.

————— 🤍 most importantly, remember that ur carer is human just like u & has limits, even if they feel like a superhero to u. be sure to remind them every day that their illness doesn’t define their ability to be a good caretaker.

[ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ] ——— [ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ]

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ittycritterbug · 4 months

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agere/petre + carer/babysitter flags

it's not moodboards, i know, but it's here anyway.

reminder that these are to be used for nonsexual purposes only, NO K!NK

the colors, in order from top to bottom, are

pastel yellow: for age regressors

pastel green: for pet regressors

pastel blue: for carers and babysitters

pastel purple: for regression as a whole

important note: every stripe is meant to be entirely inclusive to folks of all big/regressed ages, colors, shapes and sizes, and to folks with and without disabilities and/or mental illnesses.

"regression as a whole" means all kinds of regression. not just agere and petre, but also: age/pet dreaming, pure and impure, voluntary and involuntary, system littles/middles, and whatever else your personal regression involves and means to you.

see below for some alternate versions !!

bottle + paci: for kiddos who regress to 0-4 or an undetermined younger age, or can be used by anyone who prefers this version

sippy cup + teddy bear flag: for kiddos who regress to 5-10 or an undetermined age that's a little bit older, or can be used by anyone who prefers this version

teddy bear flag: for kiddos whose regressed age fluctuates, or can be used by anyone who prefers this version

big teddy bear + little teddy bear flag: for agere carers + babysitters

paw print flag: for pet regressors!

big paw print + little paw print flag: for carers/sitters of pet regressors

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werewolfnatural · 9 months

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okay but the dean winchester of it all about Stiles like both were left with the household responsibilities by absent (and likely drunk) fathers and neither of them have felt like kids for the longest time after the deaths of their mothers

trying to focus on stiles here because of the conversations about the BH parents currently in the tags today but the sheriff may love Stiles but he definitely left Stiles to parent himself

he tries the whole “I’m the father/you’re the son” but Stiles hasn’t seen it like that since Claudia died likely shifting when she first started getting sick and Stiles had to take care of her and himself because the sheriff was either working or drinking, and like dean Stiles probably had to care for his dad when he was drunk too and if Stiles’ anxieties are anything to go by then the sheriff wasn’t taking care of himself let alone a sick Claudia and young Stiles—that kind of anxiety doesn’t just stem from nowhere and I think it’s definitely in part to Stiles not being able to lose anyone else but also because he’s seen that the sheriff couldn’t be trusted to take care of himself

(this likely changed when he quit drinking but Stiles’ anxiety is still high so I don’t think that it actually changed all that much, and I think that stiles drives is part of all this bc yeah every kid wants to drive but I definitely think it was also bc it was a necessity he had no one to drive him places and needed to be able to go grocery shopping etc bc at least for Scott Melissa did do that much)

and I could talk forever how this can play into (nonsexual don’t fucking start) emotional incest with Stiles caring/monitoring the sheriff the way a partner would similarly to dean being compared to Mary so much and how both get judged for this by the fathers, like you’re the kid why aren’t you acting like a /normal/ kid but who else was there to care for them and keep the family going? Who else was there to take care of the fathers, who had proven they wouldn’t do it themselves, if not the kids? It’s kids parenting their parents while trying to raise themselves

and going off the Stiles caring like a partner would is definitely on the sheriff for not reinforcing boundaries, something that’s definitely impacted Stiles since (especially in the first seasons) we see him lack boundaries with his obsession with Lydia and with his and Scott’s broship (which are whole other posts god) but also with coach and the illegal shit he gets up to

Stiles has never had someone there pulling him back from too far and too much which is why I definitely think stiles raised himself, he has his own specific morals (he’s actually pretty violently inclined sometimes, especially for those he loves) plus the lack of faith in any higher authority that stems from being left/neglected from the authority that was supposed to care for you and protect you, because the sheriff did leave Stiles with Claudia a lot even after she had attacked Stiles in her state, because whether Stiles ever actually processed that or not it would’ve felt like a betrayal—that the sheriffs job was more important than stiles’ safety, and Stiles lying to the sheriff about everything regarding the supernatural totally lends to Stiles not trusting the sheriff to believe him (which happens) or trusting that a higher authority (the cops/adults in BH) to actually do anything about it and also lends to Stiles still being the protector/carer in their relationship

I could go on and on with more examples but I’ve already rewritten this like five times trying to word it for the last hour and I’m still not happy with it but I love digging into these complicated familial relationships and talk about Stiles (and dean) forever

#stiles stilinski #teen wolf #tw #anti john stilinski #anti noah stilinski #anti sheriff stilinski #I tagged the anti tags just to be sure since the fandom really likes to think he’s a good parent #beacon hills parent hate club creeping up there to be with my anti John winchester hate club lmao #anti john winchester #my stuff

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pebblekiddo · 2 years

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hello hello.

what’re your guys favorite pet names / nicknames?

mine are:

carer: dada/daddy (nonsexual ofc), papa, baba, and i adore any one that they come up w!

baby: pup/puppy, little one, pumpkin, baby, and cute lil personalized ones (like baby butt or something)

#age dreaming #agere #agere positivity #caregiver #sfw age regression #age regressor #agedre #agere little #babycore #agere blog #agre regression #noncom agedre #noncom regressor #non community little #noncom agere

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mamabearcarer · 1 year

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welcome to my blog, sweet darling . . .

nonsexual mama space account

a little about me!

I am a sfw carer / tinie ( flip ) who is also an age dreamer & pet dreamer.

I am nearly 16 years old ! I use she/her the majority of the time, and sometimes he/him.

I have a tinie who is my whole wide world!

I love nature, summer time, fashion, stuffed animals, crystals, movies/tv shows, books, music and poetry! I also draw from time to time :))

I make text posts, concepts, sometimes boards too !

my tinie account is @tinybabiebear

thank you for reading dear! I’ll see you next time . . .

#agere #sfw agere #age regression #agere carer #sfw caregiver #sfw cglre #sfw regression #agere post #agere blog #cglre #agere safe #sfw littlespace #sfw age regression

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wyn-terwonderland · 2 years

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I know you've had a long day, little one.

*Lights fairy lights

*Turns on Studio Ghibli Lo-Fi

*Gathers all your stuffies

Come rest a while. You deserve it.

(Image Description: a GIF of white wildflowers against a mossy stone as bumblebees gently buzz around them.)

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caredfor · 5 years

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Stop "punishing" age regressors by taking away blog time or their favorite toy. It's a cruel response that teaches them nothing good! Punishments given by nonsexual caregivers should be replaced with care/encouragement

Example: instead of timeouts, you can tell your little one to say 3 nice things about themself whenever they're caught saying something that hurts their self image

Why is that better than putting them on a timeout?

- it reminds them that they aren't in trouble

- it helps them develop a positive mental attitude and

- no feelings of being ignored or unwanted!

#nonsexual age regression #sfw caregiver #sfw carer #agere #agere advice #safe agere

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mortuarymorticia · 2 years

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a concept; 🧼🧺🧻

you spend all day cleaning the house while your person is at work & when they come home to see all the work you did, their look of pride & appreciation makes you weak with joy. they ruffle your hair with an affectionate “you did an amazing job, squirt. thank you!” & start making you both dinner. you feel appreciated, heard & respected for the first time. life is blissful.

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olderthannetfic · 2 years

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The story on the DNI banners. This is a doozy and its long and unrelated to fandom and also cursed im sorry. I dont believe it and I *lived* it.

Ok so there is leadup and its very important and ill elaborate for people who werent here then. The year is? 2015 I want to say. The porn bots are booming, the nsfw blogs arent banned for female presenting nipples, and blogs in the theme of 'x-suggestions' are in full bloom. These blogs would post text sort of... aesthetic posts based on a theme, often follower submitted, and would often take asks about their blog topic, some would do advice or somesuch. There was a particular subset that did more 'edgy' ones in the 'traumacore' sphere (mostly people blogging about their trauma and mental illnesses, posting edgy stuff about it, etc). Its important to note that traumacore spaces were wildly infested with baby radfems or the antikink variety- this is important put a pin in this.

Now, to set the stage of tumblrs atmosphere- it was very sexual wether you liked it or not. Porn bots were prolific and followed you wether you posted anything risque or not. They were annoying. Some of the no-boundaries people with nsfw blogs would often do weird kink rp on people posts- sometimes even minor's posts. It was annoying and people were understandably frustrated with this. In the traumacore sphere, people would get their very personal posts about trauma reblogged with sexual tags sometimes. People did not like this which added to the anti-kink and anti-sex sentiment brewing.

Enter ptsdsuggestions. This was a popular suggestions blog in the traumacore sphere and they had gotten to talking in a series of asks how the mod, 'Wolfy' iirc did nonsexual ageplay with their partner but hated the community because they did do sex stuff and how it was a trauma response thing. Other askers came forward, talking about the intersection of 'nonvoluntarily age-reggressing due to trauma', which is indeed a thing that happens to people, or how they hated the cgl community because they did sex stuff too, and other such things.

So Wolfy created a community- it was intended to be a place where people could talk about the whole 'younger than the body' thing without 'being in a kink space' and accepted anyone who 'was a little who wanted to get away from the icky sexual cgl people', people who age regressed due to stress/trauma, and some other like folks and named this community ChiRe. It explicitly touted itself as 'minor safe' and 'minor friendly because its not a kink space we pinky swear'

You probably went 'oh no' when reading this, but dont worry it gets worse.

Now I have all the love for people who experience nonvoluntary shifts in cognition that make them feel much younger suddenly. They deserve spaces to talk about their experiences without having their ND trauma thing be sexualized. But... this was not a helpful or safe space that was created, for many reasons and only got worse with every passing week of drama.

Now within a few weeks the community quickly became very... rigid about not reblogging from 'kink sources' for their aesthetic posts and encountered a problem- people would post about their experiences and ageplayers would reblog it. So they would put text 'dont reblog/like from a kink or nsfw blog'. But this brought the pornbots like flies, as they were attracted to people saying those words the most, and adding ...s and ///s in between the words looked ugly as hell, so people started making banners. They first started with that statement, but grew to become a DNI on the most unreadable banners known to man and soon the anti-kink sentiments that permeated the traumacore sphere and then ChiRe really sunk in and it became 'dont touch this post if YOU have a kink' and put that right next to horrific bigotry like its comparable. Its a given that 99% of ChiRe were VERY LOUD antis.

Now about this time ChiRe then introduced the concept of 'carers' which just adds the relationship dynamic from cgl wholesale and made it basically just 'you can do kink with the serial numbers filed off so long as you pinky promise you arent horny about it, minors welcome!'. This then caused a bit of drama (along with some intracommunity drama wank I wont get into) and split into several subfactions that all had slightly different rules and varying levels of aggressive control over the community (all high enough to warrant a BITE warning). Also about this time stimblogs started being a thing.

Now stimblogs were connected to the ND sphere at large, not just a small insular ring of traumacore people that very specifically had this one thing in common. Now a lot of ChiRe was also autistic/adhd, so they did stim gifs and stuff, some also had stimblogs.

Stimblogs also had the 'people being horny on their slime video' problem. They saw these banners on their mutuals' posts and nabbed them, and so the banners began to breach containment. Simblogs became hyperpopular, reached critical mass, and the DNI banners began to permeate tumblr at large. The anti-kink sentiment that was popular in ChiRe and traumacore spaces also started really trickling in as well.

ChiRe, over the next 2 years or so, proceeded to continue to have horrific drama and stalking as normal nonsense instead of doing anything the community promised (posts on sharing experiences of the effects of trauma and healing) until it came out that Wolfy had a secret nsfw blog where it was revealed they were still doing nsfw cgl things with their partner and they had allegedly reblogged 'shotalike' anime art once there. The community imploded, and rapidly bled to almost nothing- either going to other agere communities that were less wack and didnt let minors do kink dynamic shit or leaving agere spaces entirely. A few months later Wolfy got ran off the internet for being weirdly ableist to people with personality disorders and doubling down on it, but Wolfy and ChiRes horrific legacy still remains in ugly banners that put like. Liking homestuck or handcuffs or something and being a child abuser on the same level.

'How do you know this anon'? I was there Gandalf all those years ago from the very start, lurking in hopes interesting posts about trauma and cognition and shit would happen, but well, they didnt.

100% the most toxic community ive ever nominally been in hands down.

I am so very sorry to anyone who read this wall of text and had to comprehend the information inside, this has been your tumblr history information post.

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I did indeed go "oh no".

I vaguely remember hearing about all this and rolling my eyes at the "It's not kink, we swear" vibe of even the stuff that was very overtly kink (albeit kink with no sex in plenty of cases).

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mooshfluff · 3 years

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✨New replacements for CGlre/Agere terms!✨

(some terms are coined by unknown people, others are ones my following helped me create by I make no plans to coin the terms!)

Firstly, Agere is age regression, a sfw therapy/coping method used by trauma survivors (and also just for fun). It is STRICTLY nonsexual. It mean going into the headspace of a child, regressing/reverting mentally to that headspace. Agedre is age dreaming, which is when someone act childish nonsexually but doesn't regress to a headspace.

Petre is pet regression, another sfw coping mechanism that can be fun or help with trauma through the use of a headspace. It is also 100% nonsexual. Petdre is pet dreaming, the act of acting like a pet/animal nonsexually without the actual headspace of an animal.

Since CGlre is the community for sfw regressors with caregivers, it's obviously gotten hate from uneducated ageplayers thinking it's a power dynamic. Obviously this isn't true. The relationship between a regressor and their caregiver is strictly platonic/parental. The cg takes care of the regressor like a parent would. This relationship is never sexual. Period.

However, the use of the word Little in cgLre is often misconstrued and can make age regressors uncomfortable.

Little/Littlespace originated with DID but was stolen by Ageplayers. Ageplayers now act like regressors are stealing it. (That's a debate for another time)

As a result. Many regressors such as myself have steered clear of kink related terms, even if their origins weren't kink, such as Little/Littlespace.

If you feel the same here are good alternatives for terms used in CGlre, Petre and Agere.

Caregiver- a person that takes care of another.

Alternative- Caretaker, Carer, Guardian

Switch- the kink term for someone who is both a Dom and a Sub. Sometimes used by regressors to mean someone who is both a CG and a regressor.

Alternative- Flip

Little- a term coined by the DID community for their system littles, stolen by ageplayers to refer to the Sub. Sometimes used by age regressors.

Alternative- Smol/Small, Bab/Baby, Littol, Tot/Tyke, Kiddo

Littlespace- a term coined by DID, stolen by ageplayers to refer to the "headspace" the Sub enters (not an actual child headspace), sometimes used by age regressors to mean our actual child headspace.

Alternative- Smolspace/Smallspace, Babspace/Babyspace, Littolspace, Totspace, Tykespace, Kidspace/Kiddospace

CGlre- a sfw term taken from cgl (genderneutral kink term for ageplayers) that means an age regressor who has a caregiver. Many smols don't like the term little anymore so this term is becoming more and more invalid and kink related, sadly.

Alternative- cgsre (caregiver smol/small regression/regressor) can be used by every sfw age regressor.

cgbre (caregiver baby regression/regressor) can be used by those who regress to baby ages, 0-2

cgtre (caregiver tot/tyke/toddler regression/regressor) can be used by those who regress to toddler ages, 3-5

cgkre (caregiver kid/kiddo regression/regressor) can be used by those who regress to kiddo ages, 5+

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softmamarosie · 2 years

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Hi. You seem very nice and knowledgeable, so I have a questions I'd like to ask if that's ok. If it's not you can just ignore this, and I'm sorry that I bothered you. My first question is what's the difference between age regression, certain s-wordy k!nks, a psychological episode, and being a system's child alter? Or maybe a better way to ask that is what is age regression when it's not tied to those things?

Hello there! You're not bothering me at all, please don't worry about that~ I'm happy to help with questions!

Age regression is, in simple terms, a regression of the brain to a childlike state. It can be caused by many things, both positive and negative, and is 100% nonsexual (which separates it from kink). A regressor is wholly or partially in a younger mindset when regressed.

Regression is generally a coping mechanism, and can be used by the brain as a way to deal with stress and anxiety, trauma, mental health conditions, etc. A regressor can trigger the mindset themselves, or it can happen involuntarily. Regression is often relaxing for the regressor, and allows them to release some of their stressors in a safe, comfortable way.

Unlike in kink, age regression has no sexual element; though a regressor may be in a romantic or sexual relationship with their carer when not regressed, the regressor is in a different, younger mindset and are often upset or confused when presented with sexual content during regression.

There a few different ways age regression can fit into systems; some systems parts are age regressors themselves, and age sliding can sometimes be thought of as a type of age regression. Having a child alter, however, is not age regression, as that alter is literally a child and not just in a childlike mindset. Dissociative parts are separate entities within a whole system, and have their own identities, ages, and personalities.

I hope this answers some questions for you! I'm by no means an expert; I speak only within my experiences as both a member of a DID system and someone familiar with age regression. Please feel free to ask any follow up questions you may have! 😊

#answered #anonymous

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princess-of-cuteness · 3 years

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Am I the only one super uncomfy when people make age regressor or carer headcannons about real historical figures, celebrities and, social media influencers? Like I used to not have a problem with it but, after I thought about how that person did not ever consent to that(even though it is nonsexual) and that might be something they are triggered by privately if they even know what it is it started making me feel..idk icky I guess about it all? Like, there are people I think might be age regressors based on things they’ve said publicly but, it’s none of my business so I won’t share those thoughts with the world.

I have no issue if you are making headcanons about characters played by real people though like if you want to make a headcanon about a MCU character that’s alright. It does get fuzzy when thinking about characters based on real people and where the lines with that are since some are just loosely based on their real lives.

Also just to be clear, if you do this I don’t hate you or anything like that. It makes me a little uncomfortable but, I won’t block you all or, put you in my DNI. I might still be following some of you for your other content. Just think about it. Like, how would you feel if that person saw your account and, what if they weren’t okay with it?

#this is basically the same issue i have when it comes to shipping real people or making headcanons about their personal life

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cgl-matchmaker-blog · 4 years

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✨Tiny Application✨

Name: Mordecai

Gender: Ftm male

Age: 18

Sexuality & Romantic attraction: Bisexual

Polyamorous, Monogamous, or no preference?: Whatever the other prefers

Location: USA

LDR: Sure

Sexual/Non: Nonsexual, I’m an age regressor

Contact info: Tumblr - @goblin-princee

discord - kavnx#9020

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-Typical you-

A trait you like about yourself: Caring

A trait you dislike about yourself: Sensitive

Hobbies/Interests: Playing video games, baking, sanrio, bugs, dirt, going on adventures, urban exploring, reading, drawing/painting, writing poetry/screenplays/stories, horror movies, picnics, pokémon, kirby, and fnaf.

Extra Info: I have high functioning autism so please be okay with that and either know about it or willing to learn, just because I’m high functioning doesn’t mean I’m not disabled and don’t struggle with basic neurotypical things.

——————–

-Little you-

Favorite pet names: Kiddo, baby, baby boy, baby bear, pup, puppy, bubby, bubs, prince, and little prince.

Little age?: 1-6

Do you also have a petspace?: Not sure? But I do like to wear dog collars, puppy ears, bunny etc.

Do you consider yourself a brat?: Nope, 100% angel

Little Interests: Napping, coloring, playing with toys, playing dress-up/pretend, watching cartoons/movies, playing in dirt, going to parks, having picnics, and exploring outside.

Personality as little: Extra soft, sleepy/hyper (depends), and giggly

Do you need clear rules?: Not really, but if the other wants to give rules I don’t mind.

Are you uncomfortable with any little gear?: I don’t think so.

Any mental or physical illnesses?: Depression, anxiety, ptsd, bipolar, adhd, and dissociation.

———————-

-Looking for-

Type of relationship looking for: I’m looking for a carer/tiny relationship, can be platonic or romantic but we must fully get to know each other for awhile before getting into anything platonic or not.

Are you okay if they have a physical or mental illness?: Yes, totally.

Are you okay if they are a switch?: I’m okay with that, I just think I’m terrible at being a carer so please at least be carer leaning.

Age range: 18+

Personality/Caregiver type: Loving, nonjudgmental, not racist/ableist/lgbtq+phobic, and very understanding.

If you are interested and decide to message me please incorporate a “❤️” (heart, it can be any kind of heart) letting me know you have read my application fully ☺︎︎

#cg/l #cg/l relationship #cg/l lifestyle #cgl matchmaker #cgl matchmaking #cg/l community #sfw little boy #sfw #sfw little #submission

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nmik-agere · 5 years

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Since you said you used to be in Chire and are currently ddlg I was just wondering if it's okay to ask how you made that transition? I'm currently in chire and I'm starting to realise cgl might actually be good for me and I also sort of wanna pursue abdl and I've talked it through with my partner/carer and he says he's 100% willing to sort of go on this "journey" with me but I still kind of feel a lot of shame and I'm not really sure where to start. Any advice?

It took me quite a bit to transition into the ddlg community. When I was involved in the ddlg community as a minor I thought it was a nonsexual community. Therefore when I found out what it all entailed it became very triggering for me. That is when I entered into the Chire community. It was comforting for me in the beginning, but as time went on it started to feel very hateful. I knew that I was interested in d/s relationships in my youth and more strongly when I became an adult, I just denied that for a very long time. I used my anti ddlg Instagram as an outlet to convince myself I wasn’t interested in ddlg to help myself with the same shame you’re probably feeling. As I kept searching or information about ddlg and making post I realized that the ddlg community wasn’t as terrible as myself and others were making it out to be. A lot of people including myself were speaking on a community they truly didn’t understand.

I personally was very hateful about ddlg because of my limit surrounding ageplay due to trauma and not liking the idea of people playing into the dynamic of parent and child relationships. I didn’t like the thought of adults thinking about how a child would behave in an inappropriate situation to cater to their roleplay etc.. I also believed what people within the Chire+ communities said about adults in the cgl community sexualizing baby and childhood items.

What helped me was telling myself that these age regressors” are wrong. Ddlg is not the attraction to prepubescence. Couples/Adults practicing ddlg are attracted to mature adult bodies and are all legally able to consent. Vulnerability and dominance is the kink within ddlg, and innocence is something that has always been apart of sex and sexual scenarios long before ddlg and it has nothing to do with children.

Within the cgl and the abdl community there is Littlespace. You see so many people within ddlg and and outside of ddlg and abdl say that sexualizing this is wrong, but ddlg and abdl is a kink. Littlespace is apart of BDSM. It is the Ageplay equivalent of subspace. Therefore adults aren’t sexualizing it. It’s something that is kinky already. It’s only nonsexual if your bdsm variant relationship is nonsexual. When it comes to items whether or not you are being sexual or not with the item it stays the same. The only thing sexual is how you interact with it. Therefore adults aren’t sexualizing anything regardless if they have a fetish or not doesn’t change the items purpose as a whole.

Some adults are naturally sexual human beings, other adults like myself, while I do not have a littlespace or a little age and I don’t roleplay younger than I am, I am a naturally childlike person. People can’t help being naturally childlike or sexual/sex positive. (Specifically in a relationship I personally can’t help if my personality, my mannerism, and how I see things etc. is childlike or “little.” so in sexual situations I’m just the way I am unintentionally)

Certain aspects of ageplay is something that still makes me uncomfortable, and that’s okay. That is my personal limit. I am not the only one within the BDSM community that finds certain things repulsive and/or triggering. In the end it’s not something I’m participating in so it shouldn’t matter. People should respect everyone’s limits just as much as people should respect everyone’s personal relationships and lifestyles.

When I ran an anti account I was so focused on the opinions of others which fueled my shame. You need to change your attitude by realizing that your sexual preferences are nobodies business but yours and your partners. You are a consenting adult that can do as you please. Cgl, Abdl, ageplay etc. may not be beneficial to someone else but if you think it will be beneficial to you you should see how it works out for you and your partner.

If you are feeling guilt try it alone first. Read things and view things regarding cgl and abdl. Explore what you like and what you don’t like about it as an individual first and remember your interest, your path, your BDSM lifestyle is only yours. You don’t have to try to get it to match anyone else’s. Everyone doesn’t have to agree with it or like it. Everyone as a person is different and everyone as a couple is different. Everyone is not always going to understand specifically why you like to engage in xyz and they have no right to judge you for it.

If you encounter people who are anti, they might as well be anti kink because all kinks are based on the same thing, power dynamics between consenting parties, the only thing that varies is the mechanics and it’s aesthetics during play. People not liking your taboo kinks doesn’t equal it being bad. As long as what you’re doing is consensual, healthy for all parties, and it doesn’t involve minors or non consenting individuals it’s okay!

Do not let your past invalidate your current mindset and do not let others hinder your growth. People changing their viewpoints is a normal part of life.

I hope this helped you!

I’m going to reblog a very important post to help you out even further ♡

#cg/l #agere

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wyn-terwonderland · 2 years

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Hi my transmasc littles, can you sit with me for a sec?

Thanks, little guy. I just want to do a quick check-in, okay?

Have you been drinking enough water? How about you take a sip for me just in case. Thank you, bubby.

Have you been eating enough? Here’s some goldfish to take with you.

Are you too hot or too cold right now?

Okay, I know you don’t always want to talk about this one, but I just want to make sure you’re safe, okay? Do you need to take your binder off or does your binding tape need to be changed? I don’t have to help you if you don’t want me to, but I’m more than happy to help if you do want or need it.

One last thing before I let you go. It’s very important, the most important of them all.

You’re very handsome.

Yes, you are. You look so dapper today. You’re the most handsome little man in the whole wide world, and I’m very proud of you. Don’t you ever forget it.

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