#nonsexual life partners

[idyllic-affections]

PLATONIC LIFE PARTNERS. THATS BASICALLY WHAT BAIZHU AND CHILDHOOD FRIEND!READER ARE

#aphelion speaks 🌸 #I THOUGHT OF THEM LIKE SIBLINGS FIRST BUT THIS IS INDEFINITELY MORE ACCURATE #THATS SO THEM REAL AND TRUE #aromantic!baizhu and aromantic!childhood friend!reader maybe..... omg #wait omg. #god thats so real of them!!!!! aro baizhu and his aro childhood friend who are platonic life partners #“fairytale romance” def wouldnt happen for baizhu OR childhood friend!reader #it just wouldnt happen to either of them. its not realistic for either of them. #so i very much like the idea of them thinking of one another as partners #just in a nonromantic nonsexual way #this post is for aroace spec people <33

[talesof-old]

spare me | e.v. & a.s.

pairing(s): poly!azris x fem!reader

warning(s): slightly suggestive if you squint, mentions of beron vanserra, implied torture/injuries, fear of abandonment, fear of loved ones being hurt, saying i love you a little too early maybe, nonsexual nudity

word count: 1k

a/n: this is more angst than fluff but it ends on a happier note lmao

masterlist

poly!azris + angst & fluff for my little celebration

Being immortal was never easy.

With centuries spread out before you like the gaping mouth of some terrible beast, it threatened to consume every one of your relationships. Each would, most likely, be as fleeting as a mortal’s life. Fragile, finite.

Perhaps it was better to end things before they got too hard. It allowed for allies where there would be enemies.

But as you gazed into the amber eyes of your lover, your very soul ached at the notion. His eyes were lit with something wild, feral in the way only a cornered wild animal could be. Sorrow lined your face as you reached for him.

Beside you, Azriel lounged across the bed, his relaxed body betrayed only by the tense expression he wore. His wings were limp on the sheets: open, vulnerable.

You shouldn’t have said it. As soon as the words left your mouth you’d wished you could take them back. I love you had been easy. The frantic patter of your heart and the pain in your chest was not. Naked and satiated, tracing circles over Eris’ scars, you’d spoken your feelings.

Azriel rested a hand on the dimple of your back, supportive in his silence. You knew he’d felt the same, but perhaps he wasn’t so much of a fool to voice it.

“You can’t-“ Eris’ words brought you back to the present. He scrambled out of bed, hands trembling as he dressed. You pushed yourself up, thighs protesting, and watched as he tried to pull himself together. You gnawed on the inside of your cheek, muscles tight with tension.

“You can’t. You don’t.”

A sharp wave of anger shot through your blood. Who was he to dictate how you felt? Even if he did not feel the same.

“Don’t say that. Don’t tell me how to feel.” A humorless laugh echoed through the all too quiet room. The hair on your arms stood up, and Azriel finally allowed himself to move up from the bed.

“You don’t love me, you’re simply interested in the pleasure I bring you.” Your gut churned. Frustrated tears built up in your eyes but you will them away, voice sharp as you respond.

“You are more than a puppet to be used, Eris.”

He inhaled sharply.

The pause was all you needed, slowly removing yourself from the bed without sparing a sideways glance at your other lover. His shadows were curling around your limbs as if to keep you safe, but there was nothing to protect you from.

Eris stood still, barely breathing, as you approached. A wall of heat seemed to guard the air around him. You didn’t care. You reached for him, cool fingers making contact with burning skin, and simply stayed there. He would not push you away out of fear. And his was so palpable, the taste bitter on your tongue.

“If you don’t want this, tell me how to un-love you. Spare me the torment of wanting you but not having you.” You shook your head. “I would fight for the rest of my life for you, Beron Vanserra be damned.” His eyes fluttered shut as your hands skimmed over his chest, rising to cradle his jaw in your hands. Tension fell from him in waves.

“I can’t lose either of you.”

You sighed, stepping closer even still. Shadows slithered from your wrists to caress his pale skin. He kept his hands at his side, fists clenched as if to keep from touching you.

“My love,” you whispered. “Look at me.”

Moments ticked by. Azriel’s shadows were wound with tension, skirting over your figures in place of your partner’s hands.

Eris opened his eyes, red rimmed and glassy. You stroked the hard planes of his cheeks with your thumbs. The faintest freckles dusted the bridge of his nose and cheekbones, and you ached to still be lying in bed and tracing shapes between them.

“I’m not afraid of saying I love you, Eris Vanserra. Every fiber of my being longs for you. I don’t care if Beron himself hears me now.” He tensed all over again, even as you attempted to coax him out from behind his mountain high walls.

“You are worth it. To me, you’re worth everything.” A few stray tears fell from his eyes, though he didn’t make a sound. In a rush, you were wrapped in his embrace, his face buried in the crook of your neck.

“I’ll only cause you pain, suffering even.”

You huffed a laugh, tangling a hand in his hair.

“That’s my choice, love. Besides, it’s not you that’s causing me pain.”

He drew away, only to be swept up in the thick arms of your shadowsinger. They were much less affectionate with one another, but even Azriel understood that physical touch grounded Eris more than words ever really did. Eris, while taller, curled into the embrace.

“You’re stuck with us, fox.” Azriel’s low voice had you quirking up a brow.

“Come back to bed.” Unable to argue, Eris allowed the two of you to undress him, guiding him back to the silk sheets you’d begged them to purchase.

You curled up into his left side, pressing soft kisses to his shoulder.

“You’re worth more than you think, you have to know that.”

Eris’ fingers laced through yours, squeezing your hand gently. Azriel pressed a kiss to his forehead.

“We’ll be free one day, fox. I promise.” You glanced up, watching their exchange with soft eyes. Eris slotted his mouth against Azriel’s, sighing as he deepened the kiss. You rested your head on the redhead’s shoulder. A dark wing rose to cover your bodies, twitching as you lightly scraped the membrane with your nail.

Azriel huffed, pulling away from Eris and glancing down at you with a teasing gleam in his hazel eyes. “Needy.” You closed your eyes, nuzzling into the warmth of your partner. Even if this was destined to end sooner rather than later, at least there had been moments of love, of tenderness.

“I have no idea what you’re talking about.”

#eris vanserra x reader #eris vanserra #azriel x reader #azriel shadowsinger #a court of thorns and roses #acotar x reader #acotar #eris vanserra angst #azriel angst #x reader #talesofold #talesofold birthday special

[bas-writes]

nonsexual acts of intimacy ↬ one falling asleep with their head in the other's lap

❧ choso x gn!reader | cw: established relationship, alcohol ❧

"Sorry, Y/N." Ino scratches the back of his head, trying to look everywhere but at your face. "We really had no idea he'd be done with one beer."

You left Choso with the guys a half hour ago at best. You needed only a quick run to a drug store before you would meet with Nitta who promised to drop the both of you off at your place by the way. And your boyfriend only wanted to socialize with Yuji's seniors—like any good older brother would. It wasn't even a party, none of the heaviest drinkers were present, so you were sure this time no one would get an idea to test Choso's tolerance for various…substances. He was too eager to be dragged into party tricks, for his own demise. You hoped that at least this time you would find him in one piece.

Hope clearly hasn't even tried to cooperate with you tonight.

Nitta pats your back with an understanding smile as the others nudge Choso towards the back seat, "I've driven worse, don't worry."

With a sigh, you take place by Choso's side and throw shopping back on the shotgun. Cool air of November night has sobered him up a little; he adjusts his position straight and looks around, confused, until he meets your eyes—and smiles bright, like a lost child who's just found mother in the crowd.

"Sorry, Y/N, I—"

You tap his lips, shutting him down mid sentence, "I'm not mad. It's no one's fault. Just focus on sobering up and not messing Nitta's car, alright?"

Choso's gaze flicks down, towards your thighs, then quickly returns back to your eye level, the urging question pushed away before it even made it to his lips. For a big puppy he is, he's shy with affection, especially in front of others. You can't blame him—the labyrinth of human relations is difficult for someone who's spent a crushing majority of his life trapped in isolation.

"It's alright." You pat your lap with an invitation. "It will help you, right?"

One last look at Nitta's back later he's shimming closer, like a cat filling the limited space with himself until he's in his longed-for position. Lantern lights make the dark circles under his eyes stand out even more

Choso gasps under your touch, even too loud for a company on the third wheel in the front seat, and nuzzles into your palm. Drunk eyes have a problem with keeping focus, with each new blink he's falling closer to his previous state, until his happy-go-lucky smile has nothing to do with the bashful, introverted boyfriend he is without the alcoholic fuel.

"You're so cute, Y/N." He confesses, his words plain despite the maze spilled all over his burning face. "Your partner must be sooo lucky."

Nitta doesn't try to hide a loud snort, but you bite on the inner side of your cheek, equally amused and worried you might fit your laughter exactly in the second of sobriety. 

You brush loose strands off his forehead, with a smile watching him finally giving in to the power of liquor, eyelids falling shut, breath easing into soft snores, "He is. The luckiest and happiest man in the world, I bet."

a/n: choso has the pathetic wet meow meow energy and I just couldn't stop myself from bullying him a little 🤭

#jujutsu kaisen x reader #jjk x reader #choso x reader #choso x you #choso x y/n #jujutsu kaisen x you #jjk x you #jujutsu kaisen x y/n #jjk x y/n #jujutsu kaisen imagine #jjk imagine #jujutsu kaisen scenario #jjk scenario #bas writes #jjk #choso #gender neutral reader

[benkeibear]

⋆꙳✧༄ Intimacy

❖ Characters: Kazutora, Draken, Nahoya

❖ Reader: genderneutral

❖ Summary: How they show nonsexual intimacy

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☰ Kazutora:

ꕤ Kazutora is very big on nonsexual intimacy since he needed quite a while to be sexually intimate with you or anyone so he values this way of showing his love

ꕤ He really likes to cuddle with you and sets his alarms 10 minutes early to cuddle you before having to get up

ꕤ in general he just uses every free minute to be close to you, sit on your lap, have you sit on his lap, cuddled up one way or the other

ꕤ in public he likes to link your pinkies together, a small form of holding hands while not being too much

ꕤ and he really values the little rituals you guys have like selfcare sunday and game night fridays

ꕤ On selfcare sunday you pamper yourself and your partner, helping each other relax in the bathtub, applying a face mask on the others face and maybe even giving each other a massage

ꕤ What he can't show physically sometimes he just rather says, telling you how much he loves you and how grateful he is that you're in his life

ꕤ Every morning before heading to work he hides a sticky note in the apartment where he's sure you'll find it and it's basically a little love letter

ꕤ He thinks you throw them away but you actually keep them all in a folder, wanting to always remember them and maybe show them at your wedding

☰ Draken:

ꕤ Draken is quite the gentleman, putting the value of nonsexual intimacy far ahead of sexual intimacy

ꕤ if he can't make you feel loved, he can't make love to you in that sense

ꕤ his ways are quite simple but it never feels forced, easygoing for him, a second nature to love you

ꕤ he really likes to hold your hand, be it in public or at home while cuddling - your hand will somehow always be in his

ꕤ It's his way of letting you know you're safe with him, you have his heart after all and he would give you the world if he could

ꕤ A deep connection is also a vital point of this relationship, communication is written big

ꕤ You two often stay up late and talk about everything and nothing, opening up to each other without fear of judgement, allowing yourselves to be vulnerable

ꕤ It's manly to him, to communicate his feelings, fears, desires and dreams and hopes you can do the same

ꕤ When your days were hard you can often find yourself sitting in front of him, his hands on your shoulders or wherever else your muscles are tense

ꕤ Draken will gladly massage you for hours on end without a single complaint, your comfort more important than the comfort of his thumbs

ꕤ He will pamper you in every possible way, trying to show you that while he loves your body, this is not what he's with you for

☰ Nahoya:

ꕤ Nahoya is a tough nut, often implying sexual jokes or trying to get into your pants but he realized it's not always appreciated

ꕤ He actually sat down with you and asked what you want him to do that shows you that you're loved and feel wanted since for him - this was his way of trying to show it

ꕤ He was a quick learned and started to read the room, often times just cuddling you instead, his hand resting on the soft skin of your stomach or on your back

ꕤ He really needs this skin on skin contact but he doesn't mean it sexual, he just wants to feel you as close as possible

ꕤ A lot of times you two watch shows you both enjoy together and cuddle

ꕤ It was funny to experience this side of Nahoya, finding out that he enjoyed romantic movies and dramas

ꕤ Nahoya also taught you how to cook properly since he's a chef

ꕤ Now you two cook together at least once a week and you grew to become a really good team, impressing even Souya if he happens to come over at those days

ꕤ finding different ways to be intimate with each other really made your relationship work a lot better, feeling connected on a whole different level than just physical

Networks: @enchantedforest-network @themovingcastlez

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[bunnypansy]

NSFW Alphabet: Pantalone!

Rated R for EXPLICIT CONTENT!

A short script about the ABCs of The Regrator's sex life!

Featuring: Pantalone, and you!

Beware! This film contains: sexual content (duh), objectification, humiliation, financial domination, pet play, submission, handcuffs, spit kink, orgasm denial, edging, dacryphilia, mild degradation

A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

Perfect. Really! While the richest harbinger, Pantalone does not strike me as the lazy type. He’s not going to pawn off the aftercare on any staff, he’d rather do it himself. Pantalone goes through the same steps every time; he quickly cleans himself up, then gently wipes up the majority of your… fluids. He’ll run you both a nice bath- and you KNOW the Regrator has a giant, beautiful bathtub. Of course, Pantalone will clean you up with the highest quality soap, and when you’re done, he’ll moisturize you from head to toe! No need to stay awake, Pantalone doesn’t mind if you doze off. While he’s mostly hands on, he’ll have staff swap out the messy sheets before he lays you down to rest. Most likely, he’ll hold you close while you fall asleep and he reads.

B = Body part (Their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

Your skin overall, which yeah, I know sounds weird, but walk with me. He loves your soft, smooth skin that’s perfect for bruising, kissing, biting; so pretty and delicate. Even in nonsexual moments, Pantalone likes to run his fingers over your skin and trace patterns, just for funsies. Like most of his things, he’ll do his best to make you take care of your beautiful skin. Also lips, beautiful, soft, pink lips just get him hard immediately; wear lip gloss and he’ll fall apart.

It’s not hard to see that Pantalone takes incredible care of his hair. He spends an immeasurable amount of time fussing over it, with a detailed washing schedule and care instructions. He spends much of his morning routine brushing, and styling his hair; if you feel like playing with it or styling it, feel free- but NEVER pull on his hair. EVER.

C = Cum (Anything to do with cum basically… I’m a disgusting person)

Pantalone takes impeccable care of himself, he’s well hydrated and keeps a good diet, so his cum is a clear, almost pearly color. It’s textured a lot like syrup and has almost no taste except for a faint saltiness- you’re not really sure how he makes his cum that flavorless. Pantalone doesn’t cum very much, it’s a bit disappointing but I’ll let you in on a little secret; if you squeeze his balls a lil bit you can make him squirt, and if you feel like putting in the effort, keep milking his cock after he starts cumming and he’ll cum even more. Please draw out his orgasm!!! Pantalone prefers cumming in your mouth, on your face or on your tummy- he’s not fond of trying to scoop his cum out of you later, too messy. Besides, don’t you just look beautiful with his cum on your face? Of course you do.

D = Dirty Secret (Pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

He wants to try butt stuff. Huh? No no, not on you. (:

Okay fine I'll elaborate. I don't think he's experimented with anal on his own, he simply has a curiosity that he wants to sate. After sometime, Pantalone might bring up the subject, as casually as one might talk about the weather over morning tea. He actually wants to start rather vanilla with this, a bit of fingering, some gentler sex. After getting a small taste for subbing, he might let you do a few other things to him (cough cough sounding)

E = Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?)

Fairly? I don’t think he’s all that experienced when it comes to sustained relationships, he's very busy and not opposed to hiring sex workers! Everyone has needs, and he is happy to pay for services he deems necessary, as long as he’s satisfied with the result. In short; intimate experience? No. Casual experience? Yes.

F = Favorite Position (This goes without saying)

Pantalone is usually fucking on the go (read: in his office), so he usually goes for the classic bending over desk. If he’s in the office, he’ll press your chest down the desktop and take you from behind, usually with his fingers in your mouth to pull you back and hold your jaw open. For a long while, he'll probably do this in the bedroom for a while too, bending you over the edge of the bed instead; but once he gets more accustomed to intimacy, I think he'll switch to missionary. Call it vanilla, but he likes being able to see your face, your expressions really heighten the experience for him.

G = Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

I wouldn't call it humorous, so much as mocking. He's not laughing with you, he's laughing at you. Pantalone likes humiliating you in little ways, squishing your tear-stained cheeks together and calling you a crybaby, then laughing at you. If you try to tease him back however, he'll brush it off and somehow turn it back onto you. He's mean? Awww, but you like it don't you? Mean perv.

H = Hair (How well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

Pantalone strikes me as the sort of man who just. Full body waxes. Not hair to be found on this man. Which is a damn shame cus he's got some of the most beautiful hair I've ever seen, so silky and soft… no he won't stop waxing even if you beg. Sorry sports fans, your hairy man is in another castle.

I = Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…)

When Pantalone was younger, (shallow) people weren’t exactly interested in him, now he’s just too busy with work to bother forming a relationship with others, so he's used to transactional sex. He's probably going to remain rather distant for a while; you will have to have a conversation about it for sure. Pantalone will take your criticism into consideration very easily, he wants you both to enjoy your time after all, then change his behavior for you. It's going to be an awkward change at first, and he'll engage in a lot of pillow talk to go over what was good and what needs improvement, but Pantalone will be nothing but agreeable.

J = Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon)

Why would he attempt to satisfy himself with his hands when he could just pay for an escort? Truly, Pantalone doesn't see the need and doesn't get horny enough to crank the ol' hog. But I am nothing if not a kind God! So I'll write this for you anyway.

Unlike with sex, Pantalone will not want to mastrubate in his office, it's too vulnerable and he finds it a bit embarrassing. He is definitely the type of guy to take it slowly, slow strokes over his shaft and rubbing his thumb over his tip, then a good squeeze around the base. Pantalone stays quiet most of the time, just barely panting as he touches himself.

K = Kink (One or more of their kinks)

Humiliation: Pantalone loves to feel superior, full stop. As long as you give consent, Pantalone likes to keep you naked in his office, sitting on his desk or the floor like an ornament. His favorite thing to do is keep you bound in a corner, stuffed full of toys for anyone to see, but only him to touch.

Financial domination: He likes being the one with all the money in the relationship. A little part of himself thinks you'll only like him as long as he's rich, so flaunting his wealth to you is a turn on. It's also relieving to him that you're dependent, so that way, you can never leave. Pantalone loves most to dress you up in fineries, then tear it all off in the heat of the moment, just to prove how little those things mean to him.

Mild pet play: dragging you around on a leash is one of Pantalone's greatest pleasures. He likes feeling as if he owns you, calling you pet, giving you orders. Pantalone is definitely the type to buy you a very fancy collar with real jewels on it, then use it as a handle while you fuck. If he's going to have any pet, it'll be a puppy, he's interested in the absolute obedience dogs have.

Submission: Pantalone does not put up with brats, hands down. He desires complete and utter obedience from you in the bedroom, you can either comply or miss out on your dick appointment. Brat taming? In this economy?

Handcuffs: While I don't feel Pantalone likes full body bondage (he likes to feel you struggle against him), he appreciates handcuffs or general hand bondage. It's a good way to yank you around and make sure you don't pull his hair out. His personal favorite is to bind your hands, then make you sit on his lap with your arms around his neck.

Spit: I can't say I have strong reasoning for this, it's just a gut feeling. It's something about spitting in your mouth and making you swallow it that makes the possessive part of him flare up.

Objectification: I mean really, is anyone surprised? This man fully believes he can buy anything, including you. He owns you, and he's not going to act otherwise. Sometimes, if he's had a stressful night, he'll just lube you up and fuck you like a fleshlight, and he's not afraid call you such things either. "Pet", "toy", and "doll" are some of his favorite things to call you.

Orgasm denial/Edging (they go hand in hand for this man): This follows closely with his objectification kink- oh you wanna cum? No, no, no, pet. Fleshlights don't need to cum do they? Ah- they don't talk, either. Watching you squirm and cry for him strokes his ego greatly, and he's not afraid to make you beg.

Dacryphilia: You look. So pretty. When you cry. Your lips trembling, your eyes glittering with tears, eyes and nose reddened, cheeks wet- and at his hand? Even better. Of course, Pantalone cares too much about you to enjoy when you're simply miserable, but when he edges you to tears? Nothing better.

L = Location (Favorite places to do the do)

Pantalone is a rather private man, he'll want to stick to his two safe spaces; your bedroom and his office. Of course, the bedroom is your house, but he claims that no one can argue with what he does in the privacy of his own office, especially if someone forgets to knock- not like he'd stop either way. Public bathrooms or secluded alleys are beneath him, while fucking on couches or in showers is just too much of a hassle.

M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going)

What Pantalone REALLY wants out of this, is to feel like he owns you. He wants to know that you belong to him, that you are dependent upon him, and that he controls you; it's almost a comfort to him. If Pantalone holds all the control between the two of you, then it is utterly up to him whether you stay or go.

However, Pantalone will spend every waking moment reminding you why you should stay, and this applies to the bedroom as well. He wants to hear you cry out, feel you squirm, watch you cry; a reminder that he is the best man you will ever have.

N = NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

Piss. I wouldn't call this particularly controversial, only a bit disappointing for the little pee-pee boys in the crowd (it's me I'm pee-pee boys). He doesn't like much of any kink that creates smell and a mess, it's just too much of a hassle to clean up and isn't worth it to him.

O = Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

For such a greedy man, Pantalone is a giver!!!! He doesn't care for receiving oral- it's fine -but why would he waste his time on fucking your mouth when he can be inside you? He much prefers the reactions he gets from eating you out or sucking you off. Considering this a bonus to the favorite position category, but when giving oral Pantalone has two favorite positions; letting you lay back and grabbing your hips to lift you to his mouth, or placing you on his lap upside down so your knees rest on his shoulders.

P = Pace (Are they fast and rough? Slow and sensual? etc.)

Pantalone keeps his pace moderate, focusing on making his thrusts deep and hard instead. He'll grab your waist and roll his hips against yours, aiming for all your sensitive spots with long, deep strokes. Of course, Pantalone's pace becomes a bit erratic when he's closer to cumming, speeding up then slowing to crawl- you know he's really at the edge when he starts pounding you as hard and fast as you can.

Q = Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

No. Sorry guys. Pantalone wants to take his time with you and isn't going to settle for an ultimately dissatisfying quickie, he won't apologize either. Good things come to those who wait, don't they?

R = Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

If you wanna try something new, Pantalone is happy to agree, most times he won't say no; though he might show hesitation if you ask him to harm you. You'll have to tell him in advance so he can properly research the kink and how to enact the fantasy safely, and even before you have sex he'll probably warn you that he's going to try something new.

S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

My guy is a one and done kind of man, squirt then skirt if you will. So yeah, unfortunately you're only getting a single round out of Pantalone, but that round can last about as long as you like- and perhaps longer. A session with Pantalone can last from one hour up to three, and he won't let himself cum once until you cum at least twice, so there are no worries of being left unsatisfied.

T = Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?)

Yes! Absolutely! Nipple clamps, a couple bullet vibrators, a wand vibrator, vary sizes of plugs, beads and dildos, an O-ring gag, spreader bars- though he only uses those last two if you're being shy with him. For afab partners he also owns a rosebud vibrator, and for the amabs he owns sounding rods and cock rings. Mostly the toys are for you, but with a bit of encouragement you might be able to coax him into using a few on himself. After a fair bit of experimentation, Pantalone finds himself in favor of wearing a cock ring and nipple clamps while fucking you… you might get him to warm up to a bit of sounding.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

If Pantalone isn't a tease, then I don't know who is. He takes great pleasure in riling you up, then denying you sex entirely, not even allowing you to touch yourself; a test of your obedience. God forbid you break his rules and get caught using any toys on yourself- and you will get caught -Pantalone will spend hours punishing you for disobedience. You'll find yourself handcuffed and stuck in spreader bars, the largest dildo of Pantalone's collection stuffed into your hole. Your lover shows no kindness, grabbing the base of the toy and ramming it in and out as fast and hard as he can, but stopping right before you cum and waiting however long it takes for you to calm down. This will go on for hours until you're sobbing, begging for forgiveness and wailing your apologies. So yeah. Pantalone is far from fair.

V = Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make)

A few whimpers, mostly panting, maybe grunt here or there; While Pantalone may not be much of a moaner, he certainly is a chatterbox! He'll go on and on with you, muttering praise and degradation, fully expecting a response from you (how unrealistic, sir). He gets even worse when he gets closer to his orgasm; Pantalone's words break up with moans and become less coherent, but he still forces them out as fast as he possibly can, until he's stuttering forward a slew of curses at a near shout. Cutie <3

W = Wild Card (Get a random headcanon for the character of your choice)

The male boob lovers in the crowd are going to like this one- I believe with my entire heart that my double D malewife has sensitive nipples, his left one pierced. They're naturally puffy and pink, and they turn all red and swollen when you play with them. Unfortunately, Pantalone isn't going to give you much of a chance to toy with his chest, so when do you get boob time? One of the few times he subs, that's when. He's not going to argue if you pinch and pull on his nipples in the middle of easing your way inside of him, Pantalone is going to whimper. Enjoy this power, and use it wisely.

X = X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words)

This man is vice president of the pretty penis club (I'll elaborate on the prez in a later post). He sits around 5.7-ish flaccid and an easy 6 when he's hard, a skinny penis haver but it's okay because I love him. He only really has one prominent vein that trails from the underside of his shaft then wraps around to the front side, just beneath his tip. Speaking of his tip!! It's a beautiful shade of pink that reddens when he gets hard, and drips soooo much pre. He's got a slight upward curve and when he's very hard, his dick nearly touches his abdomen.

Y = Yearning (How high is their sex drive?)

Pantalone has a relatively low sex drive, really only feeling the need for sex every two to three weeks, however! He has no problem going at it more often if you so desire, if anything he likes how dependent upon him you are, please, ask for more.

Z = ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

Sleep?? After sex??? Pantalone could never. If anything, a good session clears his head and calms him down. He's more than likely to grab a lapdesk and do some paperwork while you're dozing off, but if it's really late or you went for a particularly long round he might just read at your side or even talk you to sleep.

That's the end of our showing for today, and as always, thank you for attending!

You can really REALLY smell the favoritism on this one, I'm very very in love with Pantalone and I wanna kith him.

#pansy writes #genshin impact #genshin x y/n #genshin x reader #genshin x male reader #genshin x you #genshin pantalone #genshin smut #hoyoverse #pantalone x male reader #pantalone #pantalone x reader #pantalone x you #fatui harbingers #fatui headcanons #nsft alphabet #nsft tumblr #mlm nsft #male reader

[c-is-for-circinate]

Look, I love me a good platonic marriage/partnership story. You know I do.

But. My friends. My babes. My guys.

Two people being in a lifelong, literally or effectively married platonic partnership are not obligated to forever forgo sex and dating with all other partners until death amen. POLYAMORY EXISTS. It exists for a reason! You can be married to the 100% nonsexual love of your life and still want sex to be in your life, and it still can be! Without feeling gross or empty or like a traitor, even!

(and yeah, this also goes for marriages/partnerships that DO already involve sex, but y'all are not ready for THAT conversation.)

#look this isn't JUST about Steve and Robin #but yes okay it's also about Steve and Robin #I need to get back to writing that fic #also this is NOT about ace people OR about devaluing nonsexual relationships #if two spouses had a lot of sex it would be normal for one of them to have a rock-climbing friend! #this would not be a threat! just a consequence of your wife not liking rock climbing! #SOMETIMES EXTRAMARITAL SEX IS JUST ROCK CLIMBING!!!

[fourhornedsatyr]

I'm gonna talk a bit about my relationships and how I implement relationship anarchy in my day-to-day

I always felt so trapped when I was younger, thinking I had to get everything from one singular person, a singular lover. I felt trapped only being able to love a singular person the way that I love my companions & partners & friends & acquaitances now.

I was engaged for a time, and always just felt so... trapped. I was polyamorous before I got into that bizare relationship, but tried out monogamy because I was scared by the the pandemic. I can now say that I will never try monogamy again, but I also cannot say that I neatly fit into the idea of polyamory. When I got out I read Relationship Anarchy (Cortéz, 2022) and later discored Anarcho Relating's youtube channel.

It was these concepts of non-hierarchical and non-binary or multi-faceted relationships that I found myself able to be comfortable with the idea of being intimate with others.

I find it odd now-a-days even thinking of my people in categories and I find myself making more valuable and numerous connections with people when I adress a new person I meet with the same attention and care as I do with my closest people. I can certainly say that some people are a bit more like friends, but in all honesty I feel as though trying to fit my relationships into these labels and models is purely counterproductive. I find myself referring to people by name in most instances. I may say friend or companion if appropriate, but only in formal situations or when their name is unkown to the target audience.

I find myself loving more comfortably and naturally upon viewing my relationships as being composed of modular aspects that are not inherently anything (The Relationship Anarcomb, AnRel 2022). Our relationships can be composed of emotional, physical, & sexual intimacy and often form around or with transactional or collaborative actions that we engage in with one another. These are a few of the ideas prompted by AnRel's aforementioned work, and are not a finite list of the components that may build a relationship.

Physical and sexual intimacy are important for me to have in my life, and I enjoy such with people I would consider to fit the friend relationship model. I have people who are friends who I (nonsexually) sleep with, who I engage in near-sexual intimacy with, who I do engage with sexually, who I only touch to give fistbumps and hugs, and those who I engage in nonphysical intimacy with only.

Yet I find that it is most important to me that I do not owe any one of these people more time than the other and I am not obligated to love any of them more than the other. Likewise, we understand that we may come to drift apart, but that we may come back together (even if it is differently) or that we may never do so (and understand that that is okay. There is an appreciation for life in the moment with my people. We love eachother for who we are here and now and care for eachother how eachother needs care, and we wish eachother the best when it comes time for us to go onto new things.

This is love.

I cannot view love as anything other than this ability to exist with others and to let eachother go when the time has come.

I cannot view love as anything other than treating eachother as individuals who may do as we wish.

I cannot view love as anything other than appreciating the time I have with the lovely people I find myself with in the moment.

I cannot be loved and oppressed at the same time. I cannot be loved and owned at the same time. I cannot be loved and valued differently than others, only to have others vye over me.

#relationship anarchy #lgbtq #aspec #queer #trans #polyamory #ambiamorous #non monogamy

[virovac]

Marcile and Laios by the end are life partners (well Laios' life) nonromantically and nonsexually.

They are freaks who found eachother and now tied by shared experiences and complex politics.

I love how domestic that scene was with him in that house in the epilogue bonus chapter

#dungeon meshi #dungeon meshi spoilers

[columbosunday]

hi i'm gigi hadid and this is my nonsexual life partner bradley cooper and we don't have sex

[luvghostie]

Heyyy ! I hope you're okay and I was wondering if you could write about Art the clown with a female or gender neutral reader who is also an immortal killer in need of blood to drink ( they also fight with a chainsaw ) thank you again so much for lighting up our days with your amazing writing! You're the best !!

ᴀᴡᴡ, ᴛʜᴀɴᴋ ʏᴏᴜ, ᴅᴀʀʟɪɴɢ!! ɪ ʜᴏᴘᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴇɴᴊᴏʏ<𝟹

╰┈➤𝐀𝐑𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐋𝐎𝐖𝐍 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐀 𝐅𝐄𝐌

𝐈𝐌𝐌𝐎𝐑𝐓𝐀𝐋 𝐊𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐑 𝐈𝐍 𝐍𝐄𝐄𝐃 𝐎𝐅 𝐁𝐋𝐎𝐎𝐃

ғᴇᴍᴀʟᴇ ʀᴇᴀᴅᴇʀ

ᴛᴡ: ʙʟᴏᴏᴅ, ᴠɪᴏʟᴇɴᴄᴇ, sᴇᴍɪ ɴsғᴡ, ᴀɴᴅ ʟᴀɴɢᴜᴀɢᴇ

Humankind, something the killer clown hated. Everyone was the same in his eyes. Complaining, depressed, those which were utmost useless to him. However, that didn't mean they weren't good targets. Art quite enjoyed the way people screamed. Hearing his victims beg for their life right before he caved their skulls. Ah, it always filled him with tremendous satisfaction.

Speaking honestly, things weren't always happy-go-lucky. Just like everyone else and anything else... Art got lonesome. He wanted to love and be affectionate like others. Deep down, Art was very human. Yes, He couldn't die but, something in him needed to be cared for. When he first laid eyes on you he knew you were the one. The way the blood dripped from your lips. The beautiful twinkle in your gleaming eyes. Not to mention, the badass chainsaw you carried on your person. At that moment, everything changed for him.

Art has so many questions to ask you. For instance, what's the best way to kill with a chainsaw? Would his blood taste good? And, how did you become immortal? You can ask him questions as well. In fact, he loves Trivia!! Whenever you asked how he became immortal it was very surprising.

“I shot myself in the back of the head. Next thing I knew I woke up in a body bag and met a little me:D”

Throughout the day's Art will supply you with much blood. If you have a preferred blood type you might wanna tell him- A, B, O+? He'll try his hardest to find it. Before you mentioned the variety he had no idea. His eyes shifted left to right while his face was more stunned. What was he supposed to do with the leftover bodies? Oh, free dinner!!

Art plays with your chainsaw when you're gone. He doesn't understand how one works, thus, now's the time to learn! He probably hurt himself a bunch from just trying to turn it on. He's great at killing but how the hell did you carry this? Did your back not ache? If it did he'll offer massages to ease your pain. (he likes hearing you moan/groan from relief. Little horny mime.)

Little off-topic, but you're so cool and sexy that Art gets hard easily. If you don't like him he won't ever force you to do anything you don't want to. Over time, he’ll get over his feelings and take being your partner in crime. On the other hand, if you like him as well then just tell him, love. He'll no doubt be extremely happy that you feel the same. Also, he finally gets to touch your body. Sexual or nonsexual he loves physical touch. Having sex in his eyes is just a plus!!

Whenever you get done drinking blood or eating he'll attempt to flirt. He's one of those people that will say, “you have an eyelash on your face.” so they can touch you. Previously spoke of, he loves attention and affection. If you know you don't have anything on your face, let him go for it. It makes his day caressing your skin.

“Y/n, you have a little blood on your face. Let me get it silly!!”

#reqs open #ask me anything #headcanon #art the clown #reader x character #slashers #art the clown x reader #female reader #fem reader #slasher x you #slasher community #horror hotel #horror community #horror character #edgy aesthetic #i love them #chainsawcutiie #vampire life #bloodbath #partners in crime #lovers #friends #minor dni

[vintageandroid]

how does sex even work if it doesn't involve genitals? /genq

I'm assuming/hoping you're 18+, so I'm linking to my adult blog in this article. If you're not uhhhhh don't read this I guess and get off my lawn blog.

Anyway. Depends on how you define sex and sexuality. I tend to say "we don't have traditional genital-smushing sex" because I realize that's what most people consider having sex. My partner is sex-averse asexual (meaning an ace who both doesn't experience sexual attraction and isn't really interested in Doin' It, though in their case they still enjoy fantasy and erotica and stuff), and I'm sex-neutral demisexual (I'm sexually attracted after forming a bond and I can take or leave sex, although I also really enjoy fantasy and erotica and stuff), so we just don't really do the usual Having of Sex. But that leaves room for kink activities like spanking or wax play, writing smut for each other, sexual conversations, flirting, buying sex toys for ourselves or each other, and individual masturbation, among other things. We've been together 10 and a half years so I guess we're doing okay!

I actually discussed this in more detail in my first published article, way back in 2019, Asexuality and Queerness (and a new definition of sex). I wrote it before I realized I was nonbinary or demisexual, when my spouse still sometimes used she/her pronouns, and so on and so forth, but the basic content still stands! You might also like My Nonsexual Submission, also written early on, where I discuss nonsexual kink at length, and maybe some other stuff in my non-sexual kink tag. If you've somehow missed the memo, please note that my professional blog is very adult and kink-centric, and I do try to do trigger warnings at the top of each article, but you're reading at your own risk.

Ultimately, my spouse and I have a good, solid sex life despite not doing the traditional horizontal boogie stuff. We communicate well; we know each other's interests and preferences, and are ultimately able to ensure that both of our needs are met without crossing anyone's comfort zone. Also keep in mind that a) other people definitely do it differently and b) we are both real people with like, nuanced experiences and I'm simplifying so I don't write a 50k word response to your ask.

Hope this answers your question, I guess!

#asexuality #queer earthling #my asks

[desmond69miles]

Gyomei with a certain kink u think would fit him could be smut or not- 🐈‍⬛💕 Also it wasn’t in the tags but please tell me you DONT write scat.

i got half way through with writing this request and then my computer crashed and i lost all my progress... f my life. but its finished now, so its ok. thank you for your request anon! (and no, i 100% DO NOT write scat. that shit (literally) IS DISGUSTING.)

warnings: NSFW, headcanons, gn! reader, lowercase, nothing much, just love

be aware of the content you consume! smut under the cut

PRAISE KINK

biggest praise kink mfer out there.

"good girl/boy/job," "you're doing great."

100% into being praised too, sexual and nonsexual. his love language is physical touch and words of affirmation, and he loves to hear your voice every hour.

laying in bed with him after a long session, just whispering praises and affirmations of love to each other <3

SIZE KINK

he's like 7 feet tall. of course, he's gonna have a size kink

likes feeling the tummy bulges under his hands, running thick fingers over the raised flesh, gently pressing down at the tip. It would cause a heavenly groan to leave his lips, his face flus hed pink.

this also goes sexual and nonsexual; he loves to feel your form against his as you cuddle. It makes him feel welcome since most people are intimidated by his size.

AFTERCARE

big softy.

loves taking warm baths afterward or sitting in bed together while you read a book together.

also loves to cook after you clean yourself up, if you aren't too tired. whether it be the sweetest desserts or a strange meal from another part of the world, he loves to continue the intimate moment.

"Good job, such a good girl." He said, deep voice comforting you. He pulled a pillow to the side and pulled it under your back, giving you some support. He leaned down, kissing the top of your head, stroking your thighs that were still shaking.

SENSATIONS

since he's blind, he uses his senses to pretty much live.

whether it be a massage given to him or his partner, he finds it super relaxing to know you intimately.

loves when you run your hands through his hair and loves doing the same to your

bunch of skin-to-skin contact.

ok... hear me out. feather play. goes both ways. just the light feelings and touches can speak volumes for him.

--

vergilsladyfriend 2022. do not repost without permission. reblogs are appreciated!

#gyomei smut #gyomei x reader #gyomei imagines #kny gyomei #kny x reader #kny x gn!reader #kny kinks

[bas-writes]

nonsexual acts of intimacy ↬ having their hair washed by the other

❧ higuruma hiromi x gn!reader | cw: domestic fluff, established relationship, nonsexual nudity, implied non-curly hair ❧

Higuruma's apartment balances between the Japanese and western styles, uncontrived and convenient, taking the best out of two worlds. As a lawyer he could easily afford a more "fashionable" one, in a better location and with more space, but as soon as you took the first step past his threshold, you understood why he insisted on staying. 

It's just perfect.

You like the bathroom especially. Despite the whole apartment being on the smaller side, it's actually bigger than the ones you've seen in places of comparable standard, your own included. It's spacious enough for two people to use it at the same time without bumping into each other—and it definitely helps cut down on precious time. Every second spent together matters with such a busy life you both lead.

And besides—

"Need help, love?" Higuruma looks at you through the reflection in the mirror, still bent over the sink as he's just finished washing away the remains of toothpaste. 

Still grimacing, you slowly put your arms down, "Yeah, would love, thanks."

The other stool grates on wet tiles, he sits down behind you and shimmies as close as possible without trapping you too much between his legs. The shower head is taken from your hand; he checks the temperature on his wrist before proceeding, starting at the back of your head to not push the stream into your face.

"What happened?" Higuruma's fingers thread through your hair, divide it into parts to wet the scalp better. Lost in pleasant sensation, of his closeness and gentle yet precise touch, you need the question to be repeated. The first honestly just flew over your head.

"It's just damp and cold." You massage the aching shoulder, the reason behind the whole commotion. "The hinges don't work as well as they used to."

"Don't you dare say you're old." He scoffs and immediately, apologizing for the harsher tone, kisses the back of your neck. "Careful for eyes now—"

Higuruma claims he's not the type to pamper his partner but everything he does for you just disaffirms his words. It's just a simple task of washing your hair but he does everything with religious scrupulousness, following your usual steps to perfection, even if he's never asked for guidance. You must have been observed thoroughly, every time you used his bathroom, his gaze following you from the steamy mirror, from the bathtub, from the door left ajar when he passed you the towel and fresh change of underwear you forgot to take… 

As always, you want to point it out, to tease him until he curls and withdraws, leaving you victorious on the battlefield of teasing banter. As always, thoughts and words leave you as soon as he pours shampoo on top of your head and starts the ritual massage. 

Higuruma's hands, not having the imprint of physical labor, are so soft you simply melt into them. He knows how to press and scratch right within the balance, mindful to not tie your hair into knots nor to pull on it. No wonder you quickly forget about the purpose behind the gentle circles he presses with his fingertips. 

You drown into them, shamelessly arching for more, your back meeting his hairy chest when you lean into him. His laughter, shy and not much louder than a whisper, tickles your sensitive skin.

"Don't fall asleep on me," he kisses the nape of your neck again. "Careful, I'll wash it down now…"

a/n: men with big noses just do everything better, it's engraved in the law. dedicated to @lale-txt for passing me yet another character virus :3

#jujutsu kaisen x reader #jjk x reader #higuruma x reader #higuruma x you #higuruma x y/n #jujutsu kaisen x you #jjk x you #jujutsu kaisen x y/n #jjk x y/n #jujutsu kaisen imagine #jjk imagine #jujutsu kaisen scenario #jjk scenario #bas writes #jjk #higuruma hiromi #gender neutral reader

[thedomesticanthropologist]

would you be willing to do a little drabble about an asexual bg3 tav(male preferably) who’s hesitant to start a relationship with Gale cause they dont know how to be in a relationship without sex involved. for a game with almost unlimited options i wish there was more nonsexual intimacy and asexual characters. hope this sounds interesting enough to write, have a good day :)

This one gave me pause cause I'm assuming you mean your Tav is Asexual AND sex-negative or sex repulsed. But you're also mentioning that they don't know how to navigate a relationship without sex,

So I'm taking that to mean you have an Asexual Tav (does not experience sexual attraction, does not want sex to be part of their romance) who is either coming from a history of relationships where they had sex anyway, or felt they had to, and would like to enter into a relationship where this is off the table, so that they can fully enjoy the relationship on their terms and within their comfort zone. However, this would be the first time? That they are pursuing this?

So a few things!

Gale is of course, not asexual. He experiences sexual attraction. However, on the topic of would he be keen on a romantic relationship that didn't involve sex? I'm gonna say... ABSOLUTELY 💯

His relationship development with the PC is already a slow burn, wherein until his Orb is stabilized he cannot participate in physical shenanigans. This leaves a nice long window for him and Tav to develop a romantic connection and to bond and get to know each other, and talk about these things.

Tav would have to be straightforward, I think. Gale is extremely receptive to knowledge and information and likely either already knows all about this or would be a very eager student. He would want to know Tavs boundaries and I do not believe he would have ANY issue respecting them.

If Tav isn't sure where their boundaries are, that would be a personal exploration experience. Do they want non sexual intimacy? Are they physical in other ways? Do they wanna cuddle, wash each other's hair, share massages?

Intimacy and sex don't have to go together at all, and many a beautiful, fulfilling, wonderful life long love has been built without sex. Without making this too long, I'll add my thoughts for Gale and Tav

Once the boundary of no sex is set, I don't believe it would be difficult to navigate in the least. Gale is so much more than what he can give in the bedroom, and Tav is too. The two could spend a hundred years exploring each other and the world in so many ways.

Non sexual intimacy during their travels:

- Sharing food, maybe eating off the same plate, feeding each other, sharing wine or drinks

- spending the nights together cuddling, massages, hair scratches, bathing each other if nudity is okay 👍 . These things are what build real intimacy, and they never have to lead to sex

- kisses on the forehead, cheek, hands, shoulder.

- reading the same book together, reading out loud to each other

- acts of service, cooking for each other or making each other's bed, packing your partners things while they sleep in for them

- Sharing fears, insecurity, likes, dislikes, wishes, hopes, dreams,

Look I'm gonna level with ya. Sex is the least interesting part of true love and lifelong relationships. I've been with my partner for 18 years and you know what lights up my heart? When they get up before me and bring me a coffee to wake me up. You know what I do for them? They have chronic pain, and even when I'm tired, I will take an extra 30 minutes sometimes to help work the knots out of their back as best I can.

That is the foundation of love. Gale would be very receptive. Your Tav would be incredibly cherished. No sex required.

#asexual #asexual tav #asexual headcanons

[h4ngm4n]

coyote is such an underrated character and i fucking love the idea of him and hangman being really close friends.

i'm not sure how they became friends, but i always picture it as javy seeing jake and immediately deciding that he wants to become friends with him. and maybe it takes awhile for jake to allow javy to become close, as jake's never had someone so genuinely want to get to know him in a nonsexual manner, but it happens.

and jake slowly allows javy to get to know his backstory and allow javy to see him vulnerable. and javy tells jake all about his life, and i love the idea of javy welcoming jake into his family. like meeting his mom and his siblings, (and if javy has a partner, then meeting them and becoming friends with them), and jake becoming apart of javy's family, as all of javy's family saw jake and decided that this boy need a hug and a support system.

like in the scene where rooster tells jake that he'll lead people to an early grave, the camera pans to javy, bob and fanboy. and when fanboy laughs, you can see javy's smile immediately drop and he turns to fanboy like 'what the hell are you laughing about? that's my friend'. like javy being protective over jake, because he knows that jake uses his grin and his words to protect himself. javy genuinely cares about jake and won't allow anyone else to hurt him if he can help it.

i like to think that javy has seen jake at his worst moments, moments of anger and pain and grief. he's seen jake at his best moments, when he got accepted into top gun, when jake is smiling genuinely and not his normal grin-as-a-shield smile. he's always been at jake's side, and jake has always been at javy's side for as long as they've known eachother.

and if hangster happened??? like i love the idea of javy giving bradley the shovel talk cause jake doesn't have anyone else to do it. (somebody else put this HC out but i forgot who so im really sorry but i hope you know that its great). but javy is all like jake is my friend, and i don't want to see you break his heart (again?)

sorry for the long post but i just love javy and jake friendship. if we ever got a top gun 3, i would love to have more insight into javy's character

#javy coyote machado #jake hangman seresin #bradley rooster bradshaw #hangster #sereshaw #top gun #top gun maverick #top gun: maverick #robert bob floyd #mickey fanboy garcia

[quantumshade]

hi, i have to ask about gay coded rose/ten because im INTENSELY curious. i just finished a rewatch of nine and ten and i'm just sitting here starry eyed through ur sped-up chalkboard-aided lecture. PLEASE, enlighten me

thank you SO MUCH for asking, i will take absolutely any excuse to talk about this :)

putting this under a readmore because it got LONG.

a lot of this comes from a video essay by verilybitchie that i highly, highly recommend--it's changed a lot about the way i look at rtd era as well as "representation" in general. my friend @regenderate has also made a couple really well-articulated posts on this topic

but to try and put it in my own words somewhat, the doctor and rose's relationship is defined by touch. from the moment he grabs her hand in the basement of henrik's, saving her life, all the way to doomsday, with, "still just an image. no touch", and then their jubilant hug in journey's end.

which reminds me--the way they hug is something that's always really struck me about the doctor and rose. they grab on to one another as if when they let go, they will drift apart--which is, of course, what happens.

and when you think about it, their desperation to hold on to one another, to hug, to hold hands, to touch, feels very, very significant when you remember that the showrunner is a gay man who lived through the aids crisis and writes a lot about it. as @regenderate points out, there are a lot of episodes in series 1 and 2 where touch is not only the problem, but the solution. the disease in new earth is spread through touch, but at the end of the episode, it is cured through touch, through these people who have never known a loving hand or a proper connection with another person hugging, shaking hands, touching each others' faces.

gay people are told to fear touch, that kissing and sex are sinful and unnatural, that holding hands with your partner or showing affection in any way in public could lead to one or both of you getting hurt.

the doctor and rose do not allow themselves to be together because the doctor knows he will outlive her and believes that giving in and being with her, allowing himself to be happy, will only lead to more pain for the future.

there are other things as well, like how the doctor, before eight, had never kissed anyone on screen before, and it wasn't something the audience was accustomed to. the doctor was often kept so nonsexual to the point where, while filming the five doctors, one producer asked carole ann ford not to call the doctor grandfather, because it would suggest that at one point, the doctor had fucked, and he didn't like that. rose is the blueprint, the archetype, for the nuwho companion. she is there to represent the audience, to challenge the doctor on his deep-set opinions, to grow, to be his equal. she had the task of easing an audience of both new and old fans into a world where the doctor can be a romantic figure. she had to change things, go against the status quo, and, in my opinion, she did that excellently.

similarly, when rose meets the doctor, she is deeply ingrained in everyday life, in a job she hates, in an incompatible relationship, etc, and meeting him shakes all of that up. staying home on earth, going to work, being with mickey, all of those are things are expected of her. (i fully believe she and mickey were only in a relationship together because they were childhood friends and they felt like they should be-- they are incompatible as a romantic couple, which is the point, even though fans are always determined to blame the failure of their relationship on one or the other, but that's a whole other post) meeting the doctor, traveling with him, it gives her purpose, and it allows her to grow into the person that she always could be. that's a big theme in rtd era especially--everyone has the capability for amazing things, and they can and will thrive when given the opportunity to as well as someone to believe in them.

but mickey is representing the "safe" option, of a normal, heterosexual relationship, the one that she is expected to be in. jackie is disapproving of rose's new lifestyle (not that she's invalid for those fears at all, i'm speaking metatexually here) and is constantly hoping that she will change her mind and return to safety because the last thing she wants is for her daughter to be in danger. but once rose sees what's out there, once she glimpses her own potential, once she--and bear with me here--exits the closet, she couldn't possibly go back.

from parting of the ways:

ROSE: But what do I do every day, mum? What do I do? Get up, catch the bus, go to work, come back home, eat chips and go to bed? Is that it? MICKEY: It's what the rest of us do. ROSE: But I can't! MICKEY: Why, because you're better than us? ROSE: No, I didn't mean that. But it was. It was a better life. And I don't mean all the traveling and seeing aliens and spaceships and things. That don't matter. The Doctor showed me a better way of living your life. You know he showed you too. That you don't just give up. You don't just let things happen. You make a stand. You say no. You have the guts to do what's right when everyone else just runs away.

the final point i'll make here is that the doctor has been queercoded for a long, long time. they are neither straight nor cis. and thanks to billie piper sometime after jodie whittaker's casting, we know that rose would still be in love with 13 still, which i would have wholeheartedly believed regardless, but it's nice to hear it from the woman who played rose herself. even if they are visually/optically a heterosexual relationship, they really, really aren't, textually or otherwise.

this post got away from me. it got away from me bad. but this is something i think about a LOT. doctor who, and rose in particular, have been my special interest for a decade or so and as a dyke fan who spends a lot of time with other dyke fans, i have some pretty extensive thoughts on this kind of stuff.

uhhhhh feel free to shoot me a message if you have any questions, like i said i love love love talking about this!!

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