#not aro culture

[aro-culture-is]

Not an Aro-culture-is thing but I do have a question you might be able to answer? Is there an aromantic/asexual term for this: AroAce but if I wasn’t I would be gay? It might just be homoplatonic or homoaesthetic but idk if there was a term for it that relates to being AroAce. Thanks! <3

possibly you might vibe with oriented aroace labels, like gay aroace? i'll put this out there for other folks to consider as well, but I feel like oriented terminology sounds the most applicable from my POV.

#und3rw0r1d-unkn0wn #not aro culture #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel #sorry we've vanished. we are Fuckin Unwell physically + emotionally tbh #also if the medical industry + the medical insurance industry could Please consider working that would be great #also if canada could pls not be on fire. don't have the spoons to research what's going on but i suspect there's the usual human fuckery #the air quality here is miserable for an area that doesn't really tend to get wildfires #(though fun fact! my fuckin grandpa almost managed to start one by having angry-style dementia and insisting it was fine that he burned log #and then dumped the ashes literally into some fuckin forest undergrowth WITHOUT TELLING PPL until it started smoking the next day. #the area was under a burn ordinance [aka burning shit is illegal due to fire risk]) #fun fact: you are not immune to thinking it will never happen to *you* in what is truly a game of chance #yes you might be *more cautious* than the average person. means fuck all when the conditions are perfect for any small thing to cause #big shit #... yeah i'll leave that as a tag for me to be confused by later

[just-aro]

so glad i found this blog, it has made me feel much less alone with how i feel! from when i first learned there were words for these things up until recently i identified as aroace, but lately i have been identifying as just aromantic. i still don't experience any sexual attraction or want to have sex, but it has felt much less relevant to who i am. now i identify myself as being an aro person who also isnt into sex. glad to be able to find out that there are other people who are "just aro"! :)

i'm glad to have created that space for you. i hope things are going well :)

#Anonymous #not aro culture #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel #just aro

[straighttohellbuddy]

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about how the idea of aromanticism isn't nearly as widespread as it is on Tumblr/various other corners of the internet

thinking about how most people would probably assume the use of Aromantic as a descriptor would imply a lack of any kind of love or romance or close interpersonal relationships in their music which is INHERENTLY NOT TRUE

thinking about Lovejoy choosing Aromantic specifically, confident enough in understanding the actual concept/culture of aromanticism to describe their entire band

thinking about the potential for there to be someone(s) in Lovejoy who is either on the Aromantic spectrum or has considered it as a possibility and has researched it to understand it (and maybe themselves) better

thinking about hard about Lovejoys songs and realising that despite a few having vaguely romantic or implied romantic connotations, you could absolutely do an aro-spec reading of their whole discography

thinking about Lovejoy becoming part of Aro Culture in my heart

thinking about being aro-spec myself, and how id consider the term 'lovejoy' to still very much be my vibe despite that.

thinking about self described Aromantic British Noises, Lovejoy.

thinking about Lovejoy.

💚💚🤍🩶🖤

#lovejoy #lvjy #joe goldsmith #mark boardman #ash kabosu #wilbur soot #joe lovejoy #mark lovejoy #ash lovejoy #wilbur lovejoy #aromantic #aromantic spectrum #aro #arospec #aro spec #aromantic culture #aro culture #shut ur pretty mouth #alloaro #allo aro #aromantic allosexual #aro allo #aroallo #aroace #aro ace #aromanitc #aro culture is

[opossums-in-a-trenchcoat]

I can’t stand forced romance in media. You’re telling me this man and woman who’ve barely spoken to each other, have not flirted at all and have barely been together for three scenes are in love??? Like am I just too aroace to see it?? I always feel so surprised

#i’m watching Andor and there’s two characters who have no chemistry but everyone keeps making jokes about how they’re so into each other #aro #aroace #ace #aromantic stuff #asexual stuff #aromantic #asexual #forced romance #aro pride #aro problems #ace problems #aro ace #queer #lgbtq #aro culture is

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

#asexual #asexuality #ace stuff #actually ace #ace culture #acespec #ace men #aromantic #aro #aro stuff #aro community #arospec #aro men #aspec #aspec stuff #aspec community #aspec culture #ace pride #aro pride #aspec pride #lgbtq+ #lgbtpride #lgbtq rights #lgbtqia #I make a post about this annually on april fifteenth #why you ask? #a couple years back I'd come across some people saying the type of things I mentioned about aspec men #the hateful monstrousness of what they'd said pissed me off and I wrote a rant about it #I've since gone on to make a post once a year on the day I'd made the first #btw last year's really gained quite the traction I still get notifs about it! I'm glad this message has reached so many people this year

[fellas-is-it]

got tired of all depressing and hating yourself for being aro vibes on legit any other platform besides tumblr (looking at you tictac app) so wanted to listen to positive aromantic playlists and legit could NOT FIND ANY??????

And the ones that were vaguely positive were made for aroace ppl. Which is great! But im not ace!!! So WHERE'S MY POSITIVE AROALLO REP?!?!?!

Anyways i solved this hyperspecific problem myself and made a POSITIVE AROALLO playlist:

Larger image of the playlist cover i made

#plz i am starved #if anyone has a positive aro playlist SHARE WITH THE CLASS #no hate towards us bonding over our share anger/grief at the world its important and we SHOULD talk about it #but not ALL THE TIME???? #it SHOULDNT be THIS HARD to find good vibe songs for us #ive BEEN thru the hating being aromatic stage I GET IT #but jesus christ we can LIGHTEN UP A LITTLE?? #aro #aromantic #aro problems #aro culture is #aroallo #aromantism #aromatic positivity #aro pride #aro posting #aroallo pride #lgbtq #arospec #aspec #aro discourse #pride #alloaro

[aegosake]

Aro/ace culture is not noticing the blatantly obvious signs that you are aro/ace all your life and later realising half the shit you thought was your personality is said blatantly obvious signs.

#asexual #ace pride #ace aro #aromantic #aspec pride #aspec community #aegosexual #asexuel #aro culture is #ace culture #pride #queer #queer pride

[knifearo]

i think a lot about the loneliness of being aromantic. because it's something that's so profound, right? you're told your whole life that you need something to make you happy, to make you complete, to give you connection with other people, and when you realize you're aro, that's torn away from you. everything you've been raised to want is no longer something that will fulfill you. you are not built to be happy. and it gets better with time, it does! you restructure your world view, bit by bit, and the sting fades, but... i don't think it ever truly goes away. it's hard to express, because i love being aro, and i'm happy being aro, i wouldn't want to be any other way, but at the same time. there is such a profound heartbreak to knowing that you will never be someone's most important person in a society that values romance. that you'll never get the happy ever after that you were promised as a child. and you know you can be happy. but there's a lifetime of amatonormativity that lives in your brain and tells you that you can't.

#it's like catholicism a little bit. kjsfgh #brain worms #i will make seven thousand more posts about this but this one will suffice to start #i hesitate to talk about it because i don't want to misconstrue my aro experience as being negative! #i enjoy being aro so much! #And Also. #anyway. share thoughts we're here to support each other #amatonormativity #aspec #aromanticism #aromantic #aro #aroace #aro culture is #actually aro #arospec

[shmaroace]

aro culture is reading the word aromatic as aromantic every. single. time

#did you read it as aromantic the first time. cause i did #anyway i'll shut up but this is such an aro thing to me like #aro #aromantic #arospec #aro culture #1k #2k

[unrestrainedbalderdash]

Sex-repulsed asexuals and romance-repulsed aromantics deserve £100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 for everything

#sex repulsed #romance repulsed #asexual #aromantic #aro #ace #sex repulsed asexual #sex repulsed ace #romance repulsed aro #romance repulsed aromantic #sorry i'm hormonal and just feeling a little sad about the alienation from fandom culture especially fanfiction and ao3

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Due to that post I made re: why it's hard for aros/aces to imagine a future for themselves because society tells you a romantic partner will always take priority, a lot of people (aros/aces and allos alike) are sharing stories about how they have been discarded by their close friends and it's breaking my heart. But allos and aspecs coming in and sharing how they have the same amount of love for their partners and their best friends/siblings is healing it.

Still, there are people in the tags saying that aros/aces can "never offer their partners the kind of intimacy they need" and so they shouldn't be "surprised" when they feel closer to partners than their friends. You guys are missing the point.

The point is that we should NOT be ranking our relationships. People aren't there to be ranked on a scale of "This person is my number one and this person comes after that." The point is that you need multiple people in your life. One person cannot - and should not - be responsible for giving you everything you need. Different people will give you different things that you need in life and you should value all of them.

The idea that a romantic partner will give you every single thing you need in life is a toxic idea in itself and puts undue pressure on said partner and the relationship as a whole. A best friend won't give you everything either. You NEED multiple people in your life and they will all give you a part of what you need, but there is no one perfect person out there who perfectly gives you exactly what you want. We need multiple people and they should all be valued by you. Love is not limited.

#aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag #aro #ace #aromanticism #asexuality #aromantic #asexual #aroace #This idea that a romantic partner comes before everything and everyone else is a very Western idea too #I'm grateful that I live in a culture where family and community are important parts of life. #I'm lucky that my best friend considers me as important as her husband #i'm lucky that I'm close to my family and have unconditional love from them #why do I have to rank the relationships in my life #a mother with two kids can love and prioritise them equally #as my own mother does #why is it impossible for some of you to imagine doing that with other relationships in your life? #(i wrote this when I was sleepy and wrote unrequited love instead of unconditional love i'm so dumb lol #i do return my family's love)

[just-aro]

I'm realising I may be aro. But I have a romantic partner. Who I want to stay with.

I loved them, first and foremost, and then when I found out they wanted a romantic relationship, I was thrilled to have one with them. But the romantic feelings are like the seasonings on top. I dated them because I wanted to be part of their life, and I thought dating them would be fun.

I have no idea how to tell them that maybe I wasn't feeling romantic attraction at all, I was just thrilled that they wanted some sort of commitment. I would have been just as happy if they'd wanted a QPR or to be family, I think.

Any advice on that conversation?

honestly... no :( i'm gonna put this for followers since we're not comfy answering

#Anonymous #not aro culture #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod alexander #advice

[disbestyx]

Memes based on my own awkward Arospec life, who doesn't love that?

And I promise more of my fantastic wit will be coming to your screens very soon!

#aromantic #aro positivity #aromantism #arospec #aro culture is #aro memes #platonic #friends #advice #actually aro #aroace positivity #aroace #humor #genius #acesexual #ace pride #asexual #acespec

[short-wooloo]

The Jedi are an aro/ace culture that live happy and fulfilling lives and people hate them for it

People steeped in amatanormativity can't stand the idea that people don't want/need romance and can not only be content without it, but in fact very happy without romance

And thus they hate the Jedi, because an entire culture (even a fictional one) that is aro/ace-normative is an affront to them

#amatanormativity #wooloo-writes #wooloo writes #star wars #sw #pro jedi #in defense of the jedi #jedi culture #ace #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aromantism #the jedi are ace #aphobia #aro/ace #aroace #the jedi are aro

[lemonycranberries]

HEY IT'S THE 14TH. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS. IT MEANS IT'S TIME TO GET ARO-ER. TIME FOR ALL ARO TAGS TO GO TRENDING.

AGAIN.

#aromantic #aro #aromanticism #just aro stuff #aro posts #aroposting #aro culture #love loses #aro spec #aro spectrum #aromantic spectrum #aroace #aroallo #aro pride #aromantic pride #actually aromantic #just doing my part here #my posts

[queerism1969]

#asexuel #queer #lgbtq #lgbtq community #nonbinary #lgbt pride #nonbinary lesbian #lgbtqia #sapphic #gay girls #lesbian #as expected #asexual #aromantism #arospec #aromantic #aro #aroace #aro culture is #aro volturi #aroid #aspec #aromanticism