#not great not terrible parenting

[stevethehairington]

everyone i see saying "omg oliver really said eat the rich!!!1!111!!!!" are COMPLETELY missing the point of that movie. it was not an "eat the rich movie", it wasn't about class in that sense AT ALL. it was very much about desire and obsession and consumption. not class!!

#saltburn #sure class plays a small role in it #but its literally revealed that oliver ISNT poor he isnt living a bad life in a bad home in wanting conditions #he has a middle class family that seems fairly stable financially #he literally makes up all the stuff about having terrible parents who were neglectful and drunk all the time #so it really is not about him infiltrating this family to steal their money and property #not at all!!!!! #yeah he becomes obsessed with a boy from a rich family but it is not BECAUSE he is rich #that has nothing to do with it!! #and people who look at this film and only see it as an 'eat the rich' movie are doing it a GREAT disservice #they are fundamentally misunderstanding it

[black-and-yellow]

Dadmic: Rising.

He is no longer allowed to play Anarchy In The UK in front of the child.

#he has his own unique style of parenting #the other UA staff hate leaving him to babysit #Eri has a great time but she ends up singing Blitzkrieg Bop #and Aizawa hates it #he doesn't understand the lyrics to any of Mic's favourite music #but he knows mic is terrible at vetting stuff #so he ends up getting All Might to help him put together a playlist that Mic is allowed to play for Eri #All Might being the only one fluent enough in English to read the lyrics #Mic is distraught upon finding out he can't play I Predict a Riot #bnha #hizashi yamada #present mic #mha #aizawa shouta #dadmic #dadzawa #yamadad is so much better why don't we call him that #boogie woogie woogie #ua staff shenanigans

[profounddefendorcrusade-blog]

I feel bad for Starlo. (pt. 6)

I think the main thing we were supposed to see as Star's character flaw wasn't that he was acting proud/arrogant/reckless/badass (I mentioned that it's fine for him to act that way because he deserved it after everything good he did and obviously I still mean it 110%), but how that proud, charming guy was never the real him. He literally lost himself trying to feel worthy and please everyone in town. For years he's been acting the role (for a noble cause) but the price was him losing touch with the nerd he is.

Yet STILL, if only everyone had been a bit more gentle with him, I bet he'd have toned it down during the WE section, and even before that. But they all decided to let him know the truth at the worst possible time, right when he was supposed to make Clover his deputy. Right after they attacked the kid because they were jealous. It was supposed to be the PEAK of Starlo's day and they randomly threw the "we never liked any of this" bomb at him instead of trying to talk it out BEFORE things escalated. I'd be pissed too.

Oh yeah...

... his brother doesn't take him seriously apparently and doesn't realize that staying positive and strong 24/7 is tougher than it looks, especially with Starlo's insecurities (and yeah being a farmer is hard work, but so is being in Star's position; on the contrary, it's even TOUGHER) ...

Orion should try being an entertainer for a day and see what it's like, let alone doing it for years

...Solomon says how Star thought him and Crestina didn't support his life choices...

... and how he rarely talks to his family...

...and it suddenly came to me: in all these years, they didn't ever bother telling him that they did support him? They didn't bother trying to reach out to him more? Understand his passion (Ceroba doesn't get it either; once again, I don't blame Starlo for caring about Clover so much, that kid understood)? Have an honest talk?

No wonder Star stopped interacting with them for the most part. Maybe him feeling worthless came from his family? Who knows (or he was bullied as a kid for being a nerd). In any case, he clearly had to deal with these feelings by himself.

This man's been through some stuff.

P.S. I know he has flaws like everyone, but you've gotta ask yourself the important question: WHY? where did all this come from? But clearly nobody in his life ever asked themselves this. So it all kept building up till he almost killed his deputy for... status. He was SO desperate to feel valued and get his friends back (who made him feel less alone.. but ultimately just left when he needed someone the most, at least ONE person) that he was ready to go all the way to achieve what he'd been lacking his entire life: *feeling like he MATTERED.*

I wonder If he'll ever go 100% back to being his true self. Slim chances :'( this is him now. Half farmer half sheriff

#undertale yellow #uty #starlo uty #uty starlo #why is this character so tragic #without being tragic #i mean the “Ceroba” type of tragic #I'm no psychologist but I sure know feelings like this stem from childhood/adolescence #I'm talking bout the fact starlo literally decided that his life purpose would be pretending to be a sheriff. I repeat. PRETENDING #aka someone important #bc he never felt important #he tried lying to everybody and especially himself #that he was 'great' and 'cool' #bc nobody ever made him feel that way #plus ceroba ditched him for someone more 'serious' she had just met #I have to write about the sentence above soon #like I'm not saying Solomon & crestina are terrible people #But parents..? #Wellll... #I kinda sometimes imagine Star being made fun of by his peers and so he'd always retreat to his room and cry alone #That is #Until he found those western cassettes (I imagine it happened when he was a teen) #So instead of crying #He'd just distract himself for hours and hours #And pretend he was someone with more value who everyone respected #That's how the persona came to be #And so he began to lose touch with his real self more and more #As well as his feelings and problems #Until he just snapped #I can't anymore

[angelpuns]

There is nothing better than having younger siblings that recognize how racist your parents are so that when your mom does something particularly racist you can make eye contact across the room and go ' remember that tiktok'

#its great #love having siblings that are like #aware #esp cause i know they're also aware #how terrible our parents are #quite nice to have this bond

[babyprime]

yall want my hot take? I don't think gale would be a good dad. I think he would be good with and like kids but that's not the same as parenting. like. u know kids are generally really bad at things and kinda dumb compared to adults right? I think realistically having to stay quiet when a 3 year old was really really REALLY wrong about something would give him a stress induced ulcer skjrdkkddn

#and im saying this with love #he and astarion to me are both like. i enjoy imagining them with kids bc it would be funny #and also good for them i think but they would be Terrible at it in different ways #the only wholly good parent as they are in game is halsin and wyll but in a few years imo (cause he should be at the club) #laezel and karlach too but karlach would try and get a babys first word to be Fuck for a laugh and laezels not in general good w kids #so she would suck with certain aspects like playdate etiquette etc #i think wyll will be a great dad in like 2-5 years bc he should be at the club rn

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

and so i return to my roots of eating half a cantaloupe in one sitting

#its so fuckign good... Deliciousness... #*gollum voice* so juicy sweeeeeet!!!! #except yk. instead of a fish its a glorious melon #this morning isnt Great but mmmmm i have a cantaloupe so its not that bad!!! #absolutely unprompted #what will i do today... fold laundry probably. bring in more wood. install my new mattress #oh im so happy to have a new mattress! ive been using the same one since *dial up tone* freshman year!! #so.. about six years. jeebus criminy on a crisis cracker no wonder its uncomfortable #maybe ill work on a crochet project for a bit too #shit ill need to start thinking about christmas presents. ~Its The Most Stressful Time of The Year~ #i need to finish my grampa's lap blanket... figure out what to make for everyone else... #'everyone else' four whole people. two parents and two friends smh #wait no. three people. i just need to finish what ive already started #or start over bc it looks terrible and i feel bad lol

[trees-to-meet-you]

Btw I’m actually a little behind on the pjo series so I’m only on like. Episode 5. But I’m getting to the end of it and I just wanna say I love Annabeth so much I love her and I love Leah Sava Jeffries they’re both incredible

#chatter #pjo tv show #pjo series #annabeth chase #riordanverse #percy jackon and the olympians #pjo #leah sava jeffries #shes an adorable little girl and a pretty great actress!! #it’s just like. like wow. look at her go! look at her grow!! #kinda spoilers here so look away if you don’t want them but like. it’s only episode five. it’s the very first adventure they have together #we all know how annabeth and percy and grover grow throughout the whole series and everything but this is still the very first one. #the start of all their adventures and all their changes and all their growing #and it’s like. maybe more towards the middle of the quest now? i can’t remember fully #but they’ve only known each other such a short while and already he’s inspiring her #and shes outright saying it!! outright shes saying that his belief in fairness and belief in thinking they can and should be better #has made her realize the same!! that families shouldn’t treat each other so terribly! that parents shouldn’t be neglectful! #that the prices they’re forced to pay shouldn’t exist at all!! #idk how to word it really. but i love how even if percy is a pessimist. even if he’s cynical. it’s because he knows things SHOULD be better #and how he’s able to make everyone around him see how much better it can be too #and annabeth. who was one of athenas favorites. who ran away at such a little age that the way these things are is #the only thing shes ever really known. is able to hear what he says and realize he’s right. is able to say no. no more i agree with him. #like. shes sorta the golden child in a way because she gets attention and her little hat and everything. #shes one of the favorites. and shes willing to give it all away!! shes willing to say no!! #shes willing to give up that favored status for saying that it should be the standard! the bare minimum! #anyway. im sleepy and i wanted to say annabeth chase is such an amazing character. i love her.

[rotzaprachim]

meta incoming but one of the most fascinating themes of rogue one and andor to me is the idea that a parent’s (individualist) love of their child might not be enough to save them from the (structural) violence of the world, so it’s fascinating how fandom managed to sail right past that in a bunch of places

#The fic plot of jyn and cassian leave the rebellion to have a white picket fence and babies!!! Plot has always struck an odd vibe #But now I’m like no that’s literally the reverse of what the plot is saying #GALEN TRIEd that!!! #HE TRIED THAT AND the literal OPENING SHOT of rogue one is about how that failed completely #That’s the great terrible irony of rogue one it’s about how his EVERYTHING I DO I DO TO PROTECT YOU fails so completely #It end up in outright filicide where maybe the giant child killing machine might kill his child #Maarva tells cassian to go have a nice life take the money run from the empire live in peace!!! #And in the same fucking episode he’s sent to a death camp #Something too about how parental love can still exist in a world with these kinds of horrors #also fascinating how andor provides the antithesis to this attitude in Mon mothma #Her child can be put to the block so that everyone else’s get a fighting chance to live

[thegunslingerfollowed]

The problem is I have chronic guilt about something that I can’t control but everyone on tumblr would tell me I’m a bad person for. Unfortunately, this is the only place I can vent so this particular issue will just destroy me from the inside

#actually ocd #guilt #chronic guilt #morality ocd #moral ocd #I do have POCD but this is (surprisingly) not about POCD #people on tumblr will tell you you’re a terrible person for POCD tho #I just wish there was someone who I could guarantee not judging me #not a therapist because they’re just judging me in their head #I don’t have close friends irl or on the internet #I can’t talk to anyone except my parents who are great but very unhelpful on this issue #d originals #ocd #I recognize it is part of the ocd but also part of it is like… objectively true you know #I want to die it’s tearing me apart #why can’t I just get rid of it? #I should be happy rn and I’m not #I’m only happy when I briefly forget this fact about my life #why is my brain like this? why is something that most people would consider a blessing a curse to me #why am I so ungrateful #just want to die but I know I’ll never actually attempt #I’ll just feel like this forever

[mihrsuri]

JOAN.

Dauphine of France. Princess of Scotland. Princess of Albion. Queen Regnant of Scotland. Queen of England. The Half Breed Heathens Whore Of A Wife. My Darling Wise Thistle. Little Wise Eyed. Jeanne.

Though Joan’s father died not six months after her birth his love for her was remarked upon - indeed it was said that he could hardly bear to be apart from her. His death was something her mother Mary never recovered from despite two subsequent marriages and the reminder of him in her black haired and grey eyed daughter seems to have been a mixture of grief and solace to her. Joan proved to be a serious child - interested in books, archery and riding but with a keen talent for music she was included in and educated in rulership from a young age, particularly by her paternal grandmother who remarked that she saw ‘very much of Marguerite of Navarre in her’ she was excellent at politics, at rulership and in her concern and interest in the lives of all her people but she was not warm and nor did she have the charisma and ability to draw the eye of her mother, something that drew unfavourable comparisons. Her marriage was made out of pragmatism on her part and no one was more surprised than Joan when it turned into love.

(inspired in part by this edit by @emilykaldwen (ABBY MY BELOVED))

#lil and her ridiculous aus #ot3: political power trio #au: golden world #pending graphic tag #lils edits #this is who thomas and mihrimahs oldest son marries #it really is arranged marriage to lovers #turhan has a really difficult time because Living Up To His Parents #(not that his parents aren’t great parents they are) #(it’s just living up to them is…FUCK) #Joan has to wrestle with the fact that people look to her more than her mother but also absolutely compare her to her mother negatively #tudorsedit #herawell #also joans mothers life choices #(mqos does have way less terrible men in her life i think) #(but also she and joan do really struggle to connect and understand each other) #turhan struggles with being the heir of rulers who live up to their legends (positive for both) as rulers and people and then some #and also turhan really follows his mothers faith and takes after his maternal grandfathers family in appearance #and while England by the time of his reign is Different And Better #people are going to people even in this kindest possible world #and in some ways without thomas and mihrimah he has to be like #what is a legacy dot gif #tudors ot3 verse reference

[elftwink]

one of the most infuriating things that happens in discussions about trans people is like, when a transphobe talks about how its just SOOOO easy to access gender affirming care, it's so easy to get on hrt or get referred for surgery etc... some of you dense motherfuckers respond to this by saying "no!!! it's not easy!!!! its so hard!!!" & listen. i KNOW that it IS HARD for many of us. and in many places it's getting harder. but tell me this: isn't the goal, eventually, to make it easy? not just easier than right now, but genuinely easy for a transgender person to access the care they need on whatever timeline they want, no matter how fast or slow? so if you spend all your time right now combating transphobia by insisting that transition is difficult and taxing and traumatizing, what are you going to do if and when it's none of those things? if there is no endless suffering and million hoops?

when someone says "it's too easy to transition" in order to justify their own transphobia, and you say "no it's not", you're also saying "if it were, your feelings would be justified". which is already kind of a terrible implication without taking into consideration that what most of these people mean by "too easy" is "possible". they mean that you can transition and they don't want you to. point blank. when you say it's difficult, they think "good. it should be harder". it will never be difficult enough to not be easy to them.

i am literally so sick & tired of all of us throwing each other under the bus in order to advocate for a future that is fucking miserable and awful. when someone tells you their nightmare scenario is transgender people being happy, you should not be responding to that by reassuring them that actually, transgender people are miserable and always have been and always will. when someone complains about how easy transition is you should say "good". we are never getting out of this fucking crab bucket if we're not only pulling each other down but also telling other people that pushing us back in would be fine if we were a little closer to the top.

#good idea generator #one thing i vividly remember is like. back when i read discourse blogs for fun (never do this btw this did irreparable damage to my psyche) #i saw an argument between a t*rf who had detransitioned and a trans person #where she was complaining it was too easy for her to transition and he was accusing her of lying about her transition #because he was like 'its not that easy. it cannot be that easy it never is you're lying' #but the thing was she and i had had nearly identical transitions like very similar timelines #the only thing she had that i didnt was parental support from the outset (my parents are cool btw we have long since worked it out. im js) #and it was infuriating to me that the person on my side who was arguing for my community was essentially saying #that i should have had it harder. that it wasnt possible for it to be like that #especially considering i dont think my transition was 'easy'!! certainly 'easier' than some people #but like 'easy' is so subjective and in this context mostly reliant on your own feelings and experiences #and i was not having a very easy time when starting my transition i would say #also her argument was bad in other ways made me furious that he resorted to accusing her of lying #like great now she'll run back to her t*rf friends and theyll all talk about how we live in an echo chamber #we have to stop telling people it's their moral duty to argue with bigots because some of you are terrible at it

[mako-ink]

Farrah’s event spoilers//

Okay, so I finished her event yesterday and while I keep finding these events that don’t progress the overall story to have become bland/old, especially the events with poorer pacing and writing that feels like it treats the viewer almost like a child (basically telling everything not like an actual narrative with natural dialogue) I VERY VERY VERY much like how in the perceived good ending, Farrah finds out what her mother did and never forgives her.

As a person who grew up abused by their own mother, always hearing people say “well she’s your mother, you should forgive her” it always feels like a breath of fresh air when I see fictional characters denounce the parents that were meant to protect them, even if Farrah’s mother had good intentions she must have known eventually what was going on. There’s no excuse really otherwise. I’m glad there was the choice to look further, deeper into Farrah and her mother and find out hey, maybe this person failed terribly as a parent but didn’t really show any true effort to apologize or make up for the possible years of torture Farrah went through. There really isn’t any kind of apology that can be forgiven in that instance, and Farrah doesn’t owe a relationship or forgiveness to her mom.

I don’t know, stories that criticize bad parents has always hit very close to home, forgiving your abuser in my opinion is never a good route to go not only in a writing sense but also for my own mental health, I would never submit myself to forgiveness to make my abusers feel better about what they did to me. In short Farrah event has a decent moral perspective.

#dislyte #dislyte farrah #dislyte return dreaming #also disclaimer #I don’t intend to speak over/for all abuse survivors #this is really just my own opinion based on my own experiences as a child abuse survivor who’s main abuser was my mother #we need more stories about children not forgiving their parents for the terrible shit they’ve done #and more stories where the abused doesn’t become the abuser/isn’t villainized #and where the abuser isn’t humanized!! #I think dislyte could really delve into how it portrays abuse and trauma and it’s like on the precipice of being really great but it’s #shadowed by such short events that don’t really serve the bigger story #I genuinely miss the main story and what it brought to the table with worldbuilding I hope they revisit it soon #I miss Leon plea

[horuslupercal]

I often find myself fascinated by cawl with the primaris bc did you know decimus androdinus felix used to be terrified of them? but cawl considers him (and the primaris in general, it feels) like their son(s). and cawl with their subcawls and, in essence, fronting probably (to my mind at least) had different personality "loadouts" for different things. checkup cawl vs surgeon cawl vs recovery cawl and so on. predictable but not consistent

they're simultaneously the primaris' dad/surgeon/researcher/torturer (given the processes of both becoming an astartes and a primaris as well as shit like felix basically just going in and out of stasis to be experimented on until he turned out right) and I just.... would LOVE to see more of this in a book. also I like cawl

#i mean hey we saw um. Kor Phaeron's Parenting. i feel like whatever fucked up shit going on with weird inconsistent parent cawl and the #+ primaris isn't too far. i think about it a LOT i am ngl esp given how cawl talks about this in the great work #felix is a success! felix hates them but he's not even scared of them anymore! and perhaps it would be best if he didn't hate them #but an astartes who hates is more successful than an astartes who fears. and to cawl that means they did what they needed and he agrees #even if it was terrible #just.... man i need 2 see more of it #it's me #it's me (in the tags) #warhammer #belisarius cawl #decimus androdinus felix #uhhhh #abuse / #< i think that applies given everything

[nevertheless-moving]

hi! following you for the time-travel discworld AU, but i'm notoriously bad at checking interesting tumblrs. are you planning on posting it to AO3 (where I could subscribe to updates)?

hello! I'm glad you like the au! I've been deeply enjoying peoples tags/comments. Sorry if it wasn't clear from the tags in the original post but I'm extremely unlikely to write this fic out in full, definitely not anytime in the near/imaginable future.

[I sometimes finish a post and just keep writing in the tags. Like someone still talking who's being politely but firmly ushered out of the bar so they just get louder. Check the tags of this au and others for full rants]

Very much enjoyed @linya333's complimentary description of 'telling a story like we're all sitting in the room with you' because my feeling of writing this one is very much 'yelling while slightly drunk about some crazy fucked up stuff that happened to some guy I know, can you believe this shit'

Other people are MORE than welcome to play with the idea.

I've got a couple of drafted scraps of meta for aspects of this au im unwell about, some funny chat style dialogue possibly missing key context from what would be a good 300 pages into Night Thud! , other misc debris but like. To answer your question - No, sorry, not really enough of a coherent whole to put on ao3. Feel free to check back whenever, im pretty good about tagging so you can just look up Nightwatch au and see what , if anything I've added. No promises! Time is an illusion and all that!

And hey if other people have thoughts for this au please tag me/ send an ask so I can reblog. :)

#My au #Ask #Nightwatch au #discworld au #Poor Sam vimes for real like his life isn't hard enough #WOULD HE SAVE CARROTS PARENTS LIVES DOES HE EVEN HAVE ENOUGH INFORMATION TO DO THAT #WHO EVEN IS CARROT WITH A DIFFERENT UPBRINGING HE IS SO FUNDAMENTALLY DEFINED BY HIS DWARVISHNESS #WOULD HE EVEN BE RECOGNIZABLE AS A CHARACTER #WOULD HE BE TERRIBLE AND GREAT #WOULD SAMUEL VIMES HAVE TO KILL - #ASHDHKDKAHKAHSHAKAKAHFHFKL

[daughterofhecata]

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#great! i'm back to panicking about coming out to my parents over the holidays! love that for me! #it's probably not going to go like. terrible. #but there will probably be tears and i'm so not equipped to deal with that #anyway! so much for having a chill sunday! #it went really well so far! but now i'm fighting tears again! love that for me! #to delete later #ignore me #i'm probably being overdramatic

[queerofthedagger]

my goddaughter got diagnosed with adhd and it's like. on the one hand I'm so so so glad for her that they caught it this early (she's 7). on the other, i am already hurting for her so much it's eating me alive

#mona rambles #*mine #it's one thing to be nd in these kinds of online spaces #it's another to be a 7-year-old child trying to survive school #and this is with an auntie specialised in disability studies. i just. #god #it's going to be so much easier for her and it's still going to be terrible and there's very very little i can actually do about it #like. her parents are great!! even her teachers are great #but that doesn't change that the school system and capitalism as a whole are... not #anyway ignore me #I'm just. hurting for her and myself and the way it's going to be so terribly hard