#not really a fight or argument but more like the biggest miscommunication and misunderstanding between me and my closest friend

[kozukenkitten]

Can i get a boy Haikyuu matchup?((; I am 5’9 girl, with dirty blond hair to under my shoulders. I am the listener and the street smart one in the group. I LOVE TO PLAY FIGHT and have tickel fights. Im quiet and calm, and it takes Some time before i open up. I like to be the leader. I am rly stubborn, but i love to make my Friends laugh. I train a lot, and i also do competetiv rifle shooting, im best in my county. I would want a boy who protecs me, bc No one ever do that. Thank youuuu😘

Hi dear!! This has been sitting in my drafts for months now because I just have too many ✨ thoughts ✨ to dig through and figure out what was valuable enough to write down with this one and I kept having to pause and come back to it around other things happening IRL but anyway, I hope you like it!!

I've matched you with Kyoutani Kentarou!!

Street smarts? Playful banter/fighting? Stubborn and driven? Protective personality? Kyoutani is the man for you.

This man will act like the biggest tsundere around your close friends, all of whom 100% know he's actually the biggest simp for you. When you're alone, though? This man will treat you like a princess, because holy shit he's just smitten, and while he's awful at expressing it at times, he can show you how much he cares both in how protective he is, and by how he allows your tickle fights (you think he'd let anyone else do that to him? Fat chance) and by allowing his guard down around you, openly laughing at your jokes and enjoying your company.

Anyone fucks with you, and Kyoutani will be there like the Mad Dog (TM) he is, to wreck their shit for you if you want him to. Although he has zero doubt you could do it yourself, he enjoys getting to fight on your behalf like your own personal modern knight in shining armor, because that's the #1 way he knows how to show he cares.

He would love that you're fairly calm and quiet, especially with how much noise he has to deal with from Oikawa and the rest of the Seijoh team, but he'd also adore your more passionate, stubborn side (even when it's directed against him during an argument).

You may have some clashes over who the leader in the relationship is, but ultimately, I can see him deferring to you on most things, simply because it makes you happy, and he doesn't necessarily mind it anyway.

He may be temperamental, but he would absolutely never lay a hand on a lady, especially not one he really cares about. When he gets too heated, he'll remove himself from the situation until he's calmed down, because he would never want to hurt you, and he knows his temper can be a lot to deal with sometimes.

Play fights, though? Kyou will do that with you as much as you'd like. Whether it's sparring or just banter and maybe some playful nudges or whatever (or like that one scene in Lion King where they're play fighting and just tumbling around all over, vying for dominance) he's down to see who will win. I imagine it's usually a pretty even fight, and no matter who actually wins, it ends in plenty of cuddles and kisses.

I can see you being really good for him because you've got a good balance between calm and stubborn, so you won't constantly be at odds with him (and in fact more often than not you'll be able to calm him down too and get him to see your side of things and maybe even change his mind on them), but you'll be able to hold your own with him when you are at odds with him as well.

He would also appreciate you listening to his frustrations concerning his wild team and how they keep him on the sidelines too much. I'm not sure if he'd be the best person to seek advice from, but he'd definitely be the one to seek out if you need to rant or want help taking care of someone who's done you wrong.

All in all, I can see you two seeing eye to eye on a lot of things, and I can see your personalities meshing well, because they're just similar enough to create harmony and just different enough to keep your interactions from being too boring.

Also, Kyoutani would lose it over your rifle shooting abilities. That sort of thing takes great skill, and is an incredible accomplishment he'd definitely be in awe of, especially the very first time he saw you shooting at a range.

You two would probably be really awkward at first, lots of misunderstandings and miscommunications caused by nerves and closedness, but as you interact more, you'll both open up and find a really sweet, fun relationship that you wouldn't have any other way!

#haikyuu matchup #haikyuu x reader #matchup

[lux-i-fer]

So the tv series is based on a comic book series and apparently in them Maze and Lucifer have been an established couple for like eons and eons (they’re kind of cute, actually). Now I don’t ship them in the show but if they had stayed more true to the comics and had them be together what kind of changes do you think Maze and Lucifer would have to go through for that type of relationship to happen?

OOF...a lot. I’m not gonna pretend like show Lucifer and Maze have a healthy relationship, because they simply do not. Not that that is a bad or amoral thing, but it is definitely something to consider when speaking in terms of a romantic relationship. I think this is best broken down into a few parts:

Comic Lucifer is very aloof

Communication issues

Species differences in the TV show

So I think the main difference between comic Lucifer and show Lucifer is emotion. I have not read the comics, so correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I have seen of comic Lucifer, I gather that he is less than touchy-feely. He seems a lot more in control of his emotions than show Lucifer. Show Lucifer wears his heart on his sleeve and is overall more human than his comic counterpart, who feels more alien and separated from humanity. Show Lucifer feels like he fits into humanity, unlike comic Lucifer who seems to stand outside of it (similar to how show Amenadiel views humanity). I think this aspect is very important for Lucifer and Maze’s relationship. We see several times in the show that many of their issues stem from Maze misunderstanding Lucifer’s more emotional side. Maze herself states on several occasions that demons do not express themselves in the same way that humans do. I think Lucifer would have to lose a large part of the humanity that he has gained from his time on Earth to make his relationship with Maze work. In my opinion, Maze would not be the type to change herself and become more human to suit Lucifer’s needs. I just don’t see her character as being willing to do that. Sure, she has emotions; however, she has a vastly different outlook on them than Lucifer does. I think what made their comic relationship work was that they were both outsiders in their respective communities; however, that is not the case on the show. In the show, Lucifer has a hefty human support system that has fully welcomed him. Maze dips her toe into this support system, but never allows herself to fully become a part of the group. I think a key part in making her and Lucifer’s romantic relationship work is either Maze accepting that she is part of this group, or Lucifer effectively cutting himself off from it. While it would seem unlikely that Lucifer would do this, if in the context of this ask, it meant keeping his relationship with Maze and appeasing the tension, I could see it happening.

It is these emotional differences that have lead to numerous fights on the show. This blatant miscommunication is probably going to be one of the most pivotal aspects for their relationship. At this moment, Lucifer and Maze do not trust each other as their characters do in the comics. They are constantly allowing simple misunderstandings to fester and blow up instead of working them out then and there. Last paragraph we discussed something that Lucifer would have to work on, but in this paragraph this is something Maze has to work on. Yes, Lucifer doesn’t have the greatest communication skills, but it is often Maze perpetuating these issues. Maze’s unwillingness to adapt to Lucifer’s more emotional, more human persona creates a slew of miscommunications in their platonic and romantic relationship. Maze often makes excuses for her actions and does not acknowledge her own role in the destruction. This denial is a problem we’ve seen play out on the show at least three times. Maze is selfish. There’s really no way around it, she is. That is who she is. But Maze often leans on this argument far too often. It is okay to be selfish, but it is not okay to not accept the consequences your selfishness brings about. As I stated before, both Maze and Lucifer share this problem, but I feel this is something that Maze needs to work on far more than Lucifer. Has Maze ever taken explicit responsibility for any of the hurtful things she’s done to Lucifer? Sure, she talks around an apology on occasion, but I can’t seem to recall any time on the show where Lucifer completely interprets it as a sincere apology. If they want this relationship to work, they have to get on the same page with one another.

Now this last one is a joint effort, and it may be a controversial one. In a previous ask I described the power dynamics of Lucifer and Maze’s relationship. Here are some of the most important sections:

“Normal people do not have their ‘peers’ call them Lord or Sire. The demons are totally subservient to Lucifer and are expected to “know their place” so to speak. And their place is, unfortunately, at Lucifer’s beck and call. Maze may be Lucifer’s right hand, but even we the audience can forget that she is no different class-wise than any of her siblings. And I think class is what’s causing the biggest issue here. Like I said, Lucifer is on par with a king. A king is in a whole different social class than his subjects. Because of that, he naturally views them differently than, say, another angel.”

...Maze is an exception to demon-kind in many different ways. She is not the stereotypical standard for her species; however, as we often do with things we’re unfamiliar with, we group them into these stereotypes to better understand them. Any time we see Lucifer ‘disrespecting’ Maze we see a lot of generalization in his speech. “Oh that’s just how demons are” or “that’s Maze” (with the demon part being implied here). I am NOT implying that Lucifer is racist/prejudiced, I want to make that very clear. I am simply suggesting that his oversight is accidentally hurting Maze. And it is accidental. It’s not like Maze ever tells him that she finds those comments demeaning, and it has never been implied that Lucifer’s over-generalizations were rude or tasteless. In some cases she even seems to revel in them!

What I mean by a species difference is that Maze and Lucifer are literally different species. Angels and demons are two totally different things, just as humans and monkeys are two totally different things. Are they similar? Yes. Are they exactly the same? No. I think one of the biggest issues in Maze and Lucifer’s relationship is the fact that they are simply different. As I’ve stated above, they process emotions differently and they have two very different ways of communicating. It is possible that there are some things that will never align quite right for them. The only way I could see them getting past this is if they committed themselves to outlining and acknowledging these differences. If they can hold each other accountable and not rely on these assumptions or stereotypes about their species, I think their relationship would fare a lot better. In the ask I only address Lucifer’s role in this whole thing, but Maze would also have to work on this. Lucifer is not the only one who relies on species stereotypes to understand his environment. If they do this, I think they would gain a greater respect for one another, which would greatly improve their platonic and romantic relationship. In the comics this wasn't as big as a problem because Maze and Lucifer had more similar personalities and social affiliations; however, the show has managed to shake all of that up. Any comraderie that may have bloomed as a result of similarities in personality or affiliation is wiped away by the drastic changes the show made to their characters. Therefore in order for their relationship to work in the context of the show, they must discuss and acknowledge these differences.

#ask #anon #mazifer

[404fmdhaon]

headcanon, aesthetic & playlist — underground friendships

summary: the love of music all spawned from the underground days where he was nothing more than a small child on the verge of thunderous rebellion. some souls fizzled out into mere nobodies while the few that clung on have been his stride and true, the biggest pieces of solace to the idol world he lives in. always a phone call away — he calls these people his pals. playlist summary: when he’s with his underground friends, no music is off limits. ranging from the girl groups to the random listens of whatever hip hop music is blasting through their music playlists — they share these pieces for bouts of inspiration or just for the laugh that comes from sitting in a room and listening to mindless music. sometimes it’s over a game of cards, and other times it’s just while he’s drunk over a glass of beer. either way, it spurs the deepening friendship that puts nothing off limits, nothing off bounds when they’re talking about anything ranging from music to their personal lives inside a rooftop apartment. warnings: mentions of smoking tw, mentions of drinking tw wc: 1009

playlist

1. forever young — femme fatale (blackpink) 2. 너무 너무 너무 — wish (very very very — ioi) 3. so good — fuse (red velvet) 4. cool hot sweet love — fuse (red velvet) 5. 사이렌 — 호미들 (siren — homies) 6. wifey — 카모 ft. 쌈디 (wifey — camo ft. simon dominic) 7. countin my guap — changmo 8. dress _ Face & Mask ft. ron — kid milli 9. yummy — justin bieber 10. freak — doja cat 11. triggered — jhene aiko

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park siwoo

siwoo’s one of gyujeong’s best friends. has been since they first met inside a cypher group on the hongdae playground.

currently, siwoo’s a producer active in the underground hip hop scene, and he doesn’t create his music (not gray-esque, more like woogie or boycold)

they’re the same age, born in 1994 and siwoo’s always been the happy storm to counter gyujeong’s rough against the edges personality

siwoo’s personality is vastly different than his exterior. on the outside, he seems cold with his long hair always clouding his face and glasses askew — the earphones always detract the world from around him. yet, when he opens his mouth it all cracks and what’s left is a cesspool of cheap corny jokes (gyujeong likes to call him the second coming of kim heechul)

the reason why there’s so many pictures of them in the younger years is because siwoo always had a camera in hand to capture each memory. so many 흑역사s (bad memories? corny memories pictures?) all because of siwoo’s damn camera

musically wise, siwoo produces a lot of house and mellow beats. but also super versatile — there’s a reason why he’s the first to pass around ideas to, and why siwoo always gets hit with random bursts of gyujeong’s creativity

they’ve collaborated on a lot of songs (mostly unreleased), still there’s a certain synergy that happens when they’re together smoking away while listening to beats they’ve made half-dazed on sleep

in terms of personal talks / getting serious, siwoo knows the ins and outs of gyujeong’s life and the scandals that plague him — the fact gyujeong’s an idol hasn’t changed much about their friendship aside from the secrecy that they can’t go out to cafes as easily as they did when they were teens

true knight fans are aware, however, of siwoo’s existence and that’s probably how siwoo’s amassed a lot of followers with each comment being “thanks for being a good friend to haon!” 

their arguments if any are superficial, and mainly subjected to the best girl group — gyujeong picks fuse, and siwoo picks lucid now infatuated with the idea of chroma

jung jiwon 

jiwon’s a fast 1995, hence why they’ve dropped formalities of hyung/dongsaeng and relate themselves to donggap friends

jiwon’s also a producer but also releases his own stuff — very rare and sparse as producing he considers his real calling. he’s under the name of ‘sloom’ and has worked with some mid-tier companies to produce songs for the boy and girl groups (mainly he writes the raps)

at first glance, he’s scary? just because facial and neck tattoos aren’t that common in korea. and on the inside, he has even a tough exterior (허세) that gyujeong always calls him out on. it took them a near year? to become friendly, and they met each other through siwoo.

they rarely hang out in person? mainly over kakaotalk and messaging they keep in touch, send in beats to each other. but when they do see each other for the first time in a long time, it becomes a rekindled feeling where they’re not subjugated to any sort of “how’ve you been” but pick up where it’s last

at first, it became who can speak less when they were together but now, it’s who can shut up first considering they both go rampant about whatever game has caught their eye lately

jiwon agrees that fuse is superior to the girl group, and constantly badgers gyujeong to let him meet the leader. yet, gyujeong hesitates and laughs it off telling him to fuck off

jiwon’s music sounds a lot more of what sells on melon or award shows, yet he doesn’t have the big name value to let it chart — hence, why gyujeong wants to help when he can

jiwon lives in a half-basement, and that’s normally where they go to catch up as he’s one of the few that’s kept to that style of living as he sees it as homely rather than a bothersome to upgrade

cha sejoon

another 1994, and they’ve had the most complicated relationship out of the three

it’s the fact they’re similar, and similar personalities which led to a lot of clashes and misunderstandings over the years

the first fight obviously became over yeseul as sejoon really liked yeseul but then got slighted when gyujeong became mr. steal your girl — however, after a while, they got to talking and realized that pettyness aside, they do get along for the most part

sejoon is the most successful out of the underground friends, producing music as much as he puts it out. in the underground scene, he’s known as the heartthrob boyfriend of your dreams where fans like his looks more than the quality of music he puts out

gyujeong gives him the benefit of the doubt, music’s good for the most part — a bit on the idol-esque side, but you gotta do what you gotta do.

sejoon lives in a rooftop apartment and as much as that gets romanticized, sejoon’s constantly complaining about the bugs that come out and how he’s ready to move out (in reality, he’s too lazy) 

sejoon also stops by gyujeong’s apartment a lot on off days to talk, catch up — ironically, this is the friend he talks least about music with despite their similarities

they’ve gotten into a lot of fights in the past years, each time causing a few months without talk before one of them steps up and hits the other person up to talk it out

there’s a lot of miscommunications and read between the lines since they’re not the best at relaying what they really think — a few mishaps where people thought he was dissing ‘haon’ when in reality it was a diss against another idol rapper

as much as it pains gyujeong to say, he doesn’t know what he’d do without sejoon knowing that the fights have only parsed them closer and it’s the tit for tat banter that keeps their dynamic moving smoothly

#머리속에 — 생각 #alcohol tw #smoking tw #뀨뀨 — queue

[oumakokichi]

Do you have any advice for writing healthy romantic relationships?

It all depends, of course, since there are plenty ofdifferent ships and there’s not really just one way to write them! In particular,different characters are going to have different dynamics with one another.Some characters might be a bit more forward and serious, others might jokearound a lot more or avoid talking outright about their feelings, but any ofthese can count as healthy relationships, as long as they’re written well.

The best advice I can give is to try and address the factthat any ship, even the healthiest, most stable relationship, is going to haveits problems. There will always be problems in a relationship of any kindsooner or later, even if it’s just a friendship. The key to writing abelievable, healthy romantic relationship isn’t to try and write a glorified oridealized, picturesque version of a ship in which there aren’t any problems,ever—instead, it’s to foresee a few problems that probably will happen alongthe way, and to envision ways in which the characters can communicate andaddress these problems, rather than letting them pile up and worsen over time.

If the characters do avoid talking with each other or try tooverlook the problems in favor of letting things continue as they are now, that’ssomething that should be addressed within the narrative too. Miscommunicationis often one of the biggest obstacles to any relationship, period, so it’sunderstandable that communication is one of the most essential needs to makinga relationship work in the long run. And it’s hard, and it’s not always funsometimes. Sometimes your characters are probably going to get fed up with oneanother and they are going to fight, even if their relationship is stable andhealthy and they both know that they love each other a lot.

But when I say “fight,” I don’t mean dramatic screamingmatches or super excessive explosions of anger or anything. Those kinds ofreactions are generally unhealthy and anyone who tries to tell you that they’rejust a “normal” part of a romantic relationship is lying to you. A fight can bea misunderstanding, it can be two people being stressed or upset, but it shouldnever be a character one-sidedly yelling at another, or breaking things, or thecharacters generally making each other feel upset or scared or horrible aboutthemselves.

It’s important to think about how characters in a healthyrelationship tackle and overcome the obstacles in front of them. If thatincludes fighting with each other or having a misunderstanding, then it’s alsovery important to think about how they would make it up to one another. I knowthe trend in a lot of fanfictions is to have a really passionate, dramaticmake-up scene in which the characters sometimes often realize their feelingsfor each other in the heat of another argument, but I’ve found, both in writingand in my own relationship irl, that the hardest but most sincere thing is justto apologize openly and honestly.

It’s important, I think, to include scenes in which bothcharacters can admit to their flaws and mistakes. And if it’s a healthyrelationship, then the blame will probably be on both characters, not just one.Sometimes in a relationship, one person messes up, and sometimes the otherperson messes up. But a relationship in which one person consistently makes thesame mistakes again and again, hurts the other person, and never improves theirbehavior despite promising otherwise, isn’t healthy, so that’s something reallyimportant to avoid.

Another thing I’d suggest is always try to think about whyyour characters enjoy being around each other. A healthy romantic relationshipwill almost always involve fluff of some kind, sure, but there really should besome kind of established dynamic between them. Try to consider what each characterfell for about the other. What do they most enjoy when they spend time together?Do they have banter? If so, that banter shouldn’t just evaporate and dry upwhen they start dating. There will be times when they’re feeling romantic andsappy, sure, but there should also still be times when they’re just messingaround and having fun.

A healthy romantic relationship is always, always, always based first and foremost on ahealthy friendship. If you can’t picture what they would like about each otheras friends, I’d say that they probably wouldn’t make for a very good romanticship. Liking things about each other also isn’t the same as idolizing the othercharacter. And just like with admitting to flaws and mistakes, the liking eachother has to go both ways in order for it to be healthy.

One character only one-sidedly idealizing everything aboutthe other is unhealthy in its own way. And if it’s addressed by the narrativeand something the character who idolizes manages to fix and improve, then that’sgood character development. Otherwise, it sort of sends the wrong idea that it’sokay to put a romantic partner on a pedestal and expect them to be perfect evenwhen they’re not. Both characters should have an understanding, or at leastcome to the understanding, that both of them are human, and both of them shouldhave their feelings and wishes respected.

Finally, it’s always important to think of ways that theywould show each other that they care. Letting your partner know that you lovethem is one of the most important, basic things in a healthy relationship, andwhile different people have different ways of expressing their affection, theyshould still have a way of showing it, at least. It’s understandable if notevery couple feels particularly comfortable expressing themselves or beingoverly affectionate in public—but in scenes where it’s just the two of them,that love and affection really needs to shine. Not letting your partner knowthat you care will often just make them feel unappreciated or have themwondering if they did something wrong.

Show, don’t tell. That’s almost always my advice as awriter. Characters don’t always have to go on long-winded ramblings about whythey love each other every single time they want to be affectionate (thoughthese are fun to play with in confession scenes). Even little gestures anddemonstrations of affection go a long, long way. Different characters will dodifferent gestures, typically, whether it’s clasping hands, playing with theother character’s fingers. If they hug, do they hug them from the front, ortackle them from behind? If they kiss, do they always kiss them on the lips, ordo they sometimes go for the nose or forehead or cheeks? Thinking about theselittle details will help show a lot more clearly how your characters expresstheir affection for each other.

This is most of the advice I can offer on this sort oftopic. Again, it’s going to vary a lot depending on which characters you’rewriting, and what stage of their relationship they’re at. Sometimes just gettingto the point of a healthy, established relationship is half the struggle. Andit’s always something you have to work at constantly, not something that juststops once you start going out. But as long as you can show why your characterslike each other, how they would tackle problems in their relationship, and howthey would demonstrate their affection to each other, you should be pretty setfor nearly any situation you can envision.

I hope this helps!  

#ask #opinions #okay to reblog #i should probably make a writing advice tag or something eventually #queenofdragons6