#not with all the mental disorders but

[ambivalentpsychopomp]

You guys realise you’re allowed to say autistic right.

Don’t say “neurodivergent” unless you mean the entirety of literally every single mentally ill, developmentally disabled and insane person that that broad ass label implies.

Autistic isn’t a bad word. You can say autistic if you just mean autistic. Because I know for a fact when most of y’all say neurodivergent you don’t mean people with personality disorders or addictions or ptsd or Down syndrome or schizophrenia or psychosis. You mean autistic, and sometimes adhd.

Just say what the fuck you mean y’all.

#and while we’re at it we should be able to say sex change #instead of gender affirming care #which could be literally anything including shit cis people do all the time #neurodivergent #autism #autistic #npd #BPD #aspd #personality disorder #schizophrenia #mental illness #adhd #ocd

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

growing up with a perpetually anxious primary caregiver is such a mindfuck. that shit will rewire your nervous system

#not a shitpost #i get that parenthood and modern life in general is extremely anxiety inducing #and that anxiety is a common mental health issue and anxiety disorders exist and do not disqualify you from being a loving parent #but i am begging you PLEASE do not project your anxiety onto your kids #especially younger kids #your job is to make your kids feel safe and secure. that is a primary requirement #that doesn't mean you can't be anxious! #but just like being angry doesn't mean you're allowed to yell at your kids or slam doors or break things #being anxious doesn't mean you are allowed to surround your kids with your own fear and stress or teach them to share your anxieties #your job is to be a comforting nurturing parental figure. that means projecting comfort and love #even when it is hard! even when you are tired or angry or scared! #which is a damn hard job! and you won't get it right all the time! #but dammit babes you gotta TRY #kids deserve to feel safe and comfortable in their daily lives #you CANNOT be teaching them to expect catastrophe lurking around every corner

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things. #people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time. #but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized. #sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement. #this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex. #and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love. #our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!! #it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild.... #anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that. #silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff. #love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that. #kiss kiss (<— lovelessly) #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

[solitaryschizoid]

It's actually very ableist to say that narcissists are not self aware enough to know they have NPD. Having NPD may distort my perception sometimes, but I am not suffering from delusions and I am aware of reality. Stop infantilizing narcissists, please. If a narcissist does not know they have NPD it is because they don't know enough about NPD yet. Narcissists are not separate from reality, stop implying otherwise. We know the symptoms we experience, we struggle with them every day.

#just bc “your narc” was never diagnosed that doesn't mean that all pwNPD are self unaware #mental health awareness is a fairly new thing. most people frown upon mental illness and were not raised to understand it #narcissistic personality disorder #npd safe #actually npd #actually narcissistic #npd

[system-of-a-feather]

BTW if you think calming corners, sensory rooms, and other forms of dedicated spaces to handling overload, anxiety, or intense emotions in your house is something only for kids - or even worse - only neurodivergent kids, you are largely denying yourself a very helpful resource based on social norms.

Having a space dedicated to being safe and with easy access to things to help lower overstimulation and calm intense internal experiences is something that everyone can benefit from having

Not just kids

Not just neurodivergent kids

Not just neurodivergent adults

Not just mentally ill adults

Everyone - even the hypothetical person with no mental illness or physical disability

There is nothing "immature" about having spaces organized to make your difficult times easier to handle and I think everyone should consider dedicating maybe even just a shelf or corner in their place to having an abundance of self care resources

Self care is not a limited resource and not something that you have to be "bad enough to have"

If you think its a good thing for parents to provide their kids with rooms / spaces dedicated to different ways they can self regulate, then you should agree that if you are also dealing with any levels of difficulty self regulating, that it should be a good idea and good thing to provide yourslef with rooms / spaces dedicated to ways to help you self regulate

Children and adults both have emotions and life experiences that are hard to regulate / handle and both need ways to relax and calm down

Self care, sensory rooms, and coping / calming corners are resources that can help both children and adults with those difficult moments

#alter: fei #alter: riku #as someone who just realized that I don't need an office (ie the socially normal safe space that I used to have) #and instead could just have what all my neurodivergent kids have #and even just young kids have had in their classrooms and theraputic spaces had #and that it worked much better and there was no reason - other than the implications of mental illness and thus social stigma of having one #as to why I didnt just have one #and i am zero percent regretting it this is so much better for my mental health #actuallyautistic #autism #adhd #actuallyneurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #actually did #actuallydid #dissociative identity disorder #ptsd #self care

[atomicc]

Ooooeeeooo it runs in the familyyy~ ID in alt and under cut 🎶

ID: A pen and paper comic of Brozone from DreamWorks Trolls. From top to bottom: John Dory scratches his face and says "Yeah I have uh autism and tourettes and prolly OCD and." before cutting off. Clay counts on his fingers and says "Yeah I get kinda OCD sometimes, and I get non-motor seizures and." before cutting off. Floyd shrugs and says "Uh well, clinical depression and OCD for one, I take meds for anxiety and panic attacks, plus." before cutting off. Continues in next image.

A pen and paper comic continuing from the last image. Branch looks darkly at the viewer and says "You don't even want to know." Next panel Brandy and Bruce are laying in bed. Brandy is reading a book and looks puzzlingly at Bruce. Bruce is staring at the ceiling, a stressed look on his face and says "Brandy I'm worried for our children." /end ID.

#Trolls band together #Dreamworks Trolls #Brozone #Brandy #Good enough for me! #I'd like to think that Bruce dodged so many mental health issue bullets #This is NOT saying these disorders and conditions are bad. Literally not even. But it is hard to grow up with them. Ok. #I have experience with all of them so #Shrugs #Us #My art #🚧 #✌️ #😈

[foolishnpd]

Me: I want thousands of eyes on my work, I'm dying if I can't have that, I want compliments on my posts

*gets it*

uhmmmmm actually i need personal love and attention from people I specifically deem as worthy to compliment me

*gets it*

hey actually i thinkh i'll jsut kill myself nothing is good enoguh

#lilyroaring #actually npd #actually narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b things #cluster b vent #npd safe #mental illness #i have Issues #yay #girl i cannot get a fucking BREAK #i'm like #clawing andf grasping and screaming on the floor for attention #and then i get it and i'm like #'yeah actually this isn't exactly the perfect version of it that i want' #and i don't KNOW WHAT THAT PERFECT FORM OF IT IS!!!!!!! #AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA #why can't i just be like the other people i see in the npd tags that are like. 'yay minor compliments' #like no. NO. it's appreciated but it's WORTHLESS and i have no clue what is worth something either #at best i get like 3 seconds of dopamine and that's all i can wish for

[serethespider]

peitition to rename adhd to dopamine deficiency disorder, partially because it's more accurate as a medical term and partially so we can shorten it to 3d

#original #short #adhd #actuallyadhd #mental health #neurodivergent #dopamine deficiency disorder #if we all work together #i believe we can make this real

[clusterblood]

black holes are very npd I base it solely on the feeling of a hole inside which could never be filled and it just takes takes takes and its never enough

#npd things #npd culture is #actually npd #npd awareness #npd safe #npd feels #npd thoughts #idk i added enough of npd tags #npd #i dedicate this post to my first hater. with all due respect (which is none) get a hobby #my hobby is doing patterns about mental disorders

[lambheartedgirl]

telling someone your favourite Yellowjackets character is like: here is an insight into the tenderest part of my psyche. here is something deep in the core of me that informs who I am, yet I haven't confronted. here is something I wish I didn't know. also I love women

#nat scatorccio #yellowjackets #misty quigley #shauna shipman #this fandom is all mental disorders and lesbianism and i like it that way #yellowjackets season 2 #im a nat girly. of course

[petrichor-moss-and-lightning]

having adhd (or just generally being forgetful) is so fucking frustrating because you’ll lose something you literally just had in your hand and then proceed to go on a 45 minute quest to find said lost thing. meanwhile, you’re both the detective and the suspect, just trying to follow clues and patterns that make no sense. i’ll lose something, then grab my brain by the collar and go, “where tf is my charger. u just had it”. and my brain will just be like:

#actually adhd #adult adhd #attention deficit disorder (add) #attention deficit hyperactivity disorder #object permanence #forgetfulness #I hate it so much I have to hunt through clues as though it’s not my own brain and my own lack of object constancy #some nts will be like aw adhd is so cute and quirky meanwhile I’m fist fighting my hippocampus and defective dopamine receptors in an arena #adhd is in no way cute or quirky I break down crying on the regular bc it’s just so incredibly frustrating to not be able to remember #if u romanticize mental illness or neurodivergency I will steal all your bones

[silly-centipede]

using mental health terminology and disorders (narcissist, psychotic, borderline etc) as insults is so fucked up actually

If i've ever reblogged something using those words like that please call me out and I will take them down. or even if I've reblogged stuff with/used ableist phrases without knowing it

#npd #narcissistic personality disorder #psychotic disorders #psychosis #psychotic #schizophrenia #boarderline personality disorder #bpd #i have ocd and i'm ready to support all yall #actually mentally ill #actually ocd

[borderlinebelle]

If mental health has you or someone you love by the NECK my haphazard garbage content might be for you.

video is like 1 min long, don’t panic.

ALSO… if you’re broke af .. this content might uh… might also be for you … if it helps I’m crazy and poor too. I’m crazy poor if I’m ffr. 🤣

come away with me … in the night… link beneath👇🏽

DOING MY WACK TAXES EP 2 IS UP NOW…

also I fight a bug I guess?

SUBSCRIBE! I can only really post when my brain allows so it’s sporadic. Sorry.

#we’re all mad here #BorderlineBelle #recovery #mental health #relapse #mental illness #symptoms #interpersonal relationships #don’t do it #stay safe #stay the night #mental health relapse #depression relapse #i wanna relapse so bad #i want to relapse #actually mentally ill #personality disorder #personal growth #personal #be ffr #be so fucking for real #be so fr #be so serious #be so for real right now #be so fucking fr #DID YOU DO YOUR TAXES??? #tax day #taxes #us taxes #us taxpayers

[champignonoftheforest]

This is just your daily reminder that your lived experience is valid. No one else gets to speak on if you’ve had it rough or not. No one else gets to tell you that everything you’ve suffered through was for attention. No one gets to tell you that you should’ve just tried harder or been better. No one gets to tell you that someone else having it harder invalidates your own struggle. Your pain is valid. Your struggle is valid. You are valid.

#disabilties #mental illness #trauma #lgbtqia #transgender #non bianry #genderqueer #ptsd #bpd #physical disability #ocd #generalized anxiety disorder #major depressive disorder #gender nonconforming #and also just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean that other people aren’t #like please understand this #not all struggles are the same but they are all valid

[voidxbrat]

This is some love going out to other people with severe mental/developmental/etc disabilities! I mean severe like, in of need full-time assistance or *a lot* of accommodations. I mean people who legitimately can’t always control or understand their own behaviors. People who cannot live on their own, or maybe can’t make their own decisions. The people who get left out of everything, by everyone, even those who say to support people with stigmatized mental illnesses and not very nice symptoms and behaviors. Because, for all everyone shouts that they support these things - you really show you don’t very often (even on this site). Something people on here still really need to understand and support, is what *serious* and *severe* mental/developmental/etc disability really is.

#sorry not sorry #I’m really getting tired of the shit people pass around all the time #that blatantly disregards severely mentally disabled people #I hate it #I want to enjoy it here but so often I even feel left out here #even amongst other systems #and some groups of people with stigmatized mental illness #because majority of you can’t seem to comprehend or consider us #aria #severe mental illness #stigmatized disorders #did osdd #schizophrenia #schizo spectrum #personality disorder #low functioning #autistic spectrum #autism #actually austistic #mental heath support #mental disability #developmental disabilities #neurodivergent #actually mentally ill

[yellowocaballero]

Omg hi Ms. Yellow Caballero big fan of your work <3 For real though, I'm really excited that your sharing the Weekenders, it was a joy to read and I'm bongocat-ing now that others also get the privilege to read it as well.

Referencing your tags, would you please elaborate of ableism in fandom and, like you said, how fandom treats characters with unpalatable disabilities?

Hi Ms. Bud Lite I'm a big fan of you <3

TL;DR A fear of writing characters of highly marginalized identities shields you from criticism and discomfort, but it's actively stigmatizing to people of these identities and as a writer you really need to get over yourself and write The Icky People.

I guess I'll come out swinging on this one and say that fandom doesn't like severe mental illness. (As a note, when I say severe mental illness (SMI) I mean illnesses such as psychotic disorders, bipolar disorder, substance use disorders, personality disorders, etc)

Obviously, nobody likes people w/SMI. It's just insanely egregious in fandom to me, since fanfic writers absolutely love writing characters or HC characters with depression, anxiety, or a specific variety of PTSD That Isn't Scary. People actively reject any character HCs for a SMI. When people write a character with SMI, they nicely downplay it, ignore it, substitute it for a disorder they like better, or rewrite it. It's completely untolerated, in both headcanons and in fanfiction, and every time I bring it up I always get the most interesting reasons why somebody couldn't possibly acknowledge a character's SMI in their writing. I've heard all of these:

"I don't know enough about the disorder to write it accurately." Do research.

"I'm not X, so I can't really depict it." You probably aren't a cis white man, but you depict those guys just fine.

"It feels insulting to the character." There is no shame in having a SMI.

"I can't understand what it's like, so it's better to be cautious and avoid giving characters stigmatized identities." There are LOTS of experiences that you'll never understand because you've never had them - you just don't want to write anything you're uncomfortable with. People with SMI make you uncomfortable, and you don't want to write anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, or think of a comfort character in an uncomfortable way. SMIs are marginalized differently than solely depression/anxiety/The Nice PTSD, and by refusing to write them you're actively contributing to the stigma.

I think (?) I've spoken in the past about how I believe that the rigorous external and internal policing of writing people of marginalized identities is actively harmful towards efforts to increase diversity of experience and background in fiction. A lot of fanfiction writers are just terrified to write people who they can't directly relate with, because they're worried 'they'll get it wrong' and be Big Cancelled. I think this is negative enough when it prevents people from going outside of their comfort zone, but on a macro level I think this results in people refusing to write characters of marginalized identities as all. It's an insidious thought process, and it's reflected in people's unwillingness to diversity their writing or acknowledge canon diversity.

'Well, I don't understand what it's like to be Black, so I don't want to write Black people'. 'I want to project on this character, so I only want to write them with mental illnesses and identities I have'. 'If I write a marginalized character incorrectly people will yell at me, so I won't write a marginalized character who's marginalized differently than me at all'. Can you imagine writing a lesbian character with a boyfriend because 'you feel uncomfortable writing lesbian experiences'? It's blatantly homophobic. But people do that with disability and race/ethnicity ALL THE TIME.

People with SMI notice that you feel uncomfortable with them. It's obvious. They notice when a character has a SMI + anxiety, and you only write their anxiety. They notice when a character displays symptoms of a SMI in canon, but you write it out. And POC notice when the characters of color are written out. I know we all like to project on the blorbos and relate to them, and in the joys of your own head do whatever, but as a writer if you only stick to identities you're comfortable with you are actively being a worse writer. Which to me is the REAL sin lmfao.

#my asks #thanks for enabling me lizzy if i didn't get this out i would have just vagued for the rest of time #even just beyond all of this on a more subtle lvl. HC people with SMI cowards. just do it. its good for you. #the two times me/a close friend have proposed on a fandom server "hey I read X as having a SUD/being on the schizophrenic spectrum' #there was actual fascinating pushback and rejection #people got MAD. #'blorbo wouldn't be an alcoholic he's not a bad person :(' fuck off #i dont use the word often but its ableism and you can be mentally ill and still ableist #if you dont feel educated enough on something to write it then do research #and while research wont give you everything it's a start #if you feel like you can only write people just like you then frankly? skill issue #i mentioned that the last fic was a bit of a spite fic - well #it was scientifically fascinating how the majority of a fandom wrote/acknowledged a character as depressed and anxious #but actively got incredibly defensive when someone suggested that the psychotic character may have had a psychotic disorder #it was so blatant. very annoying. anyway.