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[eldestjane]

notatamelion -> eldestjane

[outrunningthedark]

The thing I don't think people always realize is just because a character thinks or says something (even about themselves) doesn't make it true. People look at Eddie equating what he did to what Shannon did and take it at face value but Eddie's perception is clouded by his own guilt and his desire to see the best in Shannon (even if it's not refletive of the truth).

Obviously Eddie was wrong but even when he ran away he was still a) providing financially for his family and b) communicating with them. Which yes is the bare minimum for taking care of your child but it's still more than Shannon managed. She literally completely ghosted her own child for two years!

But I think the biggest difference between the two of them is that Eddie recognized what he did wrong, took responsibility for it, and did his best to be a better father to Christopher. Meanwhile Shannon never took responsibility for her own actions and constantly acted like the victim.

Eddie made mistakes but he committed to being there for Chrispher. He wasn't trying to fix him or be the perfect father. He knows he messes up but he also knows that never giving up on your child is more important than any guilt he might feel which Shannon was nowhere near understanding let alone doing before she died.

Anyway, sorry for the ramble. I have a lot of thoughts about this and your takes are great. I honestly don't understand why people try to excuse her behavior. Sorry you have to deal with all these rude ableist people!

Hello, darling! You have made several great points and I thank you for sharing them! re: Eddie's perception of himself and desire to see the best in Shannon, I think the scene between he + Bobby in 3x08 is a clear example of this! "When did I not let [Christopher] down? I wasn't there when he was a baby. Stayed away too long, and it broke his mother." These feelings are a direct result of the way Shannon spoke to him. She never missed an opportunity to remind her husband that he left her to look after Christopher alone, and by the time Eddie came home for good, Shannon needed a break from her own family. Then he tells Bobby he "knew better" than to allow Shannon back into their son's life because "she already left once, broke his heart." Now, knowing what we know about Eddie using Christopher as a way to express his true feelings, this remark was just as much about Eddie as it was their son. Shannon already broke BOTH of their hearts once, and Eddie was always prepared for her to do it again - makes you wonder what kind of relationship they really had after her return, doesn't it? "I'm angry at a dead person, and at myself, because I forgave her...for everything, and it wasn't enough. I wasn't enough." Eddie was Shannon's biggest defender during her prolonged absence, and his support continued once she returned. He internalized every single piece of criticism she threw at him and became convinced he was the sole reason their relationship failed. Eddie wanted to believe that if he accepted full blame/responsibility for what went wrong, Shannon would be willing to give him and their family another chance. He was finally ready to "have her back" the way she needed, but it wasn't enough to make her stay. Something I don’t see mentioned a whole lot (at least in my corner of fandom) in relation to Eddie’s decision to enlist is the statement he made while playing pool in 3x11: “If I hadn’t enlisted, I’d still be working with my Pops.” Every time someone discusses Eddie’s decision to “run away” it revolves around running from Christopher’s diagnosis and his crumbling marriage. I...think there was more to it than that. Eddie and his parents do not have a healthy, loving connection. Much like Shannon, Helena and Ramon have no trouble pointing out when he does something “wrong”. They also have a habit of trying to tell Eddie how to be a parent, right? They think they know what’s *best* for their grandson? Now imagine the mental and emotional toll working alongside his father would have taken on Eddie as he struggled to support his family, save his marriage, and adjust to a life for his son that he never envisioned. None of that makes Eddie’s decision to create distance between himself and his family “acceptable”, it just adds another layer to his thought process.  We’ve talked ad nauseum about Eddie staying in contact with Christopher while overseas, but what I *don’t* think gets enough recognition is the choice he made to stick around once Shannon left both of them behind. This is a guy who willing went to war TWICE to avoid dealing with issues at home. For six years he wasn’t ready to commit to being a consistent presence in his son’s life. Shannon leaves, and instead of panicking, instead of coming up with reasons why his son is better off without him, Eddie STAYS. Eddie takes on THREE JOBS in an attempt to get Christopher whatever he needs. Not only that! Once Eddie realizes that Christopher wishes he were around more often so they can spend time together, he recognizes the error of his ways. In trying to provide for his son, he was robbing him of the father-son relationship Christopher wanted. He was becoming Ramon. Eddie had to get the hell out of El Paso to break the cycle and start anew.  I appreciate that you brought up Eddie never trying to “fix” Christopher because I think it’s reaaaally interesting how Shannon viewed their son’s diagnosis as a negative, yet Eddie went in the total opposite direction the more involved he became. Eddie was dead set on making Christopher believe he is just like every other kid, he can do anything he puts his mind to. This is another instance where I wonder how Eddie truly felt about Shannon’s reaction to everything. If he worried that Christopher would think she left because of his diagnosis, it makes sense for Eddie to act as though Christopher’s limitations are no big deal. Honestly, the “defense” of Shannon and the wish for her to “be better” seems to come from a place of sadness because nobody wants to think about a mother abandoning her child, disabled or not. I see it almost everyday: “She deserved another chance.” “Christopher deserved his mother.” Yeah, he did. And so do all the other kids out there growing up without one. “Redeeming” Shannon does not change the fact that mothers *in real life* abandon their kids all the time. Mothers get second, and third, and fourth chances, and they fuck up because they don’t actually know how to be a mother, and they don’t take the steps to learn.  “Redeeming” Shannon would be a disingenuous representation of motherhood. “Redeeming” Shannon would give the impression that all mothers eventually figure out how to be nurturing, and selfless, and live with no regrets.  Representation doesn’t always have to be *positive* for it to have a positive impact. If a storyline causes you pain, try looking at it from the other side: “Who needs to see this? Is it going to help?” This storyline wasn’t for anyone who wanted a “happy ending”. It was for the people who never got one. 

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[vickyvicarious]

For the fanfic trope ask: Modern au

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Neutral. A good author might be able to sell it, but a bad one will kill it deader than dead.

I have definitely read good modern AUs... but for a lot of historical/fantasy settings, the setting itself is really interesting and I'm not typically inclined to seek to alter that. So I'm kinda "eh, sure" if anything on this one.

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[naanandmarzipan]

“It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me.” Do I live like this? Truly? In a culture hyper-focused on self, this is revolutionary. Counter-cultural. Frankly, crazy. And for me, it’s scary. What if God calls me to do something the world thinks is foolish? Am I willing to risk my fellow man’s potential laughter and ridicule? . And yet, “the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men.” (1 Cor. 1:25 ESV) His foolishness may look crazy to the self-obsessed world, but it’s still smarter and pays off in eternity. If Christ truly lives in me, I need to give him full reign and let him do what he will. I need to represent him well. What Christ am I presenting to the world? . “Who said anything about safe? ‘Course he isn’t safe. But he’s good. He’s the King.” — Mr. Beaver, C.S. Lewis’ “The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe” . #bible #bibleverse #galatians220 #galatians #verseoftheday via @youversion #1corinthians125 #1corinthians #narnia #aslan #notatamelion

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[adhd-slp]

Introduction

Hi! I am a graduate student studying Speech-Language Pathology and I have ADHD. I study communication disorders in school and I research ADHD and neurodivergence in my free time. I love learning and I love sharing what I learn so I decided to create this sideblog (my personal blog is @notatamelion)

My goal for this blog is to share the experiences of other neurodivergent and disabled people and to share information about various disorders and disabilities as well as helpful tips and strategies for ADHD and other neurodivergent individuals.

I don’t pretend to be an expert in anything or to speak for any group of people. When I talk about ADHD I can only talk based on my own experiences and research and when I speak about anything else it is based on research and the experiences of other people. If you really want to learn about something it’s always best to listen to multiple voices in the community. I also hope to reblog and link personal experiences in order to amplify the voices of others as much as possible. I try to be accurate and respectful but I am only human and may make mistakes. Please let me know if I make a mistake and correct me (just try to be kind and respectful).

My askbox is open. I’d love to hear personal experiences or answer any questions about ADHD, communication disorders, or Speech-language Pathology.

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[adrianap-ms-blog]

"Por que não fazer uma sacola?" #artesanatododia #NotATameLion #Aslan #artesanato

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[labweorced]

A magnificent, inspiring version of The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe at Logos Theatre. #yeahthatnarnia #yeahthatgreenville #logostheatre #aslan #notatamelion (at Logos Theatre)

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[eldestjane]

Maybe I'm being unfair to Tohd with an H but I feel like she can do better lol

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[anonymous-mary]

Fierce

I am going to talk for a minute about why Meryl is one of my favorites.

I have been a skating fan since watching Peggy Fleming back in the day. I grew up in Michigan and skated on the lake like most people I knew. I don't remember anyone not having a pair of skates. But watching Peggy glide across the ice and jump was something else again. 

 Over the years I have watched a lot of skating in all the different disciplines. My son competed for a while and I learned a lot more about it. It is not about the best jumper or spinner only, it is the mental toughness. Many skaters have been said to leave it on the practice ice. When the pressure is off they are beautiful but they can't put together two great performances in front of the judges. 

Michelle Kwan would concentrate so hard waiting for her music to start it was like a wave of fierceness was washing over her. She would pull into herself and refuse to fail.

Meryl has that same quality. Over the years you could just see it getting stronger. Becoming the character and refusing to be defeated. Refusing to be anything but perfect. 

For all the people that see her just as sweet,classy and talented.You are missing my favorite part of her.

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[riahscuppatea]

God

I love that God does the unexpected. I love that He uses the people we wouldn't think of. I love that He is constantly throwing a wrench into the cogs of religion. I love that God is so sovereign and so certain, so un-tamable, and that He is, truly, Good. 

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[eldestjane]

Sophie's definitely kiki right?

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