#now we are breaking up

[kokaibop]

OH SEHUN as HWANG CHIHYUNG

now, we are breaking up (2021—2022) episode 07

#sehun #exo #now we are breaking up #exosnet #exoedit #kdrama #kdramaedit #ultkpop #oh sehun #userkitty #userjoanna #wabisarah #mine* #gifs* #exo* #osh* #nwbu

[sunmiyane]

Song Hyekyo excellence ✨️

#song hyekyo #song hye kyo #korean actress #kgoddesses #capri-ccioso #the glory #encounter #now we are breaking up

[i-got-the-feels]

I am so glad these two are getting the attention they deserve

#K dramas #why her #vincenzo #big mouth #extraordinary attorney woo #now we are breaking up #hospital playlist #it's okay to not be okay #our blues #kim joo hun #Choi young joon #kdrama actors

[beyourselfchulanmaria]

在公園���公共場所我最恨看到抽菸的人不將他們的菸蒂帶走，請勿將菸蒂丟在地上，這是最基本的教養；如果有人敢在我眼前丟菸蒂，我肯定會過去糾正他(她)，我不怕被打，因為他得先評估是否能打贏我。

In parks and public places, I hate to see people who smoke don’t take their cigarette butts away, don't throw your cigarette butts on the ground, this is the most basic education; if someone dares to throw a cigarette butt in front of my eyes, I will definitely pass to correct him (her), I am not afraid of being beaten, because he has to evaluate whether he can beat me first.

Lan~*

#chu lan #taiwan artist city life #fine craft artist #leather art artist #live love laugh #beautiful life #eat live love #朱蘭皮藝 #台灣工藝人 #smoking depends on feeling #抽菸端憑感覺 #이무진 #lee mujin #come rest with me #now we are breaking up

[kesmat-khaled]

والله كان نفسي يابني😂

#now we are breaking up

[downton-dany]

#song hye kyo #korean actress #hallyu #korean #chaumet #beautiful #autumn in my heart #descendants of the sun #now we are breaking up #full house #encounter #that winter the wind blows

[sheilajsn]

Mi año en dramas – Lo que aprendí en el 2022 – primera parte

2022 fue un año dif’icil con muchas cambios y muchas pruebas personales que impactaron de una manera u otra todos los aspectos de mi vida. (more…)

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#A Business Proposal #Bad and Crazy #Breakup Probation A Week #Convenience Store Fling #Crazy Love #Forecasting Love and Weather #Ghost Doctor #Hello Me! #Now We Are Breaking Up #Our Beloved Summer #River Where the Moon Rises #Strangers from Hell #Tomorrow #Tomorrow with You #Twenty-Five Twenty-One #year review

[pixuandrea]

El destino llega como una coincidencia. Pero si pasas por al lado, es una coincidencia, y si te aferras a ello, es el destino.

#now we are breaking up #ahora que hemos roto #kdrama #serie coreana #serie #coreana #dorama #quote #frase #sentence #trailer #destino #coincidencia #aferrarse #pasar al lado #amor #romance

[sweetestescapefromreality]

I’m returning the smile you gave me.

#words #let go of your love #now we are breaking up #breakup

[idontwanttowhy]

Now, We Are Breaking Up (2021)

*In heavily Korean-accented textbook French* comme çi comme ça...

Synopsis: Cold-hearted fashion designer Ha Young-Eun has a one-night stand with a man she encounters while visiting Paris for fashion week, and thinks nothing of it. But the two meet again when Young-Eun poses as her friend on a blind date. Young-Eun is clearly not interested in getting to know him, but the date, freelance photographer Yoon Jae-Gook, is curious about her. Fate has his back when Young-Eun has to enlist him to save a fashion shoot, and when, back in Seoul, her company also hires him. They are drawn to each other, and find they also have a connected past.

AC Overall: 7/10, bit slow but complex and intriguing story

There's...a lot going on in this show. Yet simultaneously, not a lot at all. It's definitely a mature melodrama without the typical happy ending, so if you're looking for a cute rom-com, or even satisfying romance, definitely look elsewhere.

The major message in this show seems to be: love is not necessarily the dream we are usually sold. Love takes on different forms, can be letting go as much as it is holding on. Maybe the writers, like me, just finished re-reading Paulo Coelho's The Alchemist or are having a Deepak Chopra moment or something. But they have a point. Be prepared to be both sad with the ways things develop, and comforted by more expansive ways of loving others than we're use to in the most popular kdramas, and media in general.

AC Review with spoilers:

The plot is so wild I couldn't stop watching to find out what happens, despite the show being slow off the bat: as an aspiring fashion designer studying abroad in Paris, Young-Eun encounters Soo Wan, a fellow Korean also visiting Paris short-term, through his brother; they start dating, quickly develop a summer romance, etc, but en route for a reunion/rekindling in Seoul, Soo Wan dies in a car accident. Homegirl thinks she was stood up (whereas she was LITERALLY GHOSTED), and holds a grudge against love and relationships. 10 years later, we see her on a blind date posing as her friend/coworker Hwang Chi-Sook, where her date is Jae-Gook, a photographer...and the guy she had a one night stand with the night before. They exchange pleasantries without addressing the éléphante in the room, and Young-Eun makes an excuse to leave abruptly. But as fate would have it, the photographer for an important photoshoot drops out, so Young-Eun enlists Jae-Gook's help. He jumps at the opportunity to see her again and is intrigued when he realizes she isn't the real Chi-Sook at the shoot. They flirt; he toys with her in ways that are supposed to be sexy, but are decidedly not. They meet again in Seoul, and "flirt" some more, but Young-Eun clearly has her reservations about getting romantically involved. But he is persistent, and she lets go just enough for feelings to develop (theoretically, we don't actually see much feeling on her part...yikes). Soon after, of course, a spanner is thrown in the works: Jae-Gook realizes that Young-Eun is the same Young-Eun from his late brother's romantic tryst while visiting him in Paris for a summer 10 years ago...his late brother's GREAT LOVE, the one the brother almost broke his engagement for (yes he was actually cheating on his FIANCÉE with Young-Eun, who also happens to work with Young-Eun frequently in Seoul). It was Young-Eun who he was on his way to meet before he died in the car accident. And GET THIS. Turns out the car accident was inadvertently caused by the fiancée. Because she thought Soo Wan was going to run off with Young-Eun and leave her behind, she followed him and swerved in front of his car to stop him from going, but he swerves into construction on the sidewalk.......AND Soo Wan had decided moments before, on a call with Jae-Gook no less, that he was going to break up with Young-Eun because he couldn't face making the "wrong" choice for his family!! PHEW. And with all that the whole time I sat there thinking...GAH. With all this history, these two want to be together? Their entangled-beyond-belief past sounds like a giant RED FLAG to me! Not to mention the complication of being the (half, but still) brother of the man that made her swear off love?? And sir, how can you still want to be with the woman your brother was hoping to be with??? (Idk if I'm just immature, but it's a little icky to me, tbh. Akin to dating a close friend's ex-partner...) AND she's who the mother blames for the death of her eldest (and only biological) son! To me, there were enough reasons to not continue any sort of relationship. But alas, ~allofthat~ was more of a concern for everyone around them than it was for the stars of the show. And the storyline would have you believe they were the ones meant to be together all along, with Young-Eun "saving Jae-Gook from turning away from his career" after buying and cherishing one of his first photos on the streets of Paris all those years ago, without knowing it was his photo. And with Jae-Gook inadvertently naming Young-Eun's clothing line that summer too--he had left an encouraging note on a post-it in an aspiring designer's portfolio...the portfolio Soo Wan (the dead brother, keep up) was tasked with delivering--and thus, how Soo Wan and Young-Eun met. GOSH. Anyway, they ponder how weird life is for a hot second, and promptly resume hooking up. Lovely. But their actual downfall ended up being that Jae-Gook's life leads him to Paris, and Young-Eun's to stay in Seoul.

Knowing that a relationship would be a ticking time bomb, Jae-Gook and Young-Eun agree to date for two seasons (spring and summer of course) and part ways when they will inevitably need to, lest they dim each other's light. A ~mature~ decision in some ways, and one not everyone can handle. I can't help but go back to The Alchemist, how the main character finds the woman he wants to be with on his way to achieving his "Personal Legend"/life's pursuit, and makes the hard decision to leave her behind and continue his perilous journey rather than stay. Like our leads here, he understood love to be a guiding force on the path of life, that can push us in a direction we perceive as away from love--when it's truly in the direction of personal fulfillment, where love is at its peak. Had they stayed with their loved ones, all would have seemed nice enough, but ultimately not as great as having left. So, they decided to let themselves pursue what their hearts desired, even though it led them to be in different places.

The side stories, though, breathed more realistic less chaotic life into the drama. Chi-Sook, Young-Eun's chaebol friend, has an adorable arc where she falls for someone she isn't typically attracted to: Seok Do-Hoon, aka the sweeetest man ever, and a grounding match for silly, immature Chi-Sook. Their love was that of holding on, with him loving her regardless of her clear attachment and daddy issues, and resulting misconceptions about our fav. He portrayed a steady, consistent love that didn't demand anything of her beyond her self.

Young-Eun and Chi-Sook's childhood friend Mi-Sook, however, had a love through letting go. She gets diagnosed with late-stage cancer, and prepares for her death by loving as much as she could: through teaching her young daughter how to do things on her own, like bathing, tying her shoes, doing her hair; forgiving her husband for cheating (even asking the side chick over for tea and family shopping...IMAGINE); fulfilling her dream of modeling for Young-Eun's show; and just being present as much as she physically could be. She decided her form of love would be letting go of the future she had imagined, and reckoning with her present in the best way she could.

I watched this drama on Viki, where comments gave me insight into other viewers' thoughts while watching and I gotta say---unsurprisingly people did not understand why the main couple couldn't be long distance, or why Young-Eun wouldn't just move to Paris when she also got a job offer that seemed like it would line up perfectly with Jae-Gook's Paris plans. But we have to understand that love shouldn't anchor. So they took their love with them, using it to walk with their heads high, knowing somewhere in the world there is someone that continues to love them. And I think that's beautiful and probably the best decision for both of them. But it's also the reason the drama gets such mixed reviews. (Also, the amount of people cussing Young-Eun for not accepting the Paris job offer...she knew it was a bad offer?? And why is the onus on her to move when Jae-Gook could have just as well kept his studio in Seoul??? Why were you not also cussing him for making plans to go back to Paris???? aNyWaY.)

Loved the message of the drama, but the experience of watching it was like waiting for water to boil. A good chunk of it was them deciding whether the opposition they faced could be trumped by their love for each other. And than love, I gotta be honest, was not portrayed well by the actors, especially Song Hye-Ko. She had the same deadpan expression as in Descendants of the Sun. I barely felt any chemistry, just had to ~trust~ that they loved each other deeply. Not entirely their fault though, there were not many scenes with intimacy between them that could've shown love. But, when you imagine their love was as great as they said, you can understand the decisions they make. I'll end the review with Jae Gook's and Young-Eun's last thoughts, respectively: "Above the love we left behind, life flows. While the unfading love stays behind there."; "The promises I made with you. Your love has made a path. Walking down that path is my response."

#Now We Are Breaking Up #kdramareview #Nowwearebreakingupreview

[noorfanartkd]

#Now We Are Breaking Up

[kokaibop]

OH SEHUN as HWANG CHIHYUNG

now, we are breaking up (2021—2022) episode 09

#sehun #exo #now we are breaking up #exosnet #exoedit #kdrama #kdramaedit #ultkpop #oh sehun #userkitty #userjoanna #wabisarah #mine* #gifs* #exo* #osh* #nwbu #i should just schedule these bc they always get buried in my drafts #also skipped ep8 bc i only got 4 gifs out of it #</33

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[youngjedisubs]

Now, We Are Breaking Up

[SBS WEB-DL]

COMPLETE

#Now We Are Breaking Up #지금 헤어지는 중입니다

[xandrikart]

The most beautiful thing about Drawtectives is that you can choose any combination and you will be right. But no way I'm ignoring a beautiful garb next to York.

#iiii overworked my wrist and had to take a break from drawing #now I'm trying to remember how to hold stylus #Kids... do stretches #I was trying to find the original meme and did not succeed #ALSO I SPENT TWO DAYS NO KIDDING TRYING TO FIGURE OUT IS IT “WE HAVE” #“WE'VE GOT” OR “WE GOT” AND I JUST GAVE UP #drawtectives #drawfee #art

[kesmat-khaled]

🤣🤣

#now we are breaking up