#on parenting

[steelblaidd]

I have seen a number of people wondering why Tom and Sabine didn't get Marinette into a new school to get her away from Chloe's bullying.

Based on family experiences we can see a couple reasons.

Chloe's behavior has been escalating as she has gotten a better grasp on how to take advantage of Andre's position as Mayor and therefore what she can get away with. You can tell by the way she threatens Mr. Damocles in a way that if he had actually protested she might have been able to deny. She has become much more overt and direct in her threats in the last year. And she states that she is planning to get worse.

Marinette naturally tries to down play how bad things are until they get to a breaking point. And she tries not to cause her parents distress. It's not unlikely that they are only recently aware that Chloe has been a problem and have no Idea just how bad it is. Kids this age frequently avoid telling their parent's about issues they are having. Even if their parent's are supportive. As Marinette has observed her teachers not doing anything she may not think her parents can't or won't either and so just doesn't tell them.

I know we like to Head Cannon Sabine as having figured Ladybug out but that hasn't been shown, and as well as she knows Marinette there are still things she doesn't know.

She may have practice hiding things from her mom and dad that predates becoming a super hero.

#ml derision #ml season 5 #on parenting #miraculous ladybug #tom and sabine

[wolfiemcwolferson]

Me to me when my kids ask to FaceTime me before school because they want me to see their outfits and tell me to have a good day and that they hope I have fun

#it’s important for them to see me do things for myself but my god #obviously I love my kids but also I just really fucking LIKE them #Logan gets personal #on parenting

[daydreamerdrew]

from Good Bones by Maggie Smith

#poetry #on parenting #my posts #book excerpts

[placegrenette]

Source.

I think about this graph sometimes. Or, rather, I attempt to think about it, and find I can't wrap my head around it. What was it like to live in a world where parents routinely outlived their children? In the world. Until about a hundred years ago, the world where parents routinely outlived their children was the only world that had ever existed.

From Antonia Fraser's The Weaker Vessel, about life for women in 17th-century England:

William Brownlow kept a meticulous recording of [his wife's] child-bearing from 27 June 1626 when their first child Richard was born, who died in October of that year, down to the birth of their nineteenth child twenty-two years later... At one point, between 1638 and 1646, seven children, born at almost exactly yearly intervals, died in a row: Thomas, Francis, Benjamin, George, James, Maria, and Anne. William Brownlow's exclamations of grief as each new tragedy struck show some attempt at reconciliation to the workings of providence -- "Though my children die, the Lord liveth and they exchange but a temporal life for an eternal one" -- but absolutely no diminuition in grief. Little George, his fifteenth child, managed to live from October 1641 to 29 July of the following year; when he died, his father wrote, "I was at ease but Thou O God hast broken me asunder and shaken me to pieces."

Or take the case of Peter the Great, quite possibly the most powerful man on earth for much of his reign: of his fifteen legitimate children, eleven died before their fifth birthday and a twelfth only made it to age six and a half. The chart above has a more expansive definition of "child" (to age 15) and even by its count, Peter the Great and the Brownlows were particularly unlucky. But still.

The other day, at a book sale, I picked up the diaries of Martha Farnsworth, who grew up in Kansas in the 1870s; her only child was born in January 1892 and lived five months. You can read the entries yourselves: January 24th, "The dearest, sweetest little treasure ever a mother had"; April 15th, "I can't thank God enough, for sending this baby into my life"; May 23rd, "My little treasure, don't get sick, for it makes mother's heart ache and ache"; May 31st, "My heart aches with fear"; June 27th, "God sent the angels for her and her terrible suffering ended and mine commenced."

And then I put the book back and went to pick up my kids from school.

And I think now: Martha Farnsworth would trade places with me in a heartbeat. Two children, both of them well past the age of five. One of them missed school today with a cold. I'm not worried. If you zoom out far enough I am in a cohort of the luckiest parents who ever lived.

So why don't I feel my good fortune more?

Part of it, granted, is that constant grateful joy is not necessarily the most useful tool in the parent's toolbox. Sometimes you have to stop thanking God that your children are alive and start pointing out to them that if they're going to borrow your phone then they need to tell you when someone's trying to reach you (for example). But in theory one can correct them, or have activities separate from them, and still think, "Wow, I'm a lucky dog," all the time, because if your kid is alive and healthy and growing then you are a lucky dog all that time.

I want to make a larger sociological statement, about how "X doesn't make us happier," for whatever feature of the modern world X, maybe should have very little value as a criticism. The tenfold decline in child mortality has to be one of the most profound shifts in human history; if we can take that for granted, then there may be no limit to our ability to make lemons out of lemonade. But I can't criticize other people for failing to do what I seem very bad at doing myself.

#not sure how to tag this #on parenting #and modernity #and the elusiveness of contentment

[faeriefully]

Good morning Miss Faerie :)

I had a question that I'm going over. Is corporal punishment biblically prescribed for parents?

You don't have to answer if you don't want to. But I'd love your thoughts if you don't mind sharing!

Good morning ☀️

For your question:

“Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol. My son, if your heart is wise, my heart too will be glad.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭23‬:‭13‬-‭15‬ ‭ESV‬

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“Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13‬:‭24‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22‬:‭15‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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“The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭29‬:‭15‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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Yes, the Bible prescribes it. It also teaches how we all should view discipline, for at all times it ultimately comes from God— whether child or adult.

“Blessed is the man whom you discipline, O Lord, and whom you teach out of your law, to give him rest from days of trouble, until a pit is dug for the wicked.”

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭94‬:‭12‬-‭13‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭1‬:‭7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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“It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12‬:‭7‬-‭11‬ ‭ESV‬

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The Bible also gives instruction to parents on how they are to treat their children, not exploit nor exasperate them.

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭6‬:‭4‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Hope that helps.

#anon #on parenting #good morning anon

[chequerootlurks]

Our kiddo (she/her pronouns) auditioned for the school musical! She’s never done a musical before. Alas, we adults couldn’t watch the audition.

I’m a former theatre kid, a band kid, and once upon a time Director of the Great Lakes Navy Choir. I gave her some voice pointers, but I also rein myself in, and let her develop her skills.

I’ve had my time. It’s her turn now.

She said she was nervous till she got on stage. Then it was like “I got this! This is where I belong!”

She had to do a monologue and part of the song, which she has been practicing diligently! She’s also been rehearsing the dance moves as well. Dance auditions are tomorrow; as are callbacks.

I’m highly optimistic. The director was impressed she’d memorized the song, and the choir director asked her to be in choir next year.

They had her sing twice: once with vibrato, and a second time more silky. I’m proud of her to be able to project different techniques.

It’s so cool to watch her do something and love it; especially since I love it too.

My better half and I are very proud of our theatre kiddo!

Now here’s hoping she makes callbacks!

#a personal post #theatre kid #on parenting #proud dads

[anexperimentallife]

I love this.

#parenting

[taffywabbit]

they should invent a new type of "staying in bed for 2-3 hours after you wake up repeatedly opening and closing apps on your phone" where it makes you feel awesome and energized and emotionally fulfilled

#buny text #I'm fine i've just been staying up too late playing bg3 the past few nights #and then wanting to wake up before noon so my parents don't say anything rude to me so i end up getting less sleep to facilitate that #and it's catching up to me #i feel like this explanation maybe undermines my previous statement of 'I'm fine' a bit but I'm fine i promise #look at my lop posts boy

[mostly-funnytwittertweets]

#parenting #childhood #twitter #meme #memes #tweets #tweet #funny #lol #humor

[tchaikovsgay]

my step mom was asking me more questions about the nonbinary thing and after talking to me for a bit, she said "oh, so youre a rosé! not a chardonnay transitioning to a merlot, just your own unique type" which was such a middle aged white woman way to frame it, but i cannot lie gang. it did make me want to cry

#i love having supportive parents 😭

[thehmn]

A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.

Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.

Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.

And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.

#children #parenting

[wolfiemcwolferson]

Sometimes parenting is just arguing with a six year old version of yourself about the fact that the sun is high in the sky and it is 63 degrees outside. While YOU might be wearing a heavy black cardigan and jeans because it’s in your aesthetic and you’re willing to suffer, THEY will melt in a jeans/sweater/pullover combo and you’re just trying to save them the discomfort.

#Logan gets personal #on parenting

[beaft]

a small child came into the café today and asked to buy a chocolate truffle. he tapped a credit card on the reader and it did not go through, mainly because it was not a credit card but in fact a junior cinema pass. i gently explained he couldn't use that to buy things in shops and he looked so gutted that i was like "...but just this once you can have it for free, don't tell my boss though" he said thank you and walked out with his truffle and as he went i heard him chuckling to himself and saying "yes..... yes!!!!!" like the sickos comic

#slightly dotty child or world's most precocious scam artist? you decide. #i asked where his parents were and apparently they were queuing for a table at the restaurant across the street #he even pointed them out to me #so don't worry this was not an unsupervised bébé #be shh now #containment breach

[daydreamerdrew]

#on parenting #on grief #my posts #articles

[cpericardium]

seems reasonable

#twitter #parenting

[literallyaflame]

how do conservatives think talking to children works? if a four year old came up to me and said “i’m a cat!!” i would say “really? what makes you a cat?” and they’d say some shit like “i have claws >:)” and i’d be like “oh wow, you do have claws. but wait, i thought cats had pointed ears!” and they’d say “they DO!!!” and then i’d pull up a picture of an elf and ask “is THIS a cat?” and they’d yell “NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO”

u wouldn’t say “fucking hell, Emily, get it together. this is the real world”

#yes this applies to gender too #if a kid says ‘i’m a girl!!’ it might be because they’re a girl or #it might be because they’ve got an incomplete picture of what a ‘girl’ is in their brains #and as a parent ur job is to help them complete those pictures #by asking them questions and giving them new information and playing w them