#or with no guidance on how to cope with it in a healthy way

[rodolfoparras]

okay so this is based off a dream that I had so I apologize in advance if this doesn't fully make sense.

but canine hybrid!price who's retired. he's served pretty long, and when he finally retired he was reluctant. though he didn't have much of a choice because his hearing had been slowly deteriorating over the past years. don't get him wrong he can still hear better than the average human, but his ears are no where as good as they used to be. it's not till he retires that he meets you. I think that you would be the one to point out his hearing, because he's always used to being around loud things that when you guys are watching a movie or something he has it on nearly the loudest volume possible.

once he finds out he looks into how to better take of his ears, which you help with. unknowingly, price's ears are very sensitive, and when you gently stroke them for the first time it sends a shiver down his spine instant boner. it's something that you note for later. but once you get into a rhythm and his ears are about as healthy as can be, you start to incorporate them into sex. whispering praises in his ear, gently stroke them, even just softly blow them, etc.

OH! and just imagine dressing up and going on a date with price at a restaurant, and when you sit down and get further into the dinner you start whispering absolutely filthy things you wanna do to him, just quiet enough that only price would be able to hear. if he walks out the restaurant with a boner and flushed in the face, no one says anything.

Thinking about Price who really isn’t that upset about going into retirement. What upsets him the most is the loneliness that comes with it

Once upon a time Price had found a mate. Back then he thought that the relationship would last forever. He had even promised himself that if he were to go into retirement he’d do it with them but they have long passed away, leaving him heartbroken and lonely.

Work had been his way to cope with the sorrow but now that he was retired he felt cornered. He had nothing but his loss to focus on. On top of that he was too old to find someone to fill the spot, not that he was thinking about finding a new mate anyway.

Needless to say Price had fallen into depression so much so 141 had forced him out the house and into a bar where he’d met you, another canine hybrid, one who’s much younger than him, and who had for whatever reason taken interest in him

You approached him, offered to buy him a drink, talked for a while before exchanging numbers and promising to meet up another time.

Price didn’t want to do it at first, wasn’t looking for a relationship at all. But he thought that it would do him good to make a new friend.

And Price had been right. He now had someone who frequently got him out of the house. Sometimes the two of you went to bars and sometimes you opted to go to parks.

Sometimes you didn’t leave the house at all. Instead you’d visit him with take out in hand. Sometimes you’d stroll into his kitchen and make him home cooked dinner, before putting on some movie to watch (something he appreciated a lot)

And it was nice being friends with a fellow canine hybrid because not only did you understand him on a personal level, but he could also offer you some guidance and advice, and for the first time since his retirement Price felt useful again.

However time continued to pass and his hearing loss got worse, his vision was even starting to blur and for the first time in his life Price needed the help of someone to manage his day to day task but he couldn’t get himself to ask.

Luckily for him you could tell he was struggling with something. You had first noticed it during your movie nights when he’d turn the volume up to the highest setting. You didn’t mind, thought that, like the typical canine, he enjoyed to be surrounded by sounds but it was excessive even for a canine hybrid.

But then you noticed how he’d rarely respond when you greeted him at the door, back turned to you while focusing on whatever task he was doing in the moment.

One time when the two of you were at the store you had told Price that you were going to go to another isle to look for something but he hadn’t heard you at all, looked around and saw you were gone and went into full panic mode.

You spent the rest of the day comforting him, reassuring him while he told you about the issue he’s been tackling lately.

As a canine hybrid yourself, you could understand that he was struggling, so you did everything in your power to help him out.

In one of the articles you read it said that training yourself to locate sounds would help improve your hearing. So you’d take him out in fields, running around in your full canine form and doing your best to identify the different type of sounds you were hearing.

He hadn’t wanted it at first, claimed that you can’t teach an old dog how to sit but he did it anyway, and even though he struggled a lot, you loved the way his face lit up every time he got a sound right.

Another tip was to take good care of the ears. Price would huff and roll his eyes every time you’d show up with a wash cloth and trimmers in hand but he’d let you do whatever you want, even feeling his face burn and mouth dry up at your tentative touch.

Something that wasn’t stated in the article but something you did anyway was that you offered to be his extra pair of ears. You had offered to help him out in his day to day tasks or even when out on hunts.

That offer had him speechless, frozen in place even, because it felt so intimate, more intimate than carrying your bite on his neck.

You had basically offered to be an extension of him and expected him to act normally.

See the two of you have grown much closer to the point where you might as well be courting him. However he still carried someone else’s mark on his neck. He was already claimed. But by offering this, you had basically said you were ready to take it further with him, despite everything.

Price hasn’t felt arousal in so long but when you have him pinned under your weight, while blowing onto his sensitive ears, he can feel blood pooling to the lower half of his body.

But it doesn’t stop there. When you notice just how sensitive they are, you lightly nip at them, hearing the whines and whimpers that escape his lips before he grinds down onto your clothed dick.

You even even yank on his ears, blunt nails digging into soft skin and leaving marks on it as you inch closer to your release, letting everyone know that even though he didn’t carry your scent or bite on his neck, he was yours anyway

#I wrote this in a fever induced haze i hppe it’s ok idk where this came from #alec answers #call of duty #john price x reader #john price x male reader #captain john price #john price #captain john price x male reader #captain john price x reader #dom male reader #top male reader #sub male character #bottom male character

[writing-in-glitter-pen]

Genshin Men With a Sweetheart Who is Stress-Eating

This one is kind of an intense topic, but I thought it would be a good comfort read for someone weathering this problem. You're not alone, you are completely normal, AND BEAUTIFUL! Our genshin boys are here to reassure you of that and give you all the love and support you deserve ♡

Diluc, Kaeya, Itto, Childe x gn!reader II comfort, romance

Content Warnings: Depictions of fear/anxiety/stress, descriptions of stress eating.

I am not a medical professional. Stress eating is not an eating disorder within itself, but can be a component of an eating disorder. It is not a healthy coping mechanism and can make stress worse as it generates feelings of guilt and shame. In this piece, I'm trying to remove the guilt and shame from the habit and bring comfort, not give official medical advice on ways to treat it. The alternatives I use are only tips I've researched in overcoming the compulsion. If you experience this habit, please tell a medical professional so that you can be given proper guidance on how to manage it!

♡sending love♡

Diluc would be concered at first. The first time he witnessed your habit, you were sitting at the bar during one of his busier shifts. You were agressively tapping your foot and your face was marred with a worried expression while bringing the cashews from the free bowl on the counter to your mouth in rapid succession. Something was clearly bothering you, but he was hesitant to pull the bowl away or interfere with your soothing by inserting himself. He wanted to let you know that he was there for you, that you could talk to him, that he would comfort you if you let him---but he wasn't sure it would help. So he discreetly watched you for the rest of the night (as he normally did, never able to take his eyes off of his beautiful partner), setting a bowl of clementines and a glass of water in front of you as well, touching the small of your back comfortingly as he did. You took your time peeling the clementines and finishing your glass of water, feeling better after slowing your actions down. He still gets worried about you when he sees you engaging in your habit, only because he wants to fix what is bothering you, though he knows it's not always within his power to do so. You were the most precious thing in his life—he would fight the entire world if it meant bringing you an ounce of solace. He knows the action soothes you, so he makes sure to put food that will support your body and make you feel good in front of you---a bowl of cherries or strawberries or grapes, pressing a sweet kiss to your head, your cheek, your mouth as he does. If you wanted a comfort food, that was an entirely different story--it would be in your hands immediately, but if just engaging in the action was soothing, the only way he knew to help would be to make sure you wouldn't get a stomachache and that your body felt its best.

Kaeya, like Diluc, would also be concerned. He would interfere, but not for any reason other than wanting to make sure you were ok. After he came home to you staring off into the distance with fear in your eyes as you shoved a spoon into a tray of apple pie over and over, he put his hand over yours, halting your action for a moment, asking, "is something the matter, love?". He wouldn't let you feel embarrassed ashamed for even a moment. He just wanted to understand what was compelling you to self-soothe this way. He would let you vent to him about whatever it was that was causing you such immense stress. If he could fix it, he would have you two come up with a plan of action to right it together. If you couldn't solve it that night, or it wasn't in his power to help you solve it, he would snuggle up next to you on the couch and ask for a spoonful himself. The compulsion just became dessert as you two shared it until you'd had enough. You enjoyed the treat together, because he would never let you sit with your troubles alone.

Itto would take a while to notice. He just thought you liked food as much as he did. He wasn't the most observant guy, so he wouldn't immediately clock the stress weighing on your features. He'd see you tucking into a big bowl of ramen noodles and he, the perpetually hungry oni he is, would only think to ask for a bite. Then another. Then another. Until you were both fighting to slurp down the soup. If he saw you compulsively eating, he'd just assume you were hungry and take you to get something better to eat or make you something better to eat himself. Have you ever tried this guy's yakisoba? Of course you have. It's delicious. After he caught on, he didn't stop his process of making/getting you food that would actually comfort and fill you instead of letting you eat whatever was in front of you. He discovered that, even though he didn't know it at the time, he was supporting you by having you in the kitchen with him or sitting beside him at a ramen stand whenever you were in these episodes of pain. That just being near you and diverting your attention to food you actually wanted was the best way he could support you. After you decided you were done with the Yakisoba, he'd hug you around the waist with one hand and pick your plate up with the other, kissing the top of your head and saying, "My pretty sweetheart with an oni's appetite. I couldn't have asked for a more perfect partner!".

Childe knew what stress-eating was before you showed signs of it...because he stress eats too. He noticed it in himself after he had joined the Fatui; the anxiety of his family's well being hanging in the balance, the grueling hours he had to put in, the insecurity and misdirected anger, all showed up in the need to consume. His heart ached when he noticed you doing it--he empathized with the pain in your chest and disruption in your stomach. He wasn't going to make you do anything you didn't want to do, but he would offer to take you on a run or ask you to spar with him when he noticed you engaging in the habit. What worked for him was to get his blood pumping and stimulate himself in a different activity, instead of sitting with the stress he needed to compulsively soothe. After he wore you out, he would give you a space to talk about whatever was going on that was causing you to engage while he held you close. He would assure you that you are loved, that many people, even him, developed this habit, you aren't alone in your plight, and that you had absolutely nothing you needed to be ashamed about. This was a normal compulsion you experienced in response to a situation where you were suffering. All he cared about was making sure the scource of the stress was disposed of, so you wouldn't be in pain any longer.

#genshin x reader #childe x reader #kaeya x reader #kaeya x you #childe #childe x you #genshin ajax #genshin childe #kaeya x y/n #kaeyagenshinimpact #kaeya x gn reader #childe genshin x reader #childe x gender neutral reader #itto x you #itto x gender neutral reader #genshin comfort #kaeya comfort #childe comfort #diluc comfort #diluc ragnivindr x reader #diluc x you #diluc x gn reader #diluc x gender neutral reader #diluc x reader #diluc x y/n #genshin kaeya #kaeya x gender neutral reader #tartaglia x reader #ajax tartaglia #tartaglia x y/n

[tumblingxelian]

The Fraught Family Ties of the Rose-Xiao Long Household:

Sorry for the ramble, I wanted to share something born of a discussion I had with someone regarding the canonical relationship on the Rose-Xiao Long sisters & their father figures.

So, I often find Tai (& Qrow) propped up as good father figures who maybe just had some moments of weakness but either got better long before canon or during the show and who are super close with Ruby & Yang with very healthy relationships.

Given possibly my most popular post, (Yang & Ruby's childhood) I don't think this is a universal stance, certainly not these days, and I don't think its well supported in canon either.

This doesn't mean that love isn't there, but love and resentment can live in the same house and the Rose-Xiao Long household is far more complex than I think people give it credit for.

Now, some will probably highlight positive tones and references in the early volumes, but here's the thing. A child growing up around something can get used to a lot. Ruby & Yang are clearly very used to Qrow stumbling home utterly wasted, even carried by strangers and needing to take care of him. This is normal to them and neither show any resentment towards it until on their last nerve.

That is to say, Ruby and Yang are fine with Qrow's drinking and smile through it, riiiight up until they themselves are on the edge of snapping real hard over things such as in V6.

Neither of them express their trauma like say, Jaune does, who tends to be quite open with his resentment and prone to lashing out. The sisters smile through it, they may express frustration or anger at other things, but not their loved one's, which makes it easy to pretend everything is cool and normal.

Hell, keeping things light with humor is explicitly noted to be how Yang copes and Ruby is shown consistently beginning to show sadness before quickly bottling it up up. This is just how they handle negative emotions they cant comfortably express.

Thus, while Ruby expressing frustration at Yang giving Tai like advice in V1 doesn't indicate hostility, nor does her being all smiles around his presence in V3's opening indicate everything is super awesome.

After all, things are good at that moment, but let's take a look at the end of V3.

Tai is clearly worrying and trying to fuss over Ruby. But she is very neutral on the whole thing, mostly just trying to get intel on what the fuck happened from him and not being remotely upset when Qrow makes him leave. She show's a bit more vulnerability around Qrow, but is still very focused on the practical questions of what happened.

Its only when she's alone with Yang, that Ruby really becomes expressive with her emotions and more to the point, shows outright uncertainty in what to do. This leads her to being shocked when Yang is in no fit state t provide her with the guidance and support she clearly craves and expected.

Ruby also specifically addresses her letters to Yang and broadly speaking doesn't really seem to think about Tai all that much. Again I don't think she dislikes him, but given she openly acknowledges Yang as the one who raised her & Yang herself noted she had to keep the family together...

Well, I think that Ruby doesn't really perceive Tai as a parent, strictly speaking. In the sense that I don't believe she views Tai as someone to go to for comfort or advice or guidance.

He's her dad and she loves him, but he's less of an adult to her than Yang was. In that same vein Qrow is a Huntsmen, her mentor and uncle yes, but the former I think inform her behavior with him more than the latter.

Now, let's also compare Tai and Yang's relationship a little.

We know Tai taught her how to fight, but he doesn't show any real understanding of how her Semblance works or her fighting style given she has utilized plenty of blocks, dodges and clever strategies in the first three volumes. What's more him critiquing her for fighting that way and making it her fault when he taught her feels suspect to me.

(I would note it was Yang who realized Ruby needed CQC help before anyone else, so she clearly thought deeply on this stuff.)

But beyond that, we see Yang is heavily isolated, both from how the camera work frames her. But also because she us housed in a guest room and that Tai, while obviously unhappy about what happened overall seems far more focused on Ruby in terms of trying to provide some care. What's more, when she's clearly distressed he walks away and leaves her to stew.

Yang's shown still doing lots of work around the house, despite everything and his efforts to 'help' her are all about getting her back into the fight over worrying for her safety like he did Ruby.

This is a big thing for me, Tai was clearly deeply upset when Qrow wanted to speak to Ruby alone and terrified when she left.

Meanwhile when it comes to 'helping' Yang its all about getting back into the action and going after Ruby. He doesn't seem to mind the idea of sending her into danger.

Then there' show he hypocritically dismisses her trauma and depression while at the same time diminishing her maturity despite him having left her to raise Ruby and keep the family together.

He also makes his help for her conditional on her no longer "Moping" while its her teachers who barely know Yang that provide actually useful guidance on healing.

When alone he also frames 'caring for her' IE letting her live in the house and take care of herself, like its this heavy burden that is keeping him from Ruby.

This is despite the fact he ultimately does not go after Ruby.

You can claim its a budget thing the show we have is the show we have. Thus, he sends her off to parent Ruby instead of himself. Also Tai outright compares Yang to Raven despite them being radically different and honestly Ruby being a lot closer to even the positive traits he ascribed to Raven.

Thus I think there's an element of projection that leads to Ruby being preferences between the two but also Tai having come in too late to really be seen as the parent he wants to be perceived as.

Now, let's look at Qrow.

Both sisters are clearly used to him staggering or being carried home drunk and needing to take care of him, meaning they have been doing this since childhood.

This would have a hugely negative impact on their mental wellbeing and impact how they perceive him.

Beyond that, I am unsure how close he even is to Yang outside the superficial. Some of that may indeed be down to time, but there have been periods where they could have shown a deep bond and its not manifested.

When Yang is framed, her team, two of whom have only know her for a few months and have plenty of trauma that would make them rightly suspicious choose to believe her and sympathize with her.

Qrow meanwhile says she is either lying or crazy and does not express much in the way of real empathy or trust.

Rather than showing an interest in maybe trying to resolve the issue or help her through decides that maybe directing her to Raven might help. He obviously cares, but generally never shows much of the same concern or affection for Yang that he does for Ruby.

Granted even then Qrow requires caretaking from both his nieces.

What's more he often tethers Ruby to Summer. So while his mentorship of her does let her be a little more vulnerable with him than Tai its still an unbalanced relationship.

However outside of that, Qrow's generally fairly good with Ruby and her influence on him seemed to be the primary thing that stopped him drinking. He also shows a great deal of faith in her in general, though how much of that is projection likely varies.

But he mentored Ruby so its natural they are maybe a little closer.

Still, I think Ruby & Yang held Qrow in higher regard, at least as a Huntsmen than their father, there's a lot of baggage to the relationship at a minimum.

I also think Ruby & Yang's lack of communication seen in later volumes is sort of reflective of the families unhealthy dynamics evolving between them.

Yang being forced to raise a sister two years younger than her is already a heavy burden on both of them. Yang from having to step up and fill the roll of an adult as a child & Ruby because no matter how hard Yang tried it as never gonna be perfect but she couldn't exactly complain about it either.

So both just sort of smiled through the pain as they grew and came out fairly functional and happy if carrying a lot of baggage beneath the surface. This is why both respond to grief and trauma in a similar manner, pushing the issues down until they explode or collapse. It was how they got by.

They were also extremely close, for all that Yang talked of Ruby maybe trying to branch out onto other teams, she instantly tried to seek her out in the Emerald Forest, saved her a spot in the auditorium and generally tried to assist and advice her along with expressing great pride in her.

Ruby bore with with a mixed degree of playfulness and teen like annoyance, while still wanting to cling to Yang. She was also very comfortable early on with expressing her concerns around Yang, such as with Blake being so stressed and not knowing what to do about it & seemingly had total faith in Yang's ability to resolve things.

As previously outlined, when Ruby was seeking comfort and guidance after the Fall of Beacon she went to Yang and was shocked when Yang couldn't provide her what she needed and quickly began separating herself, clearly deeply impacted.

Yang remained the center of her homeward focus after that fact and when Yang returned she was able to express vulnerability with her.

Briefly.

However, Yang soon showed that her recovery was not as complete as she wanted to project and again Ruby was at a loss for what to do with a Yang who is upset.

Keep in mind she's entirely capable of comforting a drunk, hung over or otherwise very upset Qrow, but the prospect of comforting Yang leaves her shuffling nervously outside the door while Weiss helps her.

Ruby's perception of Yang seemed to have put her on something of a pedestal in the way a lot of children do their parents where its hard to start seeing them as a person.

& When Ruby did start seeing Yang as a person, her complexes regarding leadership caused her to see Yang as someone who needed protection.

This caused her to freeze Yang out of her issues, we see this with her rejecting Yang's efforts to comfort her in V8, responding instead with sullen silences or sharp emotional jabs to try and make Yang go away.

Yet at the same time, she didn't entirely try to keep the façade up, perhaps in part because she couldn't.

I also think there's a part of her that sort... Expected Yang to know what to do and to say for her even though Ruby has changed as a person and is no longer communicating clearly like she used to.

Which then causes her to resent Yang for not being able to say the right things and provide the right assistance like she did when they were kids. Even though Yang doesn't know how Ruby feels their relationship has changed and can't know with Ruby actively avoiding acting in a manner that would elicit her concern.

Basically, this is an extremely messy family.

It has four actual adults, the most competent of whom martyred herself. One of whom left because she couldn't handle it and two of whom failed when put to the test.

This left the role of grown up in the room to Yang who had to keep the family together and raise her sister. While Ruby had to basically become the least troubled child possible to make this easier on them all.

Raven cutting herself out of their lives and her ties to Yang, while Summer being a beloved martyr seems to have also rippled down to their kids.

With Yang almost being like the black sheep of the family. She's the one they expect to do something immoral or "crazy' and generally expected to take care of herself and Ruby without any kind of acknowledgement or significant assistance.

Meanwhile Ruby is regarded as a sort of proto Summer, this beacon of purity, which leaves Tai over protective but ultimately inactive leaving the task of helping her to Yang. With Qrow expecting the world from her which just applies more pressure.

I do think everyone of them love each other, but I also think there's also a lot of resentment, frustration and projection going on here, with many utter failures of parenting. These ultimately caused the families relationships to never developed into what they should be and are instead leaving them in an odd sort of limbo; with a lot left unsaid and unhealthy.

#RWBY #Ruby Rose #Yang Xiao Long #Tai & Qrow did not do a good job #Do not clown on this post #Family trauma #RWBY Analysis #Yang raised Ruby #Ruby had to be 'OK' all the time

[wisefoxluminary]

Ken (Ryan Gosling) headcanons post Barbie

Ken has been learning to adjust to a life without Barbie as he has been trying to figure out what kind of person he really is outside of being stereotypical Ken.

After Barbie left for the human world, Ken is struggling to find his own voice. He suffers from depression and mostly spends his nights in isolation.

He normally locks himself in his room and listens to slow romantic ballads or break up songs as a way of forgetting.

His favourite artist is Taylor Swift as he has a tendency to listen to her music when he is sad thinking about Barbie. He knows all the lyrics to her songs as she makes him feel things. He is too embarrassed to admit this to his friends though.

His favourite animals are horses. Ever since taking up residence in the dream house, he has turned it into a shrine dedicated to horses. He likes to watch documentaries about them and horse racing when he's in a good mood. He considers horses his first love over anything else.

The fellow Barbies and Kens were growing increasingly worried about him, so they got Ken to do therapy sessions with Weird Barbie as a way of healing from Barbie's departure. This would help Ken open up more as he and Weird Barbie would become close friends.

He confides to her about everything and sees her as a voice of guidance in his life. She is the only one who understands him the most, no matter how weird and crazy she might seem.

Ken compliments himself by repeating the mantra "I am Kenough" everyday into the mirror. He wears the jumper every moment of the day as a way of loving himself. Weird Barbie gave him it when he was at his lowest.

He has learned to use more healthier coping mechanisms by becoming an inspiring figure and helping his community out. He takes time to hang out more with the other Kens at the beach and do more extracurricular activities that he wouldn't have done when Barbie was here. He even does yoga daily and reads books as a way of attaining a calm mind set.

He becomes an honorary lifeguard at the beach and receives a medal from the supreme court for his kind services to Barbieland.

He feels extreme remorse for orchestrating the patriarchy era in Barbieland and does whatever he can to show that he's a better person. This has led him to befriend more of the Barbies, like Author Barbie, Doctor Barbie and President Barbie and form a healthy friendship with them. Something he never pursued when stereotypical Barbie once stayed here.

He establishes a healthy relationship with the Kens by inviting them over to his house for movie night. He sees it as a night where he can bond with others like him and pursue more friendships. Each Kens gets to vote on what movie they want to watch as they watch movies and eat popcorn. They eventually play a game of pool afterwards and then call it a night.

His favourite movies are The Goodfather, Black Beauty and The Magnificent Seven.

Ken is a open book when it comes to parties. Wherever a Barbie announces they are having a party, Ken is the first one to accept the invitation and always arrives on time.

This all changes when Ken begins to spend more time with Allan. They become very close friends over the duration of Ken's self-acceptance journey. They get ice cream together and have long walks at the beach where they have deep talks about life and their purpose in it all. They bond over the fact they both struggled to find their purpose in Barbieland and how they didn't feel they belonged. Ken inspires confidence in Allan and Allan shows Ken that it is okay to be his own person. Ken finds that his relationship with Allan is different than what he has with the other Barbies and Kens as it is built on a more fervent understanding of each other.

Ken and Allan's relationship grows deeper than friendship as Ken discovers that he may be pansexual. He goes to Weird Barbie for guidance and she helps him come to terms with his blossoming sexuality. She gives him the courage to confess his feelings.

Weird Barbie secretly organises a date between Ken and Allan where they can be honest about their feelings for each other. Allan admits that he has had a crush on Ken for a very long time as Ken lifts the heavy weight off his chest and comes out to Allan, telling him how much he loves him. This signifies the start of their relationship.

Ken and Allan make their relationship public as loving boyfriends as the whole of Barbieland is accepting of them. Allan opens his heart in ways Ken wouldn't have expected as Ken gives his boyfriend more encouragement to try new things. Ken inspires him to be more confident in himself.

Ken introduces his boyfriend to the other Kens as they welcome him into the group with open arms. The other Kens are reluctant about Allan at first as they are scared of him because of his reputation to fight other Kens, but they grow to love him.

Allan moves in with Ken into the mojo dojo casa house as their relationship grows closer. They share a bed, toothbrush and towels. Ken enjoys doing yoga with Allan and watching horse documentaries with him. Ken is the big spoon while Allan is the little spoon.

Ken, Allan and Weird Barbie make up a surprising trio of friends as Weird Barbie is the supportive and wise third wheel in the relationship. Ken is the brains while Allan is the brawn. Ken dedicates every hour of every day to hanging out with his two best friends as they mean the world to him. Ken has a lot more time to pursue friendships now that Barbie had left. Ken has found his chosen family in Allan and Weird Barbie as Allan is his lovingly devoted husband while Weird Barbie is the crazy aunt. He has formed a powerful bond with the two of them and considers them family even though he didn't grow up with one.

Ken is a golden retriever boyfriend. He will do anything to make Allan happy.

Ken and Allan like to go on road trips together to explore the vastness of the universe beyond Barbieland. It is mostly filled with fun and adventure. They like to explore famous tourist attractions and meet new people. They cause chaos along the way. Their favourite places to go in the real world is the skate park and horse ranches. Ken even took a stallion home with him once. Weird Barbie usually secretly tags along with them by hiding in the back of their blue convertible.

At the end of the line, Ken's journey was all about self-acceptance. At first, Ken was lost without Barbie and struggled to find a purpose in the world. He eventually began to heal and found solidarity in his friendships and the life around him. He found acceptance and atonement in himself by using his kindness to help others in Barbieland as not only did it change the way people saw him, but it defined the new person Ken was. Ken was able to discover what kind of person he was without Barbie and two people in his life changed him for the better. His newfound sexuality and cathartic experiences have helped him come to terms with the person he is. It took awhile for him to discover it but Ken has improved his life for the better and became a more thoughtful, happier person. He has been able to shape his own identity and it was all thanks to the family he had found. For the first time in his life, Ken has finally found peace.

#ken #barbie #ryan gosling #my headcanons #i'm just ken #i am kenough #post barbie #weird barbie #allan barbie movie #ken x allan #ken is pansexual #ken is a huge taylor swift fan #ken has depression #found family #ken loves horses #mojo dojo casa house

[avikats66]

Regarding Touji and Megumi’s Early Childhood…

I really think that a lot of the fandom doesn’t fully realize or acknowledge that Megumi’s mother died “soon after he was born” and Touji was left not only devastated by the sudden loss of “the person he devoted himself wholly to,” but with a baby he was not properly prepared or equipped to care for and raise either physically, mentally, or emotionally by himself. We don’t get any details on exactly what happened, how Touji dealt, and what Megumi’s infancy and early childhood looked like up until he is about six-years-old and we get some flashbacks and narrative exposition (mostly from chapter 59) in the manga. Gege-sensei said that without Megumama, Touji “ended up like this,” which is described as “wandering from woman to woman due to not having much money” (Gege specifically calls him “a pro at freeloading off women”), and “earning lots of money with one job then spending it until it’s gone” (which includes gambling as shown in chapter 67) - so what exactly did that look like for Megumi? Probably a lot of Touji being away on said jobs and being left in the care of Touji’s current girlfriend/fling or a hired babysitter/nanny.

And plowing straight on ahead with headcanons, I think it’s very likely and probable that not only did Touji not know how to properly care for and raise baby Megumi, he also lacked the strength and willingness to really try and learn due the trauma of his own upbringing and the loss of Megumama. At the same time he can’t/doesn’t bring himself to fully care for and love Megumi as his son the way he would have with Mamagumi by his side guiding him - the way she would have wanted him to even without her - he can’t/doesn’t just abandon Megumi either, because that’s the child, the little blessing he had with the love of his life (and quite possibly the only person who ever truly cared for and loved him in return), and it was her dying wish that he take care of their son.

So here’s 24ish-years-old Touji, spiralling after the loss of his love and struggling to provide proper - or at least adequate - care for his infant son when he can’t even properly care for or about himself, let alone be responsible for raising a child. But he is, and he does try, sort of. I think he walks a line between not knowing how to form an emotional connection with and personal investment in his son - and being too hurt and overwhelmed to try - and feeling the need/responsibility to known and ensure that Megumi grows up - perhaps “happily” is a bit beyond what he can (or thinks he can) manage, but at least physically safe/healthy and not being outright hurt and abused in the sort of obvious ways that he was as a child. Because Touji was abused as a child (the exact extent to and details of which aren’t shown specifically), and it was this abuse which shaped Touji as a person and led to many of the problems/struggles he faced and the life choices he made, from his spending habits, to his use of and relationships with women, to his inability to fully connect with and care for his infant son without the guidance and support of Megumama.

So Touji wanders around with baby Megumi, grieving his love and struggling to care for a baby. He hooks up with various different women in order to receive help with caring for this infant he doesn’t know how to deal with and to have someone he can trust with Megumi while he works jobs - primarily bounty hunting and assassination, I assume - to earn money to provide necessary resources - as well as to fund whatever it is he does whenever he takes a break to try and cope with his pain/stress. Touji is frequently absent from Megumi’s life and emotionally distant when he is present. There are lots of different people - mostly the women his dad dates or has flings with and various paid babysitters or childcare workers - who take care of Megumi from infancy to the first five/six years of his life, some decidedly more caring than others no doubt.

Touji wouldn’t leave Megumi to anyone he thought would endanger him, but Touji also doubtlessly didn’t have high standards when it came to childcare given his own past/experiences. For some, taking care of baby or toddler Megumi might have been something they liked and wanted to do, whether as their job or as a young woman happy to look after her boyfriend’s baby; for others it may have been an unwanted or begrudging task - which is definitely something he would have picked up on, even at such a young age. Bottom line: Megumi does not have a stable parent or parental figure during the earliest years of his life, and he is subject to repeatedly changing conditions and environments. A lot of it he won’t explicitly remember, but even what he doesn’t remember will have still had a formative impact on him as a person.

Somewhere in this period Touji acknowledges that he cannot (or at least won’t sufficiently strive to) provide the care and connection Megumi will need as he gets older. He knows that he is distancing himself from Megumi and that he can’t (or again won’t) be able to form a proper relationship as a father or guardian with or raise Megumi: so now it’s his responsibility to find someone who can/will. Which is where the deal to have the Zenin take Megumi into the clan after his cursed energy/technique manifest comes in. Now, I’m definitely not saying that I agree with this decision, but I don’t think that it was made out of Touji’s own self-interest, i.e. the monetary exchange, at Megumi’s expense. Rather, I think Touji was taking the course of action he thought best for Megumi - and let me explain.

The fact that the Zenin agreed to pay such a large sum of money means that they wanted Megumi. As mentioned above, I believe Touji knew he was not suited to raising Megumi and was looking to find someone who could do a proper - or at least better - job. The thing is, let’s say he does find a suitable third party to take in Megumi: what happens as soon as Touji entrusts him to them and leaves? The Zenin swoop in and just take him. Touji likely anticipated exactly that happening, which is why he bartered with the Zenin in the first place - to see how much they wanted Megumi. And the huge chunk of money they agreed to pay confirmed that they very much wanted Megumi.

So now, Touji has two choices: either stick with and watch over Megumi for the rest of his childhood/youth and/or until he is capable of avoiding or fending off the Zenin himself (or possibly deciding he wants to join them), or let the Zenin have him, whether directly or indirectly. Since Touji has already made up his mind about him not wanting/able to be a proper father and raise Megumi, he’s already pointed towards the second option; but, can he really allow the Zenin to have Megumi in good conscience given what he knows about them and his own personal experiences as a kid? Well, here’s my thoughts:

Touji knows full well what kind of people the Zenin are and all the ways the abused him personally as a kid. Was he really going to condemn Megumi to that just to be rid of him? No, I don’t think so. As mentioned above, Touji looked after Megumi largely in part to it being what Mamgumi asked of him before her death, but he knew that the wasn’t a good father to baby/toddler Megumi, and that he couldn’t/wouldn’t fulfil all the additional responsibilities and care that would come with Megumi growing older and being a kid/teen - which is why he’s now seeking this third party to take over from him. And I don’t believe he would let the Zenin be that third party if he truly thought they were going to treat Megumi the same way they treated him as a child. He does care about Megumi - both as his son and in respect to Mamagumi’s wishes - even if he hasn’t been able to develop the normal intimate and emotional connects parents and children normally have.

Touji believes that Megumi’s circumstances with the Zenin will be different from his own due to his shamanic potential, which is pretty much all the Zenin care about. He states as much in the manga (cannot find the exact chapter, sorry). Does he believe the Zenin will be a good family to Megumi and that he’ll be well loved and cared for and this is the best path for Megumi and what Mamaguro would have wanted? Absolutely not, but he genuinely thinks that this is the best possible option he can give Megumi and that Megumi will be safe from horrific abuse by the Zenin. The fact that he considers this the best/only option rather than raising Megumi himself is a testament to both how he’s been traumatized and damaged by the Zenin and how that trauma and abuse warped his world view and emotional/social/mental capacities/ability.

Also around this time Touji marries Tsumiki’s (also unnamed) mother; it’s unclear which came first, the marriage with/meeting of Mamatsumi or the deal with the Zenin. We know that the marriage takes place when Megumi is in first grade - so about 5 or 6 years-old - and that within about a year of this marriage Touji and Mamatsumi both disappear (Touji having been killed by Gojou and Mamatsumi’s whereabouts unknown). So Megumi and Tsumiki have been step-siblings for less than a year when they are orphaned and then (semi unofficially sort of not exactly sure) adopted by teenage Gojou. By this time, Tsumiki had already become the most important person in Megumi’s life, as evidenced by Megumi not caring what being taken in by the Zenin would mean for him, but only whether Tsumiki would be happy.

What was this first year together for Megumi and Tsumiki like? I’ve already gone over what Touji’s parenting was probably/possibly like based on limited canon info, but we really have nothing of any substance - or just anything at all, really - on Mamatsumi. Personally, I imagine she and Touji got married for the convenience and benefit of their respective children, not romantic desire or attraction. They probably got along - or at didn’t actively dislike each other - and likely had a more casual relationship and camaraderie as partners of sorts (and they quite possibly had a sexual aspect side of the relationship too). They got married to take advantage of the legal benefits and pool their resources together; to the benefits of themselves personally but much more so for their kids.

As for what kind of person Mamatsumi was and her relationship with Megumi and her daughter I can’t really say. I can’t find/remember anything reliable giving us any more information on her, so, uh, she’s just a bit of a blurred out figure in terms of canon. Nothing regarding the relationship between Touji and Tsumiki either (at least as of yet, though probably not ever). We then get teen/young adult Gojou through the rest of Megumi and Tsumiki’s childhoods and early teen years, though we don’t really know much detail with what that looked like or how it worked either; really, just that one panel from recent chapters and whatever we can infer or glean from how Gojou and Megumi interact throughout the story.

I am super interested in that: Megumi and Tsumiki growing up together with teenage/young adult Gojou - whether we get more canon information/focus on it or not. Have you guessed that I really like the “found family” or “families of choice” tropes? At the same time, I’m also super interested in Touji and his time with baby/young child Megumi and their relationship. Yay character dynamics!

#jjk manga #jujutsu kaisen #jjk megumi #megumi fushiguro #jjk toji #fushiguro touji #toji fushiguro #fushiguro megumi #mamagumi #mamaguro #fushiguro tsumiki #tsumiki fushiguro

[theambitiouswoman]

Hi 😅 um any tips on how to avoid relapsing into self destructive behaviours (like self harm, eating disorders, alcoholism, etc etc)

I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling with these type of issues. It takes a lot of strength and courage to reach out for help <3 While I'm not a mental health professional, I can offer some general tips that might be helpful. However, it's important to remember that seeking guidance from a qualified therapist or counselor is crucial for addressing these specific issues. They can provide personalized strategies and support for your unique circumstances.

Don't hesitate to share your feelings and concerns with trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can offer a listening ear and assistance. You don't have to face this alone.

To establish your commitment to these changes, you need to have a "why" in your mind that you want to commit to. You need to feel inside that the purpose for you to quit these negative behaviors is important to you and will benefit your life.

Surround yourself with positive influences who understand and support your efforts to overcome these challenges. Connecting with others who have experienced similar struggles can also provide a sense of empathy and solidarity.

Invest your time in activities that bring you happiness, peace, and fulfillment. These could include hobbies, exercise, meditation, journaling, or creative outlets. Finding healthy ways to manage stress can help prevent relapses.

Simultaneously, find healthy alternatives to those issues. For example if the issue is alcohol, instead purchase non alcoholic, alcoholic beverages.

Establishing a daily routine can provide a sense of stability and purpose. Include self-care activities, such as proper sleep, balanced meals, and regular exercise, to nurture your physical and emotional well-being.

Identify your triggers and make note of situations, emotions, or thoughts that tend to precede self-destructive behaviors. By recognizing these triggers, you can proactively develop alternative strategies to cope with them effectively.

Be kind and patient with yourself throughout this process. Recovery is not linear, and setbacks can happen. Treat yourself with the same understanding and empathy that you would extend to a loved one facing similar challenges.

[rants-about-opm]

Depression, Coping Methods, and Genos

Right now, I feel like that one gif of Pedro Pascal laughing and then beginning to sob hysterically. Life is kicking my ass.

But speaking of depression, I wanted to do a little thinking about Genos, and his story.

His life has been pretty dark so far. Losing his childhood to the rampaging cyborg, becoming a cyborg himself.

But these aren't really the only big things that have happened to him. They're just the only events he's realized have had an effect on him.

Since then, he's become very closely involved with a man who has trouble reciprocating those emotions. He's been torn apart and rebuilt numerous times, losing bits of his humanity each times as he becomes more and more of a high tech murder machine.

His strength continues to fail him when he needs it most, meanwhile Saitama's time and attention becomes more and more divided on people he hardly sees as worthy of those things. Worst of all, no one seems to understand him, his goals, or his devotion to Saitama. He's often laughed off and ignored by people who are meant to be his peers, and even Saitama has no real interest in Genos' long winded stories.

That brings us around to his coping methods, one of the more prominent of which is his habit of long winded explanations of topics he finds important. His journey to Saitama, Saitama's time travel endeavor, etc. Aside from that, we have his obligatory journaling, his insistence on having a goal to work towards at any given time, and dependence on being able to respond to any given scenario with the calculated and emotionless precision of a machine.

That last one is arguably the most important, because of how it influences the above. Saitama is a very closed off person, and he expects Genos to respect that- which he does!

To his own detriment.

Genos is completely fine with their terms of agreement, but his overly compliant nature means his needs are ultimately ignored. The methods he's developed to express himself and interact with the world in a way that is comfortable for him are seen as nuisances in Saitama's lifestyle.

Ultimately, none of this seems to have much effect on Genos. At least, not in a traditional manner.

But Genos is not traditional, is he? And depression and anxiety can manifest in many forms.

I would argue that Genos' entire relationship with Saitama is one of the few visible effects of the internal havoc at play.

He seeks refuge and guidance under Saitama as an extension of his need to become strong enough to avenge his village. This leads to him suppressing his habits to conform. The problem is that he isn't Saitama, not even close. This is kind of where we see a devolution of Genos' ability to cope, as he descends into a manic state of endless self destructive behavior, enabled by Saitama's baseless encouragement and Kuseno's ability to fix whatever breaks.

Saitama is not a mentally healthy individual. As a result, any attempt to follow in his footsteps is not going to craft a mentally healthy individual. The problem is that both of these two are emotionally constipated. Saitama has lost connection with his emotions and had little desire to reconnect, and Genos works to shed all proof of his humanity.

We've already seen the end result of Saitama reaching his breaking point. I shudder to think of what will happen when Genos inevitably reaches his.

I feel like there's more to say, but this is getting long winded, and my brain is fried. If anybody has any additions or corrections to make though, I'd love to continue this line of thought, and maybe examine some other characters, since everyone in ONE'S work is mentally unstable in some way.

Thanks for reading!

#opm #one punch man #I haven't posted about opm in a while #So take this as an apology of sorts I guess #Don't expect me to be more active though #I am suffering mentally right now #So I dunno send me a hug or something #Validate my midnight ranting #anime #manga #rants #rants about opm #webcomic #saitama #genos #dr kuseno #long post #meta

[attackfish]

I would love to her more about the Gaang’s parents swap. Specifically more about Zuko and Azula. I’m assuming they’re closer since Hakoda didn’t pit them against each other. What happens to them when they run away?

Continued from: [Link], [Link], [Link], [Link], [Link], [Link], [Link], and [Link].

1. As mentioned last time, Hakoda's biggest problem is that his kids are in cooperation more than they are in competition. For Zuko and Azula, the problem has always been that plenty of tension simmers just under the surface. And to talk about why there is so much tension here, more and different from normal sibling tension, we have to talk about Azula, and how being raised by Hakoda, who both smothers his children and frequently fails to notice what's actually going on with them, has affected her.

2. As mentioned in a previous post, she retrieves Ty Lee in much the same way she doesn't canon, something she could only do because her relationship with Ty Lee was coercive, and rooted in Ty Lee's fear, and Azula's control. So how did she get to the point where she is that controlling, where she would even want a relationship with Ty Lee, and also Mai, based entirely on that control, without Ozai there to push her onto it? The answer is that this is a response to profound loss, and the shattering of a sense of control that comes with that. With Hakoda simultaneously keeping his children just as safe and sheltered as he can, but without giving them any real guidance into how to grow up into decent people, or manage their grief, Azula has been left alone to come up with coping mechanisms. And she hit on the idea that she can keep everybody in her life safe as long as she can force them to do what she wants them to. She knows better than anybody else, just like her dad does, and she can keep everybody safe as long as they do what she knows is best for them.

3. Yeah, she loves her brother, but he can be so stupid, just like Mom, and look how Mom ended up and she has to keep him safe, and he needs to do what she tells him, so heck yeah, she controls, threatens, and manipulates him, to keep him safe. She thinks she does it because she loves him, but it's more accurate to say she does it because she's afraid of losing him. And she does it to Mai and Ty Lee too. And deep inside, the fear that they might die is tangled up with the fear that they might leave her, so she controls them, and forces them to stay. And if you're thinking wow that is not healthy or sustainable at all, you would be right. And if you think that I as an author and hanging a great big flashing sign on this saying this is the character flaw that will be foundational to Azula's arc, that she needs to learn to let go of her desire to control, and the fear that drives it, you would be right I am absolutely that much of a hack.

4. And this is really really hard on both Zuko and Azula. For Azula, constantly giving into her fear this way, not only means that she doesn't have any mutual relationships, of the kinds necessary to sustain a person, but she also is feeding that fear and making it worse by giving into it instead of acknowledging it and processing it. For Zuko of course it's difficult because his sister who he loves can be so unbelievably cruel and controlling towards him. That's very difficult to live with. And it's not like Zuko doesn't have issues of his own, including a sense of self-loathing that leads him to think that yeah his sister is right, and he is stupid, and he should just let her tell him what to do.

5. And it's not exactly like it really helps Zuko understand that this might not be true, when following his sister's directions leads them fairly quickly by sheer luck, into conquering Ba Sing Se, capturing Bato, and killing the Avatar.

#avatar the last airbender #azula #zuko #atla Mai #Ty Lee #posts i created #do you want to ask a question it doesn't have to be a question #five headcanons #mai doesn't hate you #circus freak is a compliment #zuko is a dweeby little turtleduck #azula needs her own warning

[those70scomics]

“ (okay, I could probably write a full meta on her relationship with Casey, so I’ll stop here for now).”

I would love to see that meta! I personally don’t like that dynamic and the power imbalance (Casey being 21 and Donna 17).

On the show, Donna uses her relationship with Casey as a coping mechanism for her grief about her mom and Eric. One moment (before "The Promise Ring"), the aspects that make up her reality / life are consistent abd reliable. Then they're irrevocably changed. She doesn't know how to adjust. Her father is a mess himself, and Eric's insecurity deprives her of Mrs. Forman's much-needed support.

Jackie is Donna's only constant support, but she's the Jackie who hasn't yet learned to live fully (or a touch less than fully) in reality but fantasy. Donna goes down the same path with Casey that Jackie does with Kelso, imagining her boyfriend to be someone he isn't and easily dismisses obvious red flags.

Casey goes out of town a lot, and from Michael Kelso's warning to Eric -- added to Casey's other behavior -- one can reasonably suspect Casey of not being faithful to Donna. "They're just words," he says to Eric of, "I love you." But Donna believes Casey when he says them because she needs to.

Because of Donna's lack of healthy, consistent emotional support during season four -- with rare exceptions from Hyde, Kitty, and Eric himself -- she's terrified and reacting to her feelings instead of truly facing them. She convinces herself that Casey is the solution to her pain and clings to her false belief for dear life.

Donna, when not in such pain, would take Casey's words about coping at face value (e.g., "Crack open another beer") instead of giving them a deeper meaning they don't have. She'd call out Casey's flakiness and stick to it rather than accept his explanation that being unreliable is just the way he is. She never would've let Eric get away with such disrespectful nonsense.

The relationship with Casey, and filling her mind with him when he's not around, allows Donna to avoid her feelings. Casey also enables avoidance behaviors when he is present, and she takes on his bullying, hostile nature as another avoidance tactic. She's psychologically malicious to Eric, thankless and snappish to Hyde, and giddily agrees with Casey's sexually-violating advice to Fez about Rhonda. She skips school and gets drunk in the morning with Casey, which falls in line with her self-destructiveness when she needs help and doesn't know how else to get it.

Donna is not mentally well at this point in her life, and she very much needed her dad to step-up. He fails her because he doesn't have good coping skills himself. But he's still responsible for the well-being of his child. She's seventeen, and while that's older than seven, teenagers still need guidance and support.

If Eric had been less selfish, insecure, and perhaps spiteful, he might have "allowed" his mom to be that healthy support for Donna. It's of course tricky since he's hurting, too. But Donna didn't only lose her boyfriend/best friend, she also -- in a very real sense -- lost her mother and father.

As for the age difference, that's part and parcel of Casey's indifference to people who aren't himself. He doesn't consider what might or might not be a healthy relationship dynamic. He enjoys using Donna for company, for fooling around, for messing with Eric. He's an even more malicious, selfish narcissist than his brother Michael. He's essentially Michael without the tiny spark of decency and self-awareness Michael has.

Casey also doesn't seem to get emotionally attached to people. Michael does, and that's where his sense of entitlement comes in. He wants Jackie and Hyde to hurt because he feels hurt by them. Casey, however, doesn't get hurt because he doesn't care. He might be sociopathic. He certainly knows how to pour on the charm to gets what he wants from people, and being malicious to others brings him joy.

Donna is at the height of vulnerability when Jackie sets her up with Casey, and Casey recognizes an easy mark when he sees one.

#that 70s show #eric forman #donna pinciotti #eric x donna #that '70s show #casey kelso #ask #hydesjackiespuddinpop #meta #essay #my essay #my meta

[rin-and-jade]

would y'all happen to know how to handle a persecutor-gatekeeper? our system has one who can force dormancy & switches and trying to find resources on what to do about them hasn't been fruitful. it's not a regular persecutor situation due to their executive control over other alters, and even if it were they're too emotionally closed off to attempt the "appeal to emotions" route. any advice?

(this is rather lengthy but i promise everything i wrote here is important,, as surface leveled, short answers will not cover everything i want to convey)

I'd consider myself a gatekeeper with persecutive tendencies (its the better way to say keeper + persc role for my comfy-ness) and anger issues/holder. As a logical keeper (ISTJ) and ex persc who is also not easily appealed by my own people's 'puppy eyes' and begs, though can be influenced by rage,, I feel qualified enough to tell you my story from how i came up with persecution, what i did in that moment of life, and how i overcame and changed my overall view which renders myself as docile, where i pursuit functionality and etc which made me open this blog for the better of others.

Back then i was a really rude person, though not necessarily causing harm to anyone,, till something sets off the fuse and made me go wrecking some havoc (for short, i've seen how badly my people are doing/coping and as i was never exposed to healthy ways to fix things back then, i resorted to this in order to 'fix' things). I'd hog all the time i had outside at front and never let any friends see my other people, they can beg me how many times they want to and i never let it happen but if i was being nice i'd only give a whole day and back at it again. It's as easy as not doing what i say to push someone to dormancy, creating an environment where there are no such thing as mercy until i achieve the 'ideal' results that's wanted.. or is that what i actually wanted?

Slowly yet surely i begin to notice that my strict and forceful actions did not grow any results,, on this section i don't remember much but got the gist where this is the time i actually tried to loosen the 'ropes' i invincibly tied to my people because i was curious enough if that will generate results. It did. I also shunned down anything they say to me but at that same time i actually took it to consideration. Things are going smoothly because i decided to stop adding unnecessary pressure and ACTUALLY telling what i find troubling and talking it out instead of just bashing their head without a word, not even telling what they did wrong. It took me months to regain everyone's trust because i did an unbelieveable amount of damage that was irreversible,, thankfully i was forgiven. From that period on i dedicate myself to unlearn some nasty ways of doing things, then you can guess the rest from here.

IN CONCLUSION.. If using emotional ways don't work, then opt for logical reasoning. We all have something we care about that contributes to why someone does this or that, the good or bad way. The last thing i wanted to be is being wrong so factual proofs and basic common sense (that punishment doesn't breed better results, things like that) might help. There's one thing that could change me sooner at the past, possibly by asking "why are you doing this?" because i was villainized right off the bat (which was fair) even though i had good intentions. I think showing friendlier ways to achieve the same thing would help putting a stop to the current actions too,, but i want to emphasize that your keeper can't be forced and need to make it's own decision, pushing it is also counterintuitive. This work requires you (your people) and the keeper in need of change, this does not work in one direction/way/party.

If you feel like needing extra help/guidance and get in touch with me to do this step by step, come to the DMs and i'll be happy to provide you with anything, i assume you can take matters in your own hands as i don't want to meddle unless consented, hope it was a-ok day for you!

- j

#did #actually did #did community #did osdd #did system #dissociative identity disorder #sysblr #janswersask

[voids-voyager]

Other, saner people: I'm going to make All Might adopt and take care of young Tenko in feel-good fluffy AU's, it might not be the most logical solution but emotionally it's so good and is full of not only angst potential but also heartwarming antics for both parties! Aizawa is also such a good pick, it'd be so cute.

Me, in my corner: I want Nezu to become the guardian of surly, moody teenage Shigaraki Tomura, freshly and abruptly removed from All For One's influence and grooming and separated from Kurogiri's distant but familiar presence as the nomu is placed in a hospital for rehabilitation. Nezu hears about this boy and has only one short conversation with him before deciding "I'm going to keep him."

I want Nezu sitting at home in a big armchair in a fluffy bathrobe, sipping a glass of wine while watching a pyjama-clad Tomura sat on the couch playing video games on the giant wall TV in his home, showing genuine interest in the sole hobby the boy appears to have and inquiring in all the ways Tomura knows how to break the game or cheese the mechanics to make it piss-easy.

Nezu and Tomura who play chess every week and Tomura is the first and so far only person who has ever beaten the tiny principal in a game. More boardgames are introduced eventually. The UA teachers quickly dread being coerced into playing as neither Nezu nor Tomura know the meaning of mercy in the world of cardboard and colourful token when in pursuit of victory. Nezu who encourages Tomura's intelligence and cunning in a way no one ever has and Tomura positively prosper in the face of a challenge in a healthy and safe environment.

Nezu who is small and soft-looking and nothing like All For One, who can't loom over Tomura with presence alone and is straightforward with him, talks to him like he's a real person. Tomura with all his triggers and bad coping habits that he himself don't know the reason for or why he does them, but Nezu who walks him through the why and how until they find the source, so long as Tomura lets him. Nezu who catches on quickly that Tomura does not like getting his head petted.

Nezu who keeps getting challenged by this teenager who despite being very traumatised and full of so many issues you could write a book on them still has a clearly intelligent head on his shoulders and is full of valid skepticism of heroism and their society. But with the right approach he is also open to communication and why he thinks the way he does, and he's not going to change his mind that easily, if at all on some points.

Nezu growing along with Tomura as he not only gets the chance to give guidance to the boy but learning from him as well, about things he had never fully considered from the viewpoint of his position in the world.

#shigaraki tomura #nezu #nedzu #bnha #mha #am i too invested in the potential relationship of two characters who have never met and have only had one comment on them? #why yes #because said comment is the sole time the hero side has shown any hint of compassion or attempt of understanding towards tomura #until deku saw obvious signs of distress and finally realised 'oh wait somethings not right'

[ohhgingersnaps]

YOU AND ME SHAKING HANDS, NO ONE IN THE MOUNTAIN FAMILY IS NEUROTYPICAL!!!!! They are blended and patchwork and trying their best!!!!

you 🤝 me mountain family takes

They really are trying their best!! And I'm very sorry it's taken me so long to reply and also that the reply is so long!! i just have. a lot of feelings and my hand slipped and this got very long? please feel free to offer concurring/opposing thoughts about this if you feel so inclined, i'm rotating them in my head constantly

like, Demetrius works very much in the framework of Technical Definitions (see: the great tomato debate). he likes rules. he likes well-defined roles. (speculating a bit here but I also think he likes well-defined roles in social situations, because it makes it easier if he knows what behavior is expected of him?) and so when he marries Robin, he sees the family unit as very simple (himself, Robin, Sebastian) and immediately in his mind becomes A Step-Father, with all of the responsibilities that role entails. meanwhile, Sebastian still sees his family unit as himself + Robin, and Demetrius is just.... some guy who married his mom.

this leaves Demetrius in the position of thinking that he has a Moral Obligation as a parent to Guide My Child Down A Good Path and Offer Guidance (read: unsolicited opinions and clumsily-veiled admonitions that, although well-intentioned, toe the line of healthy boundaries and appropriateness; he does this with Maru, too, in the two-heart event). Sebastian understandably doesn't take super well to this, because Demetrius hasn't actually built a parent-child relationship with him, he's just presumed it, and Sebastian hates that, actually. Sebastian is his own person, and his independence is important to him; he doesn't need guidance, he needs support.

and like, Demetrius' idea of a "Good Path" is very rigid and doesn't leave much room for variation? e.g. Demetrius would cope very badly with being a freelancer, because his brain needs routine and structure. so he needles Seb about getting a "real career" even though freelancing is a real career and works really well with Sebastian's needs (freedom and flexible scheduling)-- because he would be miserable freelancing, he can't see how it's an ideal situation for someone else.

also like. while he does favor Maru, I fully maintain that the snowman vs. snowgoon thing is less about Maru and Sebastian specifically and more about "correct" vs "incorrect" behavior. "why would you make something upsetting/scary instead of something good and nice?" it's very black-and-white thinking. I feel like Maru has a more similar communication style to her dad (likes rules and frameworks, friendly and well-intentioned but sometimes overly blunt, and occasionally a bit open-mouth-insert-foot without meaning to be), and she's much better at staying within the parameters of Demetrius-Approved Behavior. this, stacked on top of Seb's social anxiety, absolutely leaves him feeling like he's Handled The Social Interaction Wrong whenever he interacts with her and contributes to his feeling that she dislikes him and that he doesn't fit in with his own family, even if his family doesn't actually feel that way. (eta: this also leads to him getting offended or hurt by comments that she simply does not think twice about, because he constantly overanalyzes social situations and she doesn't)

anyway this is all very disjointed but i have so many feelings and thank you for your good mountain family takes they give me life

#tbh part of the reason i take them so personally is like. they're like my own family if we had worse communication lmao #truly i appreciate your takes on them so much i'm sorry this turned into such an essay lol #sdv #demetrius sdv #sebastian sdv #mountain family #asks #stardew valley

[biiedwin8]

How to Overcome Maladaptive Daydreaming

Let’s first understand that maladaptive daydreaming is an instance where you find yourself constantly daydreaming for an extended period of time, to the point that it distracts you from your day-to-day activities. You may do this for hours consecutively or have moments where you escape into this imaginary world.

Stopping MDD (Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder) is a complex process that requires a nuanced understanding of its underlying mechanisms. Unlike some conscious behaviors or habits that you can simply decide to quit, MDD operates differently. It's crucial to recognize that MDD is not the root cause itself but rather a symptom of underlying psychological and emotional processes.

Initially, MDD often begins innocently with what can be termed 'normal daydreaming.' Daydreaming, in moderation, is a natural and even healthy human activity. It allows the mind to wander, explore creative ideas, and occasionally escape from the demands of everyday life. During this phase, daydreaming remains a controllable and manageable activity for most individuals.

However, for some, especially when confronted with stress, anxiety, or other emotional triggers, daydreaming can evolve into a means of coping. This shift occurs gradually, often unnoticed, as daydreams start to offer a refuge from reality. The daydreams may be populated with pleasant or idealized scenarios, which serve as an enticing escape from the challenges and stresses of daily life.

As this pattern persists and deepens, it can transform into what we now term as 'maladaptive daydreaming.' At this stage, daydreaming becomes increasingly uncontrollable. It's as if there's an involuntary, subconscious pull toward these immersive fantasies that can overpower your conscious efforts to resist them. This involuntary pull happens beyond your immediate awareness, making it challenging to simply 'snap out of it.'

Imagine it as a powerful current in a river. Initially, you could swim against it, but as it grows stronger, it becomes nearly impossible to fight. You may still recognize that it's happening, but the ability to consciously stop or control it diminishes. The daydreams become a compelling force that pulls you in, often without your conscious consent or awareness.

Dealing with the Root Cause

One of the primary factors that propel maladaptive daydreaming is emotional triggers in one's real life. These triggers often include stress, anxiety, and boredom. When individuals are confronted with these emotional states, they may turn to daydreaming as a coping mechanism. It provides an escape from the overwhelming emotions or a way to fill a void left by boredom.

Crucially, it's essential to understand that these triggers are not the root causes of maladaptive daydreaming but rather catalysts. They set the stage for excessive daydreaming to become a problem. Therefore, merely attempting to suppress daydreaming without addressing these emotional triggers is unlikely to yield long-term success.

Each individual has unique coping mechanisms for dealing with stress, trauma, or emotional struggles. For some, it manifests as maladaptive daydreaming, while others might resort to toxic relationships or even substance addiction. The choice of coping mechanism can vary widely from person to person, depending on their life experiences and psychological makeup.

In summary, the path to stopping maladaptive daydreaming is not a simple one. It involves recognizing that daydreaming is often a symptom of deeper emotional struggles and triggers. To break free from this behavior, it's essential to address these root causes, seek professional guidance, and develop healthier coping mechanisms. This process needs conscious effort and dedication but it offers a more sustainable and lasting solution to overcome maladaptive daydreaming and regain control of one's life.

Note from the Author

If you’re ready and you’d like my help with overcoming and managing maladaptive daydreaming without spending years in therapy, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.

#actually maladaptive #actually madd #madd #obsessive daydreaming #maladapting daydreaming disorder #maladaptive daydreaming #daydreaming #intrusive daydreaming #immersive daydreaming

[theunmappedstar]

controversial opinion: I’ve always felt fitz was a little toxic because of how easily he would get mad at sophie. like yeah he apologized but apologizes only matter if you follow through, and he did this twice. idk always seemed a bit weird to me😬😬

yes and no. let me explain:

in a matter of speaking, you’re correct! the behavior that fitz displays regarding sophie isn’t a textbook example of healthy communication or interaction. this being said, intention plays a very important role in all of this.

fitz's intention is not to harm. he doesn't do this with infliction in mind. in fact, he's actively admitted that he now understands what it does to the people he loves so he wants to make a change.

furthermore, you mentioned that he apologized twice. meaning, he messed up twice after initially taking the fault. you're correct: apologies do hold weight when you actually follow through. but the road to recovery is NOT linear. alike to grief, on the journey of bettering an attitude or behavior, you will often take LARGE dips down instead of upwards. a crest of great progress is almost always followed with a heavy dive. it will make the person feel as though they've lost all progress and are right back where they started -- but that's just not true.

it takes an average of 66 days (2 months and 2 weeks) to fully change a preexisting habit or behavior. there has to be consistent implement of cues for this habit to become automatic.

even so, anon, this doesn’t take into account the constant stress of their current arc/situation, the heartbreak fitz freshly endured, his age, and the fact that i can confidently say he hasn’t discussed this goal with a professional.

fitz has no guidance. he’s young and this is his first time expressing these kinds of emotions and behavior. this is newly developed as of a few years into him meeting sophie.

elves don't have counseling. elves don't teach about performance under stress, coping mechanisms, or the downfalls you can experience with certain trauma. it is genuinely pretty shocking that he is self aware of the impact his words have AND is pursuing a change!

in no way am i giving fitz a gold star and telling him to continue on as he is just because he's hurting - but i am saying it's not a crime to have flaws. especially as a character!

this growth is apart of what makes him human. what makes him relatable and well-rounded. it is the result of his story. and this journey would be utterly unrealistic if he magically fixed an emotional habit after one apology.

bored? send me an ask!

#kotlc #asks #ask me anything #theunmappedstar asks #anonymous #keeper of the lost cities #fitz vacker

[system-of-a-feather]

hi, I think I might have DID, but I also don’t know if I’m for some reason faking it for attention, though I haven’t even told anyone of my suspicions? and i’m a minor so i can’t really get myself screened and i don’t trust my parents enough to tell them. if you could provide any guidance or anything, i would appreciate it so much <3

I strongly do not recommend doing much digging into DID or potentially having a system as a minor unless symptoms are overtly getting intrusive because processing and working through DID is a lot for someone who is still living in an unsafe environment and limited tools to help their own situation out. If you do some personally digging into your experiences, I VERY strongly do not recommend doing trauma work without a professional as a minor living in an unsafe environment.

I know that sounds possibly like me saying "don't try to heal". That is not what I mean, I would recommend focusing on learning and establishing fundamental coping skills - grounding techniques, trying to learn what makes you feel safe, trying to find safe ways to handles increased emotions and symptomology, trying to establish healthy and safe friendships and peers, looking into less-trauma centered symptoms that might not be related to DID but play a role into how you are experiencing things.

Personally, I was aware of having a system around age of 14 and that led to a lot of compounding issues and unfortunate situations because I was 1) incapable of doing much about my situation and 2) overloaded with my age-appropriate identity issues and the stressors of middle school and highschool and 3) had little room to actually have people to support. I didn't really know much of DID until I was like 16 (beyond that I totally couldn't have it I just have people in my head), and didn't actually really think I had it until I was diagnosed.

With that being said, I am very very thankful I was able to get two years of foundational therapy before I even really addressed the DID too directly to get some understanding on how to cope with OCD, PTSD, and to just have someone who could help me navigate surviving highschool and living at home.

I'm very very much of the personal opinion that minors who think they might have DID should probably hold off before jumping into the DID community or digging into it too much, because going through being a mentally ill teenager in an unsafe environment is already a lot to process and deal with and I think its much more important for those teenagers and minors to focus on being a teenager and trying to get through that hard period rather than focusing on the intense complexities that comes with DID.

Additionally, if you do have DID, the first stage in most professional treatment is stabilization which involves learning and gaining a lot of coping tools and self awareness as well as communication with parts. Trauma work and intensely trying to understand every part and all the trauma all parts hold is something we - having been in treatment for 6 years and DID focused treatment for 4 - are only just starting to actually open up.

Having recently cleared "stabilization" for the most part, I very very very very firmly support that it is a very very very important stage in recovering with DID and its very very very important to not skip that stage. Obtaining the coping skills, internal trust, and secure base within yourself is very very important to being able to handle the brunt of the trauma that comes with DID.

So with that said, my best advice would be to probably try to not think too much about having DID or not having DID, but to just look at what things are distressing you and focusing on self care, coping, and how to better care and help yourself because regardless of if you have DID or not, it is something you will likely need to do and at your current age and place in life, that is probably a much more effective, healthier, and safer form of healing to focus on with the resources you have.

I know it isn't easy or always possible, because I too was a mentally ill minor with parents that I could not trust, but if there is a way to get to see any professional for any mental health condition, I would really suggest giving it ago. I was talking to some friends about this, and some therapists suck, so if you do get one bad one, I am sorry and please don't write treatment off, but having a therapist is often better than none.

If you aren't comfortable saying "I think I have trauma" which is completely understandable for many reasons, a little "I was a minor who had abusive parents" trick that worked for me was to pick the LEAST offensive LEAST image breaking (for them) and most beneficial (for them) disorder / mental health issue and pushing that very very hard to just see someone.

We got into therapy first by leveraging a situation that made them more prone to being concerned for once, honestly intentionally played up our distress massively, and insisted that we were really severely distressed about our Trichotillomania (compulsive hair pulling) and that I really couldn't cope with it on my own and I really really needed a professional's help because "it is causing permanent damage to my skin / hair follicles and I might never be able to grow them back and if I never do that then I can't get a job because I look mentally ill" and the "can't get a job" sold my parents enough that they put me into "temporary therapy for 13 weeks"

I'll just tell you that I've been in therapy since.

Anyways, I hope that helped and I hope you can get the help you need sooner than later. Being a minor is hard. Being mentally ill is hard. High school is very hard. You are in a really really difficult place at the moment and I'm proud you are keeping strong. Take care of yourself, you deserve it. ^^

-Riku (Host)

#alter: riku #ask #asks #actuallydid #dissociative identity disorder #minors #minor #minors tw #abuse tw

[brolantra]

I’ve been meaning to post my long ass post about the subconscious mind here. It was posted to my old fb account back in June, and it helped a good handful of people.. I have it in my notes on my phone. I’m not editing it, it’s just gonna be a copy and paste. But this information changed my fucking LIFE. And I really just wanna help people. Take the time to read if you want, if not ✨that’s fine too✨ lol

Gooood morning☀️ some days ago I said I was gonna start making more posts about the subconscious mind, this won’t be my last post about it but I’m just gonna throw it all out there.. this will be a VERY long post, but hopefully this helps at least one person.. many people don’t know the role our subconscious plays in our lives nor where to start, which is understandable. But it’s vital information everyone needs on the healing journey. And since there has been a rapid influx of people waking up to the fact that they need healing, I’d like to give a little more guidance than I received when I first began.

Once you begin actively striving to access your subconscious mind your life will change. In every conceivable way possible. It’ll seem slow at first and then it happens all at once.. make no mistake, everything will hit you like a ton of bricks… the things that are hidden from us tend to be hidden for a reason and the weight of it all is something you have to be prepared for, otherwise overwhelm will send you into a downward spiral and you will run from yourself.

Before diving into the murky waters of your subconscious mind, I would suggest going to therapy first to cultivate healthy coping skills, or follow great thinkers and licensed psychologists on social media. They’re everywhere these days. Build up your self discipline and self trust in small ways. The best way to do this is start keeping all the promises you make to yourself. Prioritize your mental WELLNESS, over your mental illness. Also build a very solid spiritual life, I can’t stress enough how important that is but if you’ve been my fb friend for years, I don’t have to explain that too extensively. That’s all I’ve really talked about the last 6 years. It doesn’t matter who or what you believe in, just get you some type of faith. Get you some principles and follow them to the letter. The combination of all of this will make you unstoppable. You must be intentional and determined when it comes to healing, once you start you can’t stop. If you stop, everything will come crashing… and it’s hard to come back from. I’ve seen it with my own 2 eyes.

Start with the things you are aware of, in most cases we have to work backwards before we can get to the root. The flood gates will open once your subconscious mind deems you trustworthy with that information, but once you get through the worst of it, everything in your life will begin to make so much sense.

The amygdala and the reticular activating system, along with the nerves that stem from our brain and run throughout our bodies are what make up the subconscious mind. It is 96% of our brain power. 96! That’s powerful. Think of your brain as if it were a desktop computer. Our conscious mind is the screen, the keyboard, and the mouse, that’s what we can see. The subconscious mind is the modem. The hard drive, the central processing unit, the motherboard, and the RAM are located in the modem. If you have a problem with your computer, you have to crack open the modem to figure out what’s really going on. The same is true for our brains.

The amygdala is responsible for our emotional responses and the regulation of our emotions. A small bundle of gray matter. Which is why it’s so easy to become emotionally overwhelmed, it’s tiny and most peoples amygdala is full of unprocessed emotions to begin with because majority of us weren’t taught how to properly process emotions as children. Just stuff it all down. But the reticular activating system is an important mechanism in the subconscious mind that has MANY functions.

Even smaller than the amygdala, but it’s solely responsible for the creation of our neural pathways, as well as the way we see and interact with the world. Many articles and neuroscientists describe it as a gatekeeper of information which is accurate. But it helps to reframe that idea and to think of it more like it’s an input output machine of sorts. In goes your traumas, your experiences, your influences, and your environment… as all of this information passes through the reticular activating system, inside of this mechanism is where your core belief systems and emotional patterns are created. They were created in childhood and are sometimes restructured as you age and take in new information. But typically stay close to the original model unless you intentionally go inward to change them. Your core beliefs about religion, spirituality, race, your culture, relationships, yourself, your family, society, the world and your place in it. What comes out are our lenses of perception. It’s exactly why everyone’s perspective is so different. While everything and everyone is connected, and we have all experienced similar things, our subconscious mind only has awareness of itself and what we take in. It has no concept of other peoples subconscious minds or their experiences. That’s left up to the conscious mind and the spirit. But a lack of awareness of what’s behind the curtain of our own subconscious mind and our unwillingness to find out is what allows a lack of compassion for others to slip through our fingers at times. Me personally, I’ve had a bad habit of calling people delusional, despite knowing it’s not completely their fault. I try to reserve that word now for the people who pretend to be healing and pretend to know what they’re talking about, and don’t have a clue.

We can’t change or completely control what we take in. You can’t change the past and life is gonna keep life’n regardless. Our power lies in feeling our feelings, learning to regulate our emotions and intentionally changing our lenses of perception. And the ONLY way to do that is to go inward to question, challenge, and change our core belief systems. Feel the repressed feelings we’ve ran away from our entire lives. When we don’t feel our emotions (aka energy in motion) they get trapped in our bodies along the meridian points directly tied to our nerves. You have to get that energy moving. You gotta honor it and feel it. It’s a leading cause to why hurt people hurt people. Getting to know yourself and healing is so much more than spirituality. So much more than saying daily affirmations. So much more than hitting the gym or doing yoga. So much more than healing your body with sound bowls and somatic exercises. There’s a time and place for everything, but you have to heal the brain too. They’re all equally important avenues of healing and choosing one over all the others is a mistake.

You hear everyone talk about their inner child, but what they don’t tell you is that your subconscious mind is where your inner child dwells. I spent years submerging myself in soul work and spirituality before I realized I kept hitting the same brick wall. I began trying to heal my body eventually and it wasn’t sticking. Because I had to face my mind. Specifically my subconscious mind. I’m still facing it. There were way more demons than I realized but I loved and accepted myself into wholeness. I was curious and determined to figure out what the fuck was really going on with me. I want to be transparent without divulging all of my traumas, as this isn’t the time nor place for that. But I need y’all to know I’m not just flapping my gums, I know exactly what I’m talking about. I’ve lived it.

I went to therapy for 6 months and was diagnosed with manic depression, aka bipolar 1, 2 years ago. I left therapy after learning healthy coping skills and found a group that teaches about the subconscious mind. It changed the way I approached healing entirely. Once I dove into my subconscious and got close to the CORE of my problems I began having massive consistent mood swings between being manic and being depressed. The highs were REALLY high and the lows were REALLY low. It lasted for a long time and was consistent. I felt like I was losing my mind. It was overwhelming and I was so afraid because I thought I was getting worse instead of better. Come to find out I was creating new neural pathways and my brain was freaking out cuz, why wouldn’t it? My brain was only used to functioning in a specific way, and I was moving away from that. For like a solid year I truly felt like my brain was on the fritz. It was an extremely rough period, and I was doing this all on my own. No therapist, no counselor, no spiritual teacher.. just me. I was working full time in a super toxic environment and I was also romantically involved with a manipulative, emotionally abusive man. Which in the end allowed me to really face all of my remaining traumas and fears. I’ll make a different post about how our relationships and our jobs mirror what’s going on inside and how we should use our connections to address our core issues, some other day.

But anywho, despite all that, I kept going. Kept learning and kept processing. I reached a point where there was no depression but I was manic for WEEKS. I knew it was mania but I couldn’t make it stop. It was better than being depressed but I genuinely felt CRAZY. And then suddenly… one day…. It was gone🤯 Completely gone. And I was just… at peace, happy even. Despite going through one of the worst betrayals and heartbreaks of my life in the midst of all that. I haven’t had a manic depressive episode in almost 3 months. After a lifetime of not being able to regulate my emotions, I mastered it. In the realest way. I’m not saying I healed my bipolar disorder but I meeean 🙈🤭🥲 i have never been this level headed in my life. I have never been this at peace. And it’s REAL. No faking.

I say all of this to say, you cannot truly heal without diving deep into your subconscious mind. You cannot heal without feeling every single feeling that’s trapped inside of you. It’s impossible. You will never heal if you continue to ignore, downplay, or suppress your traumatic experiences or your feelings. You will never heal if you don’t take radical accountability for your life and your choices. If you want to HEAL you’re gonna have to want freedom more than you want to hold on to the programs and traumas that are hurting you. You have to stop placing blame on the outside world. Self pity is a dead end road that many people never find the courage to back out of.

They lead us to believe that mental illnesses are forever and I wholeheartedly disagree. I had chronic anxiety since I was a child and its GONE. Depression GONE. Mania GONE. I can’t speak on all mental illnesses but every single one I had is gone. ADHD is one thing I don’t think you can get rid of, I honestly believe that’s just how brains naturally function, everyone I know has ADHD lol. It shows up differently case by case. BUT you can restructure your lenses of perception to make it work FOR YOU. That’s how I’ve been able to really learn, not just memorize all of this, in such a short amount of time.. on top of learning about a bunch of other various topics that interest me and dealing with every day life, showing up for my family and friends etc.

We all have the capability of being our own hero. But they want your money man. They want us endlessly consuming. The government, big pharma, psychologists that give you just enough information to keep you coming back. They want us to hate ourselves and to feel hopeless. They want us to feel like we can’t do it without them. They want us on the drugs and on the couch for the rest of our lives. Obedient cogs in their machine. The free group I learned most of what I know about the subconscious mind also has a program that walks you through their “master healing course,” but that shit costs $10,000. I was FLOORED when I received what they referred to as a “readiness call.” And honestly slightly offended. I felt like I was baited and bamboozled with the free group.

I’m not tryna blast them because I truly did learn a lot while I was in the group, but I have to call a spade a spade. The women leading the group are trapped in a capitalist headlock and feel justified in their methods. Like yeah they’re sharing vital information in the closed group for free. But ultimately living their best lives off the backs of deeply wounded people who are just trying to heal. All that talk about challenging core belief systems and they never stopped to question why they think that’s okay. Capitalism is directly linked to white supremacy and the white savior complex, but that’s also a topic for another day. I think it’s all just so gross.

Just like when I was in therapy, I took what I needed and got the fuck out of dodge. I understand these people have to make a living too, but people deserve to HEAL. No matter how much money they have in the bank. And I’m trying my best to do my part for the people that can’t afford therapy or special programs. Or don’t trust someone else to coach them through. Besides, we already have what it takes to save and free ourselves from our mental prisons. People just need knowledge on how to access that power. You don’t need a psych degree or to become a neuroscientist to be able to really grasp this shit. You don’t have to become some super spiritual guru or anything like that. You just have to have a deep desire to learn, grow, and change. You have to have a desire to just be your truest, most authentic self. Whatever that looks like. They rely on people not having a clue about how any aspect of self truly functions. Cuz I guarantee you they know about us what we don’t know about ourselves.. on a very large scale. Mentally and spiritually. Health is wealth but knowledge is power. And don’t you ever forget it.

I hope you read all the way through. Im gonna pin this post so it doesn’t get lost, I post a lot on purpose. I’m nobody’s savior except my own, but I really just want to help people. That’s why I’m here. Helping people heal is apart of my purpose. God definitely put me on desk duty for a reason. I have a particular piece of the puzzle most people don’t have. I’m not citing anything tho, google is your friend lol😂 i would never tell anyone to take what I say and run with it. Do your own research. I would encourage everyone to become VERY curious about every aspect of themselves.. start reading up on the subconscious mind.. I did my best to put it in basic terms but there are multitudes of books and articles written by actual neuroscientists out there that can further help. Learn spirituality and distance yourselves from dogmatic religious beliefs.. lose your ego and guard your spirit… start small, but think big.. and fight for yourself, because we all deserve to be free. None of us truly will be until we all are. It will be a long process and you have to be patient with yourself. We tend to believe that our pain separates us but in all honesty it’s the ONE thing we all have in common. We’ve all been through shit. Don’t delude yourself into believing even with the knowledge it’s something you can rush through. And please note, I’m forever a student. I’m not saying I know it all by any means. Just wanted to share what I do know to be true. And this I KNOW. Have a good day everyone &… happy healing ✨

#subconscious mind #healing