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fixing-bad-posts · 1 year

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[Image description: A text post, edited blackout-poetry style with the pansexual and bisexual flags to read, “I wish all pansexuals a very fuck a bi person”]

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I wish all pansexuals a very fuck a bi person

Submitted by @butchexe

#fbp submission #blackout poetry #butchexe #bi pan solidarity #pan bi solidarity #pansexual pride #pansexual positivity #bi positivity #bi pride #queer #queer solidarity

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wnderingcryptid · 2 years

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⚠️Long Post Ahead!!

I’ve seen a lot of blogs about the whole pansexual vs bisexual debate and pansexual and bisexual solidarity floating around so I wanted to share my thoughts and experience with both labels. (Both as a vent and to show how confusing and nonsensical sexuality + gender can be)

TLTR: Labels are entirely made up by people as a way to explain to others what they feel/don’t feel and to explain how they wan’t others to refer to them. This means that labels are entirely personal to each individual person and their definitions can change overtime. We cannot hate/judge people because they use a label that in the past had a negative definition and now has a positive one, and we cannot hate/judge people for creating new more specific ones. On the flip side, we cannot expect people to understand and comprehend every label so we need to do the best to educate and inform people about them!

Now for the long part! (you can ask me questions ab this if you wish to):

The first non-monosexual label I came across was bisexual, which was due to my mother who is bisexual. I was in 6th grade at the time and was beginning to learn more about the LGBTQ+ and, simultaneously, myself. As a young kid I never tried to influence who I was (ex: act girly), but I believed that a label placed upon you couldn’t be changed. I thought that my gender was dictated on what I was assigned as from birth- which stemmed from the lack of education on what transgender was, and I also thought since I was a girl I HAD to like boys. Even when I found out about other sexualities I had a hard time shaking off my “responsibility” to like men, which didn’t feel like a burden since I did and still like mostly men. The only times it really affected me was when I developed crushes on girls, but fantasized those girls turning into boys because for some reason I just didn’t realize I could like women? I still liked their personalities and I thought they looked pretty- but I couldn’t POSSIBLY like and date a girl. Eventually I accepted that I could like women, and adopted the bi label. During that time I had also adopted the genderfluid label, but my view point on gender was just fueled on how I liked to dress and act.

Like most kids in my generation, I also had a lack of internet supervision. This led to some… interesting… experiences. I might have been groomed, but for the most part I just met kids my age who, like me, were stupid and didn’t understand a thing about what a crush actually was. In my head, if I wanted to spend a lot of time with someone I had a crush on them. Me and a lot of my online friends also would roleplay so our idea of a relationship had to be both cute and dramatic, which is unhealthy and not realistic at all. I think I had gotten into 3 “relationships” before I actually, somewhat, developed a real crush on someone. I eventually opened up to that person, and that person also liked me, so we ended up dating. Our relationship was very toxic, mainly because we were very co-dependant, so young, and didn’t understand setting boundaries and saying things like “please don’t leave me or i’ll do blank” wasn’t a healthy thing despite feeling like it was true. Nonetheless that person taught me a lot and introduced me to two new labels, pansexuality and nonbinary. They themselves were nonbinary and pansexual and taught me about it. The definition I got for both labels weren’t exactly fully true. Pansexuality was like bisexuality but you also liked nonbinary people and nonbinary was just a mix of being a woman and a man. At the time I thought I fit these definitions because a) I never felt like my gender identity was fluid, but rather a mix of female and male (again, still based off of how I acted and dressed), and b) I liked that person at the time, who was nonbinary, so I liked women, men, and nonbinary people.

Eventually I found out that nonbinary was actually an umbrella term where everyone experiences gender differently, and I also found out that pansexuality was like bisexuality but you just didn’t have a preference. As I grew I still identified as pansexuality, despite the change in definition. I think this was because I was so desperate to be in a relationship and felt like I “needed” one (a view point which is soooo unhealthy and ruined a lot of my relationships, plus led to me being used), so I just really didn’t care about what gender the person was. I also developed my first actual in person crushes, one of them identified as a woman at the time and the other one is agender. It was through them that I actually started to question what kind of person I was looking for and through getting in a relationship with the agender person I learned what’s healthy and what’s not healthy. Eventually I started to create boundaries and often visualized what my ideal partner would be, which also led to me realizing that almost every time I visualized a guy. I also experimented with different gender identities, ranging from transgender, to agender, to demiboy, to eventually not giving a flying fck about what label I used and focusing on learning about how I felt about myself. I also realized that gender isn’t based on how you dress or act.

Even to this day I describe my gender as a mix of the lack of one and a guy, more specifically the amount of how much I feel like a guy fluctuates between no gender and a “half guy.” I also learned that labels are just a way to convey a feeling or lack of a feeling, which often has rules attached to them to both use against/control people and to communicate how you wan’t people to refer to you. So while labels are hella useful we cannot use them to define other people, thats when they become harmful. Labels are also constantly changing because they’re different for everyone. We can’t get mad at someone because they use a certain label that in the past had a negative meaning but now has a positive one. Ex: Pansexuality, which many people try to argue against bc people use to use it in transphobic ways (excluding all transgender people as a third gender, as if transwomen aren’t real woman). We also can’t exactly control how people define their own labels, or control which ones they use. Some people view pansexuality as the lack of a preference in gender, and some people view pansexuality as just liking all genders. Some people also use other similar labels and “nonsensical” ones to describe their sexuality/gender or lack of it. You can’t get mad at them because they are using labels the way they’re supposed to be used, to describe to other people what you feel you are/aren’t!! Since all of this depends on feelings, sometimes gender/sexuality is non-static. Sometimes people switch labels because they don’t fit anymore or because they realized they never were that label to begin with. For better explanation, if you know someone who use to identify as lesbian but now identifies as pansexual (or vice versa), either that person just realized they like more than just women or at one point they only liked women but now like more than just women. Yes it can be confusing at thats why some people don’t get it right. Thats also why a lot of labels get push back, because people don’t understand it. We need to listen to each other more!!! The only time a label isn’t valid is when it is used to justify the harm a person does to others (ex: pedophiles and zoophiles).

After realizing this I actually switched back to using the label bisexual, but my use of pansexual was still valid. I do believe at one point I didn’t have a gender preference, but my viewpoint on love has drastically changed and therefore sexuality has changed. While fundamentally I like people for who they are, when I talk about my ideal partner I usually do lean towards more masculine identifying people. I seek out more masculine people, but my feelings for people don’t just develop because the person is masculine, they develop because I grow close to that person for who they are.

#bisexual #pansexual #lgbtq #lgbtq+#pan vs bi #pan bi solidarity #pan #bi #lgbtq community #lgbtq+ community #bi rights #pan rights #valid

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thelonelywhale · 2 years

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I know it’s post pride, but consider

#bi pan solidarity #bisexual #pansexual #can also sub in attractive for hot if bi- or pan-ro is more your speed #I thought of this at 2am and couldn't rest until I made it

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ansburg · 8 months

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Now, perhaps we might try a more — intimate style.

#baldur's gate 3 #bg3 spoilers #bg3 #bg3 astarion #bg3 wyll #wyll ravengard #astarion ancunin #bg3edit #wyllstarion #peak bi x pan solidarity btw #idk what their ship name is but. making this set converted me #(im still a wyll x karlach truther but i have a meta in my brain abt these two Right Now)

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brightmoontrigon · 11 months

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kindred

#bisexual #pansexual #queer #bi pan solidarity > bi pan diskhorse #we're all in this together and we gain nothing by tearing each other down #cas draws

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lgbtqtext · 15 days

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hiriamcdaniels · 9 months

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Don't make me tap the sign

#ace discourse #pan discourse #bi discourse #queer discourse #lgbt discourse #aro discourse #queer solidarity #bi lesbian discourse #transmed #truscum

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justdavina · 5 days

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I really love her amazing dress! Don't You?

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queerfemboybf · 2 years

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meatyliver · 5 months

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hi, i am working on a future interview type project where i display queerness with art. please share or take the survey if you are lgbtq! this is a serious survey, please treat it as so

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fixing-bad-posts · 5 months

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bi people like pansexuals

Submitted by @puppyenergy

#fbp submission #blackout poetry #puppyenergy #bi pan solidarity #bisexuality #pansexuality #queer solidarity #queer #mspec labels

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punkroselalonde · 2 years

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Happy international lesbian day to ALL lesbians. Especially the lesbians who keep seeing other posts telling them they're somehow oppressing themselves.

Mspec lesbians, nonbinary lesbians, trans lesbians, lesboys, straight lesbians, he/him lesbians, they/them lesbians, gnc lesbians, aroace lesbians, aro lesbians, ace lesbians, any lesbians who dare exist outside the narrow box of cis white lesbian separatism, all of you are valid as fuck. (This is by no means an exhaustive list.)

You're not somehow harming your own community by simply existing, and the hatred is coming from a loud minority who knows nothing of our community's history. Queer elders are on our side, and so is everyone else who knows lesbian history.

Don't be afraid to take up space and be loud. Your voice matters just as much as any other lesbian's. You deserve to be proud, no matter what you're told.

#Sigi speaks #Sigi.txt #actual post #lesbian #queer #mspec solidarity #mspec lesbian #bi lesbian #lesboy #pan lesbian #lesbian solidarity #lesbian day #international lesbian day #rad inclus #queer solidarity

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robynochs · 11 months

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Happy #PanVisibilityDay! Let's work together to hold space between and beyond the gay/straight binary. 💗💛💙

#pan visibility day #pansexual visibility day #bi pan solidarity #pansexual #pansexuality #panromantic #panromantism #pan pride #pansexual pride #panromantic pride

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queerblue · 1 year

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Ok so clearly we gotta protect the sapphics so here's some sapphic shows that are still on that we all need to watch:

Sex Lives Of College Girls (Renewed for Season 3).

A League Of Their Own (Renewal pending).

Heartstopper (renewed for Season 2, yes I'm including this because Tara and Darcy are main characters and I love them so much fight me).

Yellowjackets (Renewed for Season 2).

The L Word: Generation Q (Season 3 airing).

Twenties (Season 2 airing).

Hightown (Renewed for Season 3).

9-1-1 (Season 6 airing, while not a sapphic show there's a lesbian main character, her and her wife have a child together).

Fire Country (Season 1 airing, again not a sapphic show but there's a lesbian main character!).

(I did so much searching god they really canceled everything, write in the comments or tags any I forgot!).

🧡💖🧡💖

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dyingroses · 5 months

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#bi things #bi thoughts #bi the way #tess servopoulos #joel miller #pedro pascal #the last of us #the last of us hbo #tlou hbo #tlou #bi panic #bi pan solidarity #queer

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kappamairi · 5 months

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Just a bi/pan boy panicking over his crushes 💗💛💙 ! by kappamairi

I love to imagine Izuku as bi/pan and having different types of crushes on his classmates (the biggest one of course is directed to Kacchan hehe 💕) It's also a way for me to represent all the ships I enjoy the most featuring Izuku in it 💞

It feels very good to draw this fanart and I hope it will bring lots of happy, fuzzy emotions to the bi/pan comrades passing by 💓🌈Enjoy folks !

#bisexuality #pansexuality #izuku midoriya #bnha fanart #artists in tumblr #artists on tumblr #my stuff #bi panic #bi pan solidarity

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