#parental wounds

[twoheadedfather]

i am so so so sick of not being able to snap at my parents.

#i just told you no to something one billion times SHUT THE FUCK UP AND STOPPPPPP #“you're such an asshole” SHTIU THE FUCKFUASFISAUFSOPOSF #childhood trauma #trauma #toxic parents #abusive parents #parental abuse #childhood abuse #mommy issues #daddy isues #parental wounds #parental issues #verbal abuse

[kitten-forward]

#mental health #positive mental attitude #mental wellbeing #mental wellness #self healing #therapy #mental illness #trauma #trauma recovery #trauma response #mother wound #mommy issues #parental wounds

[pyxisspeaks]

Just my fiancé healing a heart he didn’t break ❤️‍🩹

#daddy issues #mommy issues #bpd stuff #abandoment issues #actually traumatized #fuck it hurts so much man #parental wounds #they were supposed to love me #my inner child is screaming #I can hear her she just shrieks at me #just wails when you talk

[tawaifeddiediaz]

do you ever think about how much it hurts eddie when chris expresses how much of his mother he's beginning to lose. because we know that he does his best to keep her memory alive, that they go to her grave and they talk openly about her. but there are things that eddie will never be able to replicate for him - her voice, the way she smelled, the way she'd walk towards him, how she felt when she held him close, etc - and chris will continue to lose those details even if eddie talked about shannon 24/7 for the rest of his life.

that is a sort of helplessness that i don't think anyone talks about enough, and that makes eddie's expression when he overhears chris talking to buck all the more wounded

#zee rambles #i dunno i just see this a lot in widowed parents #and anyone thats mourning or grieving and its a loss that never really leaves you #but its literally salt to an open wound to hear your child like this #knowing that theres grief that changes you unmeasurably #911 abc #911 meta #911 spoilers #shannon diaz #eddie diaz #christopher diaz #tw grief

[angrytraumavoid]

Me as a teenager: I really relate to victims of child abuse. Weird, given my parents are amazing.

Me now: oh.

#parental abuse #emotional abuse #emotional neglect #child abuse #toxic family #family abuse #emotional wounds #dysfunctional family #ctpsd #trauma

[lostmf]

#sadnees #tw depressing thoughts #i'm sad #depressing shit #tw depressing stuff #depressing life #childhood trauma #poetic #childhood #quotes #childhood ptsd #childhood truama #child abuse #mother #tw abuse #emotional abuse #toxic parents #generational truama #truamacore #wound tw #tw ptsd #tw truama #literature quotes #why am i like this #book quote #i am in pain #kill my thoughts #mentally tired #mentally fucked #can you hear me

[mad-girlslove-song]

"my mother" by lea jane

#mommy issues #mother wound #daughterhood #intergenerational trauma #family issues #coming of age #web weavings #web weaving #web weave #parent trauma #eldest sibling #eldest sister #eldest daughter #writing #quotes #essay #on mothers #on childhood #on growing up #on parents #inner child #trauma #inner child healing #reparenting #childhood trauma #mother

[anouchan-jpg]

#web weaving #word weaving #intertextuality #parallels #father wound #mother wound #parenting #parenthood #daddy issues #spilled ink #spilled poetry #poetry #poetryblr #toxic parents #childhood trauma #adhd #anxiety #depression #anger issues #rage #female rage #im tired #anouchan #mine #me #quote compilation #dark academia #dark acadamia aesthetic #dark academia core #healing

[lanotteviene]

anyway it's funny in an interesting way how the internet turned Kafka into the sad boy with an existentialist + romantic flavour instead of the author of seminal works about alienation & the confusing, painful contrast between what society deems normal and what Isn't. how the rules that establish that divide aren't made clear, how to the marginalized they seem ever-changing, impossible to grasp, surreal to the point of despair.

if you've ever felt overwhelmed by the absurdity of a system that seems legitimately against you instead of for you, if you've had days or months or years where language or cultural barriers have made you feel wrong to your core, if you've dealt with so much stress or mental illness or abuse that you've struggled to recognize yourself in the mirror his work talks about your struggles and would probably speak to you

#this is a very resonant theme for queer and/or young people #and for good reason -- the latter group he was downright referring to in the metamorphosis (a work ostensibly about the clash between older #generations and the younger #wounded and lost #one he was part of). Kafka wasn't merely sad per se #he was a marginalized person - both ethnically/religiously and linguistically #as a German-speaking jewish man in Czechoslovakia #he was doubly alienated; #stuck in the ghetto and forbidden from interacting with the German minority in Prague while also not part of the cultural Czech majority #and that alienation followed him in his domestic life in the form of a wounding distance from his own parents and their generation #literature #franz kafka

[moongothic]

You know I am gonna go on a limb and say that Dragon isn't a bad father who "abandoned his child"

Like we didn't need confirmation that Dragon is an ex-marine to come to this conclusion, but it does add to the fact that Dragon would've known that if he ever fathered a child, that child would be in grave danger simply for being Dragon's child. Dragon would've known he couldn't have stayed with his child

The Government went out of its way to hunt for the Pirate King's literal unborn child, hurting countless people, innocent pregnant women, their husbands and babies in the process. Because Roger's blood was "evil" and so was the child for carrying that same "evil blood"

And mere years after the hunt for Roger's child, the Government would put a gigantic bounty on an 8 year old child because she could read forbidden texts. And we know the Ohara Incident became the final straw that transformed the Freedom Fighters into the Revolutionary Army.

Dragon was the head of that Army. Even without being an ex-marine, he would have known that the government would treat his child (and partner) the exact same as Ace and Robin. But knowing he was an ex-marine, it might have even given him extra insight into just how fucking bad the Government was

The Army would have been no place to raise a child in general

And being raised in the Army would've robbed the child from ever having any freedom, the ability to choose from themselves who or what they wanted to become and make their own path

If Dragon ever wanted Luffy to be free, he could not have kept the child with him. The child had to be left somewhere safe, away from him. And if Dragon knew Ace had been entrusted to Garp, then he would've been 100% certain Garp would be willing to take care of his son (as Garp was clearly bending the laws for Roger's kid, like surely he'd then do the same for his own grandkid)

Dragon was in a shit situation and in the end, I do genuinely believe he did the best thing he could to give his child a future by not endangering him with his own existence

#Moon posting #OP spoilers #One Piece #Of course there is the question of why Luffy ended up with Garp instead of his bio-mom #Maybe bio-mom died from Shounen Mother Disease #Maybe bio-mom also had a bounty on their head and Luffy would've still been in danger with them #Bio-mom had been affiliated with Dragon regardless and if that ever got out both them and the kid would've been in danger #Maybe Luffy was with a foster mom for a few years (like can we know for sure Garp went on full paternity leave for Luffy??) #Regardless he ended up with Garp eventually #I mean this isn't to say that if Dragon would've been great at parenting (though Sabo did turn out fine) #Disaster Family and all #((Mind you Sabo was rescued after being wounded by a Tenryubito. That kid was in danger anyways)) #I'm just sayin' I want to hold back on the Dragon Slander #He did the best he could man :( #OP Meta

[unpretty]

love the idea of like. a bruce wayne and clark kent body swap. where bruce in clark's body is like "having superpowers feels amazing holy shit" and clark in bruce's body is like "not having superpowers feels awful holy shit". but actually with anyone else it wouldn't have felt that different, it's just that bruce doesn't take good care of himself and forgot what it felt like to have no joint or back pain.

#original #if only alfred were aware that the normal amount of pain from old stab wounds is none #you know how your undiagnosed parents will be like 'yeah that's normal' when you describe a symptom #alfred is like that but with the consequences of someone trying to kill you

[safe-haven-safe-place]

I believe *many* people grow up in this situation. With loving parents who are overall supportive, yet you can’t really come to them with your issues, problems, or any intense emotion. You feel like they don’t actually know you as a human, and even though you’ve spent decades with them, they feel like a familiar stranger. Not getting our emotional needs met during our developmental years has a profound impact on how we see ourselves, and our adult relationship patterns.

Emotionally unavailable parents cannot attune to us so we don’t usually learn to identity what we feel, speak openly about emotions, or learn we can ask for help.

But maybe most common (or prolific) is a nagging feeling of not belonging, an emptiness or a hole within us that we can spend a lifetime trying to fill.

The positive news is healing is possible. And we can begin the practice of giving ourselves what we always needed

@the.holistic.psychologist

#mental health #healing #recovery #childhood trauma #trauma healing #unhealed trauma #trauma wound #trauma recovery #complex post traumatic stress disorder #cptsd recovery #cptsd #emotional neglect #emotionally unavailable parent

[audrinawf]

The Ideal Mother vs The Borderline Mother from the book “Understanding the Borderline Mother” by Christine Ann Lawson.

a gold standard for information on BPD mothers. a painful but eye opening book that single handedly healed a lot of my mother issues (not all of them) but this a must for anyone that’s never received the validation of growing up with an unwell mother.

#bpd #raised by narcissists #borderline personality disorder #borderline mother #abusive childhood #self care #mental health #self development #pluto moon #hades moon #mother wound #strict parents #emotional abuse #glow up #psychology

[robotsandramblings]

i know we joke about Hunter adopting every child he comes across but i also 100% headcanon that he absolutely loves babies and instantly gets baby fever when he sees one

like he will make any and every excuse to hold a baby. the second a parent is indicating they might be tired/need a break, he's there faster than the speed of light, ready to take baby off their hands.

#hunter #the bad batch #star wars #sw headcanons #in my AUs he's literally well known for this #need a babysitter for your bebe? call hunter #if the baby's parents are idk in the hospital or something and bebe needs taken care of? call hunter #come to visit and just wanna hang with your friends and need to get bebe off your hands? find hunter #any partner he ever has knows that if they see a baby they STEER HUNTER AWAY or else baby fever will kick into full gear #then they have to listen to hunter for the next 48 hours try to convince them why they need a bebe too #(even if they already have like 10 adopted older kids) (''but we don't have a BABY!!'' cries hunter) #also he could care less about all the messy and gross parts of dealing with a baby. he deals with diapers and puke like it's nothing. #(he's a soldier i'm sure he's seen worse anyways) (he's probably happy to be dealing with diapers and puke instead of wounded and dead men) #(Sorry it got dark at the end here lmao)

[angrytraumavoid]

actually fucking insane I have to beg for basic human things like attention and communication from my family. these people are insane

#parental abuse #emotional abuse #emotional neglect #child abuse #toxic family #family abuse #emotional wounds #dysfunctional family #ctpsd #trauma

[lostmf]

#sadnees #tw depressing thoughts #depressing shit #i'm sad #tw depressing stuff #depressing life #childhood trauma #quotes #poetic #childhood #childhood ptsd #childhood truama #inner child #child abuse #tw abuse #narcissistic abuse #emotional abuse #truamacore #generational truama #tw selfhate #wound tw #tw ptsd #ptsd vent #toxic parents #mixed art #kill my thoughts #kill my life #i am in pain #mother #i am alone