no actually you’re either gentle parenting your child or you’re being emotionally and/or physically abusive to them, whether or not you’re aware of that.
because the term gentle parenting already includes discipline and teaching your kid right from wrong. gentle parenting doesn’t mean you can’t tell your kid no. it means you can tell them no when they do something they shouldn’t, but instead of punishing or yelling at them, you’re explaining and giving them reasons why they can’t do that, you are helping them learn and encouraging them to be better. gentle parenting means you’re using reasons built on mutual respect instead of anger. because yes, no matter how young your child is, they deserve respect too.
I’m sorry but most of the times when someone says they’re a strict parent, what it means is that they give their child childhood trauma that’ll last a lifetime, whether or not they’re aware of it. especially parents who brag to other people about how strict they are and how they punished their children.
and I’m sorry but saying you have a short temper is never an excuse to be emotionally and/or physically abusive towards your kid either.
“I yelled at you because I have a short temper” then why am I the one suffering? if you can’t control your anger, then get help. work on it. do better. be better.
also… your child standing up for themself against you, when you’re being abusive to them, isn’t them being disrespectful towards you. it means they are defending themself because you wouldn’t do that for them and so they had to step in and be their own protector.
if you’re a parent and can defend and stand up for yourself when you feel like you need to, but at the same time punish your kid when they stand up for themself against you, then you are the problem.
I was that child and I’m gonna make it as simple as I can for any parent out there — because no kid deserves to go through what I went through — imagine yourself owning a dog. really. you can either
a.) beat that dog whenever they do something wrong and simply take your anger out on them until they’re fully submissive and are terrified of you
or
b.) train them with love and gentleness and earn their love and loyalty in return
now imagine both A and B dogs on leashes and imagine them no longer being on leashes one day. which dog do you think will run away as far as they can and never look back, and which one do you think will stay because they love and want to be with their owner?
This is why I will never judge anyone for choosing to cut all contact with their parents
Some parents really don’t understand their impact and when they can’t dangle their obligations in the kid’s face anymore, they act all confused and hurt when the child wants nothing to do with them after gaining independence
I literally know some people who took it to heart when their parents said “I’m not one of your little friends” so they genuinely never tell their parents what’s going on in their life nor do they give their parents updates which is understandable
I honestly feel that some of these parents don’t deserve do overs with their grandkids either so if the person doesn’t wanna bring their kids around, i get that too
Hello, how's it going? Do you have a good fanfic with Katniss and Peeta being parents and raising their children?
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Sorry this took so long! Hopefully these are new to you! I've added this idea to my future masterlists list!
A Day With Dad-ashyblondwaves (ao3)
Summary:Katniss and Peeta's daughter spends the day with Peeta at the bakery shortly before their son is born.
Birds in Heaven Know I Love You-CassandraO (ao3)
Summary: Katniss and her six month old daughter.
give you my wild-melissaeverdeen13 (ao3)
Summary: a look into katniss and peeta's life as they grow back together after the war; their experiences with friendship, love, and parenthood.
His First Hero-Ashyblondwaves (ao3)
Summary: Peeta and his son. Is there really much more to say? From the Synchronicity/Everything Grow universe, but can be followed without reading those stories :)
Just Hope They Grow Up Normal-CassandraO (ao3)
Summary: This is a little moment in Katniss' and Peeta's life with their children. It happens in the 'Interviews' universe, the longer one-shot that I wrote, but it's a good stand-alone.
Not a Walk in the Park-HGfanonezillion (ao3)
Summary: Katniss and Peeta try desperately to keep the peace as their daughter Lily is getting ready for a date and their sons are giving her a hard time.
The Pearl Ring-Demona424 (ao3)
Summary: When Peeta's daughter Violet is feeling lost and in need of advice, he shares the story of how he came home to Katniss.
As always, let me know if you guys have any questions, comments, or suggestion!
Two elderly women visiting the graves of their dead parents in the Appalachian Mountains sit on the headstones and talk, 1983 - by David Turnley (1955), American/French
My mother wanted to be a mother. It was her dream to be a mother. She poured all her energy into being a Good Christian Mother.
She did not want me. She wanted motherhood. I was a side effect of her dream. Once I was old enough to disagree with her, she hated me. I wasn't making her look like a Good Christian Mother. I was loud, disobedient, needy... almost like a child. Not quiet and pretty and grateful for crumbs.
Yes, she birthed me. For herself and her partner. For the people who were already born. Not for me. As all mothers have for all of time. It's not the birthing that makes a mother worth honoring, it's the parenting.