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marveldrm · 2 days
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I definitely feel like I've been way to hard on sylvee because she's literally been around for everything and never responded this way but you're right. I truly think because of the cc sphere she's in they went after her (esp her past friendship with andi and then of course Hannah) we know she's close (was?) with geenelly too who is semi-part of the british crew. There's so many factors and I think it's important to remind ourselves that from what I remember she has besides the unfollowing and dm messages about it- never openly vagued or talked about them openly like others have (correct me if I'm wrong). I really hope she talks to them and they work it out but idk if they'll go back to how they used too. I think eventually her and sapnap might since they seem, from my perspective, the closest but sap is a loyal af. Like I really wonder if him and punz are done. Rip punznap sigh 🙏
Hannah is... more difficult for me, and it makes me really sad. I always used my prime on her and was almost at 2yrs lol though I've been watching her for far longer than that 😞 i really respected how she would try so hard to be careful, nuanced, and respectful in her takes but I truly think her need to be the champion of women streamers has led to blind support in not only just this case. I do think we all agree it's incredibly needed and very admirable especially with how they're still treated in the gaming/cc atmosphere and what she has gone through and experienced first hand, I'm sure there are tons of things we don't know too! However it's also important to know respect nuance in all situations.
I think to her streaming and content will always come 1st- it's her job i get it. Guess you can't blame her but I also can stop watching her for awhile. I also think she's another disillusioned cc who thought after becoming closer with dteam they'd do all this content together and dteam just doesn't work that way they just don't care or need too, you know? Moving to a new state doesn't help and can be really rough for the first year or two and that can hurt. Hannah also clearly cares alot (I'm the same way, it's part of why i liked her) and I'm sure it got frustrating esp because fans kept asking her to do stuff with them but it's the same as jm- if you're tired of it then you need to find a way to deal with it without taking it out on them.
I guess we'll see what happens. I'm really proud of sylvee for acknowledging her part so openly.
yeah I understand and agree anon :) it really is not an easy situation. For me my own comfort is the most important so I stopped watching somw people but I will try to show them understanding and empathy and I hope they can reflect on these decisions and wish them well :)
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getawayheaven · 1 year
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@back-to-louis I am creating a separate post here because this is gonna be long and I am really up for discussion because I think we both can gain some knowledge if we can have open discussion.
I did went through your closeting tag and you think forced contractual closeting isn't a thing, but rather being in a closet and bearding is a choice. I highly disagree. Being in a closet is never a choice. No one wants to live in hiding. The reason can be contracts, homophobia, the fear of coming out or anything else. But these all are pressures not choices. Being in a closet is never a choice and the person can't be blamed for it.
Second how can you say that forced contractual closeting isn't a thing when Rebecca Ferguson has been screaming about forced contracts since years now. Here is everything she went through. But then you said But I don’t believe that there are contracts holding people hostage for life. Where’s the proof that they have forced them to sign up for life on these contracts? Then here is the proof
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And I agree that closeting is illegal. There can't be direct closeting contracts but what about other minor and hidden contracts that directly binds the person to a closet. One is image clause. I hope I don't have to explain you what an image clause is. Contracts can be very complicated and sometimes there can't be even a way to get out of them. Here is another example of how fucked up contracts can be.
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Fun Fact -  Louis followed and after several minutes unfollowed JEDWARD on twitter and update accounts reported it. He brought whole fandom's immediate attention to them.
The next obvious question that you raised is - If these people can come out in public to speak up then why Harry and Louis can't, even though they are much bigger and richer than these people? Because the more bigger a person gets the tighter the closet gets. Millions and millions of dollars are at stake when it comes to Louis and Harry, those people can do anything to keep their image as they want it to be because they are getting hugely profited by it. Rebecca has been speaking about what she suffered but even she dosen't know how much worse Harry and Louis's contract were. You need proof again? Here it is -
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Why was Harry so terrified? Why he didn't spoke against it if he was so terrified of a said clause? Why it took him more than a decade after signing the contract to speak about it in public? You know what's more to it that makes me question everything? It is this-
And about when he signed his solo contract and learned that the ability to make music would not be affected by personal transgressions, he burst into tears, a reaction he still seemed shocked by, retelling it to me now, years later. "I felt free," he explained. X
Now imagine how restricted he must be that he cried because he didn't knew he can have so much freedom. That he could be free. Do you have any idea how disgusting and gut wrenching contracts can be? Look at this -
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Rebecca tweeted this in 2021 and we know that since 2021 not a single boybander came out in public that he's been physically assaulted. Now imagine how disgusting this is. This means he's still going through it. Even Rebecca can't take any names. She can't do anything. Watch this video -
"The machine of the hiding is insane and inhumane. (...) It's gonna keep going until somebody who has something to lose stands up and says 'I am gay', somebody big." Country singer Chely Wright about being gay in Hollywood
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This proves that it's easy for small artist to come out. But for big artists it gets much more complicated and difficult. And this -
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@back-to-louis even now if you believe that forced contractual closeting isn't a thing then it's no wonder to me that Harry and Louis keep leaving hints for us. And you've been here since 2012 you know much more than me but I am shocked that how you just skipped all these crucial things and never discussed about it. I didn't found anything about these things on your blog. It's very easy to talk about convenient things but what about the other side of reality?
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sizzlingpatrolfox · 6 months
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More than whether he has a girlfriend or not, JK's persistence in feeding his y/n's delusions is annoying. And then he wonders why his fans are so crazy and stalkery. If you leave your gate open and house unlocked, I won't be able to act like it's not partially your fault when you get robbed blind. So if you spend all your time making statements like ARMYs are my girlfriends and ohh I have no time for one, and then your fans stalk you to the gym, or spend their hours trying to look into your house - I don't want to victim blame but maybe JK should take some responsibility too especially since he's obviously benefiting in other ways which is why he keeps doing this.
I'm glad Jimin grew out of this phase - he always set boundaries but he used to be a bit more lenient indulging this sort of behaviour in the past. Nowadays he almost always (sweetly) shuts y/n's down and even shipping-wise, he treats all the members pretty similarly - not that that helps much but still. JK with his y/n's and Tae with his shippers - they should really tone it down.
- I doubt JK is lying but all he said is that he doesn't have a girlfriend. He didn't confirm or deny the video. Chances are she's just a hookup and today's remarks will be enough to kill this whole discourse. Plus he posted a new Tiktok so that'll be a good distraction too.
Well it stemmed from a pretty gross violation of privacy so it's just as well I guess.
Tae should take some notes honestly. Him staying mum during the photo leaks, the whole following and unfollowing Jennie ig debacle and the (in my opinion) botched soft launch of their relationship in Paris - that was one L after another.
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No, he didn't say it wasn't him in the video. And there are more photos of him inside his apartment, from the same angle of the video. I only saw one where he's cooking and it's literally the same kitchen, same trashbins and all. I'm pretty sure it is him in that video.
I also never said that was his girlfriend, just a girl he was having sex with, so this changes nothing for me because my question was "is it Jungkook in that video?" no "does Jungkook have a girlfriend right now?" There is a difference.
Besides, he said he's not going to sue them - why couldn't he have clarified that it's not him in the video in the same sentence? Just saying that someone was spreading lies about him, or spreading false footage claiming it's him would've been fine. He confirmed tho that there's something that could be sued, he's just not going to. He also said he doesn't have a girlfriend right now because he wants to work. But back then when the video was allegedly filmed he wasn't working, so.
Not to mention everyone -shippers included- saying "he should sue those stalkers" like girlssss I thought that wasn't him being stalked? JSKSJD but well. That's about the fandom and not really about him.
I can't with jikookers tho, because some others are saying "well, he's not going to admit to having a girlfriend" and they're right. Jikookers have spent two years calling Jimin and Jungkook liars but now they're trying to act like the bigger person acting like they're offended at people calling him opportunistic and an editor of the truth. Like they don't do that themselves everytime their imagination of jikook doesn't fit reality.
For the record, I actually believe they would deny a girlfriend even if they had one. I said that months and months ago, that they would deny a relationship if it was the best thing to do because they're putting their careers first. ESPECIALLY Jungkook now, who's so desperate for fame. He'd literally be the first to deny a girlfriend the most vehemently even if he had one.
Not to mention it was the wrong place and time to say "actually yeah I have a girlfriend". Like I'm going to need people to be real.
The women who date people like them know that. They know they're not going to be acknowledged publicly. Chen was it? From exo. He's not even as famous as BTS and he never admitted to having a girlfriend, even though a lot of his fans already knew about it. He only came through when he had to get married, and that's what most do. So, if idols who are far less popular than BTS are keeping their romantic lives private, do army really think BTS -who have way more to lose- wouldn't do the same?????
As fun as gossip is and sometimes you just want to watch the world burn, I also don't really believe that they should admit to relationships. Part of me thinks that in case of taennie for example, all those photos were leaked and they've been seen together, they should've acknowledged it out of respect. On the other hand, they don't really owe anyone an explanation.
There's stuff that bothers me on a personal level, like once Harry Styles said he's never had a public relationship, when in fact everyone in the world who's interested could make a timeline of every single relationship he's ever had in his life because of how public he was about it. But... the thing is he was seen in public with his girlfriends but he never acknowledged them to the public. He doesn't get asked about them in interviews, fans don't ask him about it either. He doesn't even speak to the fans outside of his concerts. He definitely never brings up his girlfriends on conversations either. He doesn't show up to events with them.
So that bothered me a lot when he said that because it's very gaslight-y imo. Like, dude... we've seen it all. We've seen you with them. And the thing about taennie is pathetic to me in a similar fashion because we've also seen it and everybody pretends it doesn't exist. And the thing about following her on Instagram and victimizing himself like the app had done something wrong to him. That was so shitty. One thing Taehyung does have in his favor is that at least he never really denied it either.
In conclusion, I'm just a girl and human and sometimes my curiosity gets the best of me and there's a lot of lingering frustration about not knowing everything. At the same time, logically and empathetically, I understand that people are under no obligation to disclose personal information.
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elliesbelle · 7 months
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No offense, but you can't post new chapter months after the last one and blame it on readers that it "flopped " . New chapter was great but people get bored/forget about fics easily unless you're more consistent. It's just my opinion
that latest chapter took two months to write because of how long and convoluted it was. not to mention how things have been going in regards to my mental health and personal life lately.
almost on a daily basis, i get several messages and anons asking when the next chapter of the series is coming out. now, don’t get me wrong, i do appreciate those kinds of messages because it really shows how much people have been loving the series.
but it is very disheartening that people have essentially been demanding for the next chapter, then when i do release it, it doesn’t do so well.
i don’t owe it to anyone to be “consistent.” i could pump out the new chapters for y’all every other week and half ass them, but i love writing this story and i want to do it justice.
i do this completely for free and so do the other creators on here that work hard to produce content. this is not a job, but i treat it like such without any obligation.
so you can shove your “opinions” up your ass and unfollow me. if you wanna judge creators for feeling disappointed when their works don’t receive the love they hope for, you don’t deserve to read our content.
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ask-serendipity-sky · 5 months
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That thing with Holland is so sick. I've been seeing armys do bs for a long time but this genuinely made me ill.
Harassing a queer idol because the fetishizers in your fandom won't stop harassing him? Of course he named them, he's obviously getting requests from one group the most. They're so proud of being the biggest kpop ship - they should own this too. Why act innocent and naive now? And they all managed to completely ignore the point he was trying to make about how insane it is that these people are trying to forcefully out their faves even if they were actually not straight.
I just unfollowed every army I used to follow. They're either shifting the blame onto him or staying silent. They'll speak about a bunch of things when they need to virtue signal and it costs them nothing, they'll get into fights about the most stupid stuff with other fandoms, but the moment you can actually use your clout for something and speak on how awful it is that your fandom is essentially bullying a gay artist who we know has gone through so much - literal hate crimes - because he came out, you're completely silent? ARMYs have lost all sense of proportion, logic and morality.
The hypocrisy also strikes me because they'll go around naming pjms every day of the week. They always drag Jimin into fanwars. I don't see anyone saying let's not use his name then other than by solos themselves. But this isn't even the first time they've shielded tkkrs. They'll drag up random accounts with hardly any followers and a handful of likes and talk about solos infecting the fandom but god forbid anyone talk about tkkrs unless it's in the most general way so that you can sweep it away as a shipping thing.
And this discourse about namedropping is also ridiculous. They have 70K+ Jimin anti tkk shipper and 300K+ tkk shipping porn accounts running around freely. They tag JK in all their gross edits on Tiktok. We all saw them waving around the tkk banner during Jimin's bday event. Nobody had much to say about it except Jimin biased.
Plus do they actually think Tae and JK don't know? They just need to look at their comments during their lives to find out what tkk is. What are they even talking about? They've nursed these Jimin anti delusional shippers in their fandom for years but the problem is when others point that out?
I actually prided myself on following a variety of people so I'm never too enmeshed in any one group think. I used to follow ARMYs, shippers, solos and other KPop fandom accounts from my main but I'm done now. I was actually so proud that the fandom was being so active in speaking up about the Palestine cause but if your sense of mortality can't tell you how wrong what is happening now to Holland is and if you are too scared to sacrifice clout to speak up for him, then I can't take anything you say seriously. Sorry to bring up a serious real world issue in the midst of all this but what happened yesterday just tells me that if you can't stand up for a queer idol for petty bs fandom reasons or because you don't want to get involved when you know it's wrong (because I was very careful in curating my tl so I know the armys I used to follow at least have that much sense) then there's no way you'd actually do anything if were to cost you something in real life.
So yeah I still listen to BTS, I still like all the members but I'm done with 'army'.
Hello,
This was a tough read.
I can feel your anger and dissapointment and the only thing I can say is that I feel the same way.
It's "small" things like these that tell you who people really are and they are a sign of the person you could become. It may seem silly because it's kpop but it's real people with real struggles with real hate.
You don't have to be army or pjm or a shipper. None of those names mean a thing at the end of the day. Support what you want and stand up for what you believe.
I get you 🫂
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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feyregwynlidia · 10 days
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I want to rant a little so before y'all attack me I ship Elucien so pls chill the f out. As always my problem is the fans (AND NOT ALL OF THEM). And if you don't agree with any of this please be respectful or just unfollow or block me, I'm not looking for an argument :)
The hate Feysand or IC gets from different sides of the fandom is funny to me. When they don't want to blame their favorite character, they put it on IC. And I'm specifically want to talk about Eluciens.
It's a little long so ->
Idk what's their problem and I certainly don't want to know (I didn't even know there was a problem but apparently is) but I found this out unwillingly when Tumblr thinks I would enjoy these kind of posts or when people don't know how to tag properly lol
So it seems Eluciens have problem with IC because they don't let them communicate without being watched and if they leave them alone they'll be getting along instantly...
First of all have y'all forget the fact that they have been alone? After the war Feyre specially leaves them alone and let them talk. No one watches and there's no one there to make them uncomfortable. And If I'm not wrong there is one other time before he leaves for the search of Vassa. My point is the times they've been watched, was because IC didn't trust Lucien not because they have problem with his bond with Elain. The bond is sacred to them, they'll never have any problem with that trust me.
So the fact that you don't take into account that maybe Elain is really not ready to be with Lucien is beyond me. That you take away her agency and turn it into someone else's fault.
You don't want to accept that Elain just had a messy break up, she still mourns her human life, she's somewhere she doesn't belong to and is utterly lost. You want to completely forget that and blame it on IC while they're their biggest supporters.
I'm pointing out to Morrigan, Rhysand, Feyre, Cassian and maybe Nesta (after acosf)
Morrigan who's power is truth and asked Feyre to let them figures it out themselves even tho Feyre was trying to get them to talk to each other. She asked Feyre to not interfere even tho her intentions were good.
When Rhysand stopped Az because he knew there's no thoughts behind his actions. And when he didn't answer him about Mor or when he questioned the Cauldron he instantly had to stop it. (Probably because Tam/in said something similar about his bond with Feyre and he saw his brother is turning to someone he hates.) And while I didn't like the fact that he kinda decided for Elain, he also didn't know what she really wants but whatever it is he turns the events in favor of Lucien and Elain or let's say somewhere with less heart break. He wants them to at least have one chance before they do anything else. Because let's be honest if Rhys knew Az and Elain would've been happy together and Azriel would genuinely love her, he wouldn't have brought all those political reason as to why they can't be together. He would've find a way to make it happen. Rhysand is the person who wants for his family to get to their HEA. So it's completely obvious to me that he wanted to give Az reasons as to not think with his d*ck as always.
And they love LOVE to bash Feyre for even commenting on Cauldron being wrong. Listen so here's the thing: Sjm wanted to bring this question as a way to show that her mates are never wrong, they're suited for each other and 90% endgame. And since the first 3.5 books are 1st person and its Feyre's story, it had to be questioned by Feyre. This was an author's choice and not Feyre genuinely believing that. And it was a question that leads to Rhysand explaining how untrue it is. It was just a way for Sjm to show her mates are not wrong for each other. Feyre wasn't forcing this idea at all. She's new to all of this even tho she's been living with them for a couple of years. Compare to everyone else who has been born fae. She has the right to question things. (And they always come up with this question: what if someone question Feyre's bond with Rhys wouldn't she get mad? Um... No. Because she's seeing and experiencing the result of accepting the bond and it has clearly worked out for her. And beside being mates, she loves him. Being mated was a bonus point for them. So she probably wouldn't care if Cauldron was wrong. The mating bond isn't the only reason they're together. One day I'll write a post about the mating bond and why I think it can't be wrong but that's for another time.)
And Cassian is on board with them because he, like Feyre and Rhysand, knows how it's like to be with your mate. And we see him looking at Lucien with pity. And he also notices that night court is definitely not for Elain.
And Nesta literally said this in hofas:
“I’ve been in the Fae realms long enough to know that there are forces that sometimes guide us, push us along. I’ve learned to let them. And to listen.”
... I MEAN, I MEAN!!! *read it in timothée chalamet voice*
In acosf she called Elain out on her behavior. So you see, everyone is somehow rooting for Elucien and want them to at least give it a chance.
I said all this to prove that IC shouldn't be blamed while Elain (and maybe even Lucien we've never read either povs) don't want to take a step toward each other--for now. I guess it's just easier to blame IC for something that's literally not their fault. Everything they did after Lucien came into Velaris was understandable. They didn't trust him and he proved his somewhat loyalty to them or at the very least to Elain. And this was back in acowar so things has changed!!! But let's not forget that in the last winter solstice, Elain sat furthest from Lucien and it was her choice!! Her not giving Lucien a chance (yet) is her choice. Not wanting to be alone with him is her choice, please try to understand.
Still holding a grudge when circumstances has changed after acowar is just petty imo...
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cervidae-demon · 1 month
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In regards to the anon earlier regarding tagging ; You have it in your rules in fact about this.
4. Nothing NSFW will be tagued as it is a nsfw blog. If something in particular makes you uncomfortable, then tell me in PM to tag it and i will (for exemple, i already tag ‘tw : rape’ or ‘tw : rape mention’)
The issue at hand is that someone who likes your blog, following your rules, is asking out of kindness and respect to you about tagging something that they find uncomfortable. As I would imagine you would ask a blog you enjoy, but see some content that isn't 100% of their stuff, would ask them to tag it so you could still enjoy their blog.
You don't call it Mpreg, what would you call it? And would you permit that to be a tag so they can use it so they can avoid it? Cause in the rules you don't specify what you're willing to tag besides "if something in particular makes you uncomfortable." leaving it up for them to say.
Those rules haven't been updated in 4 years, so I don't think they really matter anymore, I need to fix them.
But.
1 - like i've said, this is not just a one thread issue here, the pregnancy is the main verse for my Alastor. I don't want to have to tag almost every single post I will have with my Alastor for the next 3 MONTHS.
2 - I can tag a few things if asked to, but pregnancy isn't a NSFW subject, it's something that you can and probably WILL see outside of the comfort of your home, and you can't expect pregnant people to wear a sign saying "trigger warning, I'm pregnant, don't look at me"
3 - I don't call it mpreg, I simply call it pregnancy.
4 - if the whole pregnancy thing make them THAT uncomfortable but they can't unfollow me (for whatever reason) there is the simple solution of blocking my Alastor tag I guess
5 - I don't blame them for asking. But once i've said no, it's no use to insist. It's just no.
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just-my-type-x · 1 year
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Katrina is a pretty bad friend, i guess theres a reason for so many including the girls from the traphouse friend group cut her off. I dont like Stas but its pretty obvious theyre transactional friends who just use each other . She recently followed Shea again, she unfollowed her before and now what? Will she be buddy buddy with her too? No one talks about it but just because she’s dating Sam doesnt mean she too isnt riding their coattails and social climbing. No one would know her if it wasn’t for them. And about Colby, i dont get why he keeps these girls in rotation but the more he does the more indifferent i feel about him because they’re not nice girls. Neither Shea or Stas are actually nice, they’re in it for the fame and attention of it all. For example, Colby gets arrested and the first thing Shea does is tweet “please be okay”, who was that really for if not his fans? He gets blacked out drunk and the first thing Stas does is post it and make sure everyone knows because she needs to deliver, does he call them out though? No, he continues his will they wont they narrative.
I don't necessarily think she's a bad friend, i only think this transactional friendship is a real thing.
If i were kat, who's been dating sam for 7 years or whatever timeline they have, i would be very picky with my friends too. Especially since her and colby started spending more time together, i saw a lot of girls approach her, especially stas who, from what another anon told me, didn't get along with kat and vice versa. I would say Kat's selective more than she is a fake or a bad friend. As i said before, she does have her own "to blame" thing since Sam helped her platform grow. And about the unfollowing/following thing, it's just something childish that i would probably do. If i don't interact with certain people, i don't have a reason to keep them "close"
As for the other girls, Colby's at fault for feeding them. He posts, he makes a big fuss out of stuff and then the girls have nothing else to do other than blindly accepting the attention they receive for free. Afterwards, it's obvious they will act and do stuff for the hell of it, because it's not necessarily them who started this. I don't understand why he doesn't stop certain behaviour and certain things from coming out on the Internet, but if they find it entertaining, mostly they will think that we find it entertaining. Which is not the case for most people, me included.
I love that they have fun together and don't waste their youth, but there are things that should be kept private. This way there's no need for "LA is full of fake people who use us for fame", bro, u deliver the fame to them, u can't just expect them to give it back to u since u drew attention on them
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champagnepodiums · 8 months
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Ngl I'm happy I've gotten more into IndyCar and FE over the past few years because it's really opened my eyes into that I'm not falling out of enjoying motorsport itself, it's mostly things that are specific to F1 and it's fandom spaces. And I know this has to do with F1 having more fans, but still, all of the drama and general bullshit gets old.
Like the gatekeeping with F1 is incredible. I've been watching F1 with my friends before DTS was even a thing, yet can't even ask questions in online spaces anymore without being called a "DTS fan." You ask questions in IndyCar or FE fanspaces, they're generally more than happy to answer and talk to you about it.
Same thing with just general drama. I get F1 fans are bored, but it's a competitive motorsport, not everything is some slight or attack against a driver. Like damn. We have younger F1 drivers trying to establish themselves getting cancelled for saying things like they want to beat their teammate or they think they could challenge Lewis or Max given an equal or similar car. That's just competitive nature! These people would have 10 paragraphs of cancellations if they were into IndyCar and dealing with drivers flipping each other off, occasionally threatening to punch one, etc. (Not saying violence is the answer to any on-track incident either obviously, but it's high-risk situations, adrenaline is flying, theyre in competitive situations, etc. Stuff will get said, obviously). Like idk I have to laugh even when the whole "people watch F1 for the drama - the stories - the characters" narrative comes out because A) generally speaking, a lot of the drama right now isn't even good or real. it's mostly DTS, media, or fan made up bullshit. B) this whole framing drivers — real, actual people — as "characters" in "stories" has done more harm than good imo. it dehumanizes them and leads to fans thinking that things like invading their privacy, harassing them/their partners, etc. is okay.
I know the whole "curate your own online spaces — unfollow and block liberally" and I agree with that and do it, but I stg you can have half the F1 fandom blocked on socials and the slightest little thing happens and still have to read a bunch of graphic threats. IndyCar and FE fans, generally speaking, can criticize drivers for their behaviors or driving errors without it turning into 3 paragraphs on the graphic ways in which they hope that driver sustains a fatal injury. (In fact, I've even seen people told to knock it off or gtfo when trying to act like assholes in IndyCar and FE spaces. It's refreshing after being into F1 for so long tbh 😂).
I also find people claiming all of the things that make the F1 fandom so horrid are due to DTS/the growth of F1 in the USA ridiculous. F1 isn't even growing in the USA anymore — if anything, it's losing some of the growth it had experienced. MOST of the people in F1 fandom spaces aren't even from the USA. Hell, half the people blaming these behaviors on DTS/USA fans, you go through their blogs and they're engaging in the same sending death threats behaviors they're complaining about only happening now because of that damn DTS/American influence. I'm sorry but DTS could be cancelled tomorrow along with every single American race and it isn't going to do anything to make F1 fan spaces any more enjoyable for those of us who don't want to constantly read threats and harassment.
Anyway I feel like I should clarify that I don't mean this in an either fan is more superior than the other or like "wooO I'm special because I don't just watch F1" kind of way. There's pros and cons to all, there's differences between all of these motorsports, it takes some time commitment to watch all so y'know, I'm all for people watching whatever they enjoy. And there generally are quite a few fantastic, helpful, and fun to talk to F1 fans too. But idk. I don't really get into the whole F1 "drama" and "discourse" anymore. It just upsets me. I know it upsets the people engaging in it too because idek how else people could find wishing painful, horrid things to happen to people over racing incidents and such okay. This whole mentality of like with one team dominating, F1 constantly needs discourse - which can never remain respectful but always resorts to name calling and threats - it just makes F1 feel more of like a chore than something to watch/engage with because it's fun or interesting. Idk if I'm explaining it well but I feel like the fandom spaces and the culture/"acceptable" behaviors within those spaces have caused me to burn out with F1.
I am only involved in the IndyCar fandom so I can’t speak to Formula E.
the IndyCar fandom at large does have issues and there is a subset on twitter (i call them IndyBoomers) that can be very hostile to young women fans (i know this because they like to target me because i have motorsport history opinions and i’ve dared to go against what the former IMS historian has said). So like I do just want to make it clear that the fandom is not perfect, no fandom is.
The IndyCar fandom is minuscule compared to F1 so it makes policing way easier, I think. For example, a set of fans for a particular driver were starting to allege sabotage by the team and really, all it took was somebody on Twitter calling it out as bullshit for that behavior to at least publicly die down which was very nice.
But yeah, I think generally the F1 fandom is out of control and I’ve honestly stopped engaging as much because if I have a negative thought about a driver’s actions, I’m confronted with essays about how stupid I am and it’s just not fun anymore?
But yeah, glad you’ve given IndyCar a try and even more glad that you’ve had a good experience 🫶🫶🫶
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Poll results - quo vadis, blog?
The poll is over and done. Thanks to everyone who voted! <3
So, let's analyse the result:
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About 10% of my followers voted, I don't know if that's representative when taking into account time zones and online habits, but I get what I can take.
First, I'm happy that so many people enjoy my meta. It's one of the main reasons I created this blog. I would love to write more meta, but putting my thoughts into a form that has some analytical merit, takes time.
To be honest, I expected reblogs to be in first place because they get the most engagement although I am aware that most of my posts are reblogs and thus are the posts that get seen most often.
What actually hurts is the little interest in my writing. It's not actually that surprising because posts about my fanfics get the lowest engagement of everything I post on this blog (except for the big bang project, it's 2-3 likes at most). I had three people writing in the comments that their interested in these among others (thank you for that, I deeply appreciate your support! <3), but given that my stories are the other big reason I made this blog is... well, let's just say it's disheartening. Especially as my metas, which seem to be so well-loved, result from the same analyses that are the backbone of my works.
I have many theories why that is so. First, I'm a canon fanfic writer (this also includes pre and post canon) and I happen to write in a fandom where, at least to my knowledge, canon stories fill a niche and the stories that can be told in such a context have already been told over and over, which could mean that there is no need to have more like that. As a consequence, finding my audience aka people who love canon stories and who would be thrilled to read my works and get in touch with me isn't easy. I can't stop wondering whether I did enough to find "my people". (For context: I came here to share my stories with the world. Writing is a huge part of how I connect with other people. I've been here for 1.5 years and I still don't really feel as if I belong)
There are more theories, but I'm not going to discuss them because they will only drag me down.
Anyway, I will try to post more updates and not only chapter announcements+excerpts. However, I'm not the kind of person who likes sharing details about a wip that I will post in a year or so. It feels like giving away too much and lately, it feels like promising something that might never come to pass. Often, I end up deleting excerpts of a wip a few hours after I posted them because the wording isn't good and the text sounds weird when taken out of context. But I don't really see any other way to be more vocal about the fact that I'm a writer. I don't even know whether this will work and I might give up after a while even more disheartened, but at least then I won't blame myself for not trying hard enough.
If you're not interested in more writing updates, excerpts etc., feel free to unfollow this blog, although I'd be sad to see you leave.
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vohunara · 3 months
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☠ What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you?
♥ What’s the WORST thing that has happened to you rp wise?
♦ What was a mildly annoying thing that has happened to you rp wise?
☄ Have you ever been in the middle of drama?
☀ What’s your rp pet peeve?
Salty mun meme  ·⨇· Here  ·⨇· @ccaptain
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☠ What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you?
A few things come to mind: vagueblogging, guilt tripping followers into providing ships/interactions, and not giving me a forehead kiss every morning.
♥ What’s the WORST thing that has happened to you rp wise?
Once, someone arbitrarily decided that my muse, in a roundabout way, had SA'ed theirs for the sole reason that they craved angst, when 1) it hadn't been previously discussed 2) it had never been stated, nor implied, that my muse would ever do such thing to begin with 3) I had said outright that is a line I don't cross. I was at work, hadn't even been active that day, and came back to a thousand messages from other muses' (understandably) aggressive reactions. They knew they'd screwed up, so much that @ccaptain asking them if I'd given permission to that sort of "plot" was enough to make them backpedal hard, trip over their own words and blame it on their meds or lack thereof.
♦ What was a mildly annoying thing that has happened to you rp wise?
Being hounded for a ship of any nature (platonic, romantic, antagonistic, etc) without having it clearly stated that it's the mun's intention will forever mildly annoy me.
And I need to clarify that it isn't to equate the act to a cardinal sin or that it automatically makes the other person a "bad" RP partner, I know it's partly what makes the wheel spin in the RPC. It's that I am particular with my muses' connections and I never assume anything. Anyone's best bet is to be upfront and say they'd want our muses to have their stories tied, I can't remember one single time I ever turned something down.
☄ Have you ever been in the middle of drama?
I don't think so? At least not in the way drama in the RPC is defined. No call outs, no big stink on the dashboard and no groups of people duking it out in the proverbial parking lot. However, I have had serious disagreements that were resolved privately, then we went separate ways.
☀ What’s your rp pet peeve?
It is really obvious when someone only knows how to talk about their character and doesn't bother with listening to other people's stories and interests. It makes RPing incredible difficult as a collaborative work and makes me think of the other person as self-centered, someone who wants to be enabled and nothing else. I have no time nor patience for that, regardless of how interested I am in what they're creating.
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Apparently the Jon stan who was blaming Sansa and Bran for stealing his crown, now blaming Robert and Ned for stealing his crown. Because according to them Ned didn't make efforts to crown actual heir to the IT and had no problem with making his daughter Queen. That stan even once mocked Jonsa saying that it can be possible for Sansa to fall in love with Jon but Jon can't do incest. I don't know if that person is even Sansa stan.
I’ll answer this because the blogger has put these comments on my posts, but I’ll just express my hope that no Sansa fans/Jonsas harass anyone for disagreeing. When someone has nothing positive to contribute to your tumblr experience, unfollow/filter their URL/block them. Making sure your fandom experience is fun and leaving others in peace can be accomplished simultaneously. 💗
Yes, I had a long back and forth with them about Ned wronging Jon by denying him a crown on a different post some time ago. I disagree because I think the brutal deaths of Aegon and Rhaenys and how Ned is haunted by it is supposed to be the explanation for why Ned believes the only way to protect Jon is to keep his identity a secret.
Ned did not feign surprise; Robert's hatred of the Targaryens was a madness in him. He remembered the angry words they had exchanged when Tywin Lannister had presented Robert with the corpses of Rhaegar's wife and children as a token of fealty. Ned had named that murder; Robert called it war. When he had protested that the young prince and princess were no more than babes, his new-made king had replied, "I see no babes. Only dragonspawn." Not even Jon Arryn had been able to calm that storm. Eddard Stark had ridden out that very day in a cold rage, to fight the last battles of the war alone in the south. It had taken another death to reconcile them; Lyanna's death, and the grief they had shared over her passing. (AGOT, Eddard II)
This is the context in which Ned was living when he claimed Jon as his bastard. And here in AGOT, a decade and a half later, we’re told Robert hates Rhaegar just as much and it isn’t until he’s on his deathbed that he changes his stance on killing Targaryen children. I believe the author wanted us to view Ned’s decision to lie to his friend/king and cause strife in his own marriage and risk all of their lives by committing treason as not only entirely rational and justified, but a sacrifice he made out of love. I also don’t think it’s reasonable to expect Ned to turn around and ask the people who fought to overthrow Aerys to pick up their swords and fight to put that man’s grandson on the throne. It wasn’t only Brandon and Rickard who Aerys murdered. Furthermore, the author doesn’t support wars for the sake of a crown so it wouldn’t have been presented as right if he had.
Personally, I believe that Ned’s decision to raise Jon as his son is being upheld as good by the author each time he highlights Jon’s devotion to the Starks which is something I believe will culminate in him protecting them/the realm from Dany (I’m team stabbity stab), so the end of the series will justify Ned’s pre canon decision. We all have our own interpretations, but I don’t think the author intended us to find fault with Ned here.
We also had an exchange about how Sansa can fall in love with Jon, but Jon would never love Sansa, and first, it will never cease to amuse me when fans say sweet little Sansa is more likely to commit incest than a Targaryen. I often say we’re all reading different books, but Targcest is such a big deal, it’s hard for me to believe anyone’s version can completely delete that propensity! I’ll reiterate a sentiment I’ve expressed before, no one is obligated to believe Jonsa will happen. I really don’t care that people don’t buy it, many of the Jonsa fic writers I like don’t think it is a book thing. That’s not an issue for me.
But if I were looking at the books and trying to find proof that one of them will have someone fall in love with them as part of their story,  my attention would be drawn to lines like this:
It is not me she wants her son to marry, it is my claim. No one will ever marry me for love.
Stories progress, there’s evolution and new circumstances to change the characters as they respond to it. When we first meet her, Sansa believed in her stories, she didn’t know about all the horrible people and dangers in her world, she doesn’t understand how her world works, and she reaches a lowpoint where she finally understands that she was fed a story to make her inescapable fate palatable. She realizes she is a means to an end, and she has given up on more. But, this is only halfway through the story. How can you believe that that is where Martin intends to leave her? She’s disillusioned, she has given up on love, how do you shake up her worldview again and progress her into new territory, rather than retread the same ground?
The issue isn’t that Sansa can’t love, she’s had crushes and been infatuated, basically talked herself into loving Willas without even meeting him. No. We are waiting for her to be loved. The blogger you’re talking about isn’t a Sansa fan but a lot of them don’t like Jonsa for various reasons. To each their own. Even so, I read Sansa’s line and think, someone will fall in love with Sansa. This girl is going to have a romance. And I don’t think it will be a rando, it has to be someone whose head we’re in so we know how sincere their love for Sansa is. I think it will be Jon.
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Hey! I have been a Jikooker for a few years but since the past year, I’ve transitioned into thinking that Jikook are just close friends with no romantic association. During my time as a dedicated Jikook supporter, I’ve found a bunch of lovely Jikook blogs (you included) and I have closely followed and interacted with many of ya’ll for a while. Since my opinions on Jikook have changed and don’t necessarily match the blogs that I still follow, the logical thing for me to do was to move on and stop being so tuned in to Jikook Tumblr right? Wrong! I blame you Jikookers for keeping me coming back by writing a variety of interesting and complex posts based on BTS topics, Kpop-esque topics and random other topics. And Jikook topics too because I still enjoy their bond even though I don’t think they’re dating. I can’t seem to let go of the community aspect y’all have built here. I feel like I’ve gotten to know a lot of you bloggers well (as much as you can know a stranger online lol) so completely leaving this space kinda feels suspiciously like ending a friendship. Not me building a parasocial relationship with Jikook bloggers 😂. No but seriously I still love reading y’all’s thoughts on things even if I might skip past some of the posts that go heavy and deep into Jikook relationship dynamics/analysis. 💟
Here's my thing. You are welcome here on my blog if you just love their friendship. You are welcome here if you enjoy my BTS content and like Jikook, but you ship vmin or taekook, or jinmin, or yoonmin or namkook or whoever. You are welcome here if you just like my timeline posts but aren't as interested in anything else (and if that's you, sorry im always so slow on those lol). You are welcome here if you are just here because I'm really good at getting sent a random screenshot and finding you guys the content it comes from. Lol you are welcome here if you are an anti shipper but still enjoy my posts on all things BTS. You are welcome here if you just like how I organize my thoughts and aren't against shipping or don't think jikook are dating but find them cute regardless. You are welcome here if you just like my bookish posts every once in a blue moon. You are welcome here if you just stick around for my LGBTQ posts too. Lol I'm good if you are here solely because you like me/the way I write and nothing else. As long as you aren't being disrespectful to anyone, people here, me and the members, I don't care if we disagree on things. Even if it's who we think are romantically involved or not involved.
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I follow plently of blogs that I don't necessarily agree with their opinions, and I often find some that I think take things too far. And that's fine that I don't agree with them. Just like it's fine if people don't always agree with me. I skip posts over topics im uninterested in or if i think they are taking shipping too far often at this point. The world would be an incredibly uninteresting place if everyone around you agreed all the time. Imagine how boring the conversations would be. Regardless. You are free to bow out if you want or stick around if you want too. I'm friends with someone on here who doesn't ship jikook, isn't even a huge ARMY, we exchange music of theirs occasionally though and mostly talk books/fics in DMs and have a great time and it's fine! So you know, do whatever you want. And if you want to stick around snd just send in asks or DMs about BTS in general or other topics, feel free to do so. I'm in general a pretty friendly person! Lol
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I also think it's lowkey funny there is someone on here who had followed/unfollowed then refollowed like 4 times in the past 3 days. I think they can't decide if they like it here or not 🤣 it's kinda cute and funny.
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Hi I totally forgot about accusations on Graham Coxon since May.I was new fan, and I only followed bpa, so I simply thought this accusation ended up. But I’ve found your page and just read all you uploaded since last November. In shortly, I think there is two problems: 1. Graham has continuously talked to fans privately via social media, met up fans and ghosting them since 2012-Recorded by the Mexican fan 2. His ex-partner thingsIs this right? Or Is there anything else I should know?
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Hey! Thanks for asking ❤️ and also reading everything. You probably read this but unfortunately bpa was, in my opinion, pushed to a mental break because of pro GC fans which is really unfortunate because it's created some misinformation that the allegations are not true. We've tried to get correct info out there but we've been dealing with harassment also so it's been difficult but I'm glad you found this page. I will try to mark which things are facts and what is conjecture.
1. (Fact) Yes, he has a history of DMing his fans, sending selfies - a lot of the selfies you see posted he sent to girls in the late 2000's. That allegation is confirmed by a lot of people/relatively well known in the fandom.
2. (Fact) His wife Essy has alluded to having PTSD, being a survivor, and abuse. She's also posted multiple things alluding to the allegations, and bpa, and everything that was happening (some of which she deleted - I've tried to record the important ones here).
3. (Fact) Graham has been liking a lot of narcissist support tweets on Twitter because he knows people check his likes. (Conjecture) It seems like this is his way of smearing Essy and convincing pro GC fans he is the victim and Essy is an abusive narcissist.
4. (Fact) Some alleged victims deactivated once BPA had a paranoid break. I tried to do damage control but unfortunately they are too scared to deal with the harassment of pro GC fans. A lot of them have spent years reconciling that this happened to them. I can't blame them, the toxic GC fans have pushed me out of Blur fandom.
5. (Fact) His new partner Rose is pregnant, she also followed the alt insta account he had so it's confirmed he makes alt accounts. He also suspiciously unfollowed a lot of people once BPA posted that alt account.
6. (Fact) There's some bad actors in fandom right now trying to fabricate lies about Essy, the allegations, and trying to undermine any account that holds GC accountable. One of them has been friends with Graham since ~2009 and is trying to protect him by creating lots of alt accounts and pushing false narratives to pro-GC or questioning fans - so watch out for that. This person is known to be a pathological liar (pre-allegations) and I have proof that they are close friends with Graham. They are friends with the girl you see Graham at a hotel with in the videos (posted below). They've been feeding young fans and pro GC fans misinformation also to cover for Graham. He did ghost these fans for a few years, but as soon as he and Essy split he began talking to them again. He ghosts a lot.
6a. (Conjecture) Both of them think that GC fans are really stupid and keep posting proof like the video below to a) get attention and b) see how GC fans cover for him even with it's blatantly obvious he's on irl terms with these fans and giving one a stuffed animal is arguably a romantic gesture.
7. (Conjecture) Graham is aware of all of this and lurking and trying to reframe the narrative. It's very narcissistic behavior (gaslighting). There's a saying that narcissists become loudest just before they're about to be caught. He's very careful with what he DMs fans and it seems like most of the time it's manipulating young fans. He's very smart about the trails he leaves.
8. Our only goal with this is to make the fandom aware - particularly the younger fans who are most parasocial - that this is not a safe fandom and that tweeting or posting overtly sexual things @ him can lead to becoming a victim if these allegations are true (I have to say allegations for legal reasons). A few of us can attest to the parasocial feeling and how strong it is when you're young. Now we're older we can see how wrong it is, how sm has made this power dynamic really abusive and it pains me to see it happening still 10 years later, and the girls younger. We don't want anything to do with the Blur fandom anymore, though I'm happy to help with info. I've been here 13/14 years and seen a lot and invested a lot. I covered for Graham a lot as a fan and when bpa came around I decided I needed to say something to make up for not saying anything for years. It is easier to stay silent, and many older fans have. The older fans who defend him were the fans invited to his house, etc. He has zero healthy boundaries with fans. One of the older fans behind a huge Blur fan acct who was close to Graham left the fandom years ago because they saw what he was doing and it really upset them. The GC fan toxicity now is on a D*pp stan level and no one person can shoulder all of this. Bpa did and it drove them crazy. I just ask that anyone with questions please be linked to this blog so hopefully there's less misinfo about the allegations. While we talked with bpa we also did our own fact-checking of information because you can't always trust what someone tells you. Sorry for the long post!
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whcwashe · 1 year
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hm
anyway
you ever run into a situation where like .... someone you've been mutuals with for years, LIKE YEARS, who you've always had a good relationship with (or at least you thought you did, idk), just like ....
unfollows you on One of their blogs. Just one. And that's suddenly the only blog they use. And sure, it COULD be a mistake, because every once in awhile when someone reblogs your promo .... they'll reblog it as well?
But similarly .... they should be able to see on the dash that they're not following you. And they're pretty explicit about only interacting with mutuals. And it's defs not a sideblog. And you can't be like 'hey, is this a mistake?' or even be like 'hey, what happened?' because people can cater their experience here, they have the right to do that. and they have the right to unfollow you, and you're all adults here, and this is just for fun, so cornering them for any reason would be wrong, and also rude.
So you just have to settle with the idea that they just .... decided they were tired of you, or didn't like your writing or something and just quietly ..... left. And it feels like a whole friendship you had just kind of dies on the vine, because if you're not on their dash, and you can't interact without disrespecting their boundaries, then that friendship is just .... gone. No closure, no goodbye, it just stops.
idk, it's just sad, in a way, I guess. I mean, people just decide they don't like you and disappear sometimes, and that's fair on their part. That's the way the world works. Sometimes relationships, as vague as they may be, just stop. And I feel like, as an adult, I should be able to brush that off, but it still feels kind of upsetting. Especially because I know it has to be something I did, and I'll never be able to adjust that, or find out what it was. So I just kind of assume it to be me, in general. The whole package is bad, I guess.
I am also stuck in a rut because I know my writing is repetitive, and boring. And Liv isn't fleshed out, and she's not creative, and frankly -- I'm not a great communicator OOC either. I'm distracted, and I'm flighty, and I complain a lot, and I'm regularly just the worst. And I make people feel unwanted (I don't mean to do that, I promise. I love each and every one of you, and I mean that so strongly, I wouldn't follow you if I didn't enjoy your writing. I just love the shit out of everyone, and their creativity).
I should try to be better, probably. And I shouldn't blame my standoffishness on anxiety and ADHD -- I mean, I do have those, but I also need to take responsibility for having a shitty personality, you feel?
I don't know where I was going with this, I'm just in my feelings, and I'm sorry about ... me, as a person, in general. This is not fishing for compliments, I just can't stop talking now, and tbh I have no where else to dump these feelings, lmao. I should have put it on a blog with less followers, maybe. Except -- if you do read it, I do want to express that I love you, and you are all so creative, and you should be so so proud of what you put out into the world. And I should really say that directly to people more often.
Ok, that's all, I guess.
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seeasunset · 7 months
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Your biggest strength as a roleplayer is how enthusiastically you engage with your mutuals. I think a lot of people don’t understand that even the smallest bit of engagement—liking posts, sending OOC memes, etc—counts when it comes to making your mutuals feel seen on your dash but you do a really great job of that, even if you’re not actively writing with the person!
RPer's strength!
☆ I try my best to reach out to people as much as I can. Liking their stuff if I can't find words to send to them, sending ooc asks, those kind of things. Just because once you have become a mutual with me, I am going to try my best to figure out how to reach out. Maybe it's not right away, but eventually there will be some kind of interactions. I know not everyone sees the same way as I do when it comes to reaching out. They prefer if one does it immediately, which I try my best to do so they know I want to interact with them in some way. I may not message right off the bat but I will get there eventually. It's understandable why people tend to unfollow after a while of no interactions.
I am such a firm believer to not unfollow people due to inactivity or lack of interactions. One, we're adults and we are not always going to be online right away. So, it may take some time. Two, I know there will bound to be some kind of interactions. Heck, there is quite a few mutuals that been around for a little while and we never got around to interact with each other until a month or two later because we weren't sure how to interact with our muses until one of us happen to make something that does. An AU that we slapped onto our muses, a plot we saw and want to do, an open starter we respond to, etc. Again, I know not everyone is like this and doesn't want to wait that long for some kind of interactions. They aren't to blame for wanting to keep their circle with those they can see interacting or is already interacting with.
Anyways, enough with my rambling, thank you for this!! I do appreciate this a lot!
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