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[intersexfairy]

here's your reminder that like trans people, many cis intersex people have to fight to be recognized as the gender they are. cis intersex people, too, have to fight to have their sexuality accepted in relation to this. cis intersex people are oppressed, and they are very often not protected under the same institutions that protect cis dyads. in fact, those institutions can outright attack them.

intersex rights are not just about our bodies. we would not be persecuted for our bodies in the manner we are if it weren't for the system of gender we have and how oppressive it is to anyone who doesnt conform to its rigid notion of male and female. include us in your fucking activism. even when we're cis.

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[intersexfairy]

Please include intersex people in your discussions bodily autonomy. Please boost intersex voices on it. Our bodily autonomy being taken from us is one of the most pressing ways we are oppressed, and it absolutely intersects with whatever specific topic you're on. Reproductive (mainly abortion) rights is at the front of my mind right now.

Language that excludes intersex people is everywhere. What bothers me a lot is how people use the phrases afab, or people with [organ]. People afab, or with a certain organ setup, aren't the only people who can get pregnant & need care. Intersex people of any gender, any assignment (at birth or later in life), or without that certain setup, can get pregnant. Assignment also does not dictate what people's bodies can do or what they're like.

As for a few relevant experiences we may have. Some of us are forced via medical intervention to be able to become pregnant. Some of us get pregnant unexpectedly, or w/o knowing we can get pregnant. Some of us get pregnant when we want to, and are forced to have an abortion when the child is intersex (this happens to dyadic parents too).

We deserve access to care that puts our needs first - not the prejudices of the medical system. And we are tired of having our bodies invaded and not having dyadic people, especially those who should be our allies, stick up for us. At a crucial time like this, at the very least keep us in your words by not excluding us.

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[intersexfairy]

I've heard that doctors can perform """corrective""" surgeries on intersex infants without their parents knowing, if my child is intersex is there a way to prevent this from happening? Put it in writing early that I don't consent to any unnecessary surgeries on my baby?

Just wanna say before I answer this that I encourage people to reblog this reply, since it's important advice for anyone who plans to carry or have someone else carry their children...or just have children in general, adopted or not (since these surgeries can occur in youth too).

Something you can do if possible is find a hospital near you that makes it policy to not operate on intersex children. I know there are a few out there (here in the US) and I don't think it's many, but if you by chance happen to be close enough to one that's a way to prevent it. If you have trouble finding one, an intersex organization may be able to help make sure you didn't miss it.

But if that's not possible, I'd imagine being as clear as you can about not wanting that to happen to your child is something you can do. Written and documented statements signed by your providers are also useful. There's certain things to include in letters like this which make them more legally sound though, so learn about that.

Also make it clear that if it does happen you will not be silent about it and get counsel - even if that's a bluff and you don't actually have the means to do so (although if it were to happen you could likely contact an intersex organization and they may be able to help somehow).

Something that may help but is also risky would be getting consistent ultrasounds and stuff on the developing fetus and know what the results of each are. So that if you learn that the child (will likely) be intersex you can start the fight early. If that happens, when you first find out, dont express any opinion on it. Wait for your providers to share theirs, and if it involves recommending abortion, surgery, hormonal care, etc., run and go somewhere else.

I say this one is risky because depending on the marginalizations whoever's carrying experiences, some doctors are more likely to find loopholes to work against the patient's will... or simply manipulate and pressure them.

Doctors may try to convince you that they need to operate due to risks of cancer or illness, and I don't know much about those claims so I can't say more, but to do your research and don't panic if they say that, since it's a common excuse.

At the end of the day contacting an intersex organization is probably the best thing you can do, because they'll know more than little 19 year old me does and will have access to more resources that you can actually use.

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[intersexfairy]

hi, i’ve got a question can intersex people experience gender dysphoria and still be cis? (apologies if this question doesn’t make sense/is insensitive)

yes! many cis intersex people experience dysphoria.

a common reason why is that our bodies often don't conform to expectations for our gender, and that can cause gender dysphoria regardless of whether we're trans or not. the expectations for our assigned gender(s) and sex(es) can also cause us dysphoria even if we dont identify as it.

and honestly, anyone can experience gender dysphoria. you don't have to fit today's definition or past definitions of trans to experience dysphoria. gender nonconforming, queer, etc. cis people exist and are fully able to experience dysphoria.

anyone can experience a conflict between their gender identity/expression and the way they look, get perceived, etc. cis people included.

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[intersexfairy]

I added 2 new tags to my pinned post, #beingintersex for posts I've made about intersex topics, and #perisexreads for posts I've made which are either targeted at perisex people or specifically important for them to read.