#personal nonsense

[thepoisonroom]

'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.

I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.

About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'

-Casey Plett, Consciousness

#this quote always moves me almost to tears when i remember it #i'm not a trans woman and i don't share the author's specific experiences with transition #but it really moves me that she frame transition as joyfully giving yourself permission to approach your body #not as something that has to be disciplined and deprived and made small in all these various ways #but as a means for experiencing pleasure and joy and delight and for insisting that our feelings and desires are worth #valuing and exploring and treasuring #i always used to think of prioritizing those things for myself as selfish and irresponsible #but who does it harm to want to experience pleasure in your own body? #it's such a beautifully simple and powerful switch to have flip in your head #and equally why are we forced to deny our own pleasure in transition and anything else related to our bodies in the name of moral rectitude #this is why i get so confused and pissed off when other trans people are fatphobic for example #like why are you so invested in politics of shame and disgust that never had any purpose other than #violently disciplining people as if they've violated moral codes by existing in a body #to say nothing of white people being racist in gay and trans communities #like again this system of violence is foundational to homophobia and transphobia #so why are you acting like it has nothing to do with you #even if you are unmoved by the urgency of other people's suffering which btw you should be moved by #what do you hope to gain by acting a collaborator and handmaiden to those systems #Casey Plett #she really is one of my favorite authors i wish more non-canadians read her #this quote is from a series of columns she did ont transition and every single one is a banger #i love when she talks about the people-pleasing elements of dysphoria and transition denial #she's so sharp about noting how many of us deny our own dysphoria on the grounds that others like and validate our bodies #that's how i always felt during my cis conventionally feminine era #it pleased other people so much and also that reception felt so hollow and joyless to me because i hated it #i get less of that positive feedback but that feels so unimportant next to the joy and pleasure i get to experience #said with the understanding that i'm very privileged in being able to prioritize those things without fear. but it was a switch flip #personal nonsense

[myrskytuuli]

You know....as a proud slut and a whore, I genuinely really appreciate Helluva Boss' commitment on that lust is not a sin that causes suffering. (also same for gluttony) The lord of lust just wants people to cum, it's the lord of greed that non-consensually pressures his subjects into sexual situations they are not comfrotable in. It's the lord of greed that creates sex dolls from subjects that don't really like it. It's the lord of greed that needles onto your insecurites, the lord of lust thinks you're perfect as long as you're having fun and are happy.

It genuinely feels good, amidst this media hellscape that tends to equate lust with rape and sex with power.

#helluva boss #helluva boss spoilers #personal nonsense

[phantom-kiwi]

unpleasant day for borderlands fans and enjoyers everywhere

#i havent touched those games in years now but jesus christ that trailer was still very painful to watch #ya rien qui va comme on dit #personal nonsense #borderlands #AND. these are the guys making the tloz movie??????? please make it stop

[disregardcanon]

i think that we need to refer the walrus vs fairy thing as walrus v. fairy like famous court cases, because that's how we are treating it

#personal nonsense

[grineerios]

#i wanna know how many of you adjusted your tenno's face after seeing their counterpart #i'm learning and getting mildly frustrated that good operator faces don't translate to good drifter faces and vice versa #or even look like the same person sometimes smh my head #warframe #personal nonsense

[antimonyantigone]

im writing a ds9 crossword puzzle. is that interesting to anybody? should i post it on my ao3? whats the vibe for fandom crosswords

#ds9 #personal nonsense

[topshelf2112-blog]

Why are phone calls intimidating?????

#personal nonsense

[myreia]

Floating an idea out here:

Would folks be interested in a gpose giveaway? I used to do screenshot giveaways back in the day for DA:I and they were so much fun. I like making things for people and my blog recently hit a milestone, so I thought it would be fun to do something. 💖

#personal nonsense

[springmagpies]

Me with like all of my ships: they are the ship. And you know what I fucking mean it every time. No lie.

#personal nonsense #percabeth #everlark #cheleanor #Fitzsimmons #Ben x Leslie #will x elizabeth #literati #maiko #sukka #kataang #hiccup x astrid #roy x keeley #jancy #rebelcaptain #so many freaking others y’all have no idea

[roguelioness]

my dog is mad at me because it's my fault she can't carry two balls in her mouth at the same time

#she's talking at me with the ball in her mouth and i'm wheezinv #she sounds SO indignant 🤣 #personal nonsense

[thepoisonroom]

honestly some people just "hate small talk" because no one ever tells them funny gossip. you would like it if you got along with your coworkers btw

#like yes i will gasp loudly while you tell me about how badly our manager behaved....... #personal nonsense

[myrskytuuli]

Well. If it is the legit office I’m sure there’s nothing shady going on here.

#personal nonsense #spam email

[optiwashere]

Warm weather approaches. Now I must put down the beanie and take up the baseball cap...

#personal nonsense #oh the misery #also when it gets too hot to wear my favorite jacket I'm gonna be sad for another 3ish months lmao

[phantom-kiwi]

When Muse wrote "I've had recurring nightmares that I was loved for who I am // And missed the opportunity to be a better man" like. Haunting. Have never stopped thinking about it

#im going through it tonight i think #thinking about it always likeeee #muse #muse band #personal nonsense

[grineerios]

Y'know, I kinda wish warframes didn't just stand there when you transfer out of them. Visually, I think it would look better and make more sense if they collapsed like they do pre-TWW when you used transcendence or whatever pre-transference is called.

#warframe #personal nonsense

[thedarkestgreys]

this morning i asked my class if anyone knew what a naked mole rat was and one of my students responded with “i do! it’s on kim possible!” and you know what? the kids are doing alright

#i was totally dying over it btw #this is how i know what parents are roughly my age #personal nonsense #adventures in daycare #kim possible