Hi daisy as you said you do oc x canon i had been dying to find a blog like yours and here iam 😌 So I would love to request my oc Lilian I have a drawing of her on a papper but it wont look so good so I will still give a description on her by writing I hope I don't give too many detils but here she is !
I know it looks so ugly but yeah so she has stawberry pink hair and heterochromia one aqua blue eye and a lignt green eye. And fleckles She is from a skyisland that speaks a ancient language and workship a god she also has a tattoo on the rignt leg that represent the god like this
She personlity is very cute sweet/kind , naive, curious,shy loves helping people Lilian also loves giving hugs and kisses to her loved ones .But don't be fooled she can use magic her village uses magic like wayer magic telkniss magic too tho.She is pretty short she is 165cm(5,5 ft).But now to the request Lilian has just moved away from her home and family she arrives at town with her suitcase with her belongsing goes to a bar and orders a beer and some bread.But than the red hair pirates come in and sits down.She catchs shanks eyes because of her appearance and her clothes that she is wearing and he goes and sits down beside and starts to chat. By the she joins shanks crew and crew gets to know her and her bakround I hope you understand my request and no this not a love fic just friends.
⚠️But if this is too much detils decilne than.I hope I can request again some time.! Have a amazing day love❤💗!
The Found Voyager (OC!Lilian x Shanks - Platonic)
Pairing: OP!OC!Lilian x Shanks (Platonic)
Category: Fluff
Warnings: Swearing, Drinking
Word Count: 4.2k+
A/N: Hello! Thank you very much for your request! I love the design for Lillian-she looks like a very sweet and headstrong person. I hope you enjoy the story!
Part 2
Lilian’s long, pink hair whipped in the sea breeze as she took her first step onto the rickety docks of Fairage. Her blue and green eyes sparkled as she heard the unfamiliar crunch of gravel underneath her foot. She ground the flat of her shoe against it, relishing in the fact that after all this time, she finally made it to the World Below. Lilian clutched her hand against her chest as she took a deep breath.
“Look for the shop with the silver fleur-de-lis,” she reminded herself. Her heart thumped as she took another step forward, her mind racing at the different sights and sounds around her. Children holding their mother’s hands, fishermen hollering about their fresh stock, a few dogs barking and rushing around wildly. Her eyes scanned the rows of shops and booths until they landed on a silver symbol.
"I found it!" she squealed internally. Lilian gasped when a man with messy, crimson hair bumped into her. He whipped around and rested his hand on his temple.
“My apologies, miss,” he said with an apologetic smile. Before Lilian could reply, he had already faded into the crowd. She closed her mouth and shrugged before turning to the large, wooden door. She smiled as she opened the squeaky door, a high-pitched ring echoing through the small shop.
"Be out in a second!" a croaky voice called past the rows and rows of stuffed shelves. Lilian parted her lips as she spun around, completely enraptured by the variety of knick-knacks, weapons and other bizarre items that lined the shelves. She gasped when she accidentally bumped into something rough and large. Lilian whipped around, her eyes widening when a massive, hulking man with a bandana over his head raised a brow and grunted.
"I-I'm very sorry, sir!" the young lady said as she held up her hands. A clatter rang out through the room as a curly-haired woman burst out from the back.
"I really need to clean this damn place," she sighed as she dusted off her sleeves. The older woman perked her head up when she noticed Lilian standing in front of the giant man...or more specifically, her large suitcase.
"Ah, welcome to Minerva's Menagerie! Anything Antiques and Pawn Shop ®, " she greeted while motioning towards the counter. Lilian gave the man a small smile before following Minerva. The older woman grunted as she clutched her cane and plopped herself down on a comfy stool. "So, what can I do for you today, dearie?" the shopkeeper asked.
Lilian smiled and heaved her large suitcase onto the counter. Minerva raised a brow as the young lady rummaged through the various items that was tossed around on her journey. She grinned as she triumphantly pulled out a dark, medium-sized bag. Minerva's eyes widened as Lilian pulled out several pieces of fine, sparkling jewelry. The older woman's face nearly lost all color when she saw a necklace adorned with the symbol of the Fairy Goddess.
"I know it's not a lot, but Kumo told me that it's worth a lot-"
She snapped her head towards the large man.
"The shop is closed for a private appointment!" she said as she shuffled towards him.
"What?" he huffed with furrowed brows. She shooed him out with her cane before whipping her head around. "Same goes for the two of you back there! And you better put back whatever you have in your pockets!" Minerva bellowed. Lilian pursed her lips as she heard some muttering followed by clanging.
"Carefully!" the shopkeeper screeched. Two similar, dark-haired looking men tumbled out, one wearing an eyepatch and the other a scar over his chin. They scowled at Lilian before making their way out of the shop. Minerva gave a firm nod as she locked the door behind her. The woman turned back to Lilian.
"Sorry about that," she said as she clasped her hands, her demeanor shifting in the blink of an eye. Lilian gave an uncomfortable expression.
"Did I say something wrong?" she asked. Minerva cackled as she hobbled back to her stool.
"Not at all. It's just been a while since I've heard that old geezers name," she winked as she tapped her cane on the rug. Lilian's lips tightened.
"Well, he told me to come find you and give you these," she breathed as she pushed the jewelry forward. Minerva hummed and stroked her chin, her gaze shifting between the young woman.
"Tell me again...how do you know Kumo?" she asked. Lilian bit the inside of her cheek.
"Oh...friend of a friend?" she said in a high-pitched voice. Minerva pursed her lips.
"I see," she sighed before yanking down a magnifying apparatus from the ceiling. "Now, let’s see what we’ve got here,” the shopkeeper said as she pulled down a magnifying apparatus from the ceiling. The shopkeeper poked her tongue out as she took the delicate necklace into her wrinkled hands.
“Mhm, ah yes, I see,” she hummed. Minerva continued the process until she pulled the apparatus up with a high-pitched creak. She leaned forward on her palms. “I can give you five-hundred Berries for the brooches each…and five thousand for the Fairy Goddess Necklace,” she explained. Lilian’s jaw dropped.
“Five thousand?!" she yelped. Lilian slapped her hands over her mouth. “Sorry-five thousand?!” she whispered loudly. Minerva nodded with a chuckle as she placed the items behind the desk and locked them in a cabinet.
“That’s right," she hummed. Lilian swallowed.
"O-Oh, well...I don't want to take that much from you," she replied sheepishly. Minerva waved her hand.
"Ah, nonsense. I'm sure you just arrived here from Fairygod Island, right?" she asked. Lilian nodded. Minerva clanked her cane against the ground. "Then I'm more than happy to assist a fellow Islander," she beamed. Lilian smiled as the shopkeeper gathered together her cash and handed it to her in a dark, leather bag.
"It was a pleasure meeting you, Miss Minerva," Lilian replied. A loud, gurgling sound suddenly rumbled between them. The young woman's eyes widened as she clutched her stomach. Minerva chuckled.
"If you're hungry, there's a nice pub right across the street," she suggested as she crossed her arms. Lilian hummed as she closed up her suitcase.
"Thank you for the recommendation," she smiled.
“Anytime,” Minerva said. "Hope to see you again soon," she beamed. Lilian returned her grin before hauling her suitcase out the door. Her heart leapt inside her chest as she stepped into the bustling street. The sun had dipped a little past the skyline of the city as she whistled an ancient tune to herself.
She froze when a group of children rushed past her, all of them giggling and carrying colorful pinwheels in their hands. Lilian giggled to herself before she glanced up.
“'The Salty Serpent'," she read as the sign above her gently swayed in the wind. "Sounds lovely!” she chirped as she opened the door. Lilian's eyes widened when a saucer flied towards her. She squeaked and ducked her head as it grazed over her pink loops. The young woman winced as she heard it crash against a brick wall behind her.
“Sorry about the mess! And by mess, I mean this lot,” a young, blue-haired woman called from inside as she gestured to all the men. They all turned their attention to the slender woman standing in the doorway with her suitcase in hand. Lilian gave a polite curtsy before walking inside, sending her bright smile all around the room. One could hear a pin drop, the crowd completely silent as Lilian strode over to an empty stool at the bar. The bartender raised her brow at the man at the piano.
"Well, what'd you stop for?!" she exasperated. The blonde man sat up straight before going back to playing a cheery tune. The pub slowly shuffled back to life as Lilian clasped her hands together. “Haven’t seen you around here before,” the bartender said as she dried out a glass mug. Lilian nodded as she set her suitcase at her feet.
“I just got here today,” she explained with a bright smile. The blue-haired woman hummed as she slung the rag over her shoulder.
“Well, welcome to Fairage, newcomer. Name’s Emilie,” she said as she held out her hand.
“Lilian,” she replied while shaking the other woman's hand. Lilian gasped and laid a hand over her belly as it rumbled.
“You hungry?” Emilie chuckled. Lilian nodded.
“Could I just have some bread and beer please?” she asked.
“That’s all?” Emilie asked with a raised brow. The pink-haired woman nodded again. “Alright then. One bread and beer coming up,” the bartender said before padding towards the rows of bottles. She quickly returned with Lilian’s food.
“Thank you,” she said with a polite smile.
“Sure thing. If ya need anything else, just let me know,” she said. Lilian watched as Emilie busied herself with arranging some glasses. The pink-haired woman brought the mug up to her lips. She furrowed her brows as the bubbly drink washed over her taste buds. Lilian cringed a little at the acidic taste before setting the glass down.
“It’s not for everyone,” Emilie said. The young woman nodded as she took the bread into her hands. She brought it up to her lips and nibbled on it, squishing her fingers together. She happily ate her small snack as the front door suddenly swung open. Lilian jumped in her chair while Emilie rested her hands on her hips.
“Well, well-didn’t think I’d see you around here anytime soon, Shanks,” she lilted. Lilian turned to see a group of men file into the tavern. They were all different heights and sizes, each one more unique than the last. She completely forgot she was still nibbling on her bread until a familiar-looking man slid into the chair next to her. He flashed her a smile.
“Do you always eat like a hamster?” Shanks chuckled. His eyes grew as wide as dinner plates as Lilian tilted her head towards him.
"Hey...you're that woman I ran into earlier," he muttered.
“What’s a hamster?” she disregarded his statement. His jaw dropped as he chortled and slapped his thigh. His smile instantly fell when he saw her serious expression.
“Wait-you’re not joking?” he asked. Lilian shook her head.
“Sorry, I’m from…out of town,” she said while shifting her eyes back and forth. Shanks hummed as he rested his cheek on his palm.
“Really? Where’re you from then?” he asked with genuine intrigue. Lilian nearly choked on her tiny bite. She coughed a few times and cleared her throat.
“Fairygod Island. It's in the sky,” she said with a nervous smile. Shanks blinked before he burst into laughter along with the rest of his crew.
“I like this one! She has a great sense of humor!” he boomed. Lilian couldn’t help but giggle at his exuberant personality. “Emilie, please get our new friend here some beef stew. On me,” the red-haired man smiled. Lilian’s cheeks flushed.
“Y-You don’t have to do that,” Lilian said shyly. Shanks waved his hand.
“It’s no problem at all. Besides, I owe you after bumping into you earlier,” he beamed. Lilian bit the inside of her cheek as she folded her hands in her lap. “Oh and a beer for me as well,” Shanks added.
“I’ll add that to your tab that you’re definitely paying off this time...right?” Emilie asked. Shanks remained stiff as a board. “Right?” the bartender repeated.
“Sure,” he grinned and rubbed the back of his neck.
“You really suck at lying,” Emilie sighed as she shook her head. Shanks chuckled and let his hand fall back to his side.
“I know,” he replied. Emilie narrowed her eyes before she clicked her tongue.
“I’ll be back with the soup,” she said as she pointed her finger at the pirate. He held his hands up in surrender as she shuffled to the kitchen. She soon returned with a piping hot bowl of beef stew and a large mug of beer. Lilian’s eyes sparkled when she saw the hearty meal in front of her.
“Thank you, sir,” she said. Shanks nodded before taking a swig of beer.
“Just Shanks is fine,” he replied. Lilian smiled sheepishly and nodded. She brought the bread up to her lips before gently nibbling on the end, her hands pressed together. The young woman smiled happily and wiggled in her seat as the savory flavor of the soup mellowed inside her mouth. She noticed Shanks staring at her.
“Is something wrong?” she asked with genuine concern. Shanks glanced away before taking a big sip.
“Just thinking,” he said.
“About what?” she asked. Shanks stroked his chin.
“About why a refined young lady such as yourself is wandering around a town like Fairage,” the pirate answered. Lilian squeezed the spoon in her hand.
“Well…it’s a bit of a long story,” the young woman replied as she stirred her meal.
“Good thing I have time to kill, then,” he grinned. Lilian sighed.
“I wanted just to live a normal life. A life away from the pala-from my parents' expectations,” Lilian quickly corrected herself. Shanks adjusted in his seat.
“So, you’re a runaway?” he asked. Lilian nodded, her blue and green eyes growing a bit glossy. The man beside her straightened as she sniffed and wiped the tears from her freckled cheeks.
“I-I’m sorry. I wasn’t expecting to get this emotional,” she laughed quietly. Shank’s brows furrowed. Lilian tilted her head up when he placed a hand on her shoulder.
“Hey, you don’t have anything to be sorry for,” he said softly. Lilian’s heart skipped a beat as she smiled.
“I just…I thought it’d be so easy to leave since I wanted it for so long…but I still miss a lot of people I left behind,” she sighed. Shanks nodded as he patted her shoulder.
“Of course,” he said with a sympathetic smile. Lilian mirrored his expression before she heard the sound of Emilie sighing.
“Man, why can’t I ever keep these things alive?” she frowned as she brushed her fingers over a wilting flower. Lilian tilted her head before looking around. She flicked her free hand beneath the bar. A green glow emitted from her slender fingertips as well as the rose tattoo on her leg. Emilie gasped as the flower straightened out, its original vibrant crimson returning to its petals.
“Oh my goodness!” she yelped and nearly dropped the vase. Everyone turned to look in her direction.
“Now how did that happen?” Shanks wondered aloud as he scratched his head. Lilian shrugged.
“Who knows?” she laughed nervously. The red-haired pirate glanced her way with a pensive expression. He bit the inside of his cheek as everyone gathered around to see the miraculous flower. The Chief shifted in his seat to face her.
“I’m afraid I never got your name,” he said.
“Oh! It’s Lilian,” the young woman smiled and held out her hand. Shanks grinned as he shook her delicate hand, his calloused palm rubbing over hers.
“Pleasure to meet you, Lilian,” he grinned before lowering his hand to his side. He paused for a moment. “Sorry if I come across as rude, but you have no place to stay as of now, right?” Shanks asked. She nodded.
“Yeah, I guess I didn’t think that far ahead,” she replied sheepishly. Shanks hummed as he rubbed his chin.
“Well…what do you think of joining my crew?” he asked. Her eyes widened as time seemed to stand still. “Forgive my bluntness-it’s just…I’d hate it if you were wandering the streets with no one looking out for you,” Shanks explained. Lilian nodded as her heart swelled.
“T-Thank you,” she blushed. Shanks hummed as he scratched his stubbly jaw. He suddenly gained a serious expression.
“Lilian, I’ll be honest with you. Being a part of my crew will not be easy-in fact, it’ll be downright dangerous,” he began. Lilian leaned a bit closer, intrigue pulling her in like a lasso. “There are other pirates, Marines, and all sorts of other groups who want nothing more than our heads,” Shanks stated. She gasped.
“You’re a criminal?” Lilian murmured behind her hands. The pirate chuckled.
“Depends on who you ask,” he said. Lilian pursed her lips before Shanks cleared his throat. “Anyway, it certainly won’t be the “normal” life you were speaking of earlier, but I can tell you this: you’ll never be bored, you’ll get to see incredible sights, and you’ll have even more incredible people to lean on,” he beamed. Lilian smiled as he shifted in his chair a bit more and gazed straight into her heterochromatic eyes.
“So…what do you say?” Shanks asked with an excited grin. The young woman thought to herself for a moment and closed her eyes. She prayed to the Fairy Goddess for guidance before opening them again.
“I’ll go,” she beamed. Shanks’ smile grew even wider as he slapped his thigh.
“Fantastic! Emilie! Let’s have another round to celebrate our newest crew member: Lilian!” he called. The Red-Haired Pirates stared at the pink-haired woman in shock before they came rushing up to her.
“Are you really joining our crew?” a larger man with glasses and a striped cap asked. Lilian nodded.
“Yes sir!” she beamed. The group of men cheered. Her smile grew all the more wider as she looked over the room, her heart feeling lighter than air as she took in the sight of her new friends celebrating. She peeked over at Shanks before leaning over and pressing her lips to his stubbly cheek. He immediately tensed as his face flushed a deep red.
“Thank you,” Lilian smiled as she took his hand into hers. Shanks swallowed thickly.
“Oi Shanks! Your face is looking just as red as your hair!” a man with caramel-colored dreads pointed and laughed. Shanks clenched his jaw.
“Why is your face so red?” Lilian asked. The pirate turned back to her and coughed into his hand.
“Well, it’s just been a while since I’ve been kissed on the cheek by a pretty woman like yourself,” he explained. The tips of Lilian’s ears burned.
“Oh my goodness! I-I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it like that,” she flushed. Shanks tilted his head as Lilian bit her lip. “You see, where I’m from, a kiss on the cheek is how we greet friends, and holding hands is how we show that our friendship is an everlasting bond,” the young woman explained. His face slowly returned back to its normal color as he sighed.
“Understood,” he chuckled as he took a sip of his beer. The crew came up to Lilian and asked her all sorts of questions (many of which she dodged with answers provided to her by Kumo). Eventually, the rowdiness died down as they all had their share of beer. Emilie held her hand out.
“The tab,” she said with raised brows. Shanks grumbled as he pulled out a few bills and handed it over. Emilie gave a firm nod as she counted the money. The red-haired man nudged Lilian’s elbow and leaned over.
“I’d be happy to show you around your new home and help you get settled in,” he whispered. Lilian beamed as she took his hand into hers, drawing another blush from his cheeks.
“I’d love that,” she replied with a sweet smile.
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There was more drinking when the crew returned to the Red Force...a lot more drinking. The crewmembers sang songs and stumbled around the decks as Lilian watched with another mug in hand. Shanks wandered over to her and took a swig of sake. He sniffed and wiped his lips with the back of his hand.
"You want to try?" he asked. She vigorously shook her head. "Suit yourself," the Chief shrugged before taking another sip. He hummed as she rubbed her hands together. "Something wrong?" he asked. Lilian glanced over and bit her lip.
"Could we find a place that's a bit more private? I...I need to tell you something," she said with a shaky breath. Shanks blinked before setting his sake down.
"Sure. Follow me," he replied. He led her past the rowdy men towards his quarters. Lilian's heart thrummed in her ears as she stepped inside, the room dimly lit with candles.
"So, what did you want to tell me?" Shanks asked with a casual smile as he folded his arms. Lilian took a deep breath.
"You know how I said that I was from an island in the sky?" she asked. Shanks nodded.
"Yep," he replied. The woman sighed as she played with the red-beaded bracelet on her wrist.
"Well...what if I told you I wasn't joking?" Lilian asked. There was a short pause.
"I'm sorry...what?" the Chief asked as he lowered his arms to his sides. Lilian curled and uncurled her fists before standing up straight.
"It's true. I just arrived her today on my hippogriff," she said as she squeezed her eyes shut. Shanks blinked.
"Oooookay..." he said incredulously. Lilian sighed.
"Listen, I know it sounds crazy, but I'm telling the truth!" she said as her shoulder slumped. "Kumo told me people would think I'm crazy if I told them," she groaned.
"Who's Kumo?" Shanks asked. Lilian turned around.
"He's my bu-best friend," she said. The Chief hummed and crossed his arms.
"I see-and I don't think you sound crazy. I've always known the Sky Islands as only myths," the man explained.
"Oh," Lilian said as she glanced down at her feet. There was short pause between the two.
"Anything else I need to know about you?" he quickly changed the subject at the sign of her uncomfortable expression. Lilian hummed.
"Well...I do have some magical skills," she said in a muffled voice. Shanks leaned closer.
"What was that?" he asked. Lilian sucked in a sharp breath.
"I-I can do some magic," she said a bit louder. The red-haired man's eyes widened.
"You mean...at the Serpent today, when Emilie's plant grew back...that was you?" he asked. Lilian flushed and nodded.
"Yes! I can also perform water magic," she explained with a bright smile. Shanks raised a brow.
"Prove it," he said. Lilian blinked.
"What?" she asked. Shanks walked over to his desk and pulled out a glass flask. He set it down on his desk with a heavy clank.
"Push the cap off of this flask with your magic," he said. Lilian glanced back and forth between him and the flask before gulping.
"O-Okay. You might want to stand back though," she said. Shanks did as she said before she planted both of her feet firmly on the floor. She narrowed her eyes as she held her hand out. Her rose tattoo began to glow a light blue in tandem with her fingertips as she maintained her eye contact on the glass flask. The object shook violently before suddenly exploding. Lilian gasped as the glass shards tumbled throughout the room.
"I'm so sorry! Are you okay?!" she yelled. Shanks looked down at the mess at his feet, a few pieces of glass merely sticking to the outside of his clothes. He chuckled.
"Miss Lilian, you are full of surprises," the Chief grinned as he dusted himself off. Lilian blushed and smiled before helping him clean up the mess. She frowned when she saw a red mark across his hand.
"Your hand," she muttered. Shanks looked down and laughed.
"That's nothing, trust me," he said as he rummaged through his drawers and pulled out a small box. The Chief pulled out some bandages with his single hand.
"Here, let me," Lilian urged as she rested her hand over his. Shanks looked into her eyes and smiled softly.
"If you insist," he grinned as she sank into his chair. She pulled out the small pieces of glass before disinfecting the wound. "That tattoo on your leg...does it always glow when you use your magic?" Shanks asked. Lilian looked down at her right leg and nodded.
"Yes-it's from a pact our family made with the ancient Fairy Goddess," she elaborated. The Chief hummed as she wrapped a bandage around his hand. "She watches over all aspects of nature, whether it be the soil of the World Below or the water in the clouds," Lilian continued.
"The World Below?" Shanks asked. She paused.
"Yes...that is what this plane is called, right?" Lilian asked. Shanks chuckled and shook his head.
"Well, we call it 'Earth' down here," he said with a cheeky grin. Her cheeks burned as she closed the lid of the kit.
"Oh, I see," she said as embarrassment flooded through her.
"Hey, you didn't know. Unless you're trying to give your new Chief a hard time," he winked. She held up her hands.
"Of course not!" she squeaked. Shanks laughed.
"I'm just messing with you," he jested. Lilian gave a small laugh before yawning.
"Well, I'm feeling rather exhausted, so I think I'll turn in for the night," Lilian said. Shanks grunted.
"Sure thing," he replied. Lilian gave a small curtsy before taking a few steps. Her eyes widened when the Chief grasped her hand. She slowly turned to see his warm smile.
"I never properly told you...Welcome to the Red-Haired Pirates," he beamed. Lilian smiled as he squeezed her hand.
"Thank you for letting me join your crew, Chief Shanks," she said.
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Enduring All Things: Part 1
Nag-away kami today. It was our first fight as a married couple and I just have to say na sobrang laki ng difference ng pag-aaway namin ngayon compared sa mga fights namin before.
Ano pinag-awayan? Well, actually, more of a “misunderstanding” or more of an “I was annoyed” at him type of thing! hahahha! E kasi .. the OC person that I am na laging gustong detailed at by the book meets this impulsive, adventurous, “don’t care what your plan is let’s do this!” kind of guy! Super nakakapanibago .. sa lahat ng gagawin ko! Especially me, na may sinusunod talaga ako na day by day na schedule. May quiet time ako, may nap time, may workmode, may cramming mode, may workoholic, don’t talk to me I’m busy mode ako dito sa bahay! hahahhaa ... Financially naman, may budget ako monthly sa groceries, may budget ako weekly para sa bills, sa pamamalengke .. in short, I’ve developed a habit and super annoyed ako kapag hindi ako nakakapag-stick sa budget ko! Naiinis din ako kapag yung nagagastos ko is wayyyy above my means. Kapag hindi kasama sa budget, hindi ko pwede bilhin. Bibili lang ako kapag may sobra or kapag napagipunan ko siya na isama sa budget! hahahaha .. Pero itong asawa ko ginulo yung buhay ko! hahaha! I usually don’t mind pero kanina kasi wayy over budget kami .. tapos ang kulit binili pa rin .. (ok lang naman kasi gatas naman ni Gab yun at siya naman nagbayad .. pero ayoko pa din kasi kahit siya nagbayad, hindi naka-budget yun at may paglalaanan pa kasi yung pera nya na yun!) pero minsan kasi (or madalas) di niya natitiis yung anak niya! Kahit ang dami-daming gamit, gatas, vitamins .. bili pa din ng bili! E nasanay din ako na hindi ko inispoil yung mga anak ko. If we have, we will buy. But if we don’t .. you have to wait. Ganun na kasi yung nakasanayan ko .. mejo may mga parts lang talaga na nahihirapan ako mag-adjust!
So back to the story .. kanina ayun, ang ingay ingay pa niya ineexplain na nakatipid daw kami blah blah .. di ko na pinakinggan kasi nayamot na ko, so walk out mode ako sabi ko bibili lang ako ng gamot. Gusto pa kasi makipag-debate, e kapag nagdedebate kasi kami, kala ng mga tao nagaaway kami .. hahaha, ang sama na ng tingin nung bagger boy .. so nag walk out na ko .. kasi ayoko na isipin nila na gumagawa kami ng eksena .. e kapag magsalita pa naman yun, kala mo laging sampu kaaway! HAHAHHAA .. so yun, nung nandun na sa kotse, tinanong nya ako kung bakit daw ba naiinis ako. Sabi ko, ok na yun, ayoko na pag-usapan (kasi pag badtrip ako, hindi ako marunong magexpress ng galit ko, naiiyak ako, kasi sobrang emotional ako sa ganun) But he insisted we talk about it, so we did! So ayun .. away mode! He was explaining his side, I was explaining my side! Nabwisit talaga ko!
Tapos there was a moment of silence. Wala naman nagsosorry sa aming dalawa .. hahaha .. di kami ganun na sorry agad! Pero food is one of our love languages! Mahilig kami sa food trip e! So ayun, nag drive thru sya sa Mcdo, he asked kung ano oorderin, sabi ko para sa mga bata lang! Pero nagorder siya ng McFloat (favorite ko yun) .. tapos ayun na .. while waiting dun sa drive thru, sabi ko dagdagan mo pa ng cheeseburger at fries ... ayun .. laughtrip na kami! HAHAHA .. tapos nag-aasaran na naman! haha .. mga timang din talaga kung minsan e!
Napaka-simple lang nung away, pero yung damage when you let your anger out, malaki lalo na sa side ko na hindi marunong mag-express ng galit .. (he was actually confused, cause I was crying) .. sa kanya kasi, hindi naman big deal yun .. pero kasi sa akin big deal nga yung over budget! hahahaha .. so nung ok na, inexplain ko .. naintindihan nya naman .. tapos nang-aasar na! Weird right? Nagsisigawan lang kami kanina tpos pagdating sa Mcdo okay na? Walang sorry basta ok na?
Yes! Communication is one of the main key pala talaga sa isang relasyon! Before kasi, hindi kami magkaintindihan e, kasi nga LDR! Mahirap din magbati agad, kasi paano ko i-express sa knya e ang layo nya! Kapag LDR kasi .. everything is a big deal .. kaya kung wala kang tiwala sa partner mo, wala talagang mangyayari sa inyo! Isa pa sa mga natutunan ko, hindi lang importante na iintindihin mo yung ka-relasyon mo .. pero you have to understand his personlity and the way he expresses his emotions and empathy. Like him, hindi talaga lalabas sa bibig nya yung mga salitang “Sorry, I hurt you.” Pero, that doesn’t mean that he’s not sorry for what he did. Hindi ganun yung nakasanayan nya e, hindi din ganun yung personality niya. How did he apologize? He ordered Coke float for me. Kasi if he was still mad ... he would’t order anything for me. I didn’t tell him to order for me, pero he still ordered kasi alam niya na tuwing pupunta kami sa McDo ... coke float yung hanap ko. Did I accept his apology? Yes! How? By accepting the Coke Float and by talking to him and telling him to order more! Kasi if I was still mad at him, hindi ko talaga siya kakausapin .. pero dahil napakababaw lang ng pinag-awayan namin .. bakit ko naman di tatanggapin yung sorry nya, e nag-eeffort naman siya! Ya see? Ya gots to know your love language! Like sa parents ko, my dad ... he’s not an affectionate type of person .. he doesn’t hug me, or kiss me or play with me or tells me that he loves me .. pero alam ko na mahal niya ako at hindi niya ako pababayaan. Bakit? Kasi he’s a strong provider, that’s his love language. Mahilig siya magwork, mahilig siya mag-save, mahilig siya magbigay ng advice ... that’s how he lets us know that he loves us.
What else? I actually gave this advise to my niece .. pero ayun kasi minsan yung nakikita ko sa mga post sa facebook .. na laging may “Sana All!”
FYI. Hindi lahat ng lalake, pare-pareho ng trip, pare-pareho ng personality or attitude. We are all made uniquely. Hindi pwede mag-compare. Kapag nagppost ako ng mga ka-weirduhan ni Eymard minsan sa stories, there are women who tells me na .. sana all makulit asawa, sana all nagde-date, sana yung asawa ko ganito din, sana ... sana ... sana ...
Isa yan sa mga cardinal rules in dating or being in a relationship. Never EVER compare the person you're with to somebody else’s partner. Iba maglambing yung partner mo, sa partner niya. Iba yung love language nung partner mo, sa partner niya. Hindi man ganun ka-sweet yung partner mo, pero hindi ibig sabihin na hindi ka mahal. Minsan nakakayamot yung mga girls na nagbibigay ng advise sa facebook na, binigyan siya kunwari ng bahay ng asawa niya, or lagi siyang pinagppray ng mister niya, or lagi siya nilalambing in public .. very vocal si mister niya about their relationship .. tapos magbibigay siya ng advice sa facebook post niya (i see this all the time sa mga married na christian couple”)
Example, sasabihin niya “My husband kisses me on the cheeks all the time before we go to sleep and when we wake up. Then he always tells me he loves me, he buys me a house blah blah blah, kaya girls, never settle for less .. maghintay kayo ng guys na parang yung asawa ko na lagi ka ipagppray, na ipagmamalaki ka sa mga friends ... etc.”
NO!
Thou shall not compare! Hindi lahat ng guy ganun. Hindi lahat ng guy vocal or showy sa nararamdaman nila. My Dad? I’ve never heard my dad told my mom na He loves her. I never really saw my dad na laging nilalambing si Mama. But, hindi ibig sabihin na my mom settled for less because my dad is not like any other guys na malambing, or vocal, or showy. How do I know my dad loves my mom? Because of his consistency. He is COMMITTED! He’s always there for her. Alam nyo yung vow sa wedding na may part na “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”? That’s how my parents were. Mom was there for dad when he had literally nothing! And dad was faithful to my mom until her last breath. Kasi yang lambing? Hindi yan nagtatagal. Yung pagiging showy? Hindi rin yan nagtatagal ... as the day goes by, and your relationship matures ... your personalities also matures and yung bond nyo as friends, mas lalalim yun. Kasi when the feelings fade, and when the lambingan and honeymoon stage disappears, tanggalin nyo yung sex, tanggalin nyo yung mga i love you araw-araw, take care, goodnight .. tanggalin nyo yung mga corny hugot lines .. when all the kilig is gone .. dun kayo kakapit sa friendship nyo. Kung zero kayo sa relationship nyo as friends ... mahirap, baka gumuho kayo. Kasi sa friendship nyo, dun kayo nakakapag-kwentuhan, sharing, dun na bbuild yung trust, dun nyo mas nakikilala ang isa’t - isa! Yang kilig na yan, bumabalik balik na lang yan minsan .. pero para sa akin, yung friendship part yung pinaka-masarap na part!
O bakit ang layo na naman ng kwento ko? HAHAHAHA ..
Wala na naman structure! Badtrip! HAHAHAHA ... dibale, promise next time ... direct to the point na ulit! Ngayon lang kasi ako nakapag-blog ... pinapayagan ko na siya mag games (COD, Pusoy, NBA) kasi pag tahimik siya, nakakapag-quiet time din ako! HAHAHAH .. sinasabayan ko siya! Babad din ako sa pc ko or minsan nagsisims ako .. kasi pag natapos na yan .. magyayaya na yan makipag kwentuhan or mag movie trip, or foodtrip ... isa na naman adjustment! Before, nung LDR kami, hindi kami pwede magbabad sa fone, or ayoko sya naglalaro ng mga online games kasi minsan lang kami magkita tapos nanakawin pa ng online games yung oras namin .. kaya sabi ko maglaro lang sya kapag wala na ako! Ok naman sa kanya .. pero ngayon na lagi na kami magkasama .. nagccrave ako ng sobra sa alone time ... minsan kapag nagttrabaho ako (Kasi dami ko reports and everything!) naiinis siya .. kaya sabi ko may permission na sya maglaro .. pero babad pc lang ako kpag nag start na siya maglaro! hahahhaa .. Give and take lang talaga! Sabi niya nga .. bigayan lang kami ng trip! hahahaha
Ok .. sa part 2 na lang ulit!
Decided to make a marriage blog ..called it “Enduring All Things” hence, the title!
‘Til my next blog!
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