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laughingcatwrites · 5 months

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As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship

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hippolotamus · 7 months

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Every year I have this idea that I'm going to plan this out and write something profound. But it really just comes down to a few things, doesn't it?

❤️ There is no timeline (or requirement!) for coming out. Some people shout it from the rooftops immediately and some people keep it as their business forever. Both are valid and correct.

Ask yourself: Do I want to? Do I feel safe to do so? Do I have a plan if it all goes sideways?

🧡 Perhaps the most important point: nobody, and I mean NOBODY, gets to make that decision for you. That choice is yours and yours alone. Family, friends, partners, coworkers, teachers should never pressure you to come out.

💛 There is no timeline for “figuring it out”. Some folks just know and others figure it out later. Neither one is wrong. There’s zero shame in learning your sexuality in your 30s, 50s, hell even your 80s. The only “correct” time is when you say so.

💚 That being said… it can change! And that’s perfectly fine. No one would blink an eye because one day you declare you now like brownies instead of chocolate chip cookies. Or both. You learn more about yourself, you grow, you make more informed decisions. It’s all a process.

💙 Labels not required. Am I Gay/Lesbian? Bi? Queer? Aro? Whatever you decide, and are comfortable with, is a-ok. Even if that means no label at all. First and foremost you’re you. Not your preferences.

💜 A Special Lil note for the allies and supporters and others: This goes for anyone, but particularly those who didn’t figure things out (or feel like they could be open about it) until later. I say this as something of a late bloomer myself. Crying over Heartstopper? Suddenly adding all kinda rainbow merch to their house/vehicle/wardrobe? Going to Pride events? Making or sharing more pointed social media posts?

Yeah, they figured out they’re [insert label here]. Great, good for them but you’re sooooo over it. They’re X years old, why do all this now??? Like chill already.

Nope. You chill. Some of us are legit getting to experience this side of ourselves for the first time ever. And sometimes that is decades in the making. We’re unpacking a lot. So please hold your shaming and judgement. If it’s not hurting you or anyone else, for the love of everything just let them have this.

🩷 Resources! 🩵

The Trevor Project - thetrevorproject.org (Bonus: they have a Quick Exit feature built into their site for desktop or mobile in case you need to get out of their site pronto)

suicide.org - resources for US and International suicide hotlines http://suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html http://suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

GLAAD- glaad.org

OK2BME - https://ok2bme.ca/

PFLAG - pflag.org

#national coming out day #national coming out day 2023 #coming out #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq resources #suicide prevention #suicide prevention resources #resources #be nice be kind #the trevor project #glaad #ok2bme #pflag #what did i miss?#okay here goes nothing #long post

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shadowbrightshine · 5 months

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Calling all Asexuals on the spectrum! I'm doing an apa essay on being ace and the dismissal and ignorance towards us in the medical and social fields! Please, lend me your personal stories, takes, and histories with it. I was blissfully unaware of the LGBT+ fighting with the As back when that was the big controversy, so if you had experience with it, please share!

Bonus I'm also going to he writing a more personal paper for my family and friends about asexuality as a whole, for while my mother is an ally, she's not exactly aware of just how hard it's been.

Share your story, and if it works with my apa, or my personal paper, I will credit your name or tue name you request to be called.

All you old aces, the new aces, share your stories. All fellow aces, I call upon our power!!

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fandomchaos · 2 months

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Anyone on here have any experience with the PFLAG organization?

#pflag #lgbtqia

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plethoraworldatlas · 2 months

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We urgently call on LGBTQIA2S+ organizations to break up with genocide and publicly support the fight for Palestinian liberation. Organizations like GLAAD, GLSEN, HRC, PFLAG, The Trevor Project, and others must use their influence to end the ongoing violence. Silence on the death toll in Gaza signals complicity in genocide.

#palestine #pinkwashing #pflag #glaad #human rights campaign #trevor project

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tomorrowusa · 5 months

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Far right extremists have particularly targeted LGBTQ+ books for banning. As mentioned in the vid, 26% of all of the literature removed from public school libraries last year featured LGBTQ+ characters or themes.

This edition of Velshi Banned Book Club focuses on the homophobic banning of books and the effect of such banning on LGBTQ+ youth.

Book banning is influenced by officials at the state and local level.

In Florida, Republican Gov. Ron DeSantis and the GOP state legislature are responsible for the state's infamous "Don't Say Gay" law. 🤬

In Illinois, Democratic Gov. J.B. Pritzker and the Democratic state legislature have actually banned the banning of books. 😎

While there will always be minor exceptions, states run by Republicans are likely to pursue homophobic policies and states run by Democrats are going to be more LGBTQ+ friendly. That definitely includes attitude towards books.

BTW, are you registered to vote? Have you registered at your new address if you've moved since the last time you voted?

Be A Voter - Vote Save America

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r0semultiverse · 2 months

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These organizations supporting KOSA going through while claiming they want to help marginalized kids are actually so disgusting to me. The posts they make about Nex is just virtue signaling & words when their actions say let’s make things worse for these children.

I’m gonna be 100% honest, they should keep that kid’s name out of their damn mouths so long as they support KOSA. Like actually fuck you & eat shit. Actions speak louder than words, traitorous scumbags. You don’t care, you care about your stakeholders more.

Your organization can only thrive & exist so long as there’s a problem to donate towards solving. Of course you would support KOSA, you need a problem to keep existing in order to look like the good guys & solve it. Just go mask off & call us slurs & your “customers” at this point, it would be less disgusting than covering it up behind kind words.

#this goes out to the Trevor project & PFLAG as well as GLAAD & GLSEN #all of you should keep Nex’s name out your mouth when you have every intention to make things worse for trans kids #I can’t imagine going to work for one of these charity organizations & just seeing your bosses make things worse for the people you are #trying to help #I cannot imagine how frustrating & upsetting that is & then the higher ups are just like okayyyy our organization can keep existing...#so now y’all lower rank workers go help these kids whose lives we just made worse!#these charity orgs function like retail stores I stg; they need customers to keep giving them money meanwhile the higher ups make things #worse for said customers while the cashiers & others just try to help the best they can #you’re doing damage control for your incompetent & terrible upper management; it’s just like every other American workplace #you can also compare supporting a bill that would hurt the people they claim to help as a war economy comparison #they need to keep the class war going by supporting this bill in order to keep having money to keep existing as an organization #they’re playing both sides while on the surface saying we are here to help!#no you aren’t! your workers are; but you as higher ups are prioritizing stakeholders over humanity & for that you’ve lost all my respect #I haven’t looked up evidence about the human rights campaign supporting KOSA but they’ve been bad in the past so I believe it tbh #I mean the recent Zionism from HRC is enough for me to be like yeahhh no they absolutely would be in support of the Kosa bill #mine #op #the trevor project #pflag #glaad #GLSEN

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natalie-andrewson · 1 year

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Hey y’all, I’m going to see if I can get one more big push for this print to send even more to PFLAG on Wednesday instead!!! If you pick up one of these Bedtime Story prints or stickers the entire amount will go to PFLAG in honor of the Club Q victims ❤️

#fundrasier #pflag

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donnatroyprincessofthemyscira · 10 months

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#Oliver Queen #Green Arrow #Connor Hawke #Ace #PFLAG #Ollie Queen

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transfloridaresources · 3 months

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[Photo ID: Trans flag gradient colors (blue, pink, white) background with trans flag strips and text on top reading: 'Hosted by TransNetwork and PFLAG Safety Harbor. Trans & Ally Community Picnic. Sunday, February 11. 1-4PM. Everyone is welcome! Pet Friendly! Please scan QR code for more information and to receive location. Please register by Friday, Feb 9.' Logos for TransNetwork and PFLAG Safety Harbor are at the bottom of the image. /End ID]

As guests of honor you'll be treated to mouthwatering burgers hot dogs and refreshing drinks - courtesy of our dedicated picnic crew. But that's not all! We encourage you to bring a packaged snack to share with fellow attendees ensuring there's a delightful variety for everyone. And if you're a vegan fear not! We'll have a dedicated grill just for the vegan items that you can bring so you can savor your perfectly grilled cruelty-free delights.

Register here

#florida #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbt events #free event #pet friendly #trans community #mytransnetwork #my trans network #pflag #picnic #allies welcome #described

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nollimcm · 1 year

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Save Our Youth, Save The World

To Governor Ron DeSantis & most of the Florida legislators imposing their ideologies onto Floridians: I implore you to save our LGBTQ+ youth and thereby the world.You were elected to represent all Floridians; not just the wealthy, not just a particular sect of Christianity, not just those that have white under race on their ID’s. ALL of us. The past few weeks you have failed to achieve this, but…

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#change the world #florida #gay florida #gay teen #heart #journey #lgbtq teachers #lgbtq teen #lgbtq youth #lgbtq+#life #love #PFLAG #philosophy #PRIDE #pride festival #treasure coast #youth

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sweetfirebird · 11 months

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So the Montgomery Firefighters sold about 32-33 copies last month for the fundraiser (which is a lot for paperbacks of mine lol so thank you) and made just over $50 which I have donated to PFLAG.

Thank you all very much!

(If you're wondering why only $50, it's because I try to set my printing costs as low as possible so the paperback costs aren't that high for you guys. Though I will likely have to raise them soon anyway, like most authors who use Amazon, since they are raising the printing costs. So, fyi, if you want a pb from one of your fav authors through the Zon, get it soon.)

#fundraiser #pflag #the montgomery firefighters

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kit10phish · 11 months

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Taylor Swift's Gay Moments: Midnights ~ Sweet Nothing

Mother’s reaction to coming out Sweet Nothing They said the end is coming/Everyone’s up to something/I find myself running home to your sweet nothings/Outside, they’re push and shoving/You’re in the kitchen humming/All that you ever wanted from me was sweet nothing/On the way home/I wrote a poem/You say, “What a mind”/This happens all the time…/…To you, I can admit that I’m just too soft for…

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meret118 · 11 months

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But all this hullabaloo was not, as it turned out, for the famous doctor; it was for a diminutive middle-aged woman marching just in front of him. She was not famous at all—not the author of any books, not the leader of any movement, not self-evidently a radical of any kind. With her jacket and brooch and plaid skirt and spectacles, she had the part-prim, part-warm demeanor of an old-fashioned elementary-school teacher, which she was. She was carrying a piece of orange poster board with a message hand-lettered in black marker: “parents of gays: unite in support for our children.” She had no idea that the crowd was cheering for her until total strangers started running up to thank her. They asked if they could kiss her; they asked if she would talk to their parents; they told her that they couldn’t imagine their own mothers and fathers supporting them so publicly, or supporting them at all.

The woman’s name was Jeanne Manford, and she was marching alongside her twenty-one-year-old gay son, Morty. Moved by the outpouring of emotion, the two of them discussed it all along the route. By the time they reached Central Park, they had also reached a decision: if so many people wished that someone like Jeanne could talk to their parents, why not make that possible? The organization they dreamed up that day, which started as a single support group in Manhattan, was initially called Parents of Gays; later, it was renamed Parents flag, for Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays; nowadays, it is known only as pflag. Just a handful of people attended its first meeting, held fifty years ago this spring. Today, it has four hundred chapters and well north of a quarter of a million members.

#Queer #History #Pflag

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paletteturtle · 11 months

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