so im totally pro therapy but we should really talk about therapist abuse outside of inappropriate relationships/direct SA because the other stuff will supremely fuck you up too man. like this guy came into my life when i was a severely psychotic and vulnerable teen with a genuinely impaired grasp on reality and 4-5 years later he’s handing me a loaded handgun at a park. if i had known what to look out for, maybe it wouldn’t have gone so far and led to the more common types of therapist malpractice. maybe i could’ve spent those years actually healing instead of getting pulled into codependent insanity with him
fuck u allen you fuckibg creep weirdo. go to mormon hell. i wish the heart attack had booked you
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Going to see a new specialist today. Mentally preparing myself to be mansplained and gaslighted, maybe treated to completely unconcealed disgust over my minor bodily imperfections.
Like yeah it might go fine and they might be qualified and treat their patients decently, but it's such a tossup even with a woman doctor, and with a male doctor it's been like...99% of them have been an ass in some way.
So, best to expect the worst. Then the blow doesn't sting as much when it's given. And if it's not, holy shit, what a pleasant surprise.
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I learned what a bullet journal was by watching a few YouTube artists set theirs up and my algorithm spiraled out of control from there so I guess I have all the bujo influencers to thank for getting into it because it has been a godsend so far on my third attempt, but damn if the over emphasis on aesthetic over the actual practical organizational aspect of it doesn't rankle me a bit
[thirty rambling tags later] huh. I didn't know there was a thirty tag limit in all the years I've been on tumblr. Whatevs I can't copy paste the tags onto the main body because I'm on mobile and I don't want to write it out again so I'll just summarize the last bit here:
If you are browsing the bujo tag because you feel bullet journaling will help you but you feel intimated because you don't think you can make it look pretty, or that the bullet journal method could never help you because it looks exhausting or the inspo you see doesn't cover what you need, I am pleading with you to ignore all the pretty inspiration, take the most common and even original Ryder Carroll formats and spreads with a grain of salt and eliminate or change them as needed, and talk to people who have similar needs than you even if they don't bujo and suss out what's important to keep track of. My bujo is eighty percent important medical bullshit, because that's what I need more than a book tracker. You prolly have your own unique needs. And hell, if you want a book tracker then add a booktracker. It's your bujo to format and plan out.
So like if you want to start bullet journaling, go to Michaels and get a seven dollar Artist's Loft dot grid journal. Or a binder you have left over from school years past and print out your own dot grid paper if you have enough ink and paper and printer that can do double sided (Kevin McLeod's site I forget the name of has free adjustable dot and other grids I've used), or buy a pack of 8.5x11 dot grid paper, and grab a crappy hole punch that just barely does the job. Get yourself a nice pen you think looks and feels nice in your hand and on the paper–or if that doesn't matter to you go get pack of Bics or even pencil if that's what you prefer (I use a pencil for things I can't have be permanent, like temporary meds or the dates of yearly vaccines). If you're twitchy about messing up then get the cheapest wite out they have (but don't worry about messing up especially if you're not even showing it off to anybody). A cheap yellow highlighter if you think it'll help. And a ruler if straight lines are important to you. I lost mine so I just wobble my lines now I don't care (and it's marginally easier to get a line adjacent to straight with a dot grid)
Anyway. If you want to bullet journal but don't know where to start or how to make it pretty or how to make it work for your needs, just try it in the cheapest way possible and rearrange the guts of the bujo as you see fit. And don't worry about the optics as long as you can make sense of your methods and writing.
(and for the love of God if you're bipolar don't make an hourly mood tracker yes our moods can and will fluctuate throughout the day but goddamn was that a bitch to log and abandoned a few weeks after inking it out)
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hey i saw your tags on the mental health walk post and i have major Sensory Issues that can be exacerbated by being outdoors (and am literally allergic to uv lmao), if it's not weird can i ask what flavor of spd stuff you're dealing with? i have some Techniques that may be useful if we've got overlap
hm. that's a bit of a difficult question, because i'm still sort of figuring it out? i went diagnosed for most of my life (which is insane cause it turns out its pretty severe lmao), and even now that i've been diagnosed, the doctors/therapists i've spoken to about it either have no experience in the area or are worse than useless, so i'm sort of piecing it together all on my own here.
the main obstacle for Outside is the sun. i don't LOVE all the other uncontrollable Stuff out there (wind, temperature, bugs, etc), but i can manage it okay. meanwhile i hate almost any light at all, and spend a lot of time in my room with the lights off and the curtain drawn, on my computer with a yellow light filter. i can hang out in the rest of the house without a problem as long as i can return to my dark room when i need it, but to go outside on a sunny day for more than like 10 minutes results in a full meltdown and often physical illness just in case i missed the memo that my brain Did Not Like It. i mean, i do it, because it's always worth it, but it takes like a whole week at least to claw my way back to my baseline again.
i would love to hear about your techniques even if you don't think they're very applicable, like i said i'm sort of in the dark about "normal" coping and treatment for the whole condition. my current coping techniques consist of a weighted pack i wear around my neck that my mom made (which does help a lot, i wear it every time i leave the house), and taking benedryl until it knocks me out of an overstimulation spiral and i can pass tf out for the comedown.
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It will never not upset me that my brother's friend gets to live off a huge budget bc he tweaked his back a teeny bit in the military but because I was born with an illness that developed over many years and did not join the military I'm just supposed to suck it up and work myself to death I guess.
the man literally plays full contact sports for fun and has full mobility. I can barely work an 8 shift as a custodian and am regularly disabled. which one of us gets paid a living wage hmmm
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Day 332
I appreciate my family doctor, if for no other reason than making sure my dumb ass doesn’t make things worse.
The fun (insert sarcasm here) thing about being chronically ill is that sometimes you don’t really know if you’re sick, or you’re just having an off day, and if you’re really bad sometimes you try to ignore it when it’s not yet affecting you.
I can almost hear Were-Ah screaming at me in the background as I type this.
Fun fact, what made me go to the ER the first time this happened was that I was staring down at my dishwasher and thinking, “I can’t comfortably bend over anymore… huh.. This means I cannot look after myself, I should take myself to the ER.”
I was later told that I had a very blase attitude about that whole event, and seeing as I sent Were-Ah a picture with my IV line typing “Guess where I am?” She’s not wrong about that.
Anyhow, I had been keeping a close eye on myself because for the past two years my body has decided it cannot handle whatever shit my inners are giving them anymore resulting in an infection about every six months. Though last time it was five months… So when I saw the signs I emailed my doctor and said, “so this is happening, but I’m still mobile, and comfortable should we nip this now or later.”
The child part of me hoped the word would be later.
My doctor is much better than me and said, let’s nip it now. Also bonus marks for my doctor who also wrote “and let’s hope it’s 7 months next time!”. Well, one of us is hopeful at least. So I will probably have to head to the pharmacy later for pills.
Oh right… I also have to revamp my work schedule again.
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