love, there’s no such thing as a “bi lesbian.” someone can’t be bi and a lesbian. Coming from a lesbian myself it just doesn’t happen that way. Being a bisexual means that you like BOTH, being a lesbian means you ONLY like non men. It’s a mockery of real lesbians, it’s not a real sexuality.
Let’s take this apart separately, shall we?
“There’s no such thing as a Bi Lesbian”
Tell that to all the Bi Lesbians that follow me, and like my posts, and request for posts.
Tell that to the Bi Lesbians I reblog from and talk to occasionally.
Tell that to the older queers that identify as Bi Lesbians.
I guess apparently they don’t exist then. 🤷
“Someone can’t be Bi and a Lesbian”
Ah, this is a very popular one on this blog that I keep getting. I could link you to those, but I won’t. Here’s some ways you can be Bi and a Lesbian at the same time:
Biromantic Homosexuals
Homoromantic Bisexuals
Bi people who label themselves as Lesbians, to reclaim queer history. Because ALL Sapphics, regardless of if they were attracted to men or not, were referred to as Lesbians.
Bi people may also label themselves as Lesbians to reclaim being called a Lesbian by Biphobes trying to get them to pick one.
Bi people who lean more towards women, may call themselves Bi Lesbians.
Abroromantics/Abrosexuals may label themselves as Bi Lesbians because their orientation only swings back and forth between those two.
“Coming from a Lesbian myself, it just doesn’t happen that way.”
Well, for the second part, “It doesn’t happen that way”, just go back to the previous comments on “Someone can’t be Bi and a Lesbian”. It does and can happen.
Now for the first part “Coming from a Lesbian myself”. I hear this a lot. Not just from Lesbians, not just from queer people, but people of all different communities, one thing I hear all the time is “Coming from a [Blank] myself”. You need to understand that you are not the only Lesbian on earth. And Lesbians are not a hive-mind. You’re not all the same, and you’re not all going to have the same opinions. If that were the case, all Lesbians would look, talk, act the same way, and have the same views. But you don’t, because you’re not a hive-mind. Simply implying that all people of the same sexuality should have the same opinions is wrong. Believe it or not, I’ve seen all different kinds of lesbians who were Pro-Mspec Lesbian, who were Anti-Mspec Lesbian, and were neutral on Mspec Lesbians. And if all Lesbians had the same opinions, you would not be separated on these different opinions.
“Being a bisexual means that you like BOTH, being a lesbian means you ONLY like non men.”
Being Bi means that you could just about like any gender. It doesn’t just mean both, as in men and women. Bi people could definitely just be attracted to women and men, but they’re also Bi people attracted to all different kinds of genders under the Nonbinary umbrella.
As for being a Lesbian, it means that you’re attracted to women and Nonbinary people. And if we can agree on that, we also have to agree that there are other Nonbinary genders where one identifies as a woman AND a man, that you may also be attracted to. Saying that Lesbians don’t like men excludes Multigender people. Even if that’s not how you mean for it to sound, I can tell you that a lot of Multigender people feel that way.
Also, a common misconception is that Non-Men and Non-Women is okay to use for Gay and Lesbian definitions. It’s not. What you probably didn’t know, is that the terms have racist origins. Black and indigenous queer people have literally been talking about this since this definition was coined. “Non-Men” and “Non-Women” are terms that have been historically used to describe the degendering of black people.
Forcing these terms for queer definitions is Anti-Black, I could forgive you if you didn’t know that and stop using those definitions after now knowing the origins.
But if you still use these definitions even after knowing this, congratulations! You’re racist! Pretty sure there was a book about this, “Bad faith and anti-black racism” by Lewis R. Gordon.
“It’s a mockery of real lesbians, it’s not a real sexuality.”
Mspecs have just as big a part in Lesbian history as Lesbians.
All sapphics were Lesbians regardless of if they liked men.
The term “Bi Lesbian” has been around since the 70s. I’d like to see you try and tell an older queer Bi Lesbian, that they’re “mocking” Lesbians and that their sexuality isn’t real. They probably accomplished more than you have in your entire life, because you want to fight with people on queer labels that you think are and aren’t valid because apparently no queer identity is acceptable unless you agree with it.
Love, wether you like it or not, Bi Lesbians and even male Lesbians have always existed and will continue existing. And they don’t need your permission to be themselves.
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✦︰︵︵ MSPEC LESBIAN (own take)
1. Bi lesbian 2. Pan lesbian 3. Omni lesbian
4. Poly lesbian 5. Abro lesbian 6. Mspec lesbian
EXPLANATIONS ✦ ╲╲ ︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶
Mspec lesbian flags to match my bigay ones or simply to be coherent and have both mspecles and mspecgay because why not!!
MEANINGS ✦ ╲╲ ︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶︶
There are no individual meanings, but collective stripes meanings.
Two first: Lesbianism, saphicism, being queer for women. Third: being mspec lesbian. Fourth: attraction to genders different to your own. Two lasts: attraction to genders similar to your own.
ID. 6 rectangular flags with six stripes. The first flag is a bi lesbian flag with stripes that are, in order: Red-Orange, orange, beige, pink, warm purple, indigo. The second flag is a pan lesbian flag with stripes that are, in order: beige, orange, red-orange, pink, yellow, lily white / almost white blue. The third flag is an omni lesbian flag, with stripes that are, in order: peach orange, orange, dark pink, indigo, lavender, pale lavender. The fourth flag is a poly lesbian flag, with stripes that are, in order: rusty red, pinkish orange, beige pink, pink, pine green, indigo. The fifth one is an abro lesbian flag, with stripes that are, in order: dark orange, orange, light yellow, green, pink, darker pink. The last flag is a general mspec lesbian flag with stripes that are, in order: redish orange, orange, pastel yellow, purple, blue, violet. END OF ID.
PT. Ids and pts under cut. Mspec lesbian. Own take. In order. Bi, pan, omni, poly, abro, mspec lesbian. Explanations. Mspec lesbian flags to match my bigay ones or simply to be coherent and have both mspecles and mspecgay because why not. Meanings. There are no individual meanings, but collective stripes meanings. Two first: Lesbianism, saphicism, being queer for women. Third: being mspec lesbian. Fourth: attraction to genders different to your own. Two lasts: attraction to genders similar to your own. END OF PT
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