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torimidori2-blog · 2 days

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I'm poly, and I keep getting people who don't understand what the difference between polyamory, open relationships, and cheating, so let this be an educational moment for all the mono people out there.

Polyamorous is when someone is attracted to or in a relationship with more than one person at the same time. This is all with consent from everyone involved. A group of poly people who are dating are called a polycule. Just like regular monogamous relationships, poly relationships can consist of romantic, platonic, sensual, and sexual attraction, and can even be done with people who are aspec (on the ace spectrum).

An open relationship is when someone is attracted to more than one person, but the person who you're dating isn't attracted to the people you date. For example: if the relationship started of monogamous, and you decide you want to open the relationship in order to cater to a specific need that your current partner can't provide, that means you and your partner can see other people outside of your relationship with consent from your partner. Just like poly people, this can also be done between people who are aspec and you could have different reasons for wanting another separate relationship, whether you need a sensual, sexual, romantic, or platonic/queer platonic relationship. In my opinion, I think open relationships should be a last resort after communicating with your partner enough to where you both realize that your relationship needs aren't being met, but you still care enough about each other to still want to be together.

Cheating is when someone in a committed relationship sees other people without consent from their significant other(s). The reason why cheating is bad, is not because they're dating someone else, it's because you trusted them to not break the boundaries of the relationship by seeing other people, and they did anyway.

Even if you're in a poly relationship, you can cheat because if you didn't trust your partners enough to tell them that you're interested in seeing someone else and it breaks their boundaries and makes them feel violated and uncomfortable, that's cheating. It's also a danger to the polycule because they don't know the person you brought in and they weren't aware of you bringing them in. Why would you not tell your cule who you're dating when they're usually comfortable with letting more people in? For all we know, they could hurt the cule, or hurt you, or they could be hiding something themselves.

Someone who tells you that their actually poly after they got caught cheating is a blazing red flag. Cances are, they're just trying to find a valid excuse to cheat and get away with it. Someone who tells you that they want to open a relationship before sorting out the issues in their current relationship is a blazing red flag. Especially if you have a solution to the problems that you're facing, and it could've been solved through negotiating with your partner.

To be honest, as a poly person, I don't understand why cheating is a thing. For one, it could be because being monogamous is the societal norm, and seeing other people is a means of trying to secretly bypass that norm, but I don't think thats the case seeing that there is a whole cheating culture that proudly says that they like to cheat and gloat about how many people they play on a constant basis. It could be the fact that people just think that emotions are a game to be played with, or it could be some sort of insecurity that they have with the relationship they started before they decided to cheat. But fr, can someone tell me the reason why people cheat? I don't understand, and I need a real valid answer. Not some "They were boring and I don't like them anymore." because you can either do one of two things there, break up with them, or talk to them about how you feel and tell them what you want from them moving forward.

#lgbtq #queer #nonbinary #polyamory #poly #asexual #aromantic #aspec #open relationship #poly people aren't cheaters

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prismtheartweirdo2 · 13 hours

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Hear me out---

Who's excited for May 3rd?

#the amazing digital circus #tadc #the amazing digital circus fanart #tadc fanart #poly #polyamory #pomni #ragatha #princess loolilalu

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feralbeeast · 1 day

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I felt a little cute 👉🏻👈🏻🖤

Come toke up an alt babe?

They/Them pronouns

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robotics5 · 6 months

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Alright so everyone knows white is the classic wedding color, with black suits being common too, but what if you want something more exciting for more than two people?

Ta-da!

Honestly I was just thinking about RGB for me and my gfs and then I started getting ideas for how to apply this farther

#txt #image #poly #polyamory #colors #pac-man #pride #lgbtq #rgb #rainbow #idk what else to tag this

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snootyfoxfashion · 11 months

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Retro Style Pride Flag Shirts from Sabor a Libertad

Trans // Queer // Bi // Lesbian // Genderfluid // Nonbinary

Genderqueer // Pan // Aromantic // Asexual // Poly

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retrogamingblog2 · 4 months

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#pokemon #anime #nintendo #gaming #video games #poly #polyamory #polyamourous #poliwrath #gameboy #90s #90's #nineties #retro #funny #lol #humor #meme #dating #puns #dad jokes #retrogaming

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scretladyspider · 11 months

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Queer kids deserve to become queer adults. To grow up supported. To go through adolescence finding themselves, instead of going through their 20s grieving the years they weren’t safe and had to pretend to be someone else. To be safely queer before financial independence. Wanting queer youngsters to not have a lifetime of conditioning and trauma to unpack isn’t child abuse, it is literally the opposite. Queer kids deserve to be safe.

#lgbtqia #queer #mental health #lesbian #gay #bi #trans #nonbinary #intersex #asexual #aromantic #pan #omni #poly #demi #text #text post

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imgae-insertshockedgasps-16 · 2 months

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when i learned what "cheating" in a relationship was when I was a kid i was very concerned and confused. i said smth like "but why don't they just ask permission and then they're allowed?"

anyway i'm an aspec poly trans man now

#always known lmao #just didn't have the words #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #queer community #lgbtq community #aspec #trans #trans man #transmasc #transmasculine #transgender #poly #polyamory #polyamourous #polyam #polyromantic #polysexual

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blairelythere · 1 month

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What's more attractive than a partner who "lets you" infodump to them?

One who asks to be infodumped to. One who tries their very hardest to involve themselves in the fixations you're neurotic about.

Nothing says ~I love you~ like having your hobbies taken seriously 💛

#196 #r196 #trans #t4t #lgbtq #poly

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tropacant · 2 years

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have some shitty chaotic pride flags ^^

check out the rest of the flags on my profile since tumblr has a 10 image limit lol as well as the fixed versions of a few of these cuz I’m big dumb

#pride #pride 2k22 #pride flags #chaotic gays #mlm #wlw #nblw #nblm #trans #mtf #ftm #non bianry #ace #aroace #poly #dinosaurs

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anonymous-leemur · 6 days

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The booping paws are queer now

#leemursays #queer #pride #aroace #pan #poly #aro #lesbian #sapphic #bi #ace #mine #default #default aesthetic #icon #paw #boop

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aaa-battery-not-rechargeable · 10 months

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the thing about working in childcare these days is that I'm blown away by how open minded and genuinely curious these kids are. there are multiple openly queer kids, who are aware of the intricacy of the queer community and the multi-faceted nature of queer identity.

none of that was around 10 or 20 years ago. queerness wasn't even necessarily taboo during my childhood experiences, it just,,, wasn't taught or talked about, even from one child to another. I just didn't know it was a thing. but these little kids know about intersectionality!!!

and then when I was in high school, kids used 'gay' as an insult, but these kids at my job don't even blink differently when I told them the little queer flag pin on my messenger bag was the aroace flag. some of them ask what it means, because perhaps they've only heard of gay lesbian and trans. (and they've heard of gay lesbian and trans!!!!) I explain my flag and what it means, and it makes sense to them. that would have been alien for me as a ten year old.

some of these little lesbian girls and aroace and bisexual boys, the pan, poly, demigirl and nonbinary little ten year olds are the best friends that little me needed.

it's refreshing and heartwarming to see that the young ones of today are the kind of people this world needs.

PROTECT QUEER KIDS!!!! EMPOWER QUEER KIDS!!!!

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #queer #pan #poly #bi #bisexual #nonbinary #aro #ace #lesbian #gay #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+#lgbtqia #lgbtq pride #lgbtqiap+#lilith has the microphone

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douche-canoe-regatta · 5 months

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OH OKAY

#new favorite quote #ratthi #murderbot diaries #system collapse spoilers #system collapse #murderbot #not only is he #pansexual #and #poly #he FUCKS

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kittyslewdmusings · 2 years

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I want to have friends I can be lewd with so bad. Wanna give someone a handjob on a couch while they lie down and relax after a long day. Or give my bestie head because her vibrator’s battery died and she just can’t sit and wait for it to charge. Changing in the same room with a friend and ending up riding their cock for hours on end, both of us falling asleep together cuddled up with them still inside me. Just casual friends-with-benefits stuff appeals to me so much.

#wlw nsft #group #fwb #queer nsft #besties #poly #alex posts #i’m just yearning ok let me be

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switchbit · 10 months

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