#poly problems

[quotesfromthepolycule]

When the polycule is planning to road trip

#poly problems #polyam memes #polycule #polyprobs

[polyamorousmood]

"polyamory is just avoiding commitment"

Mad I'm committed to three people and thereby 3x better at commitment than you are, huh?

#polyamory #enm #poly problems #poly misconceptions

[will-solace-aaaaa]

@nico-di-angelo-aaaaa plz ignore this post, ily.

Help. How do I ask my bf if I'm allowed to date someone (I'm poly) without knowing if the person I like likes me back (I'm not confessing first) without making it awkward bc then I'm just waiting to see if my crush will ever ask me out (they probably wont.)

#polyamory #poly #poly problems #give advice #plz advice

[poly-problems]

Poly Problem: You can never grok your lover's unique pillow scent because all their other partners share the same bed.

"Sorry, we've only got the house blend."

#poly problems #nonmonogamy #polyamory #poly #open relationship #scent

[romeowsstuff]

my bitches just unionized to attempt to ddx me with did… I don’t think i have did i just think i’m autistic and a tiny bit sleep deprived

#polyamory #poly problems #did system #actually did #diagnosis #actually autistic #diagnosed did #for context both my partners have diagnosed did… #my bitches unionized

[gornwen]

Ah yes, that perpetual problem of the poly-saturated. When you finally find a moment alone for yourself you don't remember how to be alone.

#poly problems #polyamourous #polyamory #polyam #poly life #everyday polyamory

[vanlegion]

Middle Spoon Problems, am I right?!

Heh, one of the YouTubers I follow (PolyamFam) sells a new shirt with this design over at his shop. First time I saw it, I began to cackle as I just pictured Matthew wearing this because Jay thought it was hilarious, and true! XD

Season 7 gave me so much joy.

Link to PolyamFam: https://polyamfam.com/

#big mouth #big mouth fanart #big mouth netflix #mattdrew #andrew glouberman #jay bilzerian #jessi glazier #jatthew #jayxmatthewxandrew #matthew macdell #poly problems

[princessyeji26]

I hate that in my own relationship i get pushed aside all the time. Oh I want something that so happens my gf wants cant get for myself cause my boyfriend will make it get it for her and her only. Not only that I keep getting waken up to help with baby. I even stayed up untill 3:30 am with the baby. Ik I'm a step mom and all but its starting to wear my mental health out cause she isn't mine. Not only that He even admitted to favoring my gf over me which I get since they been together longer but you don't have treat me like shit while she gets treated like a queen

#polyamory #poly problems #poly relationship #relationship problems

[pensivesandwichgallary]

I am annoyed. Me and my girl seem to always be in a situation where we need to be quiet during sex. Or that's when she wants me. But when it's her husband it can be as loud as they want. I hate holding back all the time.

#polyamorous #polycule #poly relationship #lgbt couple #poly problems

[prettybbychim]

i have a question for the poly side of tumblr lol

i’ve had two experiences w poly people that have…confused me. i’m wondering if this is normal behavior in polyamorous relationships/adding new partners to a current polycule.

first experience was with a married couple, a man and a woman. i met the woman on a dating app, she was looking for a partner for herself but her husband was open to meeting any new partner with the possibility of him being involved if things went well.

i met up with both of them at the same time and during the date, i learned that the husband had another partner (f) out of state. there was some nasty jealously involved there that did raise a red flag. i also learned that they both shared another partner (m) who they were roommates with. they didn’t have many good things to tell about him though and implied that he imposed himself into the relationship and they allowed it out of pity.

thinking back on it, is it normal to not tell me about the other partners? i was under the impression it was just the two of them up until the point they told me it wasn’t.

second experience was from a different dating app lol this guy had no indication on his profile of being poly. we got along well and were talking for awhile. we exchanged twitters and that’s where i learned he was poly, as he had it in his bio.

again, i was under the impression he was currently single. i didn’t ask about his bio, which is my fault. but i started getting suspicious, i’m not even sure why. i asked him if he was talking to anyone else. he said he was, is that okay?

i didn’t feel good about it, thinking it was another person from the app. which i felt i couldn’t be upset about because we weren’t exclusive.

i truly got upset when he told me it was actually his girlfriend and that they had been together long before he and i started talking.

i felt like i was “the other person,” the one he was using to cheat on his girlfriend with. maybe that wasn’t the case, maybe she was okay with it and knew about me. but at the time i felt like a dirty secret and that i wasn’t deserving of knowing of his primary partner.

things could have turned out way differently if he had just been open about it from the start. i would’ve had no problem whatsoever.

needless to say, never spoke to him again lol

again, i ask, is this normal behavior?

i would assume that you would lay all your cards on the table when meeting someone of potential interest. i am poly, i have a husband and a boyfriend. are you okay with that?

i don’t know if i’m being weird or expecting too much. i would like to know anyone’s thoughts on this because i would really like to learn from these experiences and avoid repeats, if i can help it. because i didn’t like how these things were handled and that is not what i want for myself and any relationship i’m involved in.

#to note: i think jealously is normal as long as you work through it #polyamarous #polyamory #polycule #polyam dating #polyam relationship #polyam problems #poly problems #i really don’t know how to tag this #so it reaches the correct audience

[quotesfromthepolycule]

“Baby?”

3 people simultaneously: “yeah?”

#polycule #polyprobs #poly problems #polyamarous #polyam memes

[polyamorousmood]

I couldn't decide on one because they're all true so now its a poll!

#polyamory #poly memes #aladdin #poly problems

[jaylak360]

A tbsadh add out in the wild... i may or may not have jumped up in down ... the other poster has nathan and all three of them on it my Polyam heart caant handle it Ajsjssjjekdkdndkeoejf🥳🥳🥳🥺🥺🥺

#the bastard son and the devil himself #polyamory #tbsatdh #poly problems #ethical non monogamy #throuple #half bad

[poly-problems]

Poly Problem: can't always have your (qt) pi and eat it, too.

NYC lover: 'On March 14, do you wanna wake up, fuck, spend the day at that bathhouse spa that overlooks manhattan, then omakase after?'

Philly lover: 'Hey, this coming March 13-17, wanna join me and bae for a week of kinky sex, massages, homemade dumplings, and Peaky Blinders marathon?'

DC lover: 'Wanna spend March 13-16 hanging out with me and a cute doggo? While we're at it, we could endeavor to find the porn that most inspires us to stage a gloriously smutty photoshoot and subsequently, a slow, indulgent fuck. Your company is welcome/desired.'

Sometimes, no amount of gCal can save you...

jk, spoke too soon — 24h later, DC lover found a #PolySolution: proactive scheduling + self-effacing radical honesty:

Beware the ides of

March's madness. Bask instead

in April showers. 💦

#poly problems #pi day #choose your fighter #polyamory #nonmonogamy #open relationship #poly #enm #cnm #idesofmarch #pi #3.14

[enbyoftheyear]

My partner and I occasionally like to invite a third every so often, so that means using apps or certain websites.

My partner and I are both attracted to fat people and we ask nobody under 25. The only two requests we make.

Cue endless messages starting with "I'm not fat but..."

I sometimes wish I had the confidence of someone reading a dating profile and despite being completely unsuited, will send multiple messages and get offended that they were politely told no.

Also the guys who just send "mmmmmmm" qre getting their rizz from a microwave it seems.

#dating #poly problems

[kodiescove]

Being vulnerable with my partner: easy peasey

Being vulnerable with my ambiguous gay buddy: feels like I have no skin and like I'm on stage or some shit

Is it because i feel romantic towards my ambiguous gay buddy but not my partner? That's the only difference between the two of them that I can think of. I feel completely safe with the both of them, but with my buddy it's like.... I dunno. I lose all my charisma points and all my confidence and I feel like a fumbling teenager who's never dated before in their Iife lmfao

Me @ my partner - writes a long love letter about how much I love him and how much he means to me -

Me @ my ambiguous gay buddy - can barely string a sentence together about my feelings for him-

#polyamarous #polyamory #poly #poly problems #pan gay #bi gay #mspec gay #gay