I choose to trust. I choose to believe. No matter what reasons I may have to be skeptical, anxious, and insecure, no matter how very valid those reasons are… I still choose to trust. In love. In friendship. In success. In luck and in hope. In a better future for me, surrounded by those I love. I choose my own future. I won’t let anxiety and trauma choose it for me.
Personal affirmations for BPD:
I am not what other people think of me.
I choose who I want to be.
I am not bad for feeling emotions.
I am not bad for feeling emotions that are overwhelming and intense.
I am not bad for feeling all my emotions so powerfully. My brain is not bad.
I am not bad for feeling numb sometimes. It's okay to feel empty sometimes. My brain protects me sometimes from the emotions I feel daily.
Emotions are not bad.
Lack of emotions or numbness is not bad.
Emotions are just information.
It's okay to feel upset. It's okay to feel sad, frustrated, angry, confused, betrayed, withdrawn, resentful, grief, lonely, depressed, scared, anxious, stressed, tired, bored, irritable, and many other upsetting emotions. Emotions are neutral information that can help us realize what is important to us and what we need to take care of ourselves.
It's okay to feel "nothing." It's okay to feel numb, apathetic, withdrawn, neglected, isolated, and other emptying emotions. Emotions are ways our minds and bodies let us know what is happening with us. They can be helpful to realize what we don't like and what we wanna protect ourselves from.
It's okay to feel amazing. It's okay to feel euphoric, affectionate, peaceful, relieved, satisfied, content, loved, compassionate, caring, tender, enchanted, charmed, excited, hopeful, eager, proud, cheerful, moved, and other feeling-high/feel-good emotions. Emotions can help us realize what we liked and what's important to us.
It's okay for me to feel my emotions even if other people misunderstand me, even if people disagree that seeing a leaf shouldn't make me so happy I cry. They are my emotions. Everyone's emotions are important.
If someone judges me when I expresss my emotions in a healthy way like crying because I'm so happy I saw a dog breathe, that says more about them than me. I'm not hurting anyone with my healthy expression of happiness. I feel happiness so strongly I need to stim to not pass out. True friends won't be weirded out when I stim (i.e. jogging in place) right after I see them. I get so happy like a puppy I need to let my body do something with that excitement to concentrate. My happiness is not a burden. I can love others and people can accept that love or not.
I regret hurting people. I will never regret loving people and loving myself. 🖤
it’s a reminder for you! you're not wasting your time. you have moments of comfort, sadness or victories, they are all important. i would say all these moments make you who you are now! in fact, ordinary survival is also something you can be proud of, for the reason that you are still here.
🌼 Spread positivity without reinforcing the idea that you need to be happy about the life you are living 🌼
You are allowed to be upset about the situation you are living in if it drains your energy. Just because you practice gratitude and enjoy the little good things in each day, it doesn't mean you cannot express frustration towards your struggles.