I recently learned that self-destructive behaviors are a solution many people choose so they feel more in control in their life.
Here's a list of things you can do that can give you the same feeling but they aren't self-destructive.
Have a particular time when you have tea or hot cocoa.
Plan something in your life. It can be your meals, your schedule, the progress of a goal, anything will do.
Learn a new skill that empowers you. Coding, Chinese medicine, workouts, NLP; whatever you choose, make sure it makes you feel powerful in a way or another.
Write a book/story. You control everything there.
Dress in a way that delights you.
Decorate your room/house/environment
Change your hairstyle
Have a particular routine for something, anything
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I am here to tell you (and I really want you to listen and take this in) that all of your negative and self-limiting beliefs, every single damn one of them, has absolutely NOTHING to do — at all — with reality as it actually is, with the truth, with the facts, yes know this, zero, zip, zilch, goose-egg, nuclear squadoosh, so for God sakes, begin to really believe in yourself, begin to dream with wonder again, tell yourself that you love yourself, that you have what it takes, that the future is not the past, and that everything is possible for you, especially with the right mindset, and THAT you will create, day by day, step-by-step, affirmation by affirmation, positively certain that everything will get better, that you will grow stronger, that more order will begin to arise, that more meaning will be felt, that more love will be received and given, and that more blessings will come into your life… for this…is all…possible. FUCK YEAH!
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How to romanticize your home
Have a favorite bowl, mug, plate, cutlery and glass.
Make or get at least 1 decoration you love. Totoro lamp? Kitty coin bank? See throw vase you can decorate yourself? Have something that squeezes your heart with joy.
Scents~ it can be a room spray, scented candles, some sticks. There are many scents, white lilly, vanilla, lemon, lavender etc you'll find something you love
Have a few books you enjoy nearby. Mark the quotes you like. Maybe anotate the book? Or keep a journal of why you love that book.
Have a journal for your thoughts. Use a pretty pen and maybe decorate it if you like that.
Learn a few tricks for how to organize so things seem cleaner.
Declutter once a month so you have things you love and enjoy using.
Make a decoration from scratch. It can be a drawing, paint a mirror, sew something, make some origami, dream catcher~
Fold clothes so they're accessible and you love looking at them. Wear what makes you happy.
Have a nice holder for your toothpaste and toothbrush. Or get a plain holder and decorate it. (a glass, plastic cup, plastic box, whatever you prefer)
Whenever something is cooking clean around the kitchen. It will save you time in the future.
Have snacks around, healthy and things that satisfy you emotionally.
Have a lovely bottle for water.
Fuzzy socks and fluffy blankets!
House slippers or get a pair of plain sneakers and decorate them. Use them only indoors.
Change from pajamas/outdoors clothes into other clothes that you wear inside.
Change the bed sheets weekly at least. If you think they are not comfy enough, maybe try to use a fluffy blanket instead?
If you don't need/want something anymore, give it away to someone else or donate it.
If you can't finish certain foods on time, give them to someone else.
Have a bottle of your favorite soda around.
Make foods you enjoy at least twice a week. Sunday muffins, Saturday waffles, Tuesday pasta Bolognese
In a box or muffin box, have various teas or hot chocolate supplies.
What sort of home do you want to have? Sunday tea party? Always welcome and with snacks? Enthusiastic to have people over? Your safe sanctuary? Think of that definition when you take decisions about your home.
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