#ppl that’s no good for you don’t deserve your time and energy

[happyheidi]

ignoring people is self care

#it is tho #if u needed a reminder #cottagecore #ppl that’s no good for you don’t deserve your time and energy #use it on those who deserve it <3 #light academia aesthetic #self care #spread the word! #life tips #how do I tag this #self help #mantra #goblincore #text

[mars-and-the-theoi]

Low energy Devotional Acts for when you don’t have a lot of energy (or time, or money, etc.) pt. 9

🔥Hestia🔥

- put on one of those fireplace videos, or light a candle, or if able light your own fire in the fireplace (or have a bonfire)

- listen to a devotional playlist for Her

- if able do some cooking/baking

- if unable to do that gather some recipes either online or in any cookbooks you may have!

- watch a cooking/baking show

- try your hand at making bread

- watch home renovating, decorating, etc. shows/videos

- if able do some cleaning- doesn’t have to be anything huge just something small like maybe just picking some socks up off the floor or something

- enjoy a hot drink (tea, coffee, hot cocoa)

- watch your comfort movie/show

- if able learn how to knit, crochet, etc. or do some if you know how and are able

- if unable watch knitting or crocheting videos/tutorials

- if able (in every sense of the word here) spend some time with your family or text/call them can be your blood family or chosen family or even your good friends! (Family can be anything you want it to be imo)

- look up important home keeping skills! And watch videos or tutorials on them if you don’t know them (like mending clothes, ironing, etc.) which are all good skills to have ((I add this one because I know at least in America home ec classes have been cut and are pretty much nonexistent like I went through it in middle school but then they got rid of it once I went to high school and in hs it wasn’t mandatory like it was in middle school))

- read up on how to be a good host or guest

- if you like hosting events plan your next gathering

- go through photo albums or pictures and reminisce on the happy, funny, and joyful moments

- if able donate to a food bank (I personally go through my kitchen about 6 times a year-I do a lot of the kitchen work/organizing in my family as I do the cooking so y’know I’m already there so I may as well-and whatever I haven’t used or no longer have plans for I donate! Ofc make sure it’s not expired first and also if able include things like a manual can opener and such! So even though I don’t have too much money myself this system enables me to still be able to help which personally makes me feel good as I grew up utilizing those things so it’s nice to help!)

- if you have pets spend some time with them! They’re important family members as well! Maybe spoil them with their favorite treat and/or activity! Cuddle with them! Just let them know they’re valued and loved family members as well

- be kind to the homeless (yes, even the “bad” ones they’re ppl too and unnecessarily cruelty isn’t helping anything)

- look up ways to help the homeless and if you’re able help out or volunteer or donate (I might make a separate post on stuff to donate as there’s a lot of stuff some folks don’t think about when it comes to giving donates and such)

- hell you could even volunteer or donate to an animal shelter! If that’s more for you and something you’re more comfortable with! They’re homeless too are they not? (I do some volunteer work at the animal shelter myself so I’m very passionate about this)

(and if you have to utilize anything like food banks or government assistance in any capacity work on not feeling bad for needing those things. I know, easier said than done trust me I know again I grew up using those things. But you’re simply getting what you need to survive. And there’s nothing wrong with that. You’re not bad, you haven’t failed, you’re not a leech, etc. you’re just someone trying to survive and there’s no shame in that. There’s no shame in needing help. And not only is that a great devotional act in itself, it’s also just great in general. I do a lot of activist work and such and trust that there’s people who care and people who-again, like me-get it. You’re okay. You’re still a good person. And still deserving of good things.)

#got a little bit political but I’m heavily involved in activism and such and that ties into my worship so 🤷‍♀️ #low energy low effort devotional acts #cause we all have those times where we just need something simple #hellenic polytheism #helpol #hellenic pagan #hellenic pantheon #hellenic paganism #hestia deity #hestia worship #normally I just queue these but I really like this one #so it’s getting some vip treatment

[moonnightdew]

🧿 Protection Messages 🧿

( Left to right )

Pile #1

Curiosity• Pure Intentions vs hidden intentions• Silence• Privacy• Discernment• Perception• Wisdom• Naivety

Be mindful, of giving or receiving too much unsolicited advice or help. This is more of a time of silence & using your own discernment. People may not take too kindly to your words & might attack you or misrepresent you.

There’s a lot of noisy or opportunistic people around you. Keep your personal business, to yourself at time. Don’t speak about what you’re doing, possibly creating or have coming to you. There’s a vibe of: your birthday is coming, and people are waiting for you to get your cake. They’re waiting for you to get your cake & they’re coming to the party, so they can get a slice. They want a piece of whatever you receive. Guard your energy, love, possessions, time & whatever means the most to you.

Don’t be so naive that you overlook someone bad intentions. This can come in the form of : bad advice, sabotage, jealousy, bitter friends & family or gossip. If you were betrayed & hurt: don’t allow what someone did to you, to make you bitter. Take the lessons & use them to weed out any bad seeds next time. Your pure heart doesn’t need to be turned black, by the evilness of others.

Pile #2

Protection of women • parental or masculine abuse• facing danger• exploitation• resourcefulness• your self-worth

Be mindful of being taken advantage of, misrepresented or overshadowed.

There’s indicated of working under or being disempower, controlled, victimized or dehumanized by a man ( or woman) wether in the workplace/ career or throughout your life.

Misrepresentation comes when people speak on you, speak for you or boast on your behalf.

This indicates that there are people around you for your name, title, power, work, money & many benefits. You’re a being showed off or name dropped like a trophy & make others look good.

You are more than your assets, body & what you do. You & your talents should be valued for themselves. This is a time to place boundaries & set the record straight. Don’t allow others to showboat or speak for you. You are not an object on display & deserve to be treated with respect.

Get your affairs in order & put people in check. There’s an energy of people assuming that you’ll do things without asking, borrowing money & asking too much of you.

Pile #3

Entitlement •invasion• privilege• security & safety• karma• respect• appraisal• greed • coveting the blessings of another•

Be mindful of ppl expecting & anticipating certain privileges, because of their connections ( to you as well), their birthday, a significant event ( celebration, holiday, festival etc…) example: expecting you to pay for gifts, dinners, date etc…

There will be people who make their way into your personal space & business at this time. ( family & friends overstaying their welcome or a annoying landlord)

I’m seeing a situation where someone is eyeing your property / possessions for what they’re worth ( old items at parent’s house or packed in garage) or a landlord or partner looking to get some extra money.

Someone who is in a position of power or privilege considers themselves superior to you. Yet, the seem to lack something that you have; and they want it for themselves. This can be someone will emotionally unavailable parents/ family. So despite having lots money & advantages handed to them, they’ve never experienced a true home. This indicates someone who’s immature, searching for a home, searching for perfection & ignorant of boundaries. So this may be someone intruding on your friendships & romantic relationships or relationships with your family ( especially siblings)

*warning of 3-parties ( cheating, polyamory, influence & gossip from others) this is a time to reap what you sow. Do not take or involve yourself in what is not yours. Do not go after something- for how it will benefit you, because you might end up trapped in an unhealthy situation.

Pile #4

Ostracizing• neglect• bullying• being held back• overshadowed• unkind family• being robbed of new opportunities or luxury • new life• level up• trash to treasure•

Be mindful of ppl who force you into roles without your consent. This can look like: being forced to stay at home, in a parental or mother position. Forced to cook, clean, care & take responsibility for something or someone.

You may have been going through a very hard time lately. Eviction, homelessness, job loss, money loss & being left out on your own is indicated. You were left high & dry, but it seems the people who abandoned you suddenly want to reappear into your life.

*warning of fake love, fake support, flattery ( ass kissing) & cheap apologies or promises.

Protect yourself from family abuse at this time: there’s an indication of new things trying to come to you, but family blocking or delaying them. Your living conditions may be very dirty, cheap or overly crowded with junk & siblings.

I’m seeing many of you moving out, starting a business, bringing in more income & many more blessings helping you to level up and out of the bad conditions.

You will see the treasure, in what someone else considers “trash”, which will bless you tenfold. Look beyond appearances at this time & use your empathy and intuition to help others. *emphasis on helping fostered children, bullied children, the homeless, less desired or dumped animals.

Keep any new contracts, jobs, offers or purchase and money a secret for now. People who treated you unkindly & with no empathy, will suddenly act overly nice & supportive out of nowhere. They sense better things coming to you & now want to act supportive for their own benefit.

#astrology #tarot #horoscope #tarot pick a pile #tarot pick a card #pick a card #pick a pile #scorpio szn #libra szn #protection #evil eye #astro #astrology moodboard #moodboard #mood board #new moon #full moon #tarot cards #tarot reading #snow white #hansel and gretel #goldilocks #psychic #psychic reading #psychic protection #protect women #cinderella #energy vampirism #solar eclipse in libra #eclipse szn

[angelfleurry]

Hi! Idk if this is a different type of request than other peoples', but I really like the idea of it. Could I have headcanons of Makoto, Hajime, Nagito, Komaru, and any other "hopeful" characters (I haven't seen V3 yet, so if there's any then pls add them for the ppl who have) with a friend/romantic partner reader who made the song "Night Sky Patrol of Tomorrow" by Orangestar for them as a special gift? The reader doesn't have to be talented in music, they just wanted to write a song for them to express their feelings. 💕🎵

Ultimate Hopes X Reader who wrote “Night Sky Patrol of Tomorrow” for them:

Hii!! Thank you so much for requesting, I ended up listening to the song and looking for English lyrics so I could try and do this better! This request is shorter just because of all the characters and my lack of energy, but I really really am so very happy to have done this for you!! I hope it’s good!

Makoto Naegi:

♡ “Let’s start facing tomorrow again…”

♡ The whole song made him feel things, but this…

♡ Oh, this particular line.

♡ It stuck out to him a lot.

♡ Absolutely flattered you bothered to give him a gift, but even more so that you chose to do it through song.

♡ Like, it’s hard to make a whole original song, surely?

♡ And, yet, you did it for him.

♡ He cannot take the smile off his face.

♡ The song reminds him of things he’s been through, things you and him have been through, things he may continue to go through, and it brings him such a rush of determined hope.

♡ Doesn’t quite know what to say, but you know he’s grateful.

Komaru Naegi:

♡ “The Big Dipper's first star illuminates the darkness, dancing into the sky and beyond this world.”

♡ This line sticks out to her a lot. She wonders about the universe quite a lot, honestly, and all the knowledge people seem to know despite not experiencing it.

♡ It just fascinates her, and your song…

♡ She’s mesmerised the entire time.

♡ She’s so honoured you made it for her, and she won’t shut up about it.

♡ She will be flattered, she will be giggling, she may almost cry.

♡ She’ll give you lots of hugs afterwards.

Hajime Hinata:

♡ He doesn’t really emotionally convey himself very well to it, but he’s smiling.

♡ He’s truthfully very moved you made a whole song in dedication to him.

♡ Even if music-making wasn’t your talent, he’s still absolutely captivated.

♡ It takes a lot of effort to write an original song, let alone plan vocals.

♡ He’s very grateful.

Nagito Komaeda:

♡ Just sits there and smiles.

♡ To be so lucky as to have all of this effort directed towards him, whether you’re talented at music or not, it just…oh it just leaves such a weird fuzzy feeling within him.

♡ Does he deserve it? Probably not, he doesn’t think he does, he never thinks he does.

♡ But when you seem so keen for him to hear it, yet so timid in the hopes he’ll like it, he doesn’t have time to think.

♡ He just needs to sit, and listen, and devote his attention to you.

♡ Says nothing the entire time, just listens.

♡ Your only indicator of what he might be feeling is by going off the way his eyes glimmer.

♡ There’s something about it that speaks to him, and to know you wrote it for him…!

♡ Nobody else, just for him…

KIIBO:

♡ Something about the song invokes a weird feeling with his code.

♡ “It is…normal to get emotional over music, isn’t it?” he asks, voice shakey.

♡ You laugh, but not in a cruel way, reaching a hand to his hair.

♡ “Yes,” you tell him, “Very.”

♡ He finds such joy in the fact you wrote it for him.

♡ Kiibo very much would love to make music himself, so when you come at him with this wonderful piece…

♡ Oh, he’ll be asking to make music with you for ages.

♡ Just, don’t let him know he cannot sing rather well.

#danganronpa imagines #danganronpa scenarios #danganronpa x reader #danganronpa #goodbye despair #danganronpa trigger happy havoc #danganronpa v3 killing harmony #nagito komaeda #x reader #nagito komaeda x reader #kiibo x reader #makoto naegi x reader #komaru naegi x reader #hajime hinata x reader

[pineapplerightsideupcake]

I’ve been struggling how to word this, and I’m sure it sounds terrible, but I don’t have much sympathy for de trans ppl. I’m not saying they deserve it or that I’m happy some suffered, especially if they’re young but it’s really difficult to hold sympathy and concern when most trans ppl are very obnoxious and delusional. Let me explain: I have a lot of trans friends that it’s very difficult to get them to listen and they’re very stuck in their mindset. I know a guy who looks like a man, calls himself nonbinary and has said he uses the woman bathroom. He takes estrogen and use to have a big beard. I asked him why he wasn’t shaving before and he said his beard doesn’t cause him dysphoria….it seems like a lot of trans ppl are very narcissistic and don’t listen anyway. It’s like when you’re trying to help someone and they keep rejecting you and falling deeper. I am worried one of my friends will definitely de transition in the future, and by then well, it’s gonna be too late, the testosterone has done its damage and she will suffer. I read the de trans subreddit, and I do feel sorry for some and most talk about isolating themselves from family and friends. sorry this is getting long. I feel bad about it, and I’m trying to hard to emphasize but many trans ppl make it difficult. It feels like a massive “I told you so” situation. Please give me advice on how to develop a kinder understanding so I can stop feeling guilty…..

So I wanted to take my time to answer this one because I think this taps into an especially heinous thing the modern left + social media has done to people and it’s the belief that a good person has endless empathy for everyone always and has special empathy for marginalized people.

But here’s the truth. You literally aren’t built for it. At the most basic psychological level you are not designed to have deep empathy for strangers. Your brain has a hierarchy of how much you care about others and a healthy mind prioritizes the people closest to you. More importantly, love and empathy are finite. You actually do have a limit on how many people you can truly care about. That’s not my opinion it’s proven science. We have a literal number (I think it’s about 80).

So it’s a beautiful thing when we care about people outside of our circle. It’s even more beautiful when we care about people far away that aren’t like us. But it’s beautiful precisely because it isn’t natural. It’s a conscious effort to care enough about earthquake victims on the other side of the planet to donate and raise awareness.

My point being that it’s okay that you don’t overflow with love for a group that is hostile towards you AND is full of narcissistic trenders. You can have sympathy for the people that regret surgery without absolving them. And maybe I intuitively understood this because I had to love so many addicts growing up. But empathy doesn’t mean never holding people accountable. It breaks my heart that my aunt has emphysema but she brought that fate on herself, one cigarette at a time. You can have sympathy for people with genuine dysphoria and still think they’re deluded. You can have sympathy for people that were brainwashed as kids and still expect them to examine their values. And you can think others are just self absorbed assholes. You can condemn the patriarchy for convincing so many young that they are worthless that they are choosing the Trans man path and still hold them accountable for throwing around homophobic slurs. You can have sympathy for trans women that are fighting sepsis from bottom surgery and still regard most of them as sex pests.

Empathy is finite. It is not on or off. It is not something we owe to a person because they are struggling.

Treat the people around you with kindness and respect. Pour your energy into a few meaningful things instead of dozens of empty ‘causes’. Torturing yourself over if you feel nice enough on the inside is so…Catholic. It’s female socialization.

Breathe. You’re a good person.

#radical feminism #radical feminist safe #radical feminist community #radical feminists do interact #radical feminists do touch #radblr #radical feminists please interact #feminism #radical feminists please touch #anon asks

[hellbillydefux]

Sometimes the trust issues are nuts and we gotta stop and remind ourselves,

It would make no sense for ppl in our lives to waste their time and energy on pretending to care abt us. It would make no sense for them to stay this long and would be much easier for them to just have left by now if they really didn’t love us, be it as partners or friends. If everyone truly didn’t care it would have happened months/years ago and it hasn’t. It would make no sense for ppl to put time and effort into giving us their time and support just to want nothing to do with us

It gets easy to believe that ppl don’t actually care bc u don’t feel like ur doing enough or are enough, because it’s hard to accept that people do love and care about you when you can’t figure out “a good enough reason ppl would stay”

Its harder to have to look at the messes, and the bills, and the lack of energy or health or etc. and accept that ur loved despite ur struggles now, bc then u have to look back and remember how ppl who were supposed to love u despite ur struggles failed to give u the support u needed deserved.

Then u sit and ask urself why, and u ask ur loved ones why, and they give u reasons they love u that u can’t empathize with or struggle to, and it all feels like some incomprehensible scary thing. Things that are unknown can feel scary

That inner child gets easy to get stuck wondering how anyone could ever love u if ur imperfect, bc “even your parents couldn’t do it”

U deserved to be held then. U deserve to be held now. We deserve to have been held then. We deserve to be held now. Nobodies struggles make them unlovable. There’s no such thing as being inherently unlovable

#posting this here too #mental health #bpd #abandonment issues #borderline thoughts #trust issues #bpd thoughts #mental heath awareness #healing #recovery

[no-empathy-culture-is]

hi! this isn’t a low empathy culture is ask, I’m just hoping you’d be able to help me out. I think one of my friends is low empathy, this is the first time I’m really hearing of this term but reading through your blog it does seem similar to what they experience. is there anything that you would recommend me doing/researching for learning how to be a better friend to someone with low empathy?

don’t feel pressured to answer this. ik how exhausting it can be for ppl to expect you to explain everything related to groups you’re apart of/disabilities you have but I thought this blog might be a good place to start :)

the biggest thing, off the top of my head, is that people with low/no empathy often desire to comfort their friends, but don't know how. someone with low/no empathy won't be feeling what you're feeling, so might not understand that you're angry and not sad, etc. additionally, we're not likely to approach something emotively because we're not experiencing emotion related to it. the fastest way to stop feeling bad over a situation is to remove yourself from the situation, which usually results in low/no empathy people suggesting logical ways to deal with a situation, when you 1. wanted to be comforted emotionally, 2. can't/don't want to leave the situation (for any reason) and/or 3. don't consider it a big deal, and are just complaining about something small.

ways to circumvent this are to clarify what you want, and what's comforting for you - you might want a hug, or to be reminded that it's okay to feel upset over things, or just for them to acknowledge the situation sucks. when venting or complaining, it's good to clarify if you want comfort, a solution or just to be listened to.

another thing is that low/no empathy people might put in an effort to be empathetic towards you, but not towards people they don't know/don't care about. this often isn't because they don't believe these people are deserving of empathy, but rather that performing empathy is a thing that we need to consciously think about, rather than something we do automatically.

additionally, if a low/no empathy person performs empathy towards you, this isn't them lying to or manipulating you (although you definitely don't seem to believe this, it might feel like it sometimes). imo it's honestly a compliment, that they're taking the energy and brainspace to do something that they don't normally do.

there's not much else that i can think of - followers, if you have anything to add feel free to do so!

#mod gabriel #not culture #i promise ill get around to posting the culture asks soon-ish #fatigue's been hellish lately #also anon i dont mind taking questions from people who have standard relation modes! (i.e 'normal' empathy/sympathy/compassion) #even if the question is super rude ill still answer it

[kaisacobra]

need a part two !! all about revenge but with a happy ending😭 this would’ve such a good series. readers dynamic with mindy and sam is so interesting to me. both mindy and sam loving tara so much but knowing how much tara hurts reader.. PAIN. i see ppl in the comments talking about sam and reader being a possibility but i feel like that’s kind of out of left field. i totally see sam and reader being more like family because of tara and sams just really appreciative of reader and seeings her as another little sister she wants to protect but it’s hard because she has to protect her from tara so mindy does it. and mindy and sam totally give each other looks whenever something particularly unfair goes on between r and tara. it’s like a car wreck where they just can’t look away. i think it’d be cool to see the aftermath though. maybe reader finally gains self respect and tries to move on (even tho i think it’d be difficult after loving someone for so long). i wonder how tara would react to it, the regret she’d feel would just tumble over and she’d want to think she was right in everything all along but no one’s backing her up and she’s likes oh shit i made a mistake and do need help. also think it’d be interesting to see reader and quinn maybe develop a relationship even if it isn’t serious. like them just fooling around do reader has a distraction and quinn would know. god knows reader isn’t ready for anything serious and quinn, being ghostface, well this would be a perfect opportunity to drive the relationship between tara and reader even more into the mud. quinn would totally be like “she never appreciated you. and you deserve so much better” to reader and r would be agreeing with her but still defending tara. and tara would be all jealous and she’s forced to see it cause r has a roommate so they can’t go to their room and quinn lives with tara so she cant escape seeing them together. and when quinn reveals herself she’d totally make fun of the relationship and be like “and don’t even get me started on r because even when we were together all she could talk about was u, tara” and she’d spit taras words back at her and be like “you’re right she is pathetic. there’s no wonder you kept her around with how she’d follow ur every move/i get why you’d be tired of her bc she was so obsessed with you” and tara would be shocked at the cruel words and hurt because she realizes that’s exactly what she said to reader. i feel like i won’t be seeing a happy ending cause there’s so much angst but i will be rooting for a happy ending ! sorry i’m rambling but it came to my head and i had to let this out. lmk ur thoughts idc if u think it’s bad lol

was this based off anything ? i kept thinking of second best by laufey but a million other songs ran through my head

Okay, first of all, i absolutely love long asks and I'm gonna make sure to answer this with the same energy🤠

I see people are starting to want happy endings too, huh🤨 While I don't think second best is gonna turn into a series, maybe I could make alternate endings for y'all

I do love Mindy and Sam's relationship with R because they balance each other out. Mindy stays by R's side because she knows Tara has Sam and Sam feels relieved that R is getting support from Mindy because she can't leave Tara

And yeah, i don't really see R getting with Sam on part two. However, since I love mixing characters from different universes that I've watched, I considered a lot putting Enid Sinclair (at least a version of her) as Tara's new "competition".

But I also have to say I love your idea of it being Quinn! Although I would make her more of a Tiffany Valentine (if you've seen Chucky) killer in a sense of being a passionate lover who's not afraid of hurting her partner

About it being based off anything, it's not really, at least not intentionally. Second best was actually supposed to be one of those "4 times and 1" where we would see the 4 times Tara put R second and the 1 time R had enough. I'm glad with the outcome though.

And I loved your thoughts! Honestly, you make great points and I'm happy that people seem excited for part 2🥰

#✦: 𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛 𝑎𝑠𝑘𝑠

[ranilla-bean]

20 questions for fic writers

@erisenyo tagged me, thanks! it was really interesting to read some of your process here

1. how many works do you have on ao3? 24

2. what’s your total ao3 word count? 195,338, and i’m pretty sure half of that came from in flammam flammas alone

3. what fandoms do you write for? currently atla but i’ve dabbled in merlin, ancient history rpf (lmfao), and danmei before

4. what are your top 5 fics by kudos?

nip it in the bud (what can i say, zukos nips are obviously enrapturing!)

lan eye for the bland guy (a testament to the people power of the mdzs fandom)

in flammam flammas (always felt like she should get more love! proportional to the sheer bloody labour i put into her 🙈😆)

deep and creamy (doesn’t deserve it. galactic repairman is way better, i wrote this as a shitty lil voice test fic for zuko pov!!)

the iconoclast (neck to neck with deep and creamy actually, will defs surpass in the next couple of days)

5. do you respond to comments? i make an effort to respond to each of them to show my appreciation. the only time i dropped off was when i wasn’t actively writing and ppl were commenting on stuff from the stone age 😭

6. what is the fic you wrote with the angstiest ending? definitely religio, in which i killed arthur. granted arthur dying is very much canon and literary convention unrelated but for that fic i asked my latin lecturer at the time about my translation of a passage that ended up in it lolol

7. what is the fic you wrote with the happiest ending? in flammam flammas. it’s a triumphalist ending, it’s one zuko has absolutely fought for, and now he gets to reap all his rewards. the joy of overcoming adversity to become a stronger, better person, a force for good in the world

8. do you get hate on fics? thankfully not! besides the occasional leery/perhaps poorly phrased comment. but i cut those some slack

9. do you write smut? if so, what kind? yes i love writing smut [40,000 words of plot later—]

10. do you write crossovers? what’s the craziest one you’ve written? noooo idt i have actually…

11. have you ever had a fic stolen? nip it in the bud was plagiarised once actually. plotline down to the story beats and the actual phrasing. it was pretty brazen and it was upsetting to discover

12. have you ever had a fic translated? nope!

13. have you ever co-written a fic before? i allegedly co-wrote a fic with my ex once… i don’t recall much of the process though so i suspect she actually wrote most of it and i maybe edited/chimed ideas/drew art? otherwise the closest i’ve gotten is collaborating with reikah, which i’ve really loved. i think it’s the ex-grad student in me that loves bouncing ideas with someone else, getting a second opinion, getting pushback. i come up to reikah with all these ideas (usually chunks of prose bc writing is my planning) and i’ll say some shit like “i want chapter 2 of nipfic to be structured in a chiasmus!” and she’s amazing at for instance going in to figure out HOW to practically (re)structure all of that. just like. concrete ways to bring the lofty vision into fruition 🫶

14. what’s your all-time favourite ship? noooo i can’t sayyyyy cos what if it changes?! but i do really love writing zukka atm for their ethnic4ethnic energy. i love writing characters of colour and delving into ideas about empire and colonialism and they’ve been the perfect vehicle for that

15. what’s a WIP you want to finish but doubt you ever will? well there’s one that i abandoned for uh. political reasons 🤡 i was writing an au based on an event extremely close to my heart and i poured a lot of love into it. but the situation irl took a pretty bad turn and while i wondered at first if i could post anon, i became worried about being harassed or doxxed over it

16. what are your writing strengths? i think im good at writing on a technical level. i used to write poetry and it was a fantastic exercise in wrangling words as an art form. so many lessons carried over into my prose. there’s a sonic element to mine that is i think quite distinctive. plus i can be critical of my own writing and im receptive to feedback

17. what are your writing weaknesses? structure can be a little tricky if there are a lot of moving parts. REALLY grateful to everyone who’s beta read to give a second opinion about those elements. and the bit i hated writing the most in iconoclast was the freakin chapter 2 sports montage. i am not a sporty person

18. thoughts on writing dialogue in another language in fic? ehh. what’s the point? it’s all well and good if there’s a point to it, which isn’t just “look, i the author can speak other languages”. untranslated, i just think a whole bunch of dialogue in another language can have the effect of alienating a reader see donna tartt’s goldfinch

19. first fandom you wrote for? merlin i lied. it’s hetalia genfic i wrote when i was thirteen years old on fanfiction dot net

20. favourite fic you’ve written? recency bias maybe but i’m becoming VERY fond of the iconoclast. it’s definitely not a fic i thought would take off (zukki is a smaller ship! and the story is balls to the wall bonkers in a way that im sure isn’t up some ppls alley!) but i uncovered so many fascinating ideas and concepts while researching i felt like i HAD to try do them justice. i challenged myself writing more violent fight scenes & more ruthless/complex characters. i wrote the fucking haiku 🤡 and the plot is a bit of a beast. but i can sense it coming together and im writing the insane fic i wanna read!

gonna tag: @faux-fires, @dickpuncher420, @adriancatrin knock urselves out! 🥳🥳🥳

#responses

[bby-deerling]

Im soooo happy for you!!! Congrats on the 600 you deserve each one my lovely🩷🩷🥺😭🫶🏼 so proud of you 👏

Ahhh also so excited you’re doing this I’ve been dying for someone to do a matchup event!!! You’re the bomb.commmmmm

Im not good at describing myself so I asked my honey lol and he said I’m almost like Nami in a sense lol 😂 instead of being obsessed with money (im actually super frugal) I’m literally obsessed with chocolate 🍫 I act tough but I’m really a softy who’s just scared to get stepped on so I bark instead of bite 😂 (I almost smacked him upside the head after hearing that part lol)

I’d like to add though that I’m super talkative when I’m comfy but quiet and observant when I’m somewhere new/with new ppl. I love to cook and bake. Writing, reading and drawing smut are my life outside of my daughter lol 😂 I’m always horny and love to eat!!!! Lol I’m a physical touch and words person idk if that matters but I’m a clingy gal lol 😂 also as you know …I sleep allllll the time so find me a honey who won’t mind lol 😂 you can pick both male and female I don’t mind 🩷🫶🏼

* if this is way to much please ignore my antics @honeysworld-offanfiction *

honey my loveeeee <3 having more material to work with is never too much!!! cracking up at the description your husband gave LOL

i think the right person to handle you despite only having one hand is...

shanks!

you're intense, sweet, and loving, and able to match the energy shanks brings to the table! i think shanks would love that you're tough on the outside and soft and gooey on the inside and take his time savoring every bit of it ;)

both of you would probably be going at it like rabbits whenever you're not sleeping; he just can't get enough of you, whether it's in bed or simply having you close by for some company and good conversation!

while on the topic, he would also probably sleep quite a lot due to either being hungover, tired, or him just wanting to crawl in bed and hold you for a while! he finds it endearing that you're never one to rush him or try to pull him out of a deep slumber.

despite his strength, being on a yonko crew comes with its dangers and challenges. that being said, he would appreciate your cautiousness in strange and unfamiliar situations; it keeps you out of trouble, and he admires your self-preservation skills.

get ready to cook twice as much and have to deal with him eating your creations nearly as soon as you finish them! the way he loops his arm around your waist and kisses the top of your head nearly makes up for it... and the god tier backshots he gives you in the kitchen definitely make up for it!

both of you are big on physical touch, and he's definitely not afraid to get handsy with you no matter where you are or who's around! a huge snuggler as well; he will give you all the physical validation you could ever dream of and more!

<3

#600 follower event #matchup #ask #honey

[syrupsyche]

⭐ i'd love to hear your director's commentary on how marius won the hand :D

THANK U for the ask!! You probably already read my dir. commentary on Ch. 5 and Ch. 6 of How Marius Won the Hand [...], so I'll jump back and do a commentary on Ch. 4 of the fic!

I confess: I had no idea what to name Courferre so I picked the two names I feel I've heard the most often when it came to fan-assigned names. And not to give any spoilers, but Courfeyrac's name will come into play again in the future!

Also not to pull a Hugo but I wanted to emphasize how pretty Cosette was lol. Needed to give her and Enjolras some physical similarities first (beauty, etc.) before some spiritual similarities later on in the story!

Cosette canonically loves to tease Marius! See:

Ten years later, with the love of Marius in her heart, she would have answered: “A pedant, and insufferable to the sight! You are right!” (4.3.7)

“Monsieur, you are handsome, you are good-looking, you are witty, you are not at all stupid, you are much more learned than I am, but I bid you defiance with this word: I love you!” (4.8.1)

“Don’t cough, sir; I will not have people cough on my domain without my permission. It’s very naughty to cough and to disturb me.” (4.8.1)

And so I needed Cosette to have her spunk here as well!

Ninny mention!! *cue cheers and applause* Wanted the Valjean reveal to be Hugo-esque ("omg who could this mysterious old man be 🤭") and I'm glad ppl noticed it! Also, Valjean hates Marius so much that I NEEDED to include it, though I suppose Ch. 6 is a lot more obvious with it.

Pilf wrote an excellent post about what Valjean's dynamics with the Amis would be like. Though the context in this fic is quite different (Courferre + Marius having to gain Valjean's favour) but I still think it fits! Courfeyrac would be far too Courfeyrac-ish to gain Valjean's immediate liking, in contrast to Cosette who would love Courf immediately (which only just worsens Courfeyrac's standing). Combeferre, however, is able to stick to safer topics! They're just Two Polite Men. This fic has also only just hinted at Enjolras' and Valjean's father/son dynamic so far but it's very close to Pilf's post on it too. They do not talk to each other at ALL; they will sit in silence together for hours and enjoy it. That's their father/son bonding time babey!

A call back to an earlier part of the chapter when Marius tried to make sure that "his palms were not slick with sweat". Mission failed!

I like to write Courferre stumbling over each other trying to impress Cosette. Idk I just feel like they have that sort of energy à la Tulio and Miguel from The Road to El Dorado.

I'm really glad ppl liked this scene ehe. How did Marius drink soup with a fork? Just part of his Pontmercying shenanigans I suppose.

Cosette being shocked at Enjolras taking her hand is the same energy as someone getting shocked when a particularly introverted cat suddenly comes up and sits on their lap. I hc that Enjolras isn't a very tactile person (which could be canonically derived from his only-two-kisses moment), so Cosette appreciates any physical displays of affection she can get!

I argue that the main thing Marius lacked in canon that could have given him a proper 'character development' was the belief that he could have a solid support system outside of bourgeois circles. He was so close to connecting with Les Amis de l'ABC but he ultimately fell back into a self-deprecating hole once his world views were challenged. In this fic I hope to get Marius to reconnect with Les Amis on a personal level first (via Cosette and Enjolras) before attempting to push him towards connecting with them politically (and he's already beginning to, in Ch. 5!).

And it's no surprise that the first person he reaches for when he realises that he DOES have actual friends is Courfeyrac! Writing this fic and rereading les mis letters has got me in my Courfius feels; Courf was such a good friend to Marius and (fic spoilers?) is definitely deserving of being his chief groomsman!

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And that's it for my Ch. 4 analysis! Sorry for the late answer lol; immediately after reblogging the post I got thrown 5 different assignment deadlines.

If anyone wants any other fic analysis (or even an AU analysis as a whole!) feel free to ask! I'm only one message away from blabbering like an idiot <3.

#les mis #les mis fanfic #syrup writing #OFEA #enjolras #cosette #marius pontmercy #only tagging the main players so that i dont flood tags #enjolsette

[myers-meadow]

Writer of mine, I’m screaming without the s at how you turned my lil ol silly idea into something so beautiful!!! Actually love you rn. I love being able to talk about Otis with someone who understands

work has been tiring, but talking about Otis always gives me energy.

also

WHEEZING

HE KNOWS. uhhg, imagine baby complaining to otis, basically spilling out that when your with baby, you talk about otis a bit more than you used to

:((

“Otis! I need you to stop distractin my friend! Hey! Look at me! Let me paint your nails! No, no stop staring at otis! I don’t care how hot you think he is!”

otis would probably be so cocky about that and, uebejehnnng that’s just so hawt ❎-

🥰🥰🥰 I'm so glad you liked it!!

I'm sorry work has been tiring, but I get it. We deserve to come to our doting lover, Otis, who makes us forget all about the day... 👀

I'm so glad to have kind ppl like you who make me feel less alone in my Otis brainrot💜 it's honestly the best thing about writing these fics 🥺 for that; thank you!

Ah, but imagine how annoyed Baby would be with this entire situation. On one hand there's you, who is too easily distracted for her liking; and now wants to stay in more, in hopes of running into him. She'll complain the most about not going out as much anymore, and tries getting Otis along - which is a smart compromise. (Otis menacingly eying every person who even dares glance at you)

And on the other, there's Otis, who can't even fucking shut up on a normal day. He goes being from smug about it: "you saw how they kept looking at me during dinner? Couldn't take their eyes off me😏", to "is your friend single? They better be", to "they looked so hot suckin' that ice pop👀" *writes your fave flavour on the grocery list*.

And all that - while not even getting together for the longest time?!? You both drive her insane 😩.

Behind the scenes I have some more Otis fics brewing, one of which is a Baby's best friend one ^^.

Have you read this fic by @slashingdisneypasta? It was one the first Otis fics I read and it still and forever sticks out to me because it's just that good. It also is about being Baby's bestie ^^

Stay safe out there, friend! And have a wonderful weekend!! 🥰💜💕

#Ask #otis driftwood #otis b driftwood #otis driftwood x reader #Otis b driftwood x reader #Anon #I'm sick so i'm sorry if this is less than you hoped for ;;;

[personasintro]

hey :)

I'm following lots of Tumblrs now but you're the reason this app's installed 🫶🏼

MH wasn't actually the first fanfiction I've ever read on wattpad but it was the last one😭 it's like now that I know about MH it feels like other fanfictions on that app will never be as good?

anyways, so after reading MH (all chapters) it's then that I decided to install Tumblr and follow you on here 'cause I've seen people saying that you're more active here, and tbh I wanted to know you better

after that I literally read ALL of your works🥹 they're SO GOOD and it's sad that they aren't getting the recognition they deserve 🥲 I can't explain how amazing your stories are and I truly can see your hard work

now that time had passed, I wanted to thank you, mainly for writing MH, because that's the reason I have this app were I made new friends and read incredible stories💜 I discovered amazing writers whom I can see are gonna turn out to be huge someday🥹 the talent is indescribable and I'm truly honoured to have known you🫶🏼

you're an expert at writing. you have many many well-written stories. you have the talent which I appreciate so much. you can make me feel every emotion through your words, and the way of you describing everything, your storylines, your plots, characters, angst, fluff, smut.. they're all perfect 💜🫶🏼

another thing I've been wanting to say.. you're doing this for FREE, you're not getting anything in return so PLEASE don't give away the things that are important to you.. your health☹️ I know. I won't be able to understand the pressure you're under right now, or you've BEEN under since MH started to blow up.. but now that I know you enough to care for you, can I ask you to not care? It's hard I know, these dumb people won't ever stop sending you messages asking for more updates. but if you think about it, who fucking cares? are these idiots more important than you? you have fans now, we all care for you💜 we all wish you nothing but the best🫶🏼 and we'll throw hands when needed💪🏼

you're one of a kind. you're sweet, kind, honest, talented, and a good friend who deserves to be happy. if these people who call themselves fans can spread negative energy just for an update, SCREW THEM. we can wait, we've waited before and it wasn't a big deal🤷🏻‍♀️ MH is AMAZING don't get me wrong but life goes on? updates will come and go just like everything else in this world. and it will someday have a last chapter what about that? what are they gonna do when reading the last one? will they ask you for another fanfiction? they won't stop🤷🏻‍♀️

think about yourself for one moment and tell me, are they worth your time? energy? health? are they worth the exhaustion you feel?

don't EVER feel guilty for any decision you make💜💜💜 you're your own person

I love you <3

Hello!! Wow, thank you! I’m glad I seem to be interesting enough that ppl want to get me better 🤭 I’m always amazed how many readers support me in so many different ways. I’m very thankful in this aspect, I’ll always cherish it!

Honestly, I don’t think I deserve this much love and support. I’ve said this many times but it’s true 😭 I don’t know what I did to deserve you guys! And just to be clear, y’all are not my fans (calling you that just seems ridiculous to me 😭 I’m sorry 🤧). You are my precious readers and I’m just an ordinary girl who’s apparently got a big imagination 🤭

You’re right! There are more important things in this world than updates 🪐 I hope I can continue to be a part of your life and free time no matter how much I update in a month or a year.

Thank you very much for all the lovely messages! I’m always pouting, ready to cry how sweet y’all are to me! It really touches my heart and I’ll be forever thankful! I’ll always remember this part of my life 💫

#💜

[dieletztepanzerhexe]

today one of my teachers asked me ( well, at first he asked all three of us, but then asked me specifically and not the others) if i want to go to germany for one month long excavations. i said idk, i have to defend my thesis and i was planning to do this as soon as possible so i’m not sure about this. but then i started thinking while i was coming home: for a long time i was gathering my energy to send an email to this german archeologist, asking f i can come for work this summer (last year i was supposed to go to germany but he took ukrainian refugees in and in the end had no room for more people). but it;s much better to go to an unfamiliar place with someone who knows well how to get there, can tell you about ppl you’re going to be working with  etc. i wouldn’t have to buy outrageously expensive train ickets (price in euro🤢🤮). i wouldn’t have to send emails ( 🤢🤮 ) at all!!! so after a few hours i sent him an email telling him that i’m interested, i even mentioned that i have godforsaken Deutsches Sprachdiplom (got it years ago - now i don’t speak german at all, i still remember some things but it’s like another reminder of what i failure i am).

everyone please pray for me or do any form of spiritual practice of your choice in my intention. i hope i can go with him. i deserve to have a good thing happen to me, finally.

#moje #one good thing please #one good thing in life #manifesting

[ikram1909]

Is it bad that I don’t have sympathy for the person that gets those left wing slave shifts after watching Gavi being forced to do them every game and getting shit for having to do them? Now their fans will see how much Gavi had to do trapped in that position

I don’t know I think the uproar over Pedri or Gundo playing those shifts annoy me because where was the same energy for Gavi

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such a weird comment to make ngl... the players did nothing wrong lmao (its giving kpop and their solo stan shit)

yes, it is kinda annoying that it has taken this long for some more people to realize that playing in a certain position (that's usually not yours) is hard af and might not help the team that much, but ppl have been talking about it for a while...

that being said (1) it is extremely fucked the weird amount of hate Gavi got when he got to the main team. like, the guy was playing out of position while helping in other positions where he saw that we were lacking in🧍🏽‍♂️

i just hope people get their heads out of their ass and realize that Gavi is so fucking talented because he can be anywhere on that pitch and perform well. that being said (2) he should not have to carry the responsibility of several positions at once esp. at such a young age 😭 none of our youngsters should carry so much responsibility ffs.

that being said (3) i hope everyone does well and don't get hurt. good performances and health is what they all deserve, especially at times like this ❤️💙

Worded perfectly thank you ❤️❤️

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

This isn’t trauma related but I didn’t have anyone else to speak to. It’s about friendship.

I have a best friend who idk if I wanna be friends with her anymore.

Idk how it’s taken me so long to see her “red flags” but now that I noticed them & they’ve been pointed out by others I can’t push them out of my head.

To sum it up

- she acts differently around other ppl / don’t like how she is around others. She changes a lot to please others & kinda ignores me while in big group settings

- disregards my needs / we went on a trip together & I have dietary needs & when I expressed wanting to go to a cafe that accommodates me she basically said no & made it such a big deal that I wanted to go EAT

- she takes forever to reply to my texts messages when my texts are about important life stuff & no offense but hers are just boy issues… I’m always there for her regardless but I just can’t help but be a little bitter that I’m there for her for anything & she replies to my important messages as an afterthought

- she never makes an effort to hang out. She always claims she’s busy but she’s of course never busy when it comes to making time for men who treat her like shit / for friends who are more party people

- she literally never remembers anything of importance I’ve spoken to her about / is a bad listener

The reason I keep the friendship is because she’s the only person I’ve met who I’ve felt intellectually compatable with. She seemed so deep & real at first. But now I feel like it’s not enough.

Yes we can relate to a lot of life hardships we went through but I just don’t see any substance there anymore. Im kinda just tired of her shit & how I’m always second for her.

But then I feel bad for thinking this way because she does see me as her best friend. Idk I’m stuck on whether I want to stay her friend or not. But I’m not good at confrontation either so I’d never tell her how she’s hurt me. Which I know to her isn’t fair but I can already hear the excuses she’ll come up with. She never takes accountability for anything.

Thanks for listening <3

Hi anon, I'm sorry you're experiencing this right now and to me, from what you've shared, you're experiencing (at best) a one sided friendship - and (at worst) a potentially toxic one. Whether this friend is consciously aware of their actions or not, it's understandable why it would impact you this way - and why it wouldn't feel particularly encouraging to try to have a conversation around the behaviors if these go unnoticed by them. I'm including some articles about signs of unhealthy friendships, an infographic script for communicating ending (if you'd like to do that instead of ghosting), and other ways to end friendships. Sometimes the most mature thing to do is to have a closure conversation, while sometimes, it's about safety and absolutely necessary to cut ties immediately, and often times a fade out approach is warranted. But which one would work best for this particular situation can only be decided by you.

Regardless of how you move forward, you deserve friendships that add to your life, not drain your energy, and I hope you find mutually respectful, rewarding, and healthy relationships in your near future.

Mod Kat

#trauma talks #mod kat #toxic friendships #toxic relationships