#probably need therapy tbh

[pouletpourri]

depressed old man simon and therapy cat cake

#probably ooc but tbh those are really self-indulgent #also simon needs therapy #get that man a therapist a blanket and four seasons of his favorite sitcom #adventure time #adventure time fionna and cake #fionna and cake #cake the cat #simon petrikov #my art #fanart #sorry for the lack of fionna was gonna draw her and prismo but got tired

[inkskinned]

im gonna start a fight; and, at the same time, i need you to take this in the most good-faith way possible, but:

videos that involve body-checking and intentionally (and uncritically) show a mealplan of an unhealthy number of calories are just a revamped version of pro-ana food diaries.

and yeah, i know there's arguments. i address some of them under the cut. but at the end of the day, we're just coming back to romanticizing mental illness; we've just found a better platform for it.

this is already something we've done. we knew it was wrong and tried to stop it. and tbh. it just wasn't enough.

there are people who argue "well, what if you have an eating disorder, you can't help it if you don't eat!" except that as someone with an ED; we are not infants. we know what we're doing. part of having an ED is that you are like, maybe too self-aware. even if we can't help our own food choices, we don't need to fucking romanticize the disorder - something we've been warning you about since 2013. there are hours of setup, filming, and editing that go into these videos. they do not happen to fall into place randomly. there is a reason they are pieced together to be beautiful, bright, inspiring.

there's this woman who pretty much only posts daily plans under a normal amount of calories, and everyone defends her saying but it's better than nothing! and i'm like. except she opens those with images of her showing off her body and provides no context in the video or caption that suggests that she believes what she's doing is unhealthy. she has hundreds of thousands of followers on a platform designed for young kids and teens. i refuse to believe that by accident her content just happens to be cheery advice on "healthy" versions of starving.

for any other symptom of mental illness, we would be incredibly enraged by this kind of placid acceptance of a "tips and tricks" fast-start guide. imagine if people posted pink & pretty videos saying "best places to cut yourself" as if it was a fucking storytime. we, as a society, are so fucking fatphobic that we would rather accept blatantly harmful displays of self harm than admit that we are obsessed with a hyper-thin body type.

i am not suggesting someone never talks about their disorder. i talk about mine. actually, it's a plot point in my book.

here's the difference: i recognize it's a fucking mental illness. i am very careful to never mention a specific weight, eating pattern, or calorie plan. i always make sure to position it as something that ruined my fucking life. i do not put cheery music in the background and hearts and sparkles over my worst moments. i do not film it in bright light. i do not start each passage with an image of a thin body followed by "here's how to look like her."

eating disorders should not be framed as aspirational. and the problem is that society worships the "after" image, so long as you don't get too sick. there is a reason so many people who quit being "influencers" will later admit - i wasn't eating well that whole time; an obsession with food was completely destroying my life.

we let any uncredited, uncertified person write the most backwards, fucked up shit about how to get the body you desire! because the underlying, secret belief is: well, at least they're thin! and the real thing that fucking gets me each time - they make fucking money off of it. their irresponsibility and societal harm literally pays off for them.

"why do you care so much." "don't like it don't look." "so what if people experiment with new ways of thinking of food?"

thank you for asking. we're about to get extremely personal. it's because when i was 18 i discovered "thinspiration"/"thinspo." and it absolutely influenced, shaped, and codified my pre-existing eating disorder. i went from having some troubling habits and traits to being incredibly unwell within what felt like a matter of days. there were actual pages designed to train me on how to have an ED correctly. it was all so suddenly easy. i was sick; and the nature of the illness meant - i wanted to be sicker.

it takes an average of 7 years for a person to fully recover. i know this personally - even now, 10 years from the worst of it, i still fucking struggle. i am so much happier now and i eat what i want and i literally don't think about food at all (19 year old me would shudder) and yet - i still fucking know the calories of plain toast with butter.

an eating disorder is one of the deadliest types of mental illness. over 1 in 4 people with an ED will attempt suicide.

and i'm sorry. i just do not see the exchange rate of "high rate of engagement" versus "the value of a human life."

#and there's something else in there about like .... #tbh once i got over something like 1k followers #i stopped being specific about my ED for a REASON. #yes on ur personal locked blog that u use like a diary go ahead etc #but we are OBVIOUSLY not talking about that. we're talking about the sheer NUMBER of people i could be talking about #in that one paragraph. that you and i probably were thinking about 2 different influencers #bc they get to say that they're just posting FITNESS and if it's FITNESS it's OKAY and im like #jesus christ lord almighty #every person in recovery from an ED: this is incredibly dangerous holy shit do you know how much this would have triggered me #each of these ppl: how dare you!!!!!!!!! i am only harming those who WANT to engage with my content!!!!! #their followers: leave them alone !!! they can't help that they make an hours-long choice to frame their disorder as if it was #fucking cottagecore !!!! #like girlie this person needs THERAPY #again! i didn't even have that large of a following before i IMMEDIATELY deleted any specific mention of calories food etc #bc i recognize responsibility and i didnt EVER want to even ACCIDENTALLY encourage this #and im not even GETTING PAID FOR THIS!!! #aND THEY ARE!!! #something something something they know this content makes them money #they don't give a SHIT about u babe

[starchaserdreams]

"my comfort character" being regulus fucking black is a special kind of mental illness

#i said what i said #we all need therapy #probably especially me so no judgment here #regulus black #regulus arcturus black #r.a.b. #starchaser #sunseeker #jegulus #tbh regulus is james' comfort character so he's fucked up too #comfort character #marauders #marauders era #dead gay wizards

[bitchthefuck1]

Men will literally break into the most secure military fortress on earth for 30 million kruge instead of going to therapy

#smh #has this been done before #although tbh i wouldn't trust ketterdam therapy they'd probably either throw you in jail or tell you you just need to commit to the hustle #more and then you won't have ptsd #not exactly a+ psychiatric care #six of crows #kaz brekker #soc #kanej

[aceofstars16]

Just me blowing my own mind thinking about Gravity Falls again lol (or maybe more like “oh gosh that makes so much sense holy moley…”)

But here’s the thing….people always blame Ford’s pride on his reaction to Stan wanting to burn his journal. And while I agree to some extent, there is another reason for this intense reaction. Which I understand now more than when I first watched the show…

Soooo…the last time Ford saw Stan was right after he feels betrayed because he thinks Stan destroyed his project. His project, which he put so much time, effort, and work into. It was his ticket to a better future. And he believes that Stan did it on purpose, because he was so caught up in their old dream of sailing together. This would create a very painful memory, which I believe, especially with Ford not working through the emotions, is still a very sensitive “trigger” of a sorts for him.

Fast forward to the portal incident. Ford needs Stan’s help, desperately. He is reaching out despite the rift between them, because he doesn’t know what else to do. And he asks Stan to take his work, and hide it. Which to be fair, is already a big thing, because the last time Stan was around his work….he broke it (or so Ford believed). But THEN Stan doesn’t want to hide it, he wants to *destroy* it. Something that Ford, once again, put a lot of time, energy, and work into. To me, that similarity would trigger the pain and hurt that Ford felt when he was a teenager. Plus those emotions were probably increased more due to his huge lack of sleep and intense desperation for help in a situation where he was in way over his head.

I’m not trying to get Ford off the hook or say he doesn’t share in the blame for what happened. But bro…as someone who understands those kinds of triggers to betrayal and deep emotional pain…Where something, even if it’s not totally the same, has very similar elements to the painful event, happens, that pain and those intense emotions are very real. And it’s a very valid reaction, especially for someone who has not worked through or healed any from that emotional trauma.

#ford pines #stan pines #gravity falls #gravity falls meta #stanford pines #stanley pines #not me relating to ford even more…once again #and honestly the same argument could probably be applied to Stan in this scenario too tbh? #I mean maybe a few slight differences but….still yeah…these boys need therapy

[painted-bees]

Theory: Raf talks to Magritte about her adhd symptoms the same way his therapist would because his therapist is one of the only kind reasonable voiced he has heard in his life and so he models his responses after it.

How very dare you lmao

#probably not far off the mark tbh. #after all--how many folks repeat therapy stuff to their friends who desperately need it?

[iman-92]

it’s weird to think that in a lot of ways who you were as a child is your most authentic self bc so much of your early years are spent being encouraged to leave yourself behind in the name of growth. and then as you navigate through life, you come to a particular realisation that the path to happiness is just finding your way back to yourself. like if life is a journey, then the destination has always been you.

#like I was always very sensitive as a child #and growing up i tried to work on being less emotional but it made me less equipped to really deal with my feelings at times #and now that I’ve started therapy soo much of our conversations have been around just sitting with my feelings / emotions and alllowing #myself to feel them and to let them pass #and I still find it hard but when I do it I usually feel lighter #and it just feels silly bc no one had to tell me to feel my feelings as a child lol I just did it and I was probably better for it #so in a lot of ways growing up has felt like relearning the skills I had as a child that I thought I needed to leave behind to be an adult #lol funny to think about tbh

[scorpiusmalfoylovesoscarwilde]

hey alexa, is projecting my emotions and situations onto fictional characters in my mind because that's the only way I know how to process and deal with them healthy??

#i feel like its arguable #like #there are significantly worse coping mechanisms #i could be addicted to heroine! #therefore #it is fine 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 #literally sobbing about my parents lowkey and then i start projecting my feelings onto albus lmfao plz i need help #like yay its not drugs #but nay its still not great i should probably know how to deal with my stuff without forcing albus potter in my head to exprience it all to #💀✌🏻 #its great tho cause he has better parents than me and then i can also imagine them reacting well and actually listening and thats something #that would NEVER happen irl to me so 😎 this is basically therapy #imaginary therapy #slay tbh #hpcc #albus potter #harry potter

[but-the-library-of-alexandria]

in 2024 I wanna stop hearing about betterhelp

#elise's posts #SO many youtubers etc I like are promoting this shit #fyi for those who don't know it's a REALLY unethical business trying to take advantage of the mentally ill #and before you say 'but how else am I meant to find a therapist that does online sessions' #post-pandemic most therapists offer this #and if you want the whole 'I can text my therapist for therapy anytime 24/7' thing... #sorry I know it might sound useful but it's SUPER bad for both your own mental health and your therapist's #sorry but therapists are not meant to be there for you 24/7 #that's not their job and it's really unhelpful for YOU to become dependant on a 24/7 therapist #betterhelp do not vet their therapists thoroughly #and some people say they have been evangelised to on betterhelp by preachers who ask the algorithm to assign them queer and atheist clients #many reputable therapists state that it's a terrible business model promoting unhealthy practices to patients #it claims to be the cheapest option but it's more expensive than the most expensive therapist I've ever had (I'm in the UK) #and significantly more expensive than the cheapest who was still good and probably more qualified than some people on betterhelp #you pay extra for the middleman #(being allocated a therapist you didn't choose and vet yourself isn't great anyway imo surely you want agency in this huge decision?) #and I'm sorry but pride counselling is a branch of the same company #please just look for therapists that specialise in your needs through a regulatory model and get in touch with them directly #not all of them have waitlists and tbh if every therapist on betterhelp is available whenever what does that say about them

[vvanessaives]

i was tagged by @shadowglens and @risingsh0t to make some ocs in this picrew. thank you so much besties, i loved this picrew so much!! <3

vesper moxley (cp2077) • victoria gray (cp2077) joelle knight (fo4) • nina bower (fo4) selene (oblivion) • hiraeth (skyrim)

tagging: @uldwynsovs @arklay @devilbrakers @nuclearstorms @morvaris @girlbosselrond @indorilnerevarine @moiragf @cultistbase @faarkas @steelport @nokstella @reaperkiller @malefiicarum @brujah @calenhads @lightwardens @aelyosos and whoever else wants to do this or that i missed bc i'm terribly forgetful sorry!!

#tag games #warning i accidentally infodumped in the tags i'm sorry ignore me 😔 ckjsdhdskj #made this based on relationships idk why jdksd. victoria is vesper's bestie 4 life & first gf. joelle & nina my fave wlw married couple #and then for the last one. listen. i've resurected a very old oc and i'm still not so sure but i miss skyrim so bad. they idea is that #they are related as in hiraeth is a descent of selene bc i think dragonborn=martin septim's child> family line going forward until we #have our little hiraeth. i never thought of selene & martin having a kid in canon (only stupid ideas of an au) but u know. what if. she #still ends up in the shivering isles tho and becomes sheogorath. hiraeth's bloodline having like an emperor & a daedric prince. OK KING!! #much to think about tbh. not sure if they/she(probably he too. thinking of their gender as therapy for myself) will stick as nord or maybe #wood elf too like selene. or maybe even dunmer?? it makes no sense fjkdfhk IDK. literally i HAVE so much to think for them #also their name came to me bc i read the welsh word Hiraeth that basically means 'a mixture of longing yearning nostalgia homesickness' #+ 'an expression of an empty desire and grief over a past life or place' and with drangonborns i like to push the idea of 'maybe they were #actual dragons in a past life and now human' u know?? so i thought it was sooo fitting. i also like the idea of the more dragon souls #they absorb the more their features turn..dragonesque?? draconic jkfdhfkdsj idk i love them very much (: #(i have no idea how dragon in past life + martin's bloodline can fit but i'm literally only vibing rn) #i want to replay skyrim SO bad but i need someone to hold my hand so tightly as they help me set up mods for this game bc i never played #skyrim with mods (collective gasp) and i have no idea of what to pick ecc especially bc everything..breaks with a snap of fingers so yea ri #SORRY for talking so much i get excited about new things (my oc in this case) so easily.. #oc: vesper #oc: victoria #oc: joelle #oc: nina #oc: selene #oc: hiraeth #ALSO FUCK OFF JOELLE IS SOOOOOOOOO CUTE HERE!!!!!!!!!!!

[spacerangersam]

i'm rotating them in my mind like they're on a microwave plate

#ocs #where the lost souls meet #william #charlie #simon #they all need therapy tbh but simon probably needs it the most #definitely post story

[rebka18]

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#vent art #im just really sad #i want to isolate so bad #i hate change #and i hate positive change #whatever change tbh #i just dont wanna think for once #but paranoic brain dosent stop #even on dreams #i need therapy #im the blobb btw #i wanna sleep forever also #xc #ill delete later probably tomorro

[radio-writes]

Can I just say I'm a sucker for ALL your fics like goddamn!! I really like the one where reader sees that scene with husk it's just so HEAVY if that makes sense?? Like just the amount of dread it gave me whew beautiful!!

I find it so funny that I go out of my way to make Al the biggest asshole ever and I just get asks that go "ouch...more please"

#vien answers #love the support though thank you very much sweet anon #but you probably need therapy #i also need therapy bc im the one making these #the meaner he is the hornier i am tbh #hazbin hotel #alastor

[siwym-archive]

Tadashi, after the day of Adam being Adam™️: but I stay silly :3 but I stay silly :3 but I stay sil-

#he needs a better job #and therapy #and a gun probably tbh #sk8 #sk8 the infinity #tadashi

[negative-speedforce]

who's your most wet cat energy OC? lol

DEFINITELY, 1000000% Siv. There is no way any other OCs could beat their pathetic meow-meow-ness. Below is a fairly accurate depiction of her.

#ask revan #oc shit #vexic :D #tbh second place would probably be Marie I'm serious that girl needs serious therapy #(and to stop trying to fight the Borg with nothing but a rolling stool and a bad attitude but we'll deal with that later)

[herawell]

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#negativity cw #mother mention cw #I can get why my mom thinks I need therapy #I struggle a lot with self-doubt and can shut myself in #struggle with staying on task and not catastrophizing #And tbh I could probably benefit from it even if I’m not ready to seek it out at this time #but in what fucking world is it so bad that she needs to give me financial ultimatums and tell me I’m dragging down the family #I’m dragging down the family because YOU are making it like that #I’ve been working full time for almost a year now #been moved out and paying my rent for six months now #I’m the only one in the family with health insurance rn #my mom is self-employed my dad has been laid off for several months now and my younger sibs are still in college #So I’m the only one they don’t need to worry about health insurance for #any worrying they’re doing is because THEY are choosing to #if I’m ruining your Friday move nights and causing you to get into screaming fights with each other over it #Then YOU need to manage that on your own