#pros cons

[borderlinereminders]

Pros/Cons Skill

Describe the behaviour you are trying to avoid. Consider the positive consequences (pros) of avoiding that behaviour. Consider the negative consequences (cons) of giving into the urge for that behaviour. Remember consequences from past times acting on those urges, and consider whether they would be pros or cons of doing it again. 

Example: 

I am feeling the urge to self isolate. 

Pros:

No one else will be exposed to my mood. 

No one will be able to distract me

People may worry about me which will affirm that I am cared about.

Cons: 

In the past, it has made me feel worse and made my negative mood last for longer. 

May put strain or tension on my relationships

It may make people worry about me and it makes me feel guilty when people worry about me. 

It may make it harder for me to meet my needs like hydration, food, etc. 

(Please note that it is valid to need space as a form of coping in a lot of situations, but there is a difference between needing to be alone and actually self isolating and the latter is why I’ve used it as an example of a behaviour to avoid.) 

This skill can also be used to decide between two or more actions. It might seem obvious which is the right choice outside of the moment, but in moments of intense emotions, things can be clouded and it can be difficult to determine the right course of action. 

Example:

I am feeling frustrated because my partner said something that upset me. It wasn’t his intention to upset me, but I am angry. 

I could either: 

Yell at him and make him understand how wrong he was. 

Pros:

I get to vent how I feel. 

It will feel satisfying in the moment. 

In the end, I end up crying and having a breakdown which ultimately helps release a bunch of emotions leading me to feeling lighter. 

Cons. 

It will be hurtful and potentially scary to my partner. 

I will punish myself afterwards with the guilt. 

There may be tension between us and/or it may damage our relationship. 

Or use my Coping Skills

Pros:

I get to feel proud of myself for using my coping skills. 

It will likely lead to me communicating with him in a healthy manner afterwards about what upset me, and potentially strengthen our relationship. 

Will help calm my body and mind which is better for my physical well-being.

Will help build and reinforce positive thinking patterns. 

Cons:

It is draining sometimes to use coping skills. 

Sometimes it feels good to get a reaction out of my partner in the moment. 

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[nigmos]

my hair is very long and i love it as ive been nurturing it since i quit relaxers as a teen. but at what cost.. long hair is time consuming 😔

#pros cons

[wekillitwithfire]

#both have their pros and cons

[thatsbelievable]

#The Pros and Cons of Teeth #pros #cons #pros and cons #pros & cons #teeth #TW teeth

[makowcy]

gif from that hit 90s space mining anime that is real and not made by me

au by @kiszoneszczury

#tangotek #space mining au #on a grind of watching the new life series from too many povs i am so so normal #see you in many hours #trafficblr #pros of working on a small canvas is that bg is very quick and nice to draw cons of working on a small canvas is that characters are not #also i used after effects for the first time why is the clipping mask like that #my art #animation

[thhecaptainschair]

It was so great to finally see someone being nice to Percy that I briefly forgot what Luke does later

#pro: witnessing the obvious talent of the young actors #con: I hade to relive the betrayal I felt when I was 12 #pjotv #pjo spoilers #percy jackson #percy jackson and the olympians #luke castellan #captain’s log

[teleport-warning]

Inquiry

#mdzs #lan wangji #looping gif #I’ve been wanting to try animating something so here we are #I have regrets #animated in procreate which hmm #there are pros and cons #I had to stop myself from getting way too ambitious #(this was already too ambitious) #looks cool though #I’m pretty proud of it #next time I want to make people move not just backgrounds #teleport warning draws

[nelkcats]

The List

Danny knew he couldn't keep the existence of the ghosts a secret forever. The GIW was a clear example of that, they had managed to disband the organization but there were always traces left behind that made him anxious.

Times had changed, and while Amity was hiding behind his "small town" reputation, the world was changing. New protectors, heroes, as well as new threats were appearing. And as much as the halfa wanted to, he couldn't transport his entire town to the Realms on every occasion of danger, that would definitely be suspicious.

So he made a list. He gathered information on the heroes that had come forward and categorized them according to how easy they were to approach, or how open they would be to the existence of ghosts.

Unfortunately his "safest" choice was John Constantine, someone he wouldn't touch with a ten-foot pole, so he decided to settle for the second one: The Flash.

Danny had weighed the pros and cons, but as he walked through Central City he wondered if it had been a mistake. Although it was probably too late to regret it, the speedster had already noticed him.

#dpxdc #ghost king danny #Danny just wants to make things as peaceful as possible #he did not realize that his collection of information would be suspicious #the League was alerted that someone was investigating them #collecting information from each of its members #and hacking the watchtower for it #Danny honestly didn't notice #he just asked Technus for help to make his list of pros and cons #he might know their identities but he doesn't care #dp x dc #dc x dp #Danny hates Constantine for all the paperwork #Flash is clearly nicer #he even treats his villains well #Danny tries to make friends #his new friends are in panic because of him #just wait till he tell them it was a list

[velveteenbard]

Biggest casualties of season 1:

“I think this guy might be the Avatar” ~ Secret Tunnel minstrels (about Sokka)

“Do you wanna…do an activity together?” ~ Sokka to Yue

“You rise with the moon, I rise with the sun” ~ Zuko to Katara

“No, no, if it were a choice between kissing you and dying” ~ Aang to Katara

“You’re just a child” ~ Zuko. “Well you’re just a teenager” ~ Aang

“Come back, I wanna eat you!” ~ Sokka to Momo

Sokka in Kyoshi-warrior getup

The off-key and very stoned secret tunnel singing

Aang dressed as Avatar Kyoshi

Aang dressed as an old man

Katara freeing Aang through a feminist rant

Iroh. Just… Iroh

#atla live action crit #atla #atla live action #atla netflix #avatar netflix #avatar #avatar live action #avatar the last airbender #not my katara #not my iroh #uncle iroh #sokka #zuko #I’ll do pros and cons later

[sea-buns]

I do really love Brennan's rule of honoring nat 20s. It can be interesting when you get a nat 20 and the gm goes "ok but what's your total?" Y'know cuz it's like "wow this thing was so powerful that a nat 20 wasn't enough"

But also it's really fun to just reward the 20. Even when it fucks with the very minimal amount of setup you prepared. I just can't help but applaud Brennan every time he has to reconcile with a surprise Beardsley nat 20 and fuckin nails it

#dimension 20 #d20 #fantasy high junior year #fhjy spoilers #fhjy #both ways have their pros and cons but i am choosing favorites lol #brennan lee mulligan

[lazywitchling]

ADHD has robbed me of so many hot cups of tea.

#pro: I think to myself 'I want tea' and then I look and THERE'S ALREADY TEA #con: it's cold. #lazy witchblogging

[good-advice-ganondorf]

#okay so here's all the pros of getting a library card #it's free access to tons of information and not just books #free audiobooks since most libraries use libby or even have physical audiobooks #access to computers and printers and even sometimes 3d printers #some libraries have video games #free access to movies #one of my local libraries has cake tins in funny shapes #and even if you don't ever plan to use it. libraries will get more funding #cons of getting a library card #um. idk have to return or renew in 2 weeks #loz #tloz #ganondorf #the legend of zelda #good advice ganondorf #good advice

[thatsbelievable]

#Pros and Cons of Hurling a Candelabra at Your Detractors #pros #cons #pros and cons #pros & cons #candelabra #don’t do this #we’re not insured #unreality

[jayjay-thejet-plane]

mr grump and his golden ray of sunshine

i just wanted to draw their contrasting outfit choices (all the clothes vs none of the clothes lol) but edward’s a possessive lil bitchh so here we are

lineart and another close up ⬇️

#jakeward #being a mind reader has its pro and cons #please appreciate jacobs lil tooth it made me very happy to draw #i drew this in a 5hr hyperfocus which prohibited my use of references #so if anything looks wonky #thats why #thats also why it took so long (friggin brain) #jaydraws #jacob black #edward cullen #jacob x edward #twilight fanart #twilight #the twilight saga

[spriteofmushrooms]

Mo Xuanyu summoning The Enemy of the Cultivation World, the Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation, the Yiling Laozu Wei Wuxian to kill three normal people will always be iconic.

#pallas.rtf #mdzs #pros: funny #cons: killed mxy forever. makes me sad about mxy. makes me think about mxy a lot

[renstrapp]

god bless the gideon cosplayer with the boob window who walked down lesbian lane and god bless @fawnduu for telling me "eyes up"

(btw I'm posting these kind of sketches and doodle comics to my patreon for $2+)

#comic #lesbian activity #cosplay #tlt #i wear sunglasses while tabling to reduce eye strain from the con center lights #pro tip it's a nice break for the eye balls #and it leads to silly scenes like this