#queer questioning

[gaydartv]

Memphis

#queer questioning #queer #lgbtq #straight men

[qprconcepts]

Can QPPs feel romantic attraction to each other? Cause I want a queerplatonic relationship with someone whose I'm romantically attracted to

I will not tell you what to do but queer platonic relationships are non-romantic and SOMETIMES non-sexual. Though partners within a queer platonic relationship can still feel romantic attraction.

Disclaimer: QPRs are fluid and different for every individual, if you feel the heteronormative relationship isn’t doing it for you and your partner than go right ahead and enter a queer platonic relationship. and see how it works for you. You (guys) define your relationship because of how different each one is.

Double Disclaimer: There are plenty of websites and other information online from aromantics, asexuals and those who feel queer platonic attraction so if you are curious you can do more research.

p.s. just because you love someone romantically doesn’t mean you want to be in a romantic relationship with your partner. it is one of the many things that define my current QPR (i dislike the focus on romantic love and how it’s more important than platonic love)

ALL IN ALL: I suggest you find something that works for both for you and your partner/crush 💚

(I went ahead and posted this as soon as I saw it Because it is not a request and I wanted to reply as fast as possible <3)

#qpr positivity #qpr pride #qpp positivity #qpr #qpr concepts #queer platonic partner #queer platonic relationship #queerplatonic #lgbtq #qpp #pride #lgbt #lgbt pride #pride 2023 #pride2023 #aro pride #queer platonic pride #queer questioning #queer

[kelpiane]

When I was 12 I came out as asexual and when I was 14 I started taking T and started to become interested in intimate things rather than disgusted. I changed my mind and said I wasn’t ace.

I changed my mind not because I didn’t think I was asexual but because I felt like people would judge me—I felt like since I’m interested in intimate things & intimate relationships that I don’t count.

I have never been sexually attracted to someone in my life, never looked at someone and been attracted like that. It’s more been romantic, and then if I were to have a relationship then we’d be intimate because I would like that in a partner. You get me?

I didn’t want people’s first assumption when I told them I’m ace be that I’m not interested in intimate things. I didn’t want people to ask about it & have to explain. I didn’t want to turn off future partners because they might think I’m not interested to do those things, or think that I’m not attracted to them at all. I didn’t want people to do that thing where they say “you’re not really ace because xyz.” I didn’t want them telling me I’m too young and that I would find the right person eventually. I didn’t want people questioning me on my sex life and it to have to be this whole taboo—I didn’t want the baseline to be “he doesn’t do intimacy” and people be surprised & act weird when I talk about it.

I didn’t want people to feel entitled to my sex life.

Most importantly I wasn’t even sure I was ace anymore. Sometimes I dabble with the idea that I’m demisexual and just haven’t been attracted to anyone intimately because I haven’t gotten close enough to my crushes. Most of the time I tell myself that even if I am ace that I shouldn’t identify as it because I’m going to be intimate with further partners anyway and they wouldn’t know so it doesn’t matter.

Most importantly I’m still young and have a lot of experimenting to do before I decide my label—because I am who I am despite it.

It’s about the journey and unraveling the wrapping rather than creating new ones.

Normalize people being comfortable with questioning an identity for long periods of time & not caring much what they are. I haven’t encountered people with an “if I identify with it one day I do, if I don’t I don’t, I’m just chilling” attitude and I’d like to see it more cause I think these journeys of self discovery are beautiful. And it’s also completely ok to choose not to label yourself at all.

#kelpiane posts #I’m like a hippie when it comes to my identity I’m just #zen #transmasc #testosterone #asexual #ace #questioning #queer community #queer #queer questioning #gay #cupiosexual #demisexual

[minty-leafy]

ik tumblr has a lot of folks in the LGBTQ+ community so...

hey guys um, how do you know if ur aroace (or at least asexual) or just have commitment issues, or am i both

im 19 now, and i HAD crushes in primary sch (7-12) that i later realised i never liked them, they were just like my biases or eye candy, i would act shy around them, or do things i dont normally just for them

in secondary school (13-16), when all my friends were saying theyre jealous of couples and want to start dating, i felt nothing, i always think abt whats the point of dating, i rather hang out with my close friends, marriage doesnt appeal to me, and s*x disgusts me (but i enjoy reading smut?) every time they see a couple in public or online, they will feel jealous and salty that they dont have one, and im just there laughing at them (i purposely point out couples to them even hehe)

in poly (17-now), esp this past year and a little before that, ive been thinking if i just have commitment issues instead, because the thought of having a relationship scares me, like the label of 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' just gives me a big NO, im scared i lose feelings for the person, i had 'crushes' before but they never lasted more than half a month, it either disappears after a while, or immediately vanishes the moment i dont see them anymore

i realised the trend of my 'crushes' in poly is that they treat me nicely, like a gentleman, and i immediately think like "wow i like them", but it never lasts. when i think i like them, i try to think of us tgt, but i cant, like it feels very weird, and i cant imagine kissing them on the lips

these thoughts came out because this guy likes me, and literally our entire friend group knows, like he's not hiding it, and so our friends ship us, but when i think abt what if we were tgt, again, its just impossible, not sure if i just dont like him, am aroace, or have commitment issues. when i try to think of us doing couple things i cant, but i can freely do those with my girl friends (like hugging, holding hands, gg out 1 to 1, im a highly affectionate person, i love physical affection from close friends, be it guys or girls)

as i said before, im currently 19, and ive been singlr all my life, idk whether all these thoughts are because ive never experienced dating before, or am i just too young to confirm my sexuality?

TL:DR

19F, aroace or commitment issues, single since birth

loves physical affection and would do it with close friends no matter the gender

afraid of the term 'boyfriend'and 'girlfriend', cant imagine dating anyone, dont know if i just haven't found the one

doesnt get jealous and wishful looking at couples, never felt butterflies in stomach or heart beating fast over ppl i thought i liked, weirded out by kisses on lips (even on TV), gets repulsed by the thought of s*x

#tumblr help #lgbtq #lgbtq community #aroace #aromantic #asexuel #commitment issues #queer questioning #i really hope someone can help me #love #physical affection #crushes #friends #idk what else to tag #im desperate for help

[foxxings]

MOGAI TUMBLR, I need all hands on deck.

I don’t know if this has been coined before. If so, I am struggling to find it.

I have been trying to describe my orientation for a long time, and I’ve been finding terms that are similar, but not accurate.

The issue I am running into is that I can’t find any terms that match my orientation and that DON’T gender me!

I would use Sapphic, except it genders me. I would use Neptunic, except it is exclusively attraction to fem/neu people.

My attraction includes: female-aligned people, non-binary-aligned people, and peoppe who are male-aligned in a NON-CIS-MAN way.

My attraction is emphasized on female and non-binary aligned people, but I still am attracted to non-cis men. Sapphic fits this attraction type, but it genders myself. Neptunic doesn’t gender me, but it doesn’t go to the full extent of my attraction.

And no, I am NOT BI, PAN, OMNI, NOR POLY.

#mod🔑 #lgbtq #mogai blog #pro mogai #lgbtq community #mogai safe #mogai community #mogai questions #queer #queer questioning #queer questions #lgbtq questions #mspec #romantic attraction #orientation #questioning #sexuality

[delfts-purple]

Anyone out there like an Aromatic Asexual but can still fine people of any gender (nonsexualy) pleasing to look and even have a preference?

It been what... 9 years since I figured I was Asexual and I am still not sure I actually do feel Romantic love.

Like I can feel some kind of attraction. There are some people I look at and go... Damn... They look nice. It's never really sexual though, more like looking at a painting you like or a cool car. You appreciate its appearance, you like to look at it and it makes you happy. So I always assumed that's what romantic attraction was but I am now realising that that may not be the case.

Like I have had partners, who I have genuinely loved. However I don't think it was romantic, it was always more the way you love a very close friend. Like I look back and the way I feel towards my old partners is the same level of love I feel to my best friends. I want to hang out with them, laugh with them, help them with their problems.

However, just like when I was dating. All it ever was is a desire to be close to someone in a platonic way. To be by their side. Someone they trust.

I have also noticed all the characters I love the most, when I think of my ideal interactions with them, it's a friend, never as a partner. Not really.

Like the trend that I like character who look like people I love and trust in real life. The people who I already have close platonic bonds with. That can't be an accident.

Same with my jokes about been fucked by X character you see on my twitter. It's just an empty joke that mimics what others tell.

Worst part is I can't tell what is my Autistic inability to understand certain social shit or what is my actually not feeling any sort of romantic attraction. Like I don't want to kiss my partner, I don't dream of a person to do that with. I dream of me and my close friends just hanging out and having fun.

Worst part I can't even find a word for this. Like I feel some kind of attraction, I have a type, I see certain people and like them. I am a self described ass man, I love seeing a nice ass.

However I have never felt sexual attraction or anything sexual. Honestly not even truly felt romantic attraction. So that make me an Aromantic Asexual. But I can find people of both genders pleasing to look at?

Does anyone have a label for this? Like something that make it feel like I'm not just alone on this one.

#Asexual #Aromantic #Panromatic #Biromatic #queer #LGBT #Pride month #Queer questioning

[imsosocold]

What’s the nonbinary version of a twink?

#nonbinary #twink #queer #queer questioning #lgbtqplus #genuine question

[pridewrite]

Prompt: Questions (#pw26)

Questions can be daunting or simple, easy or complex, cruel or meaningless... Just remember to ask them when you're ready to hear the answer.

Prompt: Folklore (#pw alt26)

Folklore : the traditional beliefs, customs, and stories of a community, passed through the generations by word of mouth.

Lean into the fey and bog witches, Southern Gothic, or whatever collective tales you're familiar with. Just remember to honour Taylor Swift while you do.

#pridewrite #pridewrite2022 #pride month #prompt challenge #lgbt #questions #folklore #pw26 #pw alt26 #queer mythology #gay mythology #queer stories #lgbtq story #questioning #lgbtq questions #queer questioning #gay art #gay culture #queer culture #questioning sexuality #questioning positivity #questioning queer #coming out #creative challenge #creators on tumblr #creative community #poetry prompt #queer artist #writing challenge #original writing

[sickwithemotion]

think im a lesbian

#like i can be attracted to (queer) men but i don’t know if id ever be interested in dating/being in a relationship beyond sex #maybe it’s just cause im in my Go Fish era but 90s era lesbianism is rlly resonating #idk radical centering of queerness rlly speaks to me #bi lesbian #lesbian #queer questioning #the bi lesbian label lowkey’s been on my mind lately #technically bisexual but for all social and self-understanding purposes im a lesbian #ergo bi les

[bigbroadvice]

Hi, I’m the anon that asked queeradvicehotline about a bunch of complicated scary life stuff and you mentioned demiromantic, what exactly does that entail if you don’t mind me asking? Is it only feeling romantic attraction once you have an emotional connection to someone? Thank you

Pretty much! You only start feeling romantically attracted to someone once you know them well or relate to them deeply. There’s an article here if you’d like some further clarification.

Also, as someone who also grew up in a very conservative Christian home and then figured out that some very important things about what I’d been taught did not line up, I’m here if you ever want to talk about anything or just unload on someone who understands. I’ve been through the panic 😅

#big bro advice #demiromantic #christianity #growing up christian #lgbtq #lgbtq community #queer #queer community #questioning #queer questioning #grey aromantic #arospec

[mirokata]

“When you’re confused, ALWAYS go back to definition”

If it works for physics, it works for navigating queer labels too, right??

#thanks physics teacher I’ll never forget you #queer #lgbtqia+ #queer questioning #questioning

[annieisinseclusion]

Spotify is giving me so many gay show tunes and I'm just... Annie, how the fuck did you not realize you were a raging homosexual earlier?

#bisexual #bi #seriously #queer questioning #like girl #your music tastes reek of fruitiness

[raineofthedragons]

#lgballt #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbtqa #nonbinary #trans #lgbtqplus #transgender #ace #asexual #acespec #lgbtq community #bisexual #gender questioning #gender queer #aromantic #queerplatonic #intersex #pansexual #queer pride #lgbt pride #lgbt comic #lgbtqiia+ #guess who had an original thought for once :)

[incognitopolls]

Obergefell v. Hodges is the US Supreme Court case in which the Supreme Court ruled that same-sex couples have the right to marry.

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

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[lilpomelito]

my favorite thing about Steve is that he’s actually a very confident guy, overconfident I would say sometimes, so in my head he has the shortest gay crisis ever like he realizes on a random Tuesday morning while slowly rotting on his costumer service job that his weird fixation with Eddie and how close he is with that punk dude from the Hideout is jealousy actually, so that means he has a crush on Eddie. Huh, that’s weird, has he had crushes on guys before? Maybe, his friendship with Tommy was intense and weirdly possessive actually, and their fight did feel like a breakup kind off and Tommy did behave like a bitter ex afterwards… also now that he thinks about it his obsession with the captain of the baseball team who was a senior when he was a junior was totally a crush in retrospective. And as he comes to this conclusion he also thinks damn what a waste, I could 100% have pulled him. So that same day he’s driving to Eddie’s place like “hi i’m taking you out” and Eddie doesn’t know if he’s about to be wine and dinned or murdered in the middle of the woods but he’s also a weak weak man for pretty boys so he just follows where Steve tells him to go. They have a lovely date at the dinner and then drive up to the quarry to see the sunset and then a very intense makeout sesh in the back of Steve’s car when Eddie remembers to ask him if he’s even into guys. Steve who already has his hands in Eddie’s pants looks him dead in the eye and says “yeah since this morning I think, but also since forever.” And Eddie who had to spend years slowly crawling his way out of Narnia to even admit to himself he was gay even less admitting it to others just blinks and accepts the fact that yeah, Steve Harrington has always had that vibe actually, and resumes kissing him.

#the vibe being this guy has an intense queer vibe with every guy he interacts with #but for some reason nobody questions this #not even him #steddie #steve harrington #eddie munson #stranger things #mine

[spooksier]

GET HIS ASS

(shirt avalible here!!)

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