#queer-n-sad

[cruelsister-moved2]

like we are on our nine billionth positivity post for cis men with beards and masculine trans men and feminine lesbians and bi people in m/f relationships and nb people who are comfortable passing as their agab etc.... do we need more? is straight people not being able to tell you're gay/trans really the biggest issue facing lgbt people right now?

there seems to be this undiminishable reservoir of care and sympathy for the very idea of having ur queerness slighted in any context. meanwhile people who never get the choice whether or not to hide it are routinely dehumanised, othered, and ignored. if the issues facing these groups do get discussed it's almost never with much concern for their feelings. invalidation and erasure may be one of the issues facing lgbt people and it deserves attention too but I really don't think you can claim at this point that it isn't getting its fair share already.

for what it's worth, even your hypothetical most flaming butch lesbian/fem gay man/androgynous nb person etc still meets people who assume they're cishet, who even actively refuse to acknowledge that they're not. the false equivalence between erasure and overt prejudice alleged exclusively by those who largely experience only the former is in fact erasing the reality of people who experience both

#I'm always thinking abt that one buzfeed article called like queer women share their struggles or smth #one was a butch lesbian talking abt how carefully she has to plan journeys #bc late night toilet stops or seedy motels are life and death for her #then there was a bi woman w a husband n kids #talking abt how one time she had to take her pride flag off her lawn (picket fence implied lol) #like... ofc that's sad I feel sad for her #but the lack of proportion is kind of on the nose lol #I don't have the right words but like something very fetishistic abt the gaze of other lgbt ppl towards 'visibly' lgbt people #and I use those terms loosely bc ppl r visible and invisible in different contexts #but if you've reached the stage of fantasising abt hypothetical microaggressions or straight up hate crimes that could happen to u #then u have gone too far #I just think a lot of the time it's more abt the fact that YOU don't feel 'valid' enough in yourself #ao you convince yourself other lgbt people existing or talking abt our issues is the problem #like if ur a bi girl n having a cishet bf makes u feel so lonely and insecure and 'not gay enough' at what point is that ur responsibility #to either accept urself or to be in relationships that make u feel better about urself #and not my responsibility to say ur having gay sex with jakey or wjayever

[reel-fear]

MIKE BLOCKED ME ON TWITTER FOR ROASTING HIS DUMBASS RESPONSE TO THE GRAPHIC NOVEL STUFF!!

grown ass man scared of the 19-year-old queer being mean to him over his public meltdown more at 8.

#ramblez #little white boy sad? U sad bc nobody likes you? Bc u constantly make a fool of urself and show off ur distaste for ur fans? lmao #this is one of the greatest things to ever happen to me imagine how mad he'll be when he finds out the fangame Im making has queers in it #hes gonna have a whole other white boy meltdown on main KJSNFDGKJHFGKJHGKJHSDFGSD #hes so fucking sensitive maybe just get off of social media Mike this never ends well for you #batim #batdr #bendy and the ink machine #bendy and the dark revival #and look Im joking around about this but it really is sad that the bendy devs cant handle this kind of critique towards their decisions #it seems despite the backlash once again they are choosing to ignore their fans which is yknow upsetting #But hey ig if the devs being awful was a dealbreaker for this fandom I wouldve left a long time ago and I havent #dw Im not going anywhere <3 #also if anyone else here was also criticizing Mike maybe check his acct to make sure ur not blocked now since apparently #old habits die hard and this is certainly a pattern with him KJHDSFKGJHSDKFGJHDFGSD #also look before anyone asks yes I was kinda mean to him over this but to put bluntly if hes gonna be this dismissive to his fans concerns #he deserves it. Theres this persistent attitude esp in bendy fanspaces of being defensive of the devs #and I dont know why they have been extremely horrible people every single chance they get #and its very hurtful to see how many people would rather tell me to be kinder to the people who broke the heart of a child me when they #dismissed any ideas of putting queers like me in their stories than to realize Mike n Meatly bring this bad attention to themselves #to put bluntly I dont owe them kindness not until they at least apologize for the shit they did which they still havent #mike hasnt even addressed his vent poem in the code of BATDR let alone the other shit he said n did #so no I will not be kind to him ever hope this helps!

[schnilf]

when you arrive in baldur's gate reeling from everyone consistently referring to u as they/them, basking in loviatar's love, crying about how well the game handles themes of trauma and power, and then halsin hits you with his anti-capitalist rage

#bg3 #halsin #bg3 spoilers #bg3 is the first game or like place in general where I feel free and glimpse a queer worlds and it makes me sad and happy at the same time #they/them #this is the game for the theys I cried over the mix n match character creator

[handsomegentlebutch]

My 3 little cousins were baptized today. "Triggered" is kind of a strong word but being in a catholic church again... I'm a little fragile rn ngl.

#butch speaks #it was hard not to shake as i held J over the basin to have the water poured on his head #when he was cleansed of sin. as if a little kid could ever knowly or intentionally offend a so-called loving god #the words came naturally to me #but they meant nothing #i remember when they used to mean something. when i begged gods forgiveness for my sin (being a lesbian) and tried to pray the gay away #i remember how much i wanted to die bc i could never truly embrace the sacred #i STILL deal with the complex of catholic guilt. its a very real thing. its hard to shake #i cant help but wonder if the catholicism ingrained in my brain is why i have a hard time with casual dating n sex #fun fact: there was a point when i was a teen that i got REALLY catholic #i prayed everyday. i talked to my patrin saint (st agnes) every day. i wantsd to become a nun #the thought of marrying a man mad me more sad than feeling like an alien did. so id marry the church as a nun. #not the way to hide being a dyke when ur fam is catholic btw LMAO #the first priest i knew was father joe. i loved that guy. he was so kind. friendly. briming with love. #he was one of my biggest references for what a good person was like #he talked about gods love a lot. how its for everyone. no one is exluded. ever. #he used to look right at me when he said stuff like that. a few other kids too. all of whom grew up to be queer #then father joe passed away. our church merged with another church. father jeff was the priest there. #he was kind but not as kind. he talked about hell and sin more. he looked at the same kids father joe did. #but the kindness in his eyes wasnt there. #that wasnt for us. #my family wasnt even THAT catholic #i went to church every sunday i did vacation bible school and catechism classes and youth group #i was an altar servant and in the choir #i even used to speak/understand a little latin #imagine how much worse id have been if my mom could have afforded catholic school lmao #grateful to have grown up poor in that regard #hm. actually... reading my own tags. mayne we were pretty catholic actually. #fucking hell. #i need to have lesbian sex in a church before god and everyone. mayeb that would fix me.

[wisecrackingeric-2]

I think I’ve said this before but I REALLY DO LOVE ALMOST ALL RE CHARACTERS/SHIPS THERE TRULY ARENT MANY SHIPS/CHARACTERS I GENUINELY DISLIKE you don’t have to ask me “oh do you ship __” cuz unless it’s straight up something like Sherry X Leon I’m probably shipping it!!!!! Or at least I’ll give you a thumbs up for it!!!!!!!!!!!!

#I’ll always tag my ships ofc so I don’t shove it in faces of people who don’t wanna see it #like for example I love metaltango (obviously I don’t think it could GENUINELY work and I don’t like it in a creepy pro-abuser way I just #like the sadness of queer men in the military BDBEHWNEJEN) but I know a LOT of my friends who don’t!!!!!!! so I tag it!!!!!! #stuff like Rebecca X Wesker or Sherry x Leon just makes me Uncomfy Cuz y’know there is a VERY VERY MASSIVE AGE GAP DHSNDHSNDJSNSJ #aside from like. my otp serennedy i really DONT have strong feelings towards ships!!!!!! I like seeing the pretty people kiss!!!!!! #but I DO have a preference towards queer ships like there’s only a couple cishet ships I actually ship myself #but that’s probably just cuz I gravitate towards queer ships as a queer person shocka HFNWHENEHENEJDNDK #although there is O N E ship that I dislike for absolutely no good reason and ONLY MY BESTIES get to know it #BUT EVEN THEN I STILL LIKE THAT SHIP ON PAPER ILL STILL REBLOG FABART #I LOOOOOOOOOVE rambling in Tags

[crush-like-that]

i have been thinking about byler and millow.... so much (stares at my sketchbook)

#will and willow are friends #to ME #to me they are friends and they get along and they just UNDERSTAND the sad queer experience together #the look through each other's sketchbooks that are filled to the bring with drawings of mike/michelle and they understand #they talk about mike and michelle and they just understand #they listen to each other's mix tapes and they understand #oh yeah and willow sits very still and lets butterflies n bugs crawl on her and will draws all of them (except for the gross ones) #(willow glares at the gross bugs and blows them up with her mind) #byler #millow

[nblemons]

quite genuinely devastated rn

#UMMM TMI MAYBE !!!!! but my favorite sex shop closed and im soooo sad #bc it was like very openly queer n i felt genuinely safe goin there for uh. Needs. #this sucks :( #lemonade talks

[barredandromeda]

nvm thats a white boy i dont want

#his bsf slurs up and down and threatens to rape everyone every other sentence and he laughs at that shit 😭 #im good! i do not need to hear more rape jokes or racist ass remarks from his friend 🙏 #embarrassing i ever liked him tbh he's literally just a mf boy. shouldve knownn ugh #hes probably gay too cause literally everyone we've liked since high school started whether it be boy or girl has been gay. #why do 3 of them start w the letter N #collecting the mf alphabet bro 😭 #hate this man now. not even pretty anymore his eyes arent dog sad theyre bugged out #need someone new asap 🙏🙏🙏 #other guy i thought a little ab is bound to be gay too atp i cant win 😭 #like em a little queer ig #post #erics tag #kindividual posting

[divine-construct]

guys do y’all wanna see some of our poetry

#warning: most of it is sad. lol #also there’s a lot of god / religious imagery #and queerness #and grief. and trauma. and suicide and blood and tears #and ‘ugly themes’ #also we’d only post on saturday/later bc we’re currently on holidays without our laptop #n google docs spacing just looks better on there lol #divine rambles. ` 🕊

[ethereal-drivel]

i’ve told a couple of irl friends about this but like my Best friend from undergrad has gone thru such a change in character as we’ve gotten older and i transferred out of our program and interacting with her has honestly become really difficult and disheartening and like :,<< idk what to do. she was really nice to me when i was going through a really rough few months last summer but a lot of it was her complaining about my ex (who she always hated lol) and we only saw each other a couple of times but it went p well! but this summer i had another tough month and i hadn’t seen her in a long time so i reached out and she never really got back to me and she keeps saying mean stuff about ~weird~ trans ppl on social media or just reposting tiktoks of them cuz she thinks it’s funny and i told her it made me feel sad and she just Completely pretended it wasn’t to make fun of these ppl and it’s hard to fade from someone u used to spend every day with to only every few months and watching them become someone u really don’t know if u can get along with anymore

#that feeling when u grow up n get kinder but it Also means ppl who are just mean spirited no longer are funny silly and are maybe junking #from the fields #sorry i’m emo i had a Panic earlier #i’m fine it was quick but i just freaked out a lil and i’m looking at her message and getting sad #cis ppl just… no think about how their attitudes towards trans ppl or like ‘cringe’ gay ppl makes their weirdo queer friends feel #anywho #if ur reading this…. ty

[osorcanine]

anyway objectumsexuality/romanticism is a genuine orientation, not inherently paraphillic, and can be considered queer if the osor person feels it is. coming into our tags to yell about how we're all 'using the wrong word' and 'don't count' does absolutely nothing! (:

#nine barks #vauge post except not that vague #who are you the queer police? get a grip dipshit #no rb tho bc i may be pissed but i dont care 2 debate #sad nine noises #except its . mad not sad here lmaooooo #props to them for making me pause enough to make a sorta vague post n be annoyed tho. they did succeed there

[mysticfemme]

oh my god butch please are going to be at a queer festival in lesvos 😭😭 I wish I had literally a single queer irl friend I'd love to go

#but also just butchplease itself I'm desperate to go #but it's too far #I've never even been to pride and i was so hoping to go last summer but i got cancelled on (again) #and my ex wouldn't have even let me dress them up with rainbows and facepaint and sparkles and it would have been sad anyway #because i wanna go to pride and look like a walking femme fashion explosion mixed with rainbows and sparkles #:(((( #need queer irl friends lol #rants n rambles

[seasurfacefullofclouds1]

Louis does have such an elegance about him. He moves like a cat, or a snake. Effortless but deadly.

I do feel that he reins himself in at times though. The occasional walk across the stage when the music is going - he seems slightly stiffer than usual. Like he’s checking his movements a bit and not allowing himself to let go completely.

Oh anon. I could write more about the whole “lads” persona since Dec 2020, but I won’t.

Louis is a complicated person.

#naming his first born after the greatest queer closeted rock n roller of all time #the queer coding - both the anger the sadness the rage and the many many attempts to comfort others #in his songs #and then the public persona disavowing it all #laughing it off #he is conflicted

[alex-the-polykin]

Less then like an hour ago, I was showing my great-grandma a cool fidget worm thing I got when I was on a trip with my partner and their family from a few years ago.

And she was like "Oh, your lover?" When I told her who I went with, INFRONT OF MY STEPGRANDPA, BIO GRANDMA, COUSIN, AND DAD.

And I was just like "yeah, them 😃👍" and continued talking but I was kinda freaking out???

#atleast she's an ally ig? actually most of the older woman in my family are allies because I have two lesbian aunts who got married n stuff #but the people i listed earlier (aka grandparents cousin and dad) are just a small handful of family members that laughed at or mocked me- #-when i came out as lgbt and said i wasnt actually like that and that i was just being silly. #ive been telling them for years and they STILL think im being silly and joking or some shit but im not and it makes me sad #lgbtq #lgbt #tw: homophobia #only mentioned in tags though #but just to be safe ill tag it #queer #queer community

[littlebirdy0301]

Every couple weeks i get Real Sad about living with super conservative anti-trans family but not really having anywhere else to go, just really Aching to go on T and get top surgery. And then I revert to Not Thinking About It and it’s pushed back down until it pops out again a couple weeks later. Like a Gender Feels jack-in-the-box

#and all my friends have been able to transition n I wanna just be happy for them but I’m always a lil sad I’m not right there with them #lgbt #queer #trans #transgender #nonbinary #transmasc #ftm #I live in An Expensive State so I don’t think I’m going anywhere anytime soon rip #Highschool me really thought I’d at least be on t by now :’) #One day

[pocketsizedquasar]

WHY are white ppl incapable of taking literally any kind of criticism as anything but an attack lmao

#quasartalks #this isn’t abt any event in particular just me musing on my experiences n things i’ve heard from friends #who've also dealt w this white ppl bullshit #most especially white queers #it’s always the white ppl who think they’re progressive and leftist and w/e that throw the biggest hissy fits #when you tell them they’re doing something hurtful/wrong/etc #always soft uwu tender white queers who get soooo sad bc the mean angry scawy ppl happened to tell them hey don’t do this thing #babes. i swear. it’s not an attack. chill out.