#questioning aro

[nexus-nebulae]

petition to call wondering if you're aspec "a-speculation"

#aspec #arospec #acespec #anattractional #asexual #aromantic #aplatonic #aplspec #questioning aspec #questioning aro #questioning ace #afamilial #atertiary #greatest hits

[aroace-thoughts]

Just a reminder: Questioning people are always welcome in the aspec community

Stay, have fun, learn, ask questions, this is a safe place to explore your labels!

I know everything can feel overwhelming.

Don’t feel bad if you end up discovering you are or aren’t aspec. There’s nothing wrong with deciding a label isn’t for you after all, either way you’re not wasting anyone’s time.

We’re here to give you resources and support and a listening ear!

Never forget that the Q in LGBTQIA+ stands for both queer and questioning 💜💚

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #questioning #questioning aro #questioning ace #aro positivity #ace positivity #aspec #questioning aspec

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Just a rant.

Aroace culture is being annoyed at people over sexualizing and romanticizing things like bedroom, sleepover, boy/girl friendship, dates, physical affection and kissing. Even confessions. I think it has been drilled into our brains so much even aroaces might feel weird and careful displaying any of them.

Though I'm the one saying this, I do feel awkward and afraid of displaying affection to my friends and family. "Is this right? Am I a creep?" I doubt myself, sometimes I even feel ashamed, all this struggle is because my brain follows the so called "norm" which is "a man and woman can't be friends, they can't be alone together in a bedroom without doing anything funny, they can't live together like friends", "Kissing is only sexual/romantic (including pecks)", "dating is romantic" blah blah blah. Gosh! I wanna be so affectionate with my friends, I wanna go on dates, hug them, kiss them, cuddle them...so so much but my brain is currently stuck on these toxic patterns. Even when my friends show affection, I feel weird and ashamed. I hate it.

I gotta get out of these thinking patterns. I hate amatonormativity. I hate over sexualizing or romanticizing things. I hate all the suffering many people including myself are going through because of this, not just aroaces. I just hate it.

Posted on Oct 30, 2023

#aromantic #asexual #asexuality #aromanticism #ace #questioning aroace #aro #aroace #questioning aro #questioning ace #queer #aspec #lgbtqia+ #rant post #amatonormativity #kissing #friendship #norm #physical affection #romance #sexuality #over sexualizing #over romanticizing

[ftm-radio]

tbh I think one of the coolest things a person can ever do is take the time to really explore themselves & their identity and then live their life with intention as their most authentic self

(oh & you know what I'm not editing the meme bc I'm lazy but this also applies to folks who explore their sexuality and find they're 100% straight, y'all fuckin rock and i love that for you)

#ftm radio #queer #lgbt+ #lgbtqia #gender questioning #questioning aro #idk what to tag this as so y'all can just reblog it and spread it around that way lmao thanks <3

[secrets-from-a-person-in-pieces]

can aroace people experience gay «panic» (don’t like that term but i want people to understand just for now, thanku to the people in the comments telling me)? is it possible to have a kind of non sexual non romantic just aesthetic or sensual or whatever gay panic? because then everything kinda adds up.

(i am HORRIBLE at telling the diffrence between attraction and just yeah)

also what does sexual and romantic attraction feel like? like compared to wanting to be someones best friend (that compared to romantic attraction) and aesthetic vs sexual. bc i look at people and be like DAMN THEY LOOK GOOD but i do not think it is a sexual kinda thing. i don’t know. just please if you have any realisation moments you had while questioning or in general aro or/and ace or aspec people, please tell anything!!!!

answer whatever you can PLEASE.

edit: thanku to everyone who has reposted and responded/commented!!!!!

just wanted to update and say that i’m probably not aro, just really bad at telling the diffrence between romantic and platonic feelings, resulting in confusing situations. thanku for all the advice and all the things people have said!!!

#aspec #acespec #arospec #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #cupioromantic #lgbtq #questioning ace #questioning aro #aroace #aromantic asexual #aroace people please help

[someguythatdrawsstuff]

Loving the aro, ace, and aroace posts lately

I've been questioning if I'm aromantic/arospec/alloaro lately, so seeing these posts has been really helpful :3

#aromantic pride #asexual pride #aroace pride #aromantic #asexual #aroace #i don't know where i land on the aromantic spectrum yet #but im learning #questioning aro

[thatautisticlesbian]

I'm scared I might be aromantic too... I feel so much love twords my friends but I've learned that I don't really discriminate and I treat the very few partners I've had the same as my closest friends and I'm polyamorous which makes me think I just want a really close and questionably sexually intimate idk asexuality go brr, but most of my romantic fantasies are about having a family and doing stuff besties would do, I'm a sucker for romance but, I'm confused I don't need to be another thing omg

#questioning aro #aro #aroace #aromantic #ace #asexual #poly

[ghostscrown]

Help I made a loveless aro OC and now I started to question if I'm loveless and just using it to project, I mean I already consider myself aroace lovepunk but-

I mean. I mean I always had a hard time saving I "love" someone or something, always said it only by obligation (in my language I always replace it with the word "adore" whenever I can) I literally had multiple existential crisis wondering if I ever LOVED anyone- I mean-

Idk if it's because of neurodivergence but for some reason I just. Don't feel like I ever loved anyone ? And I feel kinda bad because of that because I don't even think I can say I "love" my family, it's just- This word never felt right- But also I want to be queerplatonically partenring one day, but I don't know if I'd "love" the person, hell I don't know if I ever "loved" anyone. And I feel platonic attraction too-

I already thought about being loveless before, but I kinda- pushed it under the rug until now-

Loveless communitity help, I may be one of you-

#loveless aro #aro #queer #questioning #queer questions #lgbtq #questioning aro

[cringelordofchaos]

uh yeah turns out I might be aromantic or at least arospec 👍

#its not one of my greatest wprries in life #i still think i might be capable of romantic attraction? #but i just feel very different towards it than most people #pr do i? am i just trying to feel this way to feel special? #idk #like. idk maybe its just bc im young #but i thonk im at least somewhere on the spectrum #aromantic #arospec #possibly aromantic #questioning aro

[riseconfessions]

"Here’s an unpopular headcanon that I came up with: Questioning Aroace April. I don't imagine April really being interested in romance at all in the slightest, even when older. She still questions her orientation, but alternately figures out that she's not into romance of any kind. Adventure is her true love lol"

#aroace #questioning #questioning pride #questioning aro #questioning ace #questioning asexual #rottmnt #tmnt #rise april #april o'neil #rise of the tmnt #rise of tmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #bring back rise of the tmnt #bring back rottmnt #bring back rise #unpause rise of the tmnt #unpause rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #unpause rottmnt #rottmnt season 3 #rise confessions #rise confession 437

[chara--system]

aromantics of tumblr help please

Ok to start off with, I know I'm ace, I have for awhile but I've never really considered ths possiblity that I might also be aro? So I just came across a tumblr post thats a person, who recently discovered they were aro, loves the aesthetic of romance but not the commitment. I reblogged it without putting much thought into it and then it crossed my mind that hey, i am literally dating two people and i actually relate to that a lot-

The thing is though, I've always had a hard time distinguishing between romantic and platonic attraction and I'm starting to wonder if it was because I just haven't actually experienced romantic attraction so I wouldn't know what the difference is.

My partners are the best amd I'm happy in my relationship with them but I don't know if I actually love them like that? Hell I barely talk to them which thinking about it should probably make me unhappy in the relationship? It's possible I'm just overthinking all this but I don't know, I mean- I like getting the affection, hugs, cuddles, the occasional kiss, but I've never really thought of any of those things as being strictly romantic. So yeah, input would be appreciated.

#send help #help please #questioning aro

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

Okay so I've been question if I'm on the aro spec for a while.

I desire to have a relationship in the future and to typical romantic things. But the only way I see anything intimate like that happening is if I know this person well - I guess my ideal relationship would be more of a freinds to lovers archetype.

I know this might make me demiromantic, but at the sam time I think I confuse platonic and romantic attraction - maybe it's an autism thing? Maybe I'm something else?

I've tried to go unlabeled with romance, but it doesn't sit right.

Feel free to suggest labels or if any arospec (especially demi) people could give insight or anything really.

Autism is definitely something that can affect perception of different types of attraction. I know it's something I've struggled with.

I'm sure there's a label for when autism affects and influences perception of romantic identity/attraction (kind of like autigender but for aromanticism), but I can't find it so if anyone else knows what it is that would be great

In more general terms, quoiromantic is a good label for when you really just don't know what's going on.

And of course, there's no limit on how many labels you can use! If you think demiromantic fits you in addition to another microlabel, then there's no reason why you can't use both.

that's all from me - anyone else feel free to add on :)

#not questioning aspec culture #questioning ask #mod paris #arospec #questioning aro #aromantic #demiromantic #quoiromantic #wtfromantic #romantic attraction #platonic attraction #actually autistic

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Another rant.

One day my grandma said, "You should get married soon"

I asked, "what if I don't want to? I have my friends....and you."

They replied, "Friends are never equal to a husband, no matter how close you are".

I was really curious. "Say, what is the difference between the two?"

"You know. The feeling of someone being there for you, with you, always, 24/7 no matter what? Friends are never gonna give that feeling. I have friends too, but my husband is certainly different. Irreplaceable."

Now this is an old lady who married in her teens and spent 60+ years with her husband. She was dependent on him, according to all the stories she told me about their relationship. Now she's over 90. I bet my ancestors were like, "A girl's gotta marry and settle. Marriage is a priority". Because everyone in that era (in our area) mostly married....and sustained in the relationship. It was obviously more than any other relationship. It's on a whole another level. And also because I picked this belief up from them.

What I knew in my heart:

That's bullshit. Friends can give that feeling too. If we try enough to focus on friendship. And can prioritize it enough. If we love our friends enough in our own way. People are different. And there are many among them who value friendship as much as romance. But I get where she's coming from. It is what she learned from her experience. I don't blame her at all.

What I felt:

It hurt. It made me doubt my new beliefs. Growing up, I was taught marriage was the norm. I grew up thinking I would marry one day, it's inevitable. It's impossible for me to be single cuz no one else would be with me. That I needed a person to be always with me. I grew up believing it hard. Now that's backfiring. Especially after I learned about my aroace identity.

All this rant is for one doubt. Is there a norm in this extremely diverse world? Either everything is normal or everything is abnormal. There is not one generalization or stereotype that is completely true because the world is fucking abnormal with kinds of conditions and people. There's not one invalid emotion or identity because humans are naturally complex. It's human nature. It's normal.

Nevermind this is all over the place, lemme just end it with some slogans.

BEGONE THE SO-CALLED NORM!

BEGONE STEREOTYPES!!

BEGONE GENERALIZATIONS!!!

Amen.

Posted on Nov 01, 2023

#ace #aro #questioning aroace #amatonormativity #questioning aro #questioning ace #generalization #stereotypes #aroace #queer #lgbtqia+ #marriage #romantic relationships #norm #human nature #aspec

[identitty-dickruption]

things that should’ve tipped me off about being aromantic sooner:

always being the one to end a relationship, and never being the one to initiate it

getting bored when people talk about crushes

“a romantic partner is just a friend you make out with, right?”

not being able to imagine getting married

being able to imagine having a romantic partner, but the moment I tried to put a real person in those fantasies it turned me off (even if I liked them as a friend or as a sexual partner)

being confused when people acted like “love at first sight” and “the one” were real things and not just. exaggerations

never having a celebrity crush, and being weirded out when people talk about theirs

other aros can add theirs if they like!

#aromantic #arospec #questioning aro

[geogemstone]

I've been questioning if I'm aromantic for months but I'm worried that if I start identifying as aro and then later find out I was wrong, that I'll then be contributing to the idea that aros just haven't found the right person yet

#aromantic #aromantic questioning #questioning aro #questioning #aspec #aromantic spectrum #aromantism

[mrhyde-mrseek]

Hey, aromantic community, I’ve got a question for you.

Is there an identity where you feel romantic attraction for someone, until you acknowledge this attraction out loud to someone else? Because I’ve had plenty of crushes, but every time after I tell someone about it, the crush fades and then disappears.

Does this sound similar to any actual identity under the aromantic umbrella, or am I just . . . stupid and have never actually had a real crush on anyone?

#someone please help #aromantic #aromantic identities #lgbtq #🏳️‍🌈 #questioning aro #questions #i don’t mean to sound rude or invalidating to the aro community with this question i’m just genuinely very confused