Have a favorite bowl, mug, plate, cutlery and glass.
Make or get at least 1 decoration you love. Totoro lamp? Kitty coin bank? See throw vase you can decorate yourself? Have something that squeezes your heart with joy.
Scents~ it can be a room spray, scented candles, some sticks. There are many scents, white lilly, vanilla, lemon, lavender etc you'll find something you love
Have a few books you enjoy nearby. Mark the quotes you like. Maybe anotate the book? Or keep a journal of why you love that book.
Have a journal for your thoughts. Use a pretty pen and maybe decorate it if you like that.
Learn a few tricks for how to organize so things seem cleaner.
Declutter once a month so you have things you love and enjoy using.
Make a decoration from scratch. It can be a drawing, paint a mirror, sew something, make some origami, dream catcher~
Fold clothes so they're accessible and you love looking at them. Wear what makes you happy.
Have a nice holder for your toothpaste and toothbrush. Or get a plain holder and decorate it. (a glass, plastic cup, plastic box, whatever you prefer)
Whenever something is cooking clean around the kitchen. It will save you time in the future.
Have snacks around, healthy and things that satisfy you emotionally.
Have a lovely bottle for water.
Fuzzy socks and fluffy blankets!
House slippers or get a pair of plain sneakers and decorate them. Use them only indoors.
Change from pajamas/outdoors clothes into other clothes that you wear inside.
Change the bed sheets weekly at least. If you think they are not comfy enough, maybe try to use a fluffy blanket instead?
If you don't need/want something anymore, give it away to someone else or donate it.
If you can't finish certain foods on time, give them to someone else.
Have a bottle of your favorite soda around.
Make foods you enjoy at least twice a week. Sunday muffins, Saturday waffles, Tuesday pasta Bolognese
In a box or muffin box, have various teas or hot chocolate supplies.
What sort of home do you want to have? Sunday tea party? Always welcome and with snacks? Enthusiastic to have people over? Your safe sanctuary? Think of that definition when you take decisions about your home.
“ Whenever a Trump supporter asks you to "name one time Trump was racist," feel free to link to this....
1973: The Nixon administration sued Trump for refusing to rent to black people.
1980s: Trump's casinos were accused of hiding the black staff when Trump visited.
1989: Trump took out a full-page ad, arguing for the death penalty for a group of black men (The 'Central Park Five'), effectively putting a bounty on their heads, and plaguing them with a lifetime of death threats. He was sued by the Justice Department for discrimination.
1991: “Black guys counting my money! I hate it. The only kinds of people I want counting my money are short guys that wear yarmulkes every day… I think that the [black] guy is lazy. And it’s probably not his fault, because laziness is a trait in blacks. It really is.”
1992: Trump's casino was fined $200,000 for transferring black dealers off certain tables to appease racist patrons.
1993: Trump said Native American casinos shouldn’t be allowed because “they don’t look like Indians to me.”
2000: Trump ran a series of attack ads against Native American casinos alleging (with no proof) that they were guilty of crimes.
2004: Trump fired a black contestant from 'The Apprentice' for being over-educated.
2010: Trump argued in favor of segregating Muslims in Lower Manhattan.
2011: Birtherism. Trump alleged that Obama was Kenyan based on nothing but skin color. He never apologized nor renounced that claim.
2015 (1): Trump called Mexican immigrants "rapists" who are "bringing crime and drugs" to the U.S.
2015 (2): Trump called for "a ban on all Muslims entering the U.S."
2016 (1): Trump called for a Mexican judge to recuse himself based on nothing other than his race. Paul Ryan said this was “the textbook definition of a racist comment.”
2016 (2): Trump regularly retweeted material from white supremacists and neo-Nazis during his campaign.
2016 (3): Trump tweeted a picture alleging that Hillary was Jewish, or controlled by Jewish people.
2016 (4): The Trump campaign adopted Nixon's "Law and Order" rhetoric which was based in racial fearmongering.
2016 (5): Trump told black voters "What do you have to lose?"
2017 (1): Trump asked a reporter to set up a meeting with the black caucus simply because she was black.
2017 (2): "...some very fine people on both sides" said Trump of a violent Nazi rally.
2017 (3): Trump said people from Haiti "all have AIDS" and people from Nigeria would never “go back to their huts” after seeing America.
2018 (1): Trump called Haiti and African countries shitholes.
2018 (2): Trump referenced the trail of tears to mock Elizabeth Warren.
2019: Trump tweeted that four black and brown congresswomen should go back where they came from. Then attacked Elijah Cummings. Then Baltimore. Then Al Sharpton.
2020: Trump called black protesters "THUGS" just days after calling white protesters "very good people." Then he threatened to direct the military to shoot the black protestors in the street.”-Translate Trump
She's the kind of girl you never see coming. It starts off simple and two months later you're saying I love you, you are my world. She told me 'I want a kiss' and I knew I was in trouble. I want to spend every night tucked up in the mystery that is her mind. What is she thinking? What does she want? Is this enough for her? Am I enough for her?
Some people you can read; she's a novel written in another language. Love is never easily understood. Our love was unexpected, the kind you only read about. One second I was flying on a plane, the next we were falling in love. It gives me hope that the world is a good place. She gives me hope that I am good. I look into her eyes and I'm in her soul, completely transfixed. She wraps her arms around me and I swear no one has ever felt safer in this world. Fingers intertwined with mine and I'm sure we can take on the world. Lying next to her I feel her magic, the kind you can only find in a girl who finds humour in everything. She kisses me and I sprout wings that take me to a place where we're together forever. Sometimes she laughs and I swear it's the cure for any disease. It healed me. She feels like home. No better than that; she feels like where I belong, where I was always suppposed to be. I wasn't looking for anyone; she showed me my forever. She's the kind of girl that can do that, steal your heart and change your life.
A.Y. [Love was when, one look at her and I became a lunatic.]
Call yourself loser, stupid, ugly and other similar things
Downplay your skills
Not realize your worth
Think basic human decency is something you don't deserve
Overthinking every situation
This post is especially for you.
Self-esteem isn't just "confidence". It's being aware of your skills, traits, achievements but most importantly, it's having trust in yourself so you don't question your abilities and it's the realization that you can take care of yourself so no need to worry.
Some exercises I've read and tried that help with your self-esteem:
Avoid negations in your speech, especially when you refer to yourself. Using too many not, don't won't, etc can make you think negatively. Use affirmations. "I am stunning" has a bigger impact than "I'm not ugly".
Compliment yourself daily for 1 thing. It can be about anything. You can also write them down if you have a planner.
Say affirmations like: i am confident, i am capable, i am smart etc. You don't have to believe them, you'll believe them with time but just saying it out loud or whispering them it's enough.
Acknowledge your skills and achievements. Write them down actually, so you see that you're accomplished in quite a lot of areas. Reminder: achievements doesn't have to be "i won a national competition", it can also be "i learned to cook by myself", "i read 2 pages of a book during a very busy day", "i finally brushed my teeth after a week of depression" etc.
Your clothes and your environment will influence your feelings. Think a little bit, do you have a favorite hoodie, t-shirt, shoes? They make you feel good, right? Now, when you get anything new for your self, make sure every item makes you feel like royalty. Same for your environment, you want to have a space that you love being in.
Invest in yourself. Learn new languages, read new books, pick up coding, crochet a bag, volunteer at a shelter, gave a herb garden etc. The point is, get new skills and experiences so 1) you enjoy life, 2) you get out of your comfort zone, 3) you get new skills and views.
Take yourself on a date every once in a while. It's important to spend time with yourself and relax but also ponder what you'd enjoy to experience next. Being alone seems to be scary for many people but you can discover many new sides of yourself in solitude so have a break from the world every once in a while.
Your self-esteem is important because if you have trust in yourself, nothing can shake that. No one's opinion, thoughts or actions can influence your love for you.
The mountain just doesn't bow in front of a blow of wind.
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i feel v stupid posting this here rn, but i am in need of help, big Time.
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