Eating toast for dinner instead of cooking is better than not eating anything at all.

Using mouthwash instead of brushing your teeth is better than not taking care of your teeth at all.

Wiping yourself with a damp cloth or baby wipe instead of showering is better than not bathing at all.

Doing only one out of five assignments you need to turn in is better than not submitting anything at all.

Talking to a loved one on the phone is better than not talking to anyone at all.

Playing your favorite video game, listening to good music, or reading a book instead of "grinding" is better than not doing anything at all.

Don't beat yourself up for not being "productive enough". A little productivity is still productivity.

A happy house is all I need in life. Where there are songs, warm conversations, and soul cuddles. Where the sun rises in the smile of the people I love which are my east. I need trees outside where we can rest in the grass for a little while during chilly autumn afternoons and laugh about how there are so many poems about the moon, and maybe tonight she might begin laughing too. I need dogs without leashes and stars with a thousand wishes, and I wish for the good health of my family and friends, and my prayer every nightfall is for their melody and wellness. I’m glad that the souls surrounding me in the present are kind, blissful, and nurturing. I’m grateful that the souls I care for are the places I call my home. For where peace is found, there is love.

Juansen Ryne Dizon, Settlement 

Even if you don't think they are valid, your triggers deserve to be respected. No one gets to choose what their triggers are. Judging yourself will not make it any easier.

u kno how 2 take care of u

BellaLoveCoach ~ Twitter

What if I don’t fight it? 

Life is filled with things you don't want to hear. Take a deep breath. Relax yourself. You can make it through this moment. Then ask yourself what's the most uncomfortable part to acknowledging this truth? The more you know about yourself, the easier it gets to dismantle the parts of you stuck in denial. But be gentle with yourself. Hearing the truth isn't always easy. It's normal to want to bury the hard, uncomfortable, & uneasy in the back of your mind and look for other answers. However, inevitably, we have to face our truths in the end. And I know you can do this.

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I will allow myself to sleep when I am tired. I will allow myself to rest when my body needs to recover. I will eat when I feel hungry and not let anyone body shame me. I will practice what I learn in therapy. Most of all, I will be patient with myself. It took time for me to get sick, and it is going to take time for me to recover.

"And as bad as things were before, that's how good they became."

Matilda (1996)

Whumptober 2021

No. 16 - ON A NEED TO KNOW BASIS

recovery | scars | aftermath

Your future will be brighter than your past!

everyone focuses on negative triggers, finding their root core and healing the problems underlying the issue, but I didn't start my real healing until I started seeking out the triggers for joy, happiness, serenity, ease, calm, and comfort. i spent a lot of time focusing on all the ways I felt wrong for so long, I didn't start to recover until I learned to celebrate how far I'd come and amplify my exposure to my own positive feelings. recovery isn't all hard, deep sinking sifting through your demons. sometimes it is sitting on the porch, sipping tea and seeking beauty. i love you. i hope you have a good day.

Credit to @the_depression_chronicles11 on instagram (reposted with permission)!

BellaLoveCoach ~ Twitter

Normalize disliking people and avoiding them without starting a conflict and insisting that they're bad people. You don't actually need to be able to call someone toxic and abusive in order to justify that you're not vibing with them.

You are not too sick to the point you are beyond recovery. Your mental illness is lying to you, you can recover, you will recover and you deserve it.