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auranya · 6 days

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Sometimes i feel like I’m grieving a relationship that wasn’t really mine in the first place. I was in it but their heart wasn’t with me. I felt like a placeholder for someone else.

#note to self #self healing #relationship help #relationship #self love #healing #rebound #spilled thoughts #feelings #thoughts #quotes #relationship quotes #relationship advice #spilled words #words

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rainyfestivalsweets · 7 months

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Ugg, I am in my feelings.

How do I get out?

I am feeling so worthless. Unwanted. Extra. Needy. Unvalued. Unloved.

Because I think, of a discussion about marriage last night while we were at a symphony event.

I meant to reassure. But somehow I am turning that into me no longer being ok.

It turned into:

Good God, what am I waiting around for?

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soulsoffairlight · 2 months

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This Valentine's Day, remember: relationships should be healthy and balanced and should not revolve around sex.

It is our job as artists to represent healthy relationships. 🌽 and Y401/fuj0sh1 culture has created an unhealthy and problematic view on relationships, gay and straight alike.

You may see people ask "who is top/dom and who is bottom/sub" in relationships, fictional or not.

This is literally just 🌽 terminology.

🌽 has been setting an unhealthy representation of relationships, especially for our younger people. Relationships should not revolve around sex, and this power dynamic is overall unhealthy and even dangerous. Not only is it heteronormative, but it also normalizes the idea of taking advantage of someone for their body.

In any relationship, all parties should be giving each other a mutual amount of respect and care for the other(s). If the relationship is one-sided and involves a power dynamic, then it is not healthy and likely abusive.

Remember to keep any 🌽 terminology in the spaces it belongs, outside of the reach of minors- and please use 🌽 responsibly!

If you think you are experiencing an abusive relationship, there's plenty of hope! It may be hard, but that's okay. Don't give up. It's natural. Reach out to a loved one, a therapist, a school counselor, or just about anyone you trust, and they can help you get through this. And don't forget, your local domestic violence hotlines are always there to help. Stay strong, and remember: you have every right to the respect you deserve as a human being.

#this is a more serious post than usual #but don't worry #I'll come back with some muppet content soon #psa #valentines day #relationship #relationships #relationship help #discourse #serious post

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brownsugar4hersoul · 7 months

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If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fucking phone call.

Greg Behrendt

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lovezilaa · 2 years

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“I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I’ve ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, every day we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours.” – Nicholas Sparks

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#i love u #i love you quotes #i love her #i love him #love quotes #love quote for him #love #relationship #relationship tips #relationship help #relationship goals #relationship advice #healthy relationships #relationships #romantic couple #couple goals #romance #nicholas sparks

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daerm20 · 14 days

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my long-distance so is sad :(

because of reasons (i don’t really know cause we’re in the early stages and i don’t wanna be too pushy in making them open up)

what can I do to cheer them up

other than try to (figuratively) be with them as much as possible

#relationship #relationship help

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sillygirlonline · 1 month

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Does anyone have any advice for being in a relationship with an ED??

My bf knows i struggle with eating and ive told him a few things here and there, but he gets mad and upset when i talk about it for too long. When i say omg this makes me look so fat (as a joke or js saying i dont like them) he gets so angry with me but i dont say it so that he turns around and goes NO BABY YOURE THE SKINNIEST GIRL IN THE WORLD!!!! I js say it bc i kinda forget who im talking to and i make comments like that to myself all the time, but i feel like its starting to become a problem in the relationship and the last thing i want to do is drive him away. Im not ready to get help for my ED, bc i simply dont want it. But i dont want it to get to the point where hes just so sick of me saying it that he gets bored of me or something. Is there anyone that can help me with this issue?? I dont know if there is any advice that you can even give but if there is then please help.

Edit- Hes not a bad guy and he doesnt get mad or upset on purpose so please dont just say hes the problem or anything bc i will not put up w that. Leaving him is NOT an option, i love this man, thank you. 💋

#ed disorder #ed advice #relationship advice #sk11ny #ana advice #skinnni #th1n$pø #tw restrictive ed #ana trigger #ana bllog #anatumblr #ed but not ed sheeran #thin$po #relationship #ed not sheeren #relationship help #advice #hell is a teenage girl #help

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certainunknownlove · 2 months

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my friend invited me to their birthday family dinner, what does this mean?

#Birthday #Help #Relationship help #Family dinner #I don't know what this means but I also am ok with this meaning something more

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mariethewallflower · 2 years

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young-anxiety · 6 months

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so this is a personal post about some unrequited emotions and spiritual stuff the I've been struggling with for a while now I'm mostly venting but if you want to read and think you could help me out I'd be really really grateful

ok so a couple of things 1st I'm empathic to a degree I know there's a stigma around people who say they're empaths but I don't really know how else to explain myself I don't think I'm all knowing and I don't really talk about it with anyone and I honestly wish I just wasn't like this or could control it a bit more 2nd I'm also borderline and have adhd so that is definitely not helping at all and I have a really hard time telling the difference between reality and emotions

all that said there's this guy I've had a thing for for a while now maybe a year or so and like it's not and wasn't a little crush I care about him so much even though he hurt me profoundly and fucked with my job it was a 'love' at first sight kinda deal for me and these feeling became directly linked to my spirituality I'll try to explain the best I can but for context me and my family are all spiritual people my great (great?) grandmother was the village bruja and our beliefs are that of our hispanic culture though watered down quiet a bit

so the deal with this guy (we'll just call him z) and my spiritual views is that I asked spirit for something very specific and z was a very specific answer like he was exactly what I wished for and was trying to manifest for a long time and I believed that he felt the same for me there was a connection there no matter what happened it was obvious not only to me but to those around us me and z met through work and he eventually became my boss but that's not the point the point is that I was asking my spirit guides/ancestors about him and whether he felt the same and I was always told yes and to just wait because he's scared of his feelings for you so give him time which I did but I asked him once if I could kiss him while we were alone and he said no so I assumed that he didn't feel the same and that I was just wrong but spirit kept telling yes he does just wait just wait and we were still fairly close friends during all of this until we had a falling out and he ended up stabbing me in the back and forced me to leave a job I loved which is a story for another time

the falling out caused me to question whether spirit or the universe or guides or ghost or any of it was real because of how linked Z was/is to my beliefs I didn't really trust the advice guides would give me or what they'd say or anything like that up until I met Z because he was just such a concrete answer to all my questions and I came to just fully trust in spirit and believed that the universe was on my side, that it cared about me and loved me and was working behind the scenes to help me so when we had our falling out it completely shattered my entire world view and made me question something I had felt and believed in my entire life. it wasn't just about the boy it was about my world view and I went to a very dark place after that that I hadn't been to in a long time

so the thing is that I still care about him and I still love him and I still feel like he loves me and will come back to me no matter what. I stepped away from spirituality for a while after all that but came back to it anyway. I tried to make myself believe that life is it and that if there are spirits and things they don't care about us and that the here and now is it but it never really worked so I went back to it and I didn't ask about Z at all I didn't try to get advice or input or anything I just tried to focus on using spirituality as a tool for self improvement. I didn't let myself believe there was actual magic to it or anything and that it was all just my subconscious yada yada yada but Z kept coming back up in all of it and the message was never let go and move on it was wait a little longer he's coming back now that you've had some separation Z realized his mistake and wants you back in his life. I was really really angry about this because consciously I knew it wasn't realistic, he has or had a girlfriend and he was tho one who pushed me away and he had made no attempt to contact me or anything. In my final two weeks at the job we both worked at he only talked to me or looked at me if he absolutely had to otherwise he completely ignored me and I did the same back but I tried a couple of times to make things alittle better, not to fix it but make it so we didn't leave on such bad terms but that didn't happen and yet, I still felt/feel like he loves me the way I love him and that he's coming back to me

fast forward to today I've been hearing from. spirit that its all gonna happen very soon just you wait but I saw him tonight for the first time in a long time and I spoke to him just a casual hey and first off I'm pretty sure he's still got a girlfriend and he at no point after our hellos tried to talk to me at all and I'm just getting very tired of it all.

i keep jumping from wanting him and wanting to believe he'll come back to just wanting it all to be over and done with and I've gotten to that point a couple times but my feelings for him are still very strong I still care about him a lot and I still want him so so much. I love him, I'm in love with him and have been since we met. I know a lot of it if not all of it is probably me just convincing myself he wants me because I want him. I've done that all my life in one way or another, I let myself live in a fantasy and feel like spirit is part of it. I'm trying really hard to separate from that and see reality but its very difficult. I just want to be able to know for sure how he feels and by his actions I don't think he even cares but also he's just kind of a closes off person so idk. I kind of want to try and talk to him about it but because of how our friendship ended me reaching out via text or something seems like a bad idea and I don't think he'd even respond and what would I even say? our falling out actually has a lot to do with it too

quick run down I asked flat out "do you want to be my friend because I try very hard to be you're friend and you don't" and he responded with we're not real friends we're just work friends" and I was very professional about it. I pulled away from him and became distant because I was hurt! but I was never mean or unprofessional I just started treating him like my boss rather than my friend. I tried to remain very kind and polite to him but I was hurt and I'm sure at times I was a bit snippy but I had no ill will and His response was to get petty, to stop scheduling me all together and not even responding when I asked if I still had a job, my picture was removed from a white board with all other employees pics (including people who didn't work there anymore) other people seemed wary of me I was left out of import work group chats and just lots of subtle things. now I'll say it wasn't just Z one of my other bosses had a major hand in it all but the two were very close and just so many other details I don't want to get into but you get the point. I didn't do anything to deserve That kind of treatment. Was I maybe cold and a little bit he with those two specific people probably but no one else ever had the same kind of co.plaints Z and my other boss had including another boss of mine who I spent the most time with when working. but all that to say I feel you could understand why I don't want to be the one to reach out and if he did want me back in his life he would have to be the one to approach me anyway ya dig.? all that said I'm just really confused and frustrated. I don't know how to talk about this with friends because how do you explain "I feel we are spiritually connected and that he is in love with me the way I'm in love with him" without sounding like a completely deluded idiot? I just could really use some advice and possibly be able to talk with someone else who has experience with this kind of situation or just knows more about spirituality and magic and stuff than I do. either way I'm just so so tired of it and if he's not coming back anytime soon or ever I want to just be able to move the fuck on! why can't I just move on?

#long post #tw #spiritual #spirituality #spirit work #witchblr #help #empathy #empath #spiritual development #spiritual relationship #relationship help #healing help #broken heart #unrequited love #I really just don't know what to do anymore and am getting really tired of all this and kind of desperate #I know it's a really long post but please if you can help at all I'd appreciate it so so much

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sadghostgirl14 · 8 months

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I do think there’s a lot of situations where break up is necessary … but I also think nowadays we’ve gotten too hung up on ‘never get back with your ex’ and we’ve created this ‘give up’ culture where no one tries anymore … if you TRULY felt a spark with someone and it’s mutual and both partners are willing to try again then GO FOR IT, don’t live in regret, please seek a third party too tho, whether it be therapy, friends, family; as much as you want it to be intimate and just you two, having outside support is still always great and helps see things in your relationship clearly

#relationship help #break up #try again #effort #therapy #love again #love lost #lost love #sadgirl #heartache #heartbreak #relateable #healing #poetry #sad poem #used to love it #go for it

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love-advice-on-call · 11 months

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Hi! This is like my first time asking any advice so sorry if this is a bit tmi or a weird ask 😬 So for religious reasons I'm not doing the do until after marriage. The problem here is, all the guys wont really date you unless your down to do smth with them ( which i'm not!!! ). I know i shouldn't really rush into a relationship cause i'm literally only 15 and their overrated and romanticized by the media anyways, but i'm an absolute hopeless romantic 😔 I just really wanna have a romance book typa relationship. I wanna send gm and gn texts w/ someone and be on ft with them for hours just talking or doing nothing and just basically have someone to obsess and rant over to your friends. But I don't want to have the superficial relationships that my friends/others have in my school.

Like majority of the guys in my school are racist, colourist, homophobic and are just mean people in general. I would NEVER wanna date a person who acts like that, let alone be friends with them! But it seems like everyone doesn't really care in a sense because they're cute/popular. I feel like the odd one out because everyone has been in a relationship or had a crush or like a fling and I haven't. I'm always left out of these conversations and just feel like i'm missing out on the high school experience! ( i'm literally finishing grade 10 in 2 weeks and haven't even talked to a guy romantically )

In a sense i feel like because of that ( and since i went to an all girls private school from gr 3-8 ) I tend to romanticize the smallest things a guy does or says to me which is such a big problem!!1! Like you crack a joke with me? In love. Pick me first in gym when making teams? Brb i'm writing our wedding invites. Even my cousins around my age were shocked when I said I haven't talked to a guy romantically before. Its even worse that I'm so shy around guys and just overly insecure considering I NEVER had any boys in my school. Everyone always calls me a grandma already because of the way I talk and act and now i'm really starting to believe it.

My parents are pretty strict about this kinda thing and my sisters are all older then me/are naturally extremely pretty so they didn't have to worry about being unlikeable ( people had crushes on them in high school AND they were in relationships ). I just feel really lost and unlikeable :(

Hi,

So I think waiting till marriage is a totally fine thing and waiting in general would be a good decision for a lot of folks, not just you. I didn't wait till marriage, but I did wait a long time for the right person and in my personal experience it made it significantly more fulfilling when comparing it to how almost all of friends lost their virginity during teen years. I really wish that more folks had the opportunity to wait.

Wanting to be in a relationship this badly I think is something MANY people your age feel and I think it is totally normal. This feeling you're feeling, doesn't really ever go away I think. It may come and go in intensity, but if you at this age feel like wanting to be in a relationship, then you can expect to buckle in for a lifetime of this being at the back of your thoughts.

"Like majority of the guys in my school are racist, colourist, homophobic and are just mean people in general." Unfortunately, this is just "Welcome to Teen Boyhood", most of these guys (God willing) will grow out of it, though I've met a lot of men who never emotionally/mentally went past age 16.

There are some dudes who are not terrible people at ~15, but usually those guys do not attract girls easily. Less popular guys definitely, but solid dudes at heart. It could be that maybe you are also just hanging around the wrong crowd? I doubt your whole school is like this and you should be able to find someone your age who shares your values. They wont be the perfect guy, no one is at 15 or really any age, but they'll be better. I know it is SUPER incredibly indescribably tough to shift social circles and meet people within your own school, but I suggest that you try to simply make more guy friends in general and look for the sweet spot of dudes that are decent guys. It will also help with your anxiety around boys and may help smooth you out so you're used to talking to them. Once you find a guy you like, then you can work on building up the courage to ask him out.

Maybe join clubs at school, look into after school programs (tutoring, co-ed sports, etc.), or check with your friends to see if they know anyone they can introduce you to. When I was in high school, some people would also just date guys from other schools because they weren't down with the ones who were immediately around them. They usually met through mutual friends or at non-school events.

Also, you telling me that you don't want to date guys because they want you to be down for something while your sisters were in relationships at your age. I mean, I feel like put two and two together. It's not JUST because your sisters are pretty 👀. But gossip aside, your parents can't be that strict if they let your sisters see guys or if your sisters found ways around not telling them. So I wouldn't worry about them too much. As a former teen, there are always ways to getting around parents.

All in all, I think it sounds like you do have a good head on your shoulders and you know what you want. Being a grandma isn't always a bad thing, it just means that you don't take BS from other people and you know what will make you happy. That's something that takes almost a life time of development and you've got that now at 15 so I've got confidence in you that you're going to be alright.

As a side note: I do appreciate you listing out how you romanticize the situations. It gave me a laugh and this is definitely one of my favorite asks I've gotten in a while. Talking to people about navigating teen dating is like one of the funnest topics period.

June 13, 2023

#advice #love advice #relationships #relationship advice #relationship help

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vix-journals · 1 year

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I don't even know if I have feelings for her or not.

I feel like I'm acting like a little kid.

Why do I feel so guilty?

#vent #personal vent #love #fell in love #fell out of love #guilt #i feel so guilty #relationship #relationship advice #advice #advice please #advice needed #help #help please #relationship help

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the-pan-non-binary · 2 years

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H E L P P L E A S E

What do I do if I fall in love with my best friend of roughly six years?

I feel like I should preface this by saying that I am in a very open, polyamorous relationship with two other people and said best friend knows I am polyam.

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So, I met this girl in 7th grade and she originally thought I was this goody-two-shoes, teacher’s pet who never made trouble.

Then, one day, I asked her for a squishy toy in science and that’s the moment we became friends.

Fast forward five years and we’re the best of friends.

We’ve seen each other cry, laugh, etc.

We’ve been with each other through thick and thin.

We’ve seen each other go through heartbreak, excitement, anger, anxiety, depression, you name it.

We’ve seen each other naked, we have flirted with each other (Which, for the record, I flirt with LITERALLY all of my friends. So, yeah-), we’ve cuddled, we’ve fallen asleep with each other, etc, etc.

We’re EXTREMELY close with each other.

So, it’s probably no wonder I’ve fallen in love with her….

Right….?

I guess what I’m asking is, I would be devastated if I lost her as a friend…

I also tend to misread my feelings for people and date them only to find that I don’t love them the way I thought I did…

I’ve lost friends over shit like this…

What do I…?

I want to tell her how I feel but at the same time, I CAN’T lose her…

I don’t know what to do….

Any suggestions are welcome and appreciated…

Thanks for reading… 😅😅😅

#relationship help #falling in love with your best friend

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brownsugar4hersoul · 4 months

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lovezilaa · 2 years

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“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao-Tzu