No Contact is NO Contact
It’s important to just stay away. You will not heal, or it will take longer if you give in to temptations.
Don’t try to look him up on social media.
Don’t ask your friends/his friends, or anybody else about him.
Don’t go places hoping to run into him.
DON’T WAIT FOR HIM
No contact means exactly that. This person must be completely cut from your life if you will ever heal and improve your situation. It’s so hard to avoid the urge to see what your ex is doing, but if you can avoid it, be proud of yourself. That means you are doing the right thing for YOU!
Please take my advice and continue 200% no contact, in every single way. It’s so fucking hard especially in the beginning.
I basically had a meltdown today and convinced myself that I just had to know as much as I could (without asking people he is friends with). And I regret it. It only made my mind wander more. It only gave me more shit to speculate about…more made-up situations in my mind even though I have no clue what the reality is.
Even though it doesn’t feel like it, no contact is supposed to be our time to shine…
Don’t sit there counting the days since you last spoke. Don’t sit there and “wait” for them to hopefully contact you. We put our lives on pause by doing this.
I will try to remind myself every day to stop counting the days, and to stop speculation. Will this feel impossible? Absolutely. But can I still try? Yes.
Clearly I’m having a sound moment in my mind, because my posts are usually on the opposite spectrum of this.
Right now I need to focus on a hobby or some way to improve upon myself. I have no idea where to start, and I don’t think that I’m good at anything, but it’s one of the most important things to try doing during no contact.
I really don’t know how I’ll ever see it happen, but I want to see me be a better me.