#relationships take work

[conscious-love]

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#drelizabethfedrick #Dr Elizabeth Fedrick #relationships #love #healthy relationships #unhealthy relationships #healthy love #toxic relationships #relationships take work #unhappy relationship #conscious love #conscious relationship #conscious dating

[soulinkpoetry]

Jordan Peterson is a clinical psychologist who I think gives the best advice. He said “ Think long and hard what it is you want from a partner , then go be that!”

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#what men want and need #respect #appreciation #caring #love #soulinkpoetry #poetry #she writes #thoughts #feelings #relationships take work #relationship tips #men and women

[alchemyofmaya]

A relationship or another person isn’t going to save you. Not if you aren’t aware of all the ways you do still need saving. The right people will be safe spaces where you can let your armour down, make you feel seen and heard, so you feel secure and supported enough to uncover and heal your fears and wounds. But no one can do the healing for you, but they can see you hurting and be there, so you no longer have to fear that your past makes you unworthy, undeserving, of being loved for all of you, during your process of healing.

We all want to know that we mean something even when we feel broken in this world. Find your people that you can authentically express your needs to. Remove yourself from people and places that keep triggering you, without giving you the space to heal.

#you don’t know if you’re healing until you face your triggers #relationships take work #and courage to face yourself and your fears #spirituality #ascension #the divine cosmic play of consciousness #enlightenment #christ consciousness #new earth #age of aquarius #new age #spiritual #mental health #conscious relationships

[dragoneyes618]

No one lives happily ever after unless they work at it ever after.

#happily ever after #fairy tale endings #are just that #relationships take work #relationships #both of you need to put in effort #a relationship doesn't magically sustain itself #no idea how to tag this #quotes #self-improvement

[iamtheothersideofthemoon]

#relationships take work

[shortoncache]

Relationships take work

Me: our dogs don't get along! how can I ask him to choose between his dog and me? 😭 I will go so he doesn't have t-

Him: wait, I need to pack you breakfast and lunch for work tomorrow

Me: *shoots harpoons through insecurities* sorry, what were you saying?

#relationships #relationships take work

[tesionremover]

#relationships goals #relationships take work #relationship #i am a relationship consultant #i am tension remover

[jedi-starbird]

APLAP (Assigned Pathetic Lifeform at Padawanship)

New padawan Obi-Wan trying to figure out how the FUCK to make his master listen and not abandon him to go running off following "the will of the force" when it hits him. Qui-Gon is perfectly happy stopping and taking care of pathetic life forms, but not Obi-Wan. That's it. He's always been prepared, always been dutiful, strong, self-sufficient.

He's cracked the code. He needs to be more pathetic.

The next time he senses Qui-Gon's about to run off he coordinates a scene of utmost pathetic-ness, that is, he throws himself into the nearest fountain. He trudges up to his master sopping wet, water-logged robes swallowing him, with hair sticking to his face and containing bits of algae from the fountain. He mumbles out an apology for being clumsy before looking up at Qui-Gon with the biggest, most woeful eyes possible to ask if he happened to bring any spare robes (he didn't, Obi-Wan knows this because he is usually the one to pack spare robes for them both). His wet hair is dripping water into his eyes that's beginning to turn them an irritated red, and there's algae sliding down the side of his face, it really is masterful work.

"Oh...I'm sure I'll be able to find something by myself, it's okay Master, I know you had important work to do."

Qui-Gon visibly hesitates. Obi-Wan starts shivering. He turns to walk away. He's stopped by his Master's hand on his shoulder. His Master, who walks back with him, who gets clean clothes from their hosts, who has folded like wet flimsi and even explains his stupid, stupid plan before choosing to hotwire a hoverbike with a passenger seat! Oh, Obi-Wan really has cracked the code!

Afterwards, Obi-Wan stages an increasingly pitiful accident for himself every time his patented 'Qui-Gon Jinn Bullshit' detector goes off. Eventually, his Master stops leaving him behind at all, even giving him funny looks when he turns around and Obi-Wan isn’t next to him. It never fails to make Obi-Wan grin and run to catch up. Sure, his reputation as a perfect padawan is in tatters, alongside his dignity, but it’s a small price to pay for a place at his Master’s side, for him to remember there’s a place for Obi-Wan there.

When the ray shields come up on Naboo, Qui-Gon doesn't charge ahead and leave his padawan behind, he hasn't for years. He waits for Obi-Wan because it feels wrong to do otherwise, his padawan belongs at his side.

Much, much later, when Obi-Wan is drinking to the end of the war with friends, Commander Cress will ask him how he kept General Jinn from running off for entire decade. Obi-Wan laughs, informs him, and resolutely ignores the scene Quinlan is making as the man cackles and pulls up a book to shove at them both, titled Classical Conditioning 101: A guide to subtle psychological manipulation.

#obi-wan: you ABANDON padawan? you leave him behind like lost toy? oh! oh! Jail for Master! Jail for Master for One Thousand Years!!!! #14 yr old obi decides the best way to deal with qui gon is to assign himself the mans poor little meow meow and uknow what it fucking works #accidentally stumbling into emotional vulnerability to have a better relationship #he's got the right answer with the wrong equation but we'll take it #obi wan kenobi #qui gon jinn #padawan obi wan #qui gon and obi wan #star wars

[georgiana-adina]

What makes a relationship last long?

#relationships #relationships advice #relationships goals #relationships quotes #relationships take work

[tofixtheshadows]

So I've been thinking lately about how Mithrun is Kabru's dark mirror (more on that another time- it needs its own post), and I thought it interesting that one of their parallels is that they were both cared for by Milsiril, but in opposite directions. She took Kabru in as her foster after he was orphaned and tried to convince him not to become an adventurer. On the flip side, she helped rehabilitate Mithrun specifically so that he could rejoin the Canaries.

And I kept wondering: why?

For Kabru, obviously she loves him a whole lot- despite any other shortcomings in their relationship, I do believe that.

So I get why she tries to convince him not to go dungeoning, and, failing that, at least prepares him as thoroughly as she can.

But why help Mithrun? She used to hate Mithrun, but after realizing what a secretly twisted person he was, she actually thought of him more positively (oh, Milsiril). So it wasn't as if she held the kind of grudge that might motivate her to make his already-depleted life even more miserable by sending him back to the dungeons. And it wasn't that she felt bad for him either, since she didn't visit Mithrun for the first ~20 years of his recovery.

The Adventurer's Bible says that Utaya was the impetus for Mithrun returning to the Canaries, but Milsiril is the one who made the trip to see him and tell him about it.

Why would Milsiril work so hard to get her old coworker back into fighting fit? Why encourage him to return to such a dangerous lifestyle, when she was the one who chose not to mercy-kill him?

That last panel is such a crazy thing to hint at and then never elaborate on. Without it we could have just thought that Milsiril wanted the Canaries' work to continue without her, even if it seemed out of character. I think some people even assume she's just a natural caretaker as a foster mom and handwave it to include nursing Mithrun too. What could Milsiril's suspicious motives be? What does she gain from Mithrun joining the Canaries that isn't an altruistic desire to see dungeons safely sealed? Feeling a sense of responsibility for the work she left behind isn't an ulterior motive.

My theory is: Milsiril, knowing that Mithrun was empty save for the burning desire to face the demon again, wound him up like a clockwork doll and pointed him back at the dungeons.

Hoping that he'd eliminate the biggest threat to Kabru's life, before it was too late for him.

Milsiril the puppetmaster.

#Dungeon Meshi #Dungeon Meshi meta #Mithrun #Milsiril #Kabru #btw I'm working with the only translations I could find sorry #so keep that in mind #like it just seemed WEIRD to me #that gloomy introverted Milsiril #who left the life of a Canary behind #decided to do this Canary-adjacent work of helping this guy #maybe the queen made her do it because so many people died and they needed more Canaries idk! #but why would anyone pick Milsiril as a life coach? I really think it was her own choice #it's so interesting how we get these hints of a downright sinster Milsiril #I really like the complicated relationship she and Kabru have #struggling to fully humanize him from her elven perspective #but still taking him seriously wrt: his fears over being a monster or his desire to go to a party! #crazy stuff there #everything about Kabru and adjacent to Kabru is insane what a character #musings with Dea

[soulinkpoetry]

Effort is sexy.

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#effort is sexy #spoil her #affection #she’s a queen #relationships take work #love language #his love #couples quotes #poetry and romance #soulinkpoetry #poetry #she writes #tumblr poets #thoughts #feelings

[slymanner]

God dude these two scenes and how roxie moves hurt my heart so so bad 🥹

it's like a mix of anger, feral, emotional breakdown, and complete sadness that just fucks me up soooo fucking bad.

it's like she's a pet who got abandoned by their owner but they see them again after years of sadness and depression of them being gone and leaving them like that and all that anger and sadness just manifest's into one bundle of emotion's towards them they cannot control.

roxie baby ur gonna be okay u deserve better :[

#scott pilgrim vs the world #scott pilgrim #scott pilgrim spoilers #scott pilgrim takes off #roxie richter #ramona flowers #its the fucking fact throughout that whole scene after the hammer she just starts going COMPLETELY feral and just bawl her eyes out #throughout the whole irl fight until the movie shelf falls on them 🥹 #can she like #get a hug or something i get her so so much i get u gurl im so sorry u gotta go through this #this episode really just #shows how important closure is for a relationship/even a friendship #like of course it depends on the person and the relationship but man. #People don't realize how important it is to not just leave a person behind like that without explanation but instead give them closure about #it and telling them how you feel. #it really is as simple as that sometimes...and i think people forget that and just wanna ghost/leave as fast as possible #to not deal with the emotions of the situation. #Like both roxie and ramona finally just talking about the situation does sm for their future as friends and i loveeee ittt #so so much better then the comics version off them I feel like this is PERFECT. #again obviously theres just some situations where talking just doesnt work and you both just have to move on. #but when theres situation's like roxie and ramona? talking is needed. #talking/closure is so so important guys remember that when its needed. <3

[crippledasinfuckyou]

sometimes a healthy relationship isn't 50/50 because it can't be, and that's okay.

disabled people who cannot take on an equal portion of the work in a relationship deserve to be loved too, if that's what they want. and as long as their partner is getting the support they need, and is happy to take on that work, then what's the issue? it's nobodys business but your own the way that works in your relationship.

if you or your partner are disabled, and you can't split the work in the relationship 50/50, that's okay. you're not abusive, or a baby, or unloveable because of that. I promise

#inspired by: yet another post saying with absolutely no nuance that if ur partner doesn't do 50% of the work in the relationship u should #leave them. which fucks me off supremely #my husband has hemiplegia among other things #and literally CANNOT do about 85% of the stuff that needs to get done #and that's okay! because I am happy to take that on! #equality in relationships doesn't have to mean splitting things 50/50 #it can mean having an honest conversation about your needs and abilities and making it work #disabled people deserve love if they want it #disability #actually disabled

[hajihiko]

Thunderclouds 🌩

#Fuyuhiko kuzuryu #Hajime hinata #super danganronpa 2 #sdr2 #danganronpa 2 #kuzuhina #an art #I had this song on repeat when I had my first relationship fight bc i was somewhat excited #Not like I enjoy fighting but like 'oh shit ok it's a relationship milestone lets go I'm ready to WORK THINGS OUT HEALTHILY' #Bc the line is 'Dont be afraid of the thunderclouds' lol. Anyway. #Sth abt anger issues & removing yourself from a situation but also some ppl can take the heat bc they know when you actually mean what u sa #A break from the angstsss!

[iamtheothersideofthemoon]

It’s not in your head….

#relationships take work #taken for granted #toxic relationship #abusive relationship #relationships #lonely in love #relationship red flags #rejected #narcissistic abuse #ignored #taken for a fool #hurting

[critter-covenant]

critter yuri strikes again, I like to think they're both a little stupid

#catfeine and dogpressed created by eggritos! #dogpressed falling first but automatically assuming nobody-especially not catfeine- would ever like her back so she doesn't act on it #catfeine genuinely doesn't register what the feeling really is for a while 💀 #she'll have her italicized “oh” moment later give her a second shes buffering #they get it worked out eventually it just takes them a painfully long time #there is no girlboss in this relationship only girlfail #smiling critters au #poppy playtime chapter 3 #poppy playtime #smiling critters #smiling critters fanart #poppy playtime fanart #catfeine #dogpressed