Trans men/mascs who have trauma around forced femininity deserve respect for their boundaries
Trans men/mascs who don't want lesbians or straight men hitting on them deserve respect for their boundaries
Trans men/mascs with physical dysphoria who don't want to talk about their bodies or have their bodies talked about in certain ways deserve respect for their boundaries
All trans people deserve respect for their boundaries and if there are other boundaries that trans people have that don't get enough respect and space feel free to mention them on this post. Cis people please consider carefully and practice empathy for trans people before commenting.
To the ones with purple hearts....
Thank you. 💜
here’s to the people who didn’t stay soft throughout trauma...
who felt like the only way to survive your trauma was to toughen up.
who’ve gotten more critical, closed off, and mistrusting.
who never felt like it was safe to stay soft, and so you didn’t.
who willingly or unwillingly changed into armour.
who, even though your world is safe again, you still stay tough.
who have to stay tough, ‘cause maybe your world is still unsafe.
who have been stereotyped as tough and decided to say fuck it and be it.
who have been coddled so much you feel you have to prove your strength.
who have been neglected and abandoned, so strength was the only option.
who is just not really a soft person to begin with.
who live, breathe, and thrive better when tough.
who doesn’t dare to open your heart or home again.
who doesn’t dare to ever give up.
who never tell anyone how much you cry when alone.
who doesn’t tell anyone how much you long for long hugs.
who can’t stand being touched.
who’ve decided to live your life solo.
who have a spouse, kids, pets, and family dinners.
to all my fellow tough cookies out there
who knows that tough doesn’t equal mean, malicious, or selfish.
who knows that tough doesn’t mean a lack of emotions and empathy.
who knows that tough doesn’t mean never scared
and soft doesn’t mean always scared.
who treasures our soft friends and their different kind of strength.
who knows that survival through trauma comes in many forms and shapes.
who knows that a tough mind
and a tough body
can house a soft heart.
The more you know and respect yourself, the more impact you will have on people around you.
You can still be a kind person while saying "fuck off" to those who just don't care about basic human rights. If you don't set boundaries, people will keep on disrespecting you. Saying "fuck off" to someone who knows that they are being abusive doesn't make you a bad person, a selfish person, or a toxic person. It makes you a person who won't accept being treated like you have no worth or dignity.
Seek respect, not attention.
It lasts longer.
Yes, your boundaries are still necessary even with people who do nice things for you or are really nice to you. I know sometimes when someone is really kind to you or you feel like you don't deserve the kindness you get from someone, it makes you want to violate your own boundaries out of gratitude for them or because you're afraid it will make them treat you differently. But in the long-term, this is only more harmful. Your boundaries are not an act of unkindness and are always relevant. And people treating you with respect and kindness is the bare minimum you deserve from others. Don't let someone's kindness or favours or respectful treatment make you abandon your self-worth and your needs to please them.
hakari is collecting every gender nonconforming person he finds and teaming up with them