#respect peoples pronouns please

[wellthatschaotic]

whenever i see someone who is like "yes but [x] isnt as oppressed as [y]!!" or "[x] is widely accepted now!!" as a way to like. disregard queer people's experiences. i'm just like. have you been outside? have you been in the real world?

#im just. #infighting is so dumb #'you're tme so you can't talk about-' first of all. we're not tme. transmasc =/= tme. honestly tme is a dumbass label anyway and has just #become a 'progressive' way to ask for agab #what do you think a boy/masc person in a dress reads as to transphobes. you think theyre gonna apologize if i say #'actually im transmasc not transfemme' #thats not how that works- #every time we try to correct our pronouns we get stopped because it's 'inappropriate' and 'uncomfortable' #same with every time we try to explain our gender #and yet there are still people online trying to judge if a complete stranger is 'queer enough' to count #(and if they're 'not' the reaction is like. death threats for some reason??) #and im always like. GO OUTSIDE. PLEASE. #the queerphobe on the bus does not ask for your labels before calling you slurs. the bully harassing you will not stop and apologize if you #try to say 'i'm not [x] actually im [y]' #they do not care. they are full of hate and they have already decided on a target. #also? you have no right to a stranger's labels and life experiences #trying to demand that is already creepy. especially since your goal is to see if they're worthy of respect #ok rant over i think. just. ahhghh

[dont-offend-the-bees]

Not to continue my recent trend of oversharing on tumblr dot com, but I am very much struggling not to feel like I'm doing everything in my entire life wrong at present

#normal things to think after your doctor tells you you need to get a blood test re-taken bc you mistimed your dose #I'm just. I'm tired man. #I've been putting off a phone call for two months #i spend every day lately torn between do I need to go to hospital or am I just unfit and anxious #I rot and decay when left alone but also people are Too Much #I want to Create but I can't get started and when I do I'm just so disappointed with whatever I make #I'm exhausted but I'm awake at 4am bc if i go to sleep tomorrow will start and I'll have to do this all again #and I need so fucking badly for someone to just crush me so hard in a really long hug until my bones realign #and i need to find past me shake her by the shoulders and yell “you're fine! you'll be fine! cut your hair! eat your greens! #take up swimming and also some new pronouns! no one else will respect em but they're for YOU and so is the health stuff #please for the love of fucking god just look after yourself better than i did!“ #there's toooooo many fuckin holes in this sinking ship #I need a full body MOT and then to be cradled against the chest of a large gentle man for 12-36 hours #mr. bees speaks

[sainamoonshine]

My unpopular opinion is that in languages with grammatical gender like french, it does make sense for Murderbot to be referred to by whatever pronoun is usually used for robots or constructs. (In french, therefore, grammatical masculine.) Because there are no traditional « it » pronouns in these languages for objects, and while there are neo-pronouns, they are things one must choose for themselves. Do you honestly think MB actually spent time thinking about its pronouns?! No it didn’t. On forms it picks « non-applicable ». When people ask it what pronouns they should use, its honest opinion is « why do you even need to talk about me. Just don’t fucking do that. Don’t think about me either. Just fucking stop perceiving me altogether! »

Thinking about what pronouns to use probably makes it way more uncomfortable than letting people call it what they’ve already been calling it. Making a conscious choice about its identity? And telling other people about it??? No thanks bye, it’s just gonna walk into the ocean now, see you never.

Lbr it probably thinks the only bots that get fancy pronouns are comfort units, and the pronouns are probably shoved into them by humans same as everything else. MB would meet a bot using a neopronoun and it would wish it could barf. Because in a language like french, he/him and she/her, when applied to objects, ARE fulfilling the function of the english « it ». Nobody is saying the table is a woman or related to feminity in any way outside of stand-up comedy; when it comes to objects grammatical gender really has fuckall to do with human gender even if we use the same words. Even animal species names have grammatical gender and everyone gets that there are male and female turtles even if the word « turtle » is a female word, it’s not that confusing.

(I know this is strange when your language has different pronouns for people and for objects, but understand that english uses the same word to indicate if I’m addressing one or many people, and that is confusing to me.)

TL;DR; stop harassing international fans for not getting the correct MB pronoun in english right off the bat. Yes in english calling it « he » or « her » or « them » is upsetting because it’s projecting an identity unto it. But same goes for trying to get a foreign language translation to use a pronoun intended to express or showcase an identity (or even a lack of one!). Murderbot has not thought about it this hard, refuses to think about it this hard -> and that is its only canon accurate gender identity.

#the murderbot diaries #taking a bat to an hornet’s nest there but I said what I said #I go by she/her because that’s the default people use for me even tho my own gender identity is also #ugh I would sincerely prefer not to have to deal with this think about it or even be perceived #and I would be hella pissed if a book of my life came out and people got into fights about my pronouns #trying to assign me the most politically accurate agender pronoun possible #when my own choice has always been specifically to let people call me the default because idc #and I don’t want to be identified by any identifier that might indicate I do care #and using a different pronoun even if its a gender neutral one is a CHOICE! #it does indicate a preference! and caring about it enough to pick a word and tell people about it!!! #Murderbot didn’t pick IT that is specifically the point! #it was used for it and MB just kept going with that #I mean imagine it if wrote down a different pronoun on its ID form one day and someone actually called it that #it would set itself on fire #its discomfort at having made a personal choice and the personal choice being respected would be off the charts #maybe it a later book after hella character development but I just don’t see it happening tbh #respect the agenders who just don’t want to get involved and use the pronoun equivalent of the default avatar that came with the account #PLEASE #that is all

[toastysol]

I don't get why everyone's surprised that the brotherhood use the correct pronouns with Dane. I think people have forgotten a major aspect of the fallout environment. The bombs falling destroyed conventional societal norms. This includes any political agenda to erase trans people from history and the future. Also this is fiction. The brotherhood of steel are not a conservative christian political party. They care about what they dub "abuse of technology", this includes the biproducts thereof. The only people who fit that category are synths and mutants who they view as abominations that need to be exterminated. If trans people even counted as abuse of technology (which they don't and shouldn't, as the technology used for transition is helpful and not hurtful), they would be so far down the list the brotherhood wouldn't care. Why would they care. It's really not a big deal imo. It's a big deal in OUR world, but not theirs. Not by a long shot.

#fallout tv show #it's just weird to me as a trans person that this made such a huge fuss #really shows that people think it's radical to support non-binary people by simply using their pronouns #everyone's acting like it's out of character for them but it really isn't that wild #they still treat Dane like shit #like the rest of the squires #why would they care what pronoun someone goes by when the wasteland is so harsh #they have way bigger problems than someone going by they/them #and it's not like they're campaigning to protect trans people specifically #they just referred to someone correctly #we really need to raise the bar for trans support #cause if using nb pronouns is radical than oooh boy we're fucked #and I know most people prolly mean it as a joke #but it really rubs me the wrong way when people say its weird or doesn't make any sense #trans support doesn't begin and end with pronouns ok #the wasteland is not like this world. who the fuck cares what gender someone is when you could get killed by a cockroach the next day #besides it's not really the brotherhood that's respecting their pronouns it's the show writers and that matters more #anyway hope you enjoyed my rant #please raise your standards for trans support all your trans friends and family will thank you for it

[satellites-halo]

I love seeing people post Acht/Deadf1sh art but y'all, they use they/them. They/them are the only pronouns Nintendo has been referring to them with recently, and in the Japanese version they use pronouns typically associated with gender non conforming people. Stop using she/her on Acht

#acht splatoon #deadf1sh #deadfish splatoon #acht/deadf1sh #yes they were referred to with she in the PAST #but recent promotions have all used they/them #please this is like the first they/them user in splatoon #can we actually respect their pronouns #splatoon #side order #splatoon 3 side order #correct me if im wrong on any of this btw #i dont speak japanese #i got the information from people who do

[capetowncapers]

If you “care about trans ppl” but will conveniently not respect the pronouns of (or worse, will deadname) people you don’t like or agree with, I don’t believe you and I think you’re gross.

#if your ‘respect’ for trans people is conditional then you don’t respect trans people. simple. #also bc I have seen genuinely well meaning cis ppl be confused by this: if someone changes their name you still use that when talking about #past events #even if it’s an event from a time where they still used their deadname #I had to explain that one to my mom and I was like no…. regardless of what they went by at the time you do not use someone’s deadname #the only time it makes sense is if someone closeted explicitly tells you ‘please use that name with me here bc I won’t be safe if I’m outed’ #which is a very specific scenario and still doesn’t give you permission to use their deadname in general #cape town rambles #idk man just thinking #not precipitated by any specific events but I was just thinking about how many people do this #and ofc this applies to ppl who do this *knowingly* like yeah sometimes you might not know someone transitioned/came out/uses new pronouns #but the SECOND you find out you make that change it is not hard

[shentheauthor]

Kind reminder that ALL aeons in honkai star rail use they/them pronouns, INCLUDING nanook

#honkai star rail #boy oh boy I’m ready to throw hands #please god respect nonbinary characters’ pronouns #this isn’t targeted at anyone specifically #I just keep seeing this shit happen on Twitter and everywhere else #nonbinary people do not have to be androgynous

[anangelsborn]

Begone all homophobes and transphobes, This page is for all my new trans friends and my tumblr mutuals

#begone wench #like die #respect pronouns #respect people #please

[silverislander]

email from school abt a seminar for "women and people who identify as women" i am so fucking tired

#what does that MEAN. what does it mean #like. 'people we think are women and i guess anyone else brave enough to come'?? #genuinely might be worse than 'women femmes and nbs' which already enrages me #levi.txt #sometimes i feel like weve made so many concessions in the past to make cis people understand and feel as unthreatened by us as possible #'identify as' language/'preferred' pronouns/using the terms afab+amab outside of necessity/etc etc #like. its not a fucking option! theres no 'can i have coke' 'is a pepsi ok instead' here! #it feels like collectively saying 'you dont REALLY have to think of me as i am dw i know thats way too hard just please pretend at least' #i love that were moving away from that as a community (and from respectability politics/begging for scraps in general) #and i dont blame anyone in the community for the genesis of this language bc were all just trying our best out here. i get it i really do #but god. its done some damage i think

[moonjade]

I think every terf/radfem should be silenced and have their platforms taken away <3

#text #personal #every time i see one of y’all i get mad #why can’t you just respect other people. and use their pronouns. WHY IS IT SO HARD. #saw a post that pissed me off that was (probably) made by a terf and all of the reblogs were from terfs #disgusting. i hope y’all know shame and embarrassment every day for the rest of your lives #and i’m not even being as mean as y’all are. y’all are fucking GRAPHIC and terrible to trans/non-binary people #if it wasn’t clear enough: if you’re a terf/radfem/gender critical or whatever the fuck please BLOCK ME #i do NOT want to interact with you at all. and i hope you choke :) #the terfs found this one. free blocklist in the notes y’all

[sleepy-crypt1d]

why did they make jack so weirdly misogynistic in tales he would NOT fucking say that

#borderlands #tales from the borderlands #handsome jack #like??? idk part of what made jack interesting is that his hatred wasnt Directed it was just Everyone #ANYONE who crossed him would be murdered it didn't matter who that person was - like in BL2 he made sleazy comments but this is stupid #like this is the same man who got nervous around a girl he liked and started tripping over his words and avoiding questions but sure #sooooo fucking tired of people just going 'oh? villain? bigot 💚' please be original #its so much cooler when the villain respects people but just doesn't care #he WILL ask your pronouns but he will also beat you to death and laugh ya know? that's so much cooler #people in real life are already bigotted enough let me enjoy my villains without being fucked reminded thanks

[scrollingfan]

If you refer to all of the gems with exclusively 'she' I don't trust you

#This is about hnk btw #but yeah it's fine if you headcanon some of the gems to use she/her pronouns #I have no issues with that #but all of them? and only she/her? #you are giving off some big red flags #especially since most of the people who do that claim the gems are girl (because they look like girls apparently) #(side note: I don't get why people think the gems all look like girls. Jade Bort Antarcticite Padparadcha and a few others look rather- #-masculine to me and just... not very girlish? Phosphophyllite too. #in the beginning they looked boyish to me) #tangent over #anyway please respect the canonically agender they/them rock people #you don't need to to headcanon exclusively they/them (hell I don't) but don't call them all girls #rant over I'm done

[frogmanfae]

Just putting this out there for anyone who needs to be reminded or maybe just told in the first place, if someone tells you that they use x/they pronouns (he/they, she/they, xe/they, etc.) and you exclusively use "X" or exclusively use "they" that is a form of misgendering them

#they use both for a reason #not just one #please be respectful #queer #lgbt #trans #nonbinary #gender nonconforming #use the pronouns people tell you to use #pronouns

[elftwink]

something very funny to me is that thing cis ppl do when they have to use they/them pronouns and their brain short-circuits and they forget what a sentence is supposed to sound like and say things like "well i'll just ask they what them is doing". like what's happening here. come on man

#good idea generator #this is not exclusive to ppl who are doing it on purpose or otherwise are unsupportive #those ppl typically then like. pretend its the pronouns fault the sentence sounds bad #but other people will like. pretend to not notice the fucked up sentence until corrected #and like?? thank you for trying but i know you know how to use the word they. we have had it for a long time #your whole life in fact. believe in yourself. you can use this word in a sentence. i have heard you do it #if this post makes you defensive. not to be rude but please work through that on your own lol #either you dont do this and the post isnt about you #or you DO do this and i have wounded your pride and made you feel like a bad ally even though you are trying #what you need to understand is 'trying' is not a get out of jail free card. it does not exempt you from critique or jokes #and while ofc it's always frustrating to put in effort that you feel goes unrecognized #i think you should ask yourself if you're trying because you want to get better and genuinely respect trans ppl #would you still do it if no one was grateful for it? if no one emphasized how hard it was for you?

[coffeeflavored-tears]

my coworker is SLANDERING the goodwill we work at girl shhhh shut up

#i hate her she doesn’t respect peoples pronouns #she’s also actively talking about how she’s breaking the rules of the store to her friends rn girl i could tell on you #SHES ENCOURAGING OTEHRS TO COME WORM THERE NOOOOOOOO #please god if o have to work with another person from school i’ll kms #school time school time school time #work hate acocunt #my post

[yukipri]

May I inquire as to your pronouns? Big fan of your art and I donxt want to misgender you in sharing your art with friends :)

Thanks for liking my work!

Copy-pasted from my FAQ post, which you can find through my Masterpost pinned to the top of my blog:

Gender/pronouns?

I’m genderfluid and nonbinary, and am also perfectly happy applying the term Queer to myself. Most people assume I’m feminine, and I can be, but not always. I prefer he or she, but honestly don’t care what you use.

My own gender/sexuality is far less important to me than most other aspects of me, such as my culture, fandoms, and opinions.

TLDR: I don't care! I would rather you use the brain power necessary to think about my pronouns thinking about my art or fics instead!

To reference another Tumblr post, my 3rd person gendered pronouns in English are, as far as I'm concerned, a you problem and not a me problem <3

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#YukiPri replies #Anonymous #personal #pronouns #Really please just tell your friends not to repost my art; sharing links are cool but don't reupload them anywhere please! #that is way more important to me than my own pronouns ^ ^; #I respect other people specifying their pronouns #so i hope people will also respect my preference to *not* specify pronouns for myself ^ ^; #If you see non-binary and want to use 'they' sure go for it if that's what *you* are comfortable with #but again also if you aren't comfortable using he or she for a non-binary person who prefers those #maybe that's an internal exploration for you too ^ ^; but again i don't care #the amount i prefer any pronoun over any other is not enough i would ever mention it plus it changes anyway so why bother #Gender to me is a personal and internal exploration of how I feel and interact with society and not something I feel the need to advertise