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crypticcozycorner · 27 days
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I love headcanoning characters as asexual or aromantic because you really can’t argue against it.
“Well this character is in a relationship” they could be alloromatic asexual
“Well this character has canonically had sex!” They could be sex favorable and do it for pleasure, for their partner, etc
“Well they’ve shown sexual attraction before!” They could be graysexual or demisexual. Ace is a spectrum after all
The same could be said for a lot of aro headcanons as well!
“The character is in a relationship” they could be grayromatic or demiromatic! Aromantics can still have relationships!
“They’ve shown the desire to be in a romantic relationship” again, aromantic people can still like romance! They could be cupiormantic or just an aromantic who likes the idea of romance, even if they themselves don’t have those feelings for a specific person.
“Well they’ve had se-“ shhhh aromantic allosexuals exist and are valid as fuck.
All I’m saying is asexual and aromatic headcanons are simply too powerful.
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horeformilfs · 4 months
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Little Raven
Lady Lesso x Fem!Reader
TW: Anxiety, Feelings of worthlessness, Emotional Shutdown
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Y/N strolled through the dimly lit corridors of the School for Evil, the hallowed institution where villains were sculpted into their wicked destinies. As a student navigating the twisted path of darkness, Y/N had found an unexpected source of warmth in the form of Lady Lesso, the formidable dean of the school.
Their clandestine romance had flourished amidst the shadows, hidden from the prying eyes of other students and faculty. Lady Lesso, with her stern exterior, had a soft spot for Y/N, and the two shared stolen moments in the recesses of the sinister campus.
One day, driven by an irresistible desire to be closer to Lady Lesso, Y/N concocted a mischievous plan. The dean had a particular fondness for a cozy hoodie, and Y/N decided to liberate it for a while. The hoodie carried the lingering scent of Lady Lesso, an aromatic blend of authority and affection.
Y/N, wearing the purloined garment, reveled in the familiar scent as they attended classes and moved about the school. The hoodie provided a sense of comfort, as if Lady Lesso's presence surrounded them.
However, every secret has its reckoning.
One evening, Lady Lesso discovered the theft. Her usually stern expression contorted into a frown as she confronted Y/N.
"Y/N!" she exclaimed, her voice a mix of anger and surprise. "Is that my hoodie you're wearing?"
Caught in the act, Y/N sheepishly nodded, a mischievous glint in their eyes. "Well, it smells amazing, like you."
Lady Lesso's anger intensified. "That doesn't give you the right to steal it! Return it immediately."
Y/N, unwilling to part with the stolen treasure, defiantly crossed their arms. "But it's so comfy. Can't I keep it a little longer?"
The dean's eyes narrowed, a storm brewing in her gaze. "Y/N, this is unacceptable. Give it back, now."
A playful smirk danced on Y/N's lips. "Make me."
Lady Lesso huffed in frustration but, unable to resist the playful challenge, a smirk mirrored Y/N's. "Fine, have it your way. But don't say I didn't warn you."
The chase through the sinister halls of the School for Evil turned into a twisted dance between Lady Lesso and Y/N. Wolf guards, initially amused by the spectacle, dispersed as a warning glare from the dean reminded them of their duties.
Y/N, thinking they had successfully evaded Lady Lesso, sought refuge in the dimly lit library. As the clicking of Lesso's heels echoed through the silence, Y/N held their breath, hiding behind towering shelves of ancient tomes.
Lesso, with a teasing smile playing on her lips, began her hunt. "Little raven, where are you hiding?" Her voice echoed through the library, a mix of amusement and determination. She knew every nook and cranny that Y/N favored, deliberately choosing to draw out the game.
Y/N suppressed a giggle as Lady Lesso dramatically searched each hiding spot. The dean's theatrical flair added an unexpected element of humor to the chase. "Come out, come out, wherever you are," Lesso taunted, relishing the game.
Just as Y/N thought they had successfully eluded Lesso, the dean left the library. A false sense of security enveloped Y/N as they emerged from their hiding place, only to be startled by Lesso's sudden reappearance.
Lesso materialized behind Y/N, the tips of her long nails brushing against the exposed skin of Y/N's waist. A shiver ran down Y/N's spine as Lesso whispered, "Found you, my little raven."
Y/N froze, breath caught in their throat. Lesso's chuckle resonated in the library, a sound that sent both a thrill and a tremor through Y/N. The dean, with a wicked grin, seized Y/N and led them towards the dreaded Doom Room.
Inside the foreboding chamber, Lady Lesso continued her playful banter. "Did you really think you could escape from me, little raven? You may be mischievous, but you can never outwit the dean of the School for Evil."
Y/N, caught in Lesso's magnetic gaze, couldn't help but smile. "Maybe I enjoy being caught by you, Dean Lesso."
Lesso raised an eyebrow, her grin widening. "Oh, is that so? Well, we'll see how much you enjoy your punishment, my daring little raven."
Lady Lesso, with an air of authority, led Y/N to the imposing chair at the center of the Doom Room. With a wave of her hand, she employed her dark magic to bind Y/N's wrists to the arms of the chair. The atmosphere in the room shifted, tension lingering as Y/N attempted to maintain an innocent facade.
Lesso, however, saw through the charade. She circled the chair, a sly grin on her face, and continued to tease Y/N mercilessly. "Oh, my little raven, what have you gotten yourself into? Stealing from the dean? You must have a death wish."
Y/N tried to appear calm and unbothered, but each teasing remark from Lesso chipped away at their composure. The facade of innocence crumbled, revealing a flustered Y/N beneath.
Lesso, reveling in the newfound vulnerability, continued her playful assault. "You thought you could outwit me? How adorable. You're not as cunning as you think, little raven."
Y/N, feeling the heat rise to their cheeks, shot back, "I don't know what you're talking about. I haven't taken anything."
Lesso chuckled, a sound that sent shivers down Y/N's spine. "You can play innocent all you want, but it won't save you. I know you too well, my dear."
As Lesso persisted in her teasing, Y/N's calm facade finally crumbled. Frustration and embarrassment painted their expression. Lesso, seizing the opportunity, continued to playfully degrade and taunt Y/N, stoking the flames of their flustered state.
In a moment of vulnerability, Y/N snapped. "Okay, fine! I took your hoodie, alright?" The admission hung in the air, the weight of truth settling between them.
Lesso, with a triumphant smirk, leaned in close. "And why, pray tell, would my darling little raven resort to petty theft?"
Y/N hesitated before finally confessing, "Because, Lady Lesso, it felt like you've been too busy lately. I just wanted to feel close to you, that's all."
Lesso's triumphant smirk faltered as Y/N's confession hung in the air. The mischievous game had taken an unexpected turn, revealing a vulnerability in Y/N that tugged at the dean's heartstrings. Instantly, Lesso's demeanor shifted from playful teasing to genuine concern.
"Y/N," she said softly, her tone laced with care, "why didn't you tell me you were feeling this way? Talk to me, my little raven."
But Y/N, unable to meet Lesso's gaze, remained silent. Tears welled up in their eyes, threatening to spill over, yet they held back, determined not to break down.
Recognizing the signs of emotional shutdown, Lesso quickly unbound Y/N's wrists. Scooping them up, she carried Y/N from the Doom Room to the privacy of Lady Lesso's chambers. The journey was filled with a heavy silence, broken only by the faint sound of Y/N's uneven breaths.
Lesso, attempting to break through Y/N's emotional barricade, gently probed, "Tell me what's going on, my love. I want to understand."
Y/N, still wrapped tightly around Lesso's neck, remained unresponsive. They buried their face in the crook of Lesso's neck, seeking solace in the familiar scent. Lesso's grip tightened instinctively, a silent reassurance that she was there for Y/N.
As they entered the sanctuary of Lesso's private chambers, the air thick with unspoken emotions, the weight of Y/N's unshed tears lingered—a poignant reminder of the complexities that love brought, even within the walls of the School for Evil.
Lady Lesso gently placed Y/N on the bed in her private chambers. Y/N curled into a ball, back against the headboard, arms tightly wrapped around their legs. Lesso watched, her heart aching at the sight of her upset girlfriend.
As the room echoed with silence, Y/N began to feel overwhelmed. Profuse apologies spilled from their lips, a torrent of self-blame. "Nora, I'm so sorry. I should've just left it alone. I know you have such a busy job being the dean of the School for Evil, and I shouldn't have added to the stress of your responsibilities."
Y/N's ramblings continued, expressing regret for not understanding the demands of Lesso's role. "I should have known that you'd be busy when we started dating. I'm just a student, and it was crazy of me to think that a relationship like ours could work. I'll leave, and I won't bother you anymore," they said, moving to the end of the bed.
When Lesso heard that Y/N was contemplating leaving, an immediate and visceral "no" escaped her lips. The tone was harsher and louder than she intended, causing Y/N to flinch, their wide eyes locking onto Lesso's.
Realizing the impact of her words, Lesso softened her expression and tone. She approached the bed where Y/N sat, looking up at her with a mixture of fear and uncertainty. Gently cupping Y/N's cheeks, Lesso spoke with a newfound gentleness, "No, my love. You're not leaving."
Lesso continued, "I'm not upset about the hoodie. I'm upset that you didn't come to me when you were feeling this way. We're a team, Y/N, and we face everything together."
Y/N, overwhelmed and spiraling into self-deprecation, started talking negatively about themselves. "I'm just a burden, Nora. I should have known better. I'm not worth the trouble," they mumbled, avoiding eye contact.
Lesso immediately shut down those negative thoughts, pulling Y/N into a warm embrace. Y/N's head rested against Lesso's chest as they wrapped their arms around her waist. Lesso gently rubbed Y/N's back, soothingly whispering, "You are not a burden, my little raven. You're worth everything to me."
She continued, "You're my girlfriend, and I will always be here for you, no matter what. I notice the little things, Y/N, the subtle changes in your behavior that you might not even be aware of."
Lesso leaned back slightly, looking into Y/N's eyes, and added, "Like how you play with your hair when you're nervous or the way your eyes light up when you talk about something you're passionate about. You're not alone in this, my love. We face everything together, remember?"
Lesso tenderly wiped away Y/N's tears, pressing a gentle kiss to their forehead. "It's late, my love. Let's get ready for bed," she suggested. Y/N nodded in agreement, and as Lesso asked if they wanted to join her for a bath, Y/N readily agreed.
Magically lighting the fireplace, Lesso walked with Y/N to the bathroom. With a wave of her hand, she started the water, letting it fill the tub with soothing warmth. Once the bath was ready, Lesso added bath salts and oils, creating a fragrant and relaxing atmosphere. She gestured for Y/N to get in first and then joined them, wrapping her arms around Y/N and placing sweet kisses on the top of their head.
After a while, Lesso carefully stepped out of the tub, telling Y/N she was going to get some pajamas for both of them. Y/N nodded, watching Lesso leave the bathroom. When she returned, Lesso had clothes for Y/N and helped them out of the large clawfoot tub, wrapping them in a fluffy towel.
As Y/N stood there, Lesso helped them get dressed, exchanging tender kisses. Y/N noticed that Lesso had put them in one of her sweatshirts, and a content smile spread across their face
In the cozy bedroom, the flickering flames of the fireplace cast a warm glow, creating a serene ambiance. Lesso and Y/N settled into the plush king-size bed, the soft sheets embracing them. Y/N, seeking solace, nestled close to Lesso, their legs intertwining as they burrowed their head into Lesso's chest.
Lesso, with a tender smile, embraced Y/N, her arms creating a protective cocoon around her. "Shh, my little raven. You're safe here," she whispered, her fingers gently stroking Y/N's hair.
Y/N let out a content sigh, finding comfort in Lesso's presence. "I'm sorry, Nora," Y/N murmured, voice muffled against Lesso's chest.
Lesso tightened her embrace, "There's nothing to be sorry for, my love. We all have our moments. I'm just glad you're here with me now."
They lay there in silence for a while, the only sounds the crackling of the fireplace and the soft hum of the night. Lesso, with delicate movements, started drawing random patterns on Y/N's back with her nails, a soothing rhythm that slowly lulled Y/N into a state of tranquility.
As Y/N's breathing steadied, Lesso pressed a gentle kiss to the top of their head. "Sleep, my little raven. I'll be right here," Lesso whispered, her own eyes heavy with the weight of the day's events.
Y/N mumbled a drowsy reply, "Thank you, Nora," before surrendering to the embrace of sleep. In the stillness of the night, the dean of the School for Evil held her beloved close, offering comfort in the embrace of shared warmth and affection.
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nerves-nebula · 10 months
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For years ive kind of favored demisexual/demiromantic above bi/pan to refer to myself because tbh it’s just more accurate. The way I’m attracted to people is nearly unrelated to gender. I could probably make a dozen things more important to me than the gender or physical appearance of my partner.
Gender presentation only matters so far as if someone is openly visibly queer I’m more interested because I know we might be thr same. But if it turns out they’re a shit person what does it matter what they look like. And like, I’m not interested romantically? I never deeply desired a relationship just from looking at someone, at most I just want to see more of you if I like being around you :/
I described my romantic feelings to a friend once as basically just being friendship but with more intimacy than a typical friendship and more of your life intertwined and he was like “that’s absolutely not what romantic feelings are they’re way different from friendship” and I’m beginning to think I might just be aromatic/asexual entirely, not demi. and i haven’t been able to tell because i deeply yearn for intimacy and I’m a bit possessive and so I figured that must mean I want romance or something.
But I’ve never had a crush. And I love my girlfriend but I probably couldn’t tell you the difference between my relationship with her and having a really close friend- because she’s my best friend! I adore her, but I never needed her to be in love with me. I never need sex or even really romance. We’ve been on one “date” to see sonic 2, and mostly we just hang out like we always have just with occasional kissing and some sexual activity. My ideal relationship has always been being best friends and deciding to intertwine your lives, which is basically what happened, and I knew that would always be seen as romantic to outsiders so I didn’t realize until recently that like… there’s no specifically romantic feelings here??? It’s just closeness? Intimacy? And I can easily see myself developing this kind of closeness with any of my friends if they do desired??
Anyway I think it’s time I stopped kidding myself. I’m not Demi, I just have really high standards about who I keep around in my life and get close to in general. My standards for friends and partners are exactly the same because there isn’t much of a difference when it comes to who I want present in my life.
I don’t catch feelings when I’m close to someone, I just get relaxed around them, which feels nice and so I equated it with romantic emotions. But once I got more friends I realized that warm fuzzy feeling wasn’t romantic attraction!! Because im aromantic!!!!
I guess it’s pretty cliche to come out during pride month but in my defense I didn’t realize this until i wrote this post. I was supposed to be musing on why I prefer demi to other labels and basically just talked myself into identifying as aromantic. Oops.
I’m probably also asexual but I already basically knew that.
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tsisisail · 4 months
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oh the way i'd kill for drawtectives x reader headcanons im so curious sahfjkasfj
YESSS YESS I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR AN EXCUSE TO DO THIS!
Okay, first and foremost, Rosé!
Rosé, is, of course, incredibly awkward. She flirts via method of tripping over herself to offer you compliments and cheesy pickup lines she doesn’t actually remember that well.
If you have social media she is going to force you to have matching profile photos with her daily rotating otps. Her love language is comparing you to her anime husband/wife of the week.
Rosé is big on compliments, both giving and receiving them. She’s a person who requires a lot of reassurance, and it means a lot to hear she’s loved. At the same time, if she cares about someone as much as she does you, she’s got to tell you every single second of every day. She thinks you’re the hottest thing on Earth and is not going to go a second without reminding you.
She’s a pretty conflict adverse person when it comes to interpersonal relationships, which might cause issues in your relationship. If something makes her unhappy she’ll just kind of bottle it up for fear of upsetting you.
Rosé pretends to think that she thinks romantic gestures are stupid, but in truth if you were to get one of those silly heart chocolate boxes for her she’d melt on the spot. As much as she doesn’t want to admit it, she’s a romantic at heart.
When she inevitably introduces you to her best friends, they’re rather skeptical of you considering Rosé has a history of having really bad taste. It takes a while for the Drawtectives to stop giving you side glances, but once Grendan gives your their stamp of approval, York is on board since she’s the best judge of character our of anyone in the group.
Who knows, if things go particularly well, you might have two new boyfriends.
She doesn’t strike me as the type of person who’d use a lot of pet names unless she was trying to be affectionate, in which case she’s only using the most absurd cheesy things. You’re her precious honey angel now, sorry, she doesn’t make the rules. She likes being your girlfriend, and she’ll call you whatever you want her too, but she does default to “partner” regardless of gender.
York is actually aromatic, so any relationship with him will be a bit unconventional. We’ll say for the sake of argument that York is romance neutral.
Immediately: If you do not work out, the chances of York initiating the relationship with you himself is slim to none. But if you do… Ho-boy, you cannot physically stop this man from flirting with you (AKA, pestering you about your arm wrestling prowess.)
You’re gonna have to be very clear with your expectations with him, because he isn’t really going into this with the mindset of exclusivity. Additionally, he is going to introduce you to his best friends immediately and if they don’t like you it’s pretty much over for you. This shouldn’t be something you have to worry about though- any friend of York is a friend of theirs.
York is very nonchalant about the entire experience. He basically treats you identical to the drawtectives except he’ll kiss you sometimes if you ask him to (which isn’t something he’d really be opposed to offering his friends either, you’re pretty much one of them now. Congrats!)
He doesn’t quite get a lot of romantic gestures, relegating things like flowers, weddings, and valentines day as being stupid. In the Northern Tribes you’d just defeat your lover’s worst enemy in combat to earn their favor and that’d be that.
He does, however, love the exchanging of sweets and the physical affection that come with a romantic relationship.
As for labels, York doesn’t really care what you call him or what he calls you. He’s your boyfriend? Cool. He’s your partner? Yeah okay. Your lover? Sure why not. He doesn’t really do pet names, but he will give you a nickname, and it will be a shortened version of your own name.
Grenda is probably going to have the most conventional relationship with you. Out of the bunch she has the most solid grasp on flirting and what healthy romantic relationships look like, so it’s pretty much smooth sailing ahead. (Not specific to romance but Grenda is also the best at giving hugs.)
His love language is definitely quality time, more than anything she just loves being with you. Whether it’s cooking or walking dogs, walking a movie or just sitting next to you in comfortable silence, being around you is just comforting for them.
If there’d be any issue in their relationship, Gma does have the tendency to put her own emotions aside in favor of helping other people in times of difficulty. You sometimes have to remind them that, hey, he doesn’t have to be everyone’s therapist all of the time.
For pet names, I think Grendan would honestly just call you by your name. I can maybe see “honey” or “babe”. If you call her a pet name though they’ll get really sweetly bashful, blushing and going “dawwwww….!” while swatting the air, the whole shebang. Once you start calling him a pet name though there’s no going back, they’ll get sad if you don’t call her that.
.. Okay so I know this was supposed to be Drawtectives headcanons, and Eugene is not a drawtective… But I love him and he’s my fictional husband so we’re doing him anyway!
Eugene, being rather shy and also absurdly wealthy, strikes me as the secret admirer sort. He’d anonymously mail you flowers and such, and then coincidentally go to talk to you the next day to see what you think.
If you reciprocate his feelings, he’s definitely not gonna catch on. Eugene is dense as a brick. You could go up to him and go “yo, let’s date!” and he’d just be like “haha wow you’re so funny!” and them go back to wishing you loved him back. You’re gonna have to be very explicit with his intentions if you want to woo him.
Eugene is very easily flustered, and so he tends to default to gift giving and acts of service as his love language. He’s pretty bad at flirting on purpose, he’ll just turn into a mumbling mess before he gets through the first sentence. Thing is, the emphasis is on the “on purpose.”
Eugene will say the sweetest, flirtiest things.. but he can only do it on accident. If he thinks about what he just said for more than one second he’ll turn bright red and stop talking immediately.
He’s also pretty shy with physical affection of any sort, but does enjoy it if he works up the courage.
Eugene would be pretty shy about pet names, mostly sticking to “my love”, maybe throwing in something like “darling” or “starlight” if he isn’t really thinking about it.
This head canon is only really applicable to Eugene, but if you were dating him since before the Celestial Spear, then you get to have a dramatic reunion scene accompanied by a dramatic reunion kiss. I like to imagine that “pick up and spin you around” thing.
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jaydenchip404 · 1 month
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There was this guy around my age at work today that came up to my cash register and said, "Hey! I remember you! Do you remember me?" I literally had no idea who he was, but I still said I kind of remembered him because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. He laughed. I got flustered and developed a little, tiny, itsy, bitsy crush on him, like I find him charming.
This can't be aromatic, can it? I don't get crushes on every guy, girl, or anyone I see, but I do get flustered and blushy, and I would categorize this as romantic feelings, like I want to hold hands with them all day and just laugh together. I can't be aromantic if I experience romantic feelings, right?
This can be applied to all my attractions and orientations; I feel them to some degree, but I don't ever really want to be in a relationship of any kind. Romantic, sexual, platonic—that's just not for me. I mean, ever since I got this job, I've started to hate people less, and I embarrass myself daily, so I tend to have less social anxiety, now. I feel a lot more confortable just going up and starting a conversation with people, before I had this job, doing that would give me panic attacks and make me start crying. What would this even be? Would it be aroace? Or am I simply allosexual/romantic but have a preference for not being in a relationship? I don't know.
What I do know is that I am bisexual/romantic. I am attracted to multiple genders/sexes, as well as me being genderfluid. My romantic orientation is what confuses me the most. I DO experience romantic attraction, but it isn't very strong and fades away after the person says they don't feel the same, or it will simply fade away on its own in a few days. I've had hundreds of crushes on people growing up and even thought of myself as a hopeless romantic, I even had crushes for fictional people (mainly girls), and I have dated twice, and I can say I don't like it, but would that just be social anxiety or just anxiety in general?
I don't know, and all I want is answers, because this is more confusing then it has to be. I kind of want to go unlabeled for a while until I have the time to really sit down and think about me and my experiences and correctly identify myself.
Someone, please help. I understand that because of the a-spec, there are things like romance/sex-repulsed, indifferent, and favorable, etc. Would I just be aromantic and romance-averse, or something? Please help; I am very confused.
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slendermanofficial · 7 months
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forgive my bluntness, but you have intercourses with your proxies? I thought you were asexual?
While I am not particularly attracted to my proxies or anything else really, I do find the act of intercourse to be enjoyable, I still feel pleasure doing it despite my lack of sexual attraction.
I think this is called 'sex favorable' or something similar.
On the other hand I am aromatic as well and find the idea of performing romance to be incredibly repulsive and sickening.
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aroaceconfessions · 2 years
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I am completely aromatic and I am romance favorable these are 2 things I absolutely love and accept about myself however, I always feel isolated. like I know romance favorable aros exist but MAN I feel like there are so few of us, I'm sure as hell not allo, but I'm not the type of aro people talk about. I'm also not cuipo(? Probably misspelled?) simply because I don't vibe with using microlabels for myself because of personal reasons. I just constantly feel so alone I know there are people like me I just wish I saw them. It also feels like sometimes the larger aro community doesn't acknowledge us and when they do it's always in reference to romance repulsed/neutral aros or they only talk about demi gray and cuipo people and while I guess the experience I have is the technically same as cuipo people it's not because I don't identify with it. I just feel so out of place no matter what.
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iwillbemeforever · 1 year
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so I just watched Koisenu Futari 2022 jdrama
Man,
I have so much thoughts.
First and foremost, the main characters are aromantic asexual. As an asexual myself, it’s just so good to see such a good representation. 
The show was great and it was just so good to see people like us on screen who feel the way we do.
Sakuko is a young girl who recently just discovered that she was an aromatic asexual while Takahashi is an older guy who already knew he was an aromantic asexual. 
Sakuko is quick to claim the label because, I guess, it’s nice to know you’re not alone and to describe what you are.
Whereas Takahashi, although he knows, he isn’t going to use it out irl. He’s abit more toned down. A bit more bitter. And I don’t blame him. When you don’t fit in with societal’s norms, it’s tough. You’re fighting against it and it gets heavy and tiring sometimes. 
I understand why Takahashi buckled down and hid himself from the world and try to surround himself with some joys that he personally allow himself to indulge in. 
I loved that although Takahashi was the one that showed her that she was not alone. That, later, she returned the favor by showing Takahashi that he can live how he like. That he could be free to do. And if he didn’t like it. He can start again. Everything is everchanging. Everfluid.
This show has made me think of my own situation.
I have known that I’m an asexual for a long time now. 
My entire life.... I knew that I was different. I never felt sexual attractions. I have been made fun of, growing up. I been accused as queer because I never shown attraction to people of the opposite sex. But I was not queer. I knew I was straight. But I’m just not someone who wants to have sex with someone or someone who can fall in love with a damn stranger.
Then one day, in university, I read something on asexuality. 
And the moment I read the definition, I knew what I was. I knew I was asexual. I didn’t have to take quizzes. I didn’t have to google it. I just knew. Honestly, I was just glad to know that I wasn’t alone and that I wasn’t too weird. That people like me exist. 
Then later, I got in a relationship. And I did wonder how it was going to work because I was asexual. 
For a moment, my sexual identity was definitely questioned. Then, since I was in a relationship, I discovered demisexuality. So I thought, maybe I was just demisexual. And for a long time, I embraced this new identity. 
But now that relationship ended, I realised, nah, I wasn’t a demisexual. I am an asexual through and through. I just accommodated my previous partner. It didn’t mean that I was demisexual. 
But this whole experience taught me that identities can change and that it’s okay. It’s cool. Just pick the one you relate to the most or don’t if you don’t want to. So it is everchanging, evergrowing.
But watching koisenu futari made me wonder, am I aromantic? Like, I knew I was asexual because I had no sexual attraction.  So I thought the definition should be the same as aromantic. That one doesn’t feel romantic attraction. I guess this was something that escaped me for many years because I do want romance. Because of that, you’d think that there’s no way you could be aromantic.
But the truth is, you could be aromantic and still want romance. I really do wonder. Because I do want romance but I don’t think I ever experience romantic attraction. And it explains alot. Like I have never fallen in love with someone at first sight. Like I can admire someone’s beauty but that doesn’t mean I fall in love with them. I can never fall for a stranger. 
But then again, I don’t have to explore this if I don’t want to. I don’t have to do whatever I don’t want to.
Anyhow, I understand why Takahashi puts himself in a box. Ever since my last relationship ended, I know that it won’t be easy to put myself out there because I’m asexual. And most of all, romance and love is not the most important thing to me. I have things to do. 
But we live in a world where society dictates some stuff. It’s hard to live one way when everyone is constantly questioning it. 
I know I’m asexual and recently, I just came back from a party where my friends were talking about sex. And it made my insides turn. I felt like I never want to hang or see them again. But that’s harsh. So I decide that I’ll just reduce my contact with them. So in a way, am I not doing the same thing as Takahashi, hiding myself because it hurts to be yourself and being out in the world?
But I don’t think I’m wrong. And in this sense, Sakuko offer a better answer. To find a world of people like you. To curate your world. And despite those group of friends not being understanding, I have other group of friends. I have other friends whom I been out with. Whom understands me for me. Whom loves me. 
And so, I don’t have to hide. I just need to curate and create my own world. Yea, this show made me think alot. But yes, I completely enjoyed Koisenu Futari. Most of all, I truly relate to Takahashi.
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This is an Asexuality PSA
Because a lot of people think asexuals are just people who doesn’t like sex and will under no circumstances have sex in their lives ever. And for some people this is the case! And that’s totally valid! But asexuality is a broad spectrum and it doesn’t work exactly like that for everyone. So here are some points to hopefully dismantle some of the most common preconceptions of the ace community :)
Asexuals can like sex!!!!
The defining factor of being asexual is not having sexual attraction towards people. This is when you look at a person and find them attractive in such a way that makes you desire to have sex with them. This is different to aesthetic attraction, where you find someone/something aesthetically pleasing in the way you might find a flower pretty, not in a sexual way. ASEXUALS CAN STILL HAVE SEXUAL DESIRE. It is not the same as sexual attraction. There can be asexuals with high libidos and asexuals who actively seek out sexual relations (sex favorable), there are some who are indifferent with or without sex (sex indifferent), and some who can sometimes hardly even think of sex without feeling disgusted and would never have it (sex repulsed). 
2. There is no way to “look” asexual. 
This should go without saying, but asexuals can wear whatever they want. If asexuals feel comfortable and confident in more revealing clothing, then there’s nothing wrong with that and it doesn’t invalidate their identity. An asexual person owning their sexuality and showing off their body is their choice and completely okay. They don’t owe you a certain way of dressing. Outfits do not equal consent. Revealing clothing is not inherently sexual.  
3. Ace people are a valid part of the LGBTQ+ community 🏳️‍🌈 
I have seen a lot of people try to exclude ace people, specifically cishet aces, from the lgbt community. First of all, the A in LGBTQIA+ includes asexuals. (And agender people and aromatics) The LGBT community is supposed to be a safe space for people who do not fit the norms of heteronormative society, and this should include ace and aro people, because we are minorities in a world that expects everyone to get a partner or pressures people to have sex. People seem to act like we need these things to feel whole, or be human, or have fulfilling lives. Allosexuals (non-ace people) make up 99% or more of the population. Because we live in a world where romance and sex are so pushed upon people and anyone not fitting into their idea of an ideal relationship are seen as undesirable or secretly miserable, asexuals can be hate crimed and discriminated against, just like gay or trans people. And we not only have to face aphobia from the cishet allo people, we also face it from inside the lgbt community when we are told we are not included. 
4. Asexual and Aromantic are not the same identity. 
Having sexual attraction and having romantic feelings exist on different spectrums and are not entertwined. Just because someone is asexual, doesn’t mean they don’t want a romantic relationship, and conversely just because someone is aromantic doesn’t mean they don’t want sex/feel sexual attraction. Some people are both asexual and aromantic, and some are one or the other. Both of these are real and valid options. 
5. Asexuality is a spectrum, and there are many varying identities under this umbrella label. 
Everyone can have differing levels of sexual attraction. For example, apothisexuals are sex repulsed and feel no sexual attraction, whereas demisexuals can feel sexual attraction if they form a strong bond or connection with someone, and greysexuals can also sometimes experience sexual attraction under certain circumstances. Cupiosexuals don’t feel sexual attraction but still desire sexual relationships. I’d recommend looking into some more of the ace spec micro labels if you’re interested, they’re really fascinating. 
6. Yes, people in real life do look at other people and think about wanting to have sex with them. 
If you’re reading this and thinking “Well, no one actually thinks like that right? No one actually feels sexual attraction, it’s just over-exaggerated when you’re talking to your friends or in the media like embellishing a story,” boy have I got some news for you. This is basically how I realized I was on the asexual spectrum. I genuinely didn’t think people could experience sexual attraction, and I didn’t get it when anyone would be telling me about it. If you resonated with any of this, you should do some research into asexuality, it could help you figure it out <3
That’s all for now, thanks for coming to my TED talk - Sprite
(Seriously if you read all the way through this I’m sending you a virtual hug 🫂 you’re awesome and I hope you’re having a wonderful day :D)
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“Here.” Kogami drops a box onto Makishima’s desk, and pockets his hands after. Inside the box are twelve identical bullet shaped chocolates … with at least one filled with hot chili, but neither he nor the box say so. Given their past, he realizes there’s some level of cruel irony here, but it’s all behind them… riiiiiiight? Kogami forces a smile. “I heard from someone that you like these kinds of things. So, enjoy.” He’s lingering in the criminal consultant’s office… almost watching him expectantly.
Valentine's Day
Although Kogami's appearance on this day was unexpected but not unwelcomed, the brief astonishment's quick to dissipate from Makishima's features as an object of much greater curiosity was presented: a box of chocolates, customary to the occasion which had long become insipid the moment the Sibyl System intervened in matters of romance. The continued designation of such a celebration seemed commercial, numerical, ultimately obsolete and only lingering in existence due to its convenient placement upon the calendar—but cynicism could be reserved for when solitude returned to him. For now, he'd make the most of this rare opportunity and inspect the contents of his gift with composed spirit of inquiry. If he felt particularly inclined to endow this tradition with his own meaning... then perhaps he'd consider it to be quaint. He was indeed fond of sweets, that couldn't be disputed.
The tension collected upon Kogami's visage was not lost to him, as subtle in expression that it was... And that's rather characteristic of Kogami, to express the true essence of his being through nuance; his reckless behaviors were not exemplary of his soul in entirety, as Makishima observed and come to affirm through interaction. He's liable to return similar conduct, layering their deliberate rivalry in complexity.
Kogami's hiding his hands. That likely meant Kogami had something to hide. And that meant Makishima couldn't reveal all his cards himself when his designated opponent remained evasive despite standing before him, in his own very space.
“What's this?...” Elegant parry in the form of feigned ignorance, his gaze flicked to the confectionaries crafted into the shape of a certain symbol that held morbidly ironic connotation as he kept a smile from spreading upon his face. He's biting back a remark on how there's twice as many bullets as there should be, recalling the revolver. “Obligation chocolate?” Tongue in cheek. He's curious if it would be found mocking.
And Kogami had yet to leave his office, for whatever reason or ulterior motive. Could it be you're expecting to witness something worthwhile, Kogami Shinya?...
Makishima's only option was to test such truly diligent patience, prolonging the tasting by raising the box to his face with measured grace. The scent was sweet, rich, aromatic... Ah, but there's a discrepancy: sharp notes lurking like serpents slithering about in the saccharine smoke of creamy plumes only authentic cocoa could exude, reminiscent of Thai cuisine... Alas, the chocolates were spiked with spice.
But he's really too amused by this to find the trickery offensive, instead curious where Kogami could acquire such a rarity and inviting him to approach with a come hither motion. The first round was taken into his mouth to sit between his teeth: a cunning bite, eyes not straying as he ate the bullet—welcoming it into his vessel.
It's sweet like memento mori, this small worldly indulgence.
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“Aren't luxuries meant to be shared on this occasion?” Pleasantry maintained, he held out the box with an expectant look: challenging Kogami to join him in this consumption of symbolic violence and see whom fickle fortune favored most from amongst them. “Take one, I insist.” I dare you. Let's play Russian roulette.
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Kiki's Delivery Service
Of all the Miyazaki/Studio Ghibli movies, my favorite has always been Kiki's Delivery Service. I don't remember when I first watched it but it was my first Miyazaki movie.
However, I recently began to realize while I favored it over others such as Howl's Moving Castle. Kiki's Delivery Service does not have not have a romance at the center of the plot.
Now, I have nothing against romance, but as an asexual/aromatic, it wasn't as important to me as other factors. Which draws me to why I enjoy Kiki's so much.
The movie is a lot about friendship and bettering yourself. It's also about not judging people right away and trying new things. All of these I find so important.
My favorite scene in the movie is actually when Kiki is assisting the older lady with her pot pie. It is nothing huge by any means, but it always makes me smile. Kiki went out of her way to help them and didn't expect anything in return. She did it because she wanted to.
I grew up in a family where things were often done as a payment or future owe. So to see someone help just out the goodness of their heart was new to me. It made me want to be like Kiki and be nice just to be nice.
This is what keeps bringing me back to Kiki. It's the true friendship and community of the movie. It makes me feel good and gives me hope that the word is better than I was taught. Plus I just love Jiji.
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thaiamulet-us · 1 year
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Love Attraction Oil (Hight Special-Level)
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Love Attraction Oil Made By ; Ajarn Dtecho Montr Dam / BOTTLE SIZE : 2.5 *7 cm The most powerful ingredients in the hight special-level Love Attraction Oil Contains a potent hand crafted mixture of herbs and essential oils extracted from various kinds of sacred flowers and herbs, and Necromantic Serum which are carefully selected and processed by hand to ensure the magical quality of the natural ingredients mixed into the love potion. Made with Dark Arts Khmer Necromancy by a renowned adept who specialises in metaphysical healing and curative remedies - By Ajarn Dtecho Montr Dam  . He is very proficient in metaphysical and magickal arts. Owing to the traditional production and consecration method, the concoction is richly imbued with love-inducing properties.  to strengthen intense feelings of passion between two lovers. And so, during the empowerment ritual, the Love Attraction Oil cast ancient Khmer magic love-binding spells to increase the effectiveness of the oil’s mystical properties. Consequently, the consecrated oil is endowed with magical qualities that serve to enhance passion in romance so as to encourage faithful and supportive love in one’s marriage or relationship.
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dndesigns · 1 year
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I will say that this character surprised me a little today with their rolls, mostly in that their aromatic ID isn’t that important to them but also: they seem to be mostly “meh” about all of their relationships. They like dating and are romance favorable and even if as a romo-aro, but in practice they really don’t seem to be stepping up to the romantic plate 🤣
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001mniceguy · 1 year
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Experience the ocean freshness with Ralph Lauren Blue - by Mr. Nice guy
After all this time, why is Ralph Lauren blue still such a hot topic? It might be because the launch of its latest fragrance, Ralph Lauren Blue has brought back so many memories for us.
If you're one of those people who can't help but think about old friends and former relationships once the new year begins, then it's time you got over your resentment and accepted that 2017 was your chance to move on. If not, then get ready to be a Container Club ambassador because this scent will make you want to ditch everything in favor of a cologne shower experience – no matter how old you feel or what kind of clothes you have on.
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Ralph Lauren perfume is reminiscent of the freedom and openness of the sky, combined with the energy and freshness of the ocean breeze. It is an invigorating and refreshing scent that is sure to make you feel alive. This masculine fragrance features a fresh mix of aquatic notes combined with spicy basil, verbena, and clary sage, softened with soothing notes of washed suede, velvety moss, and sheer musk. The top notes of this fragrance are melon de cavaillon, lush watermelon, and fresh sliced cucumber. The middle notes are tangerine. The base notes are musk and amber. Basil, clary sage, and geranium are all delicate notes that add a touch of freshness to the blend. This fragrance features a wash of suede and velvety moss, with a hint of amber and a light melon accord. There is also a touch of basil and amber patchouli, with a sheering layer of Musk.
How to apply - Hold the can 15 cm away from your underarms to spray deodorant. spray on the body's pulse spots: neck, torso, biceps to increase the intensity of the fragrance. Avoid direct sunlight, heat, and flammable substances when using this product. Avoid using it on broken skin. Please shake the container before using.
Mr. Nice Guy provides the best online services and offers for you. They have a Ralph Lauren romance perfume.  Originated in France, Polo Blue by Ralph Lauren is an Aromatic Fougera fragrance for men. Polo Blue was launched in 2003 Carlos Benaim and Christophe Laudamiel came up with Polo Blue. At the end all we want you to remember is this famous saying “Don’t forget your sense of smell because Scent and psyche are deeply connected,” they say.
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winniecouturebg · 2 years
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Top 5 Wedding Favor Ideas for Your Guests!
Buying the right wedding favors for your guests can be as complicated as choosing the best bridal gown in Columbus GA. It is next to impossible to understand which gifts will appeal to their minds. At the same time, expressing your gratitude through these party favors may seem like a herculean task.
It is therefore important that you start researching party favor ideas from the beginning. Just like you search through endless wedding gowns in Columbus GA, to get that one perfect wedding attire, you need to plan for your wedding favors as well.
If you are clueless as to which kinds of goodies would be perfect for your guests, this blog will suggest you quite a few creative ideas. Here we go!
Aromatic candles: Who does not love the light fragrance in a candle-lit room? Easy to carry, compact, cute and attractive, aromatic candles are surely one of the best party favor options for your wedding. You can choose from a wide range of fragrances such as cinnamon, honey, lavender, jasmine, lemon grass, hyacinth and many more. Next time you go out to shop for your wedding dress in Columbus GA, make sure you get scented candles for your guests as well.
P.S. Hoard a few for those romantic date nights with your spouse!
Cute pumpkin-shaped soaps: Hygiene and health should always be the priority. And these super cute bar soaps will definitely be a great pick for your guests. These soaps not just look cute and handy but also are scented. And the best part is that they come in attractive packaging. You can opt for a transparent cellophane bag, custom tag and ribbons to add to the festive mood.
Miniature lanterns: These mini lanterns can transcend anyone to a dreamy world of fantasies and romance! Imagine sitting on your cozy balcony, wrapped up in blankets with the love of your life, while the balcony is lit with these miniature lanterns. Your guests will fall head-over-heels in love with these miniature lanterns. You can get them customized in golden, silver or black color as per your wedding venue theme and décor.
Customized mason jars: Mason jars look great and serve multiple purposes. One can use them to pour in fresh juice or decorate their rooms by inserting fairy lights. They can serve as wonderful wedding party favors too. All you need to do is to customize them with your wedding date engraved on the glassware.
Sunflower seed packets: If you are getting married during the Falls, this has to be your ideal wedding favor idea. Hand out these cute little sachets of sunflower seeds and encourage your wedding attendees to opt for gardening. The seeds will soon bloom into gorgeous Sunflowers and remind your guests of your magical wedding.
Wrapping up
Now that you are sorted about bridal party favor ideas, it is time you get your appointments booked with the best bridal shops in Columbus GA. One of them is Winnie Couture. They offer some of the most mesmerizing wedding attires and are indeed the top bridal boutique in Columbus GA that offers such a huge variety.
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You know the post I posted a few hours ago? Well, here it is but better. Because its a picture.
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