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bookcub · 1 year
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Do you have any book (or show or movie) recs with asexual men? I feel like all the books with asexual characters I’ve read feature asexual women but no asexual men. Fiction or nonfiction is good. TIA!
ooo this is a great ask!! women are definitely more likely to be the ace rep in the books I have read!!
first off, How to Be a Normal Person by TJ Klune is fantastic. the love interest is a man and asexual. it's a mlm adult romance novel, very low stakes and I totally cried. I haven't read the sequel, but the main character is demisexual in that one and a man. bonus, TJ Klune is asexual himself and (if I recall correctly) The Lighting Struck Heart has a prominent asexual side character.
Ace by Angela Chen is a nonfiction book and she interviews many people throughout her books, and I distinctly remember her interviewing men, specifically talking to one about how his gender intersected with his asexuality.
I never finished Tarnished Are the Stars by Rosiee Thor, but one of the three main characters was an aro ace teen boy. This is a scifi, set in space, YA novel.
Radio Silence by Alice Oseman has a major character who is a demisexual teen boy. It's YA contemporary. I also cried reading this.
Rick by Alex Gino is a middle grade novel about a middle school boy questioning his place in the queer community. Very sweet.
That Kind of Guy by Talia Hibbert is a contemporary romance and one of the main characters is a demisexual man falling in love with his best friend (who is a fantasy author). This was unexpected for me because I picked this up for the author, not the demi rep so I was over the moon.
side note, for tv shows, I've only watched Todd's ace clips, but there is a male character who realizes he is ace.
The podcasts A-OK and Sounds Fake but Okay both have interviews with ace men, so if you like podcasts, I would check those out as well.
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angled-aroace · 1 year
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Am I actually one of those cool kinky aces or is it just a special interest
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squirreltastic · 2 years
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[PHOTO ID: Digital color drawing of Chii from Chobits sitting on the ground. She is holding an ace flag on a pink pole. She is wearing a grey and white dress with a under layer of purple with floral theme. Her shoes are pale purple with white scalloped details. She is wearing a black chocker and her pink crystal ring. The background is pale pink with lighter pink four petal flower silhouettes. 
There is a teal bordered banner with text reading its okay to tag this art as kin/me/id. END ID]
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asterosian · 4 years
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This kid is awesome
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Ace people deserve so much more than to have their identity reduced down to a discourse topic, and they definitely deserve much better than to constantly be ridiculed and harassed for their asexuality.
Being asexual isn't bad or wrong. Being asexual doesn't mean someone is broken. Being asexual doesn't make someone inhuman. Being asexual doesn't mean "doesn't like sex," "doesn't fuck," "being straight," or whatever other rude things gatekeepers claim it is. Being asexual doesn't mean anything other than "does not feel sexual attraction."
Aces, I know it seems like there are so many people against you and against your identity, but please remember that gatekeepers are the minority and a small one at that!! There are far more people in the LGBTQ+ community who love you, accept you, and recognize you and your ace identity as valid and as part of this community. And as our history has shown us time and time again, asexuals have always been a vital part of the community and an important part of queer history.
You're all such amazing, phenomenal people, and the LGBTQ+ community simply would not be the same without y'all blessing it with your existence in it!! So please, whenever you feel alone, whenever you feel bad for being ace, whenever you feel like you don't belong, remember that so many of us in this community love you and want you here. And we always will ♤♤♤♤
You belong here, and nothing will ever change that!!!!
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a-spec-tacular · 4 years
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I think one of the most important things we can do, as we move beyond the initial surge of “ace dis/course”, is begin documenting our community history and circulating that information.
We are a community that’s been damaged, and we will need time and work to heal. A lot of folks came into the community during years of intense strife, fear, and growing shame.
Now, the community is beginning to pick itself back up again. We’re poking our heads out of the closet, and looking around to see if the dust has settled.
In the wake of all that’s happened, it’s more important than ever to talk about where we’ve come from as we decide where to go.
We come from a deep sense of community, from supporting and uplifting one another, and from a place of establishing traditions and finding meaning and connection in our experiences. Let’s talk about that, revive what we can, and move forward from a place of hope for our future and love for our past.
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somedaywellfindit · 4 years
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Here's some information on the term amatonormativity, since I don't think a lot of people understand what it can mean! (this is how I, personally, understand it, so please forgive me if I got anything wrong!)
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Two screenshots from the app, Vent. The username is blocked out in black.
Image one: White text on a black background:
"if you don't know the word
amatonormativity is the idea that people should be in a "normal" perfect relationship. it's your parents asking when you're finally gonna settle down with a nice man and get married. it's romcoms showing that everyone has a chance to fall in love! it's the idea and concept that "normal" love being force fed to us from a young age
"normal" in people's eyes is cishet, white, ablebodied, middle class. it's damaging and unrealistic because you can't have a perfect notebook-esqe relationship".
Image two: More white text on a black background, finishing off the last two comments:
"by saying you're amatonormative, you are inherently subscribing to an ableist, racist, homomisic, ace/aromisic and transmisic ideology". End ID]
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lowkeyspacetrash · 5 years
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Do young aros and aces know about the playing cards and the rings or did the Disk Horse™️ take that from us too
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sapphic-squirrel · 4 years
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Hello Everyone! I want to present a community flag for the A-spec community!
The Who: This flag is for asexuals and aromantics, a unifying flag for both communities because we often overlap and have to fight the same if not similar fights. We have plenty of shared history as well. 
The What: This flag is purposely designed to mimic the Sapphic, Pluralian, Diamoric, Achilean/Vincian flags. Three stripes and one plant. The green is for aromantics, the purple for asexuals and grey is for the grey area between A- identities and Allo- identities which would represent grey-aces, grey-aros, demi-aces, demi-aros, split attraction users and those that don’t have solid labels but know they are somewhere under the umbrellas of asexual or aromantic. The plant is an aloe vera stylized. 
The Where: If you want to repost this flag please include link so others can use the transparent .png but otherwise feel free to share as you wish! 
The How:  This flag was a group effort, I created the succulent art and @hetaces​ worked on the shades and portions of the stripes. Input and troubleshooting was also provided by the Inclusionist Discord Server. One version uses the exact shades from my succulent art, one has it adjusted for higher visibility and one has a lighter grey stripe for those that might need better visibility/contrast.
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bookcub · 1 year
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As with other identity labels, asexual is not prescriptive of behavior; it is a tool. People are free to use the term to help better understand themselves and find community with others who also find the label to be accurate. It is unfortunately quite true that labels can sometimes feel as carceral as they do liberating. But ideas don't put us in a box. Ideas do. For many of us, it is in asexuality that we find the affirmation we have always needed but were never afforded by any other language. We have taken hold of the part of our being, or are we coming, that has long been nameless, and have given it a name.
-Sheronda J. Brown, Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture
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I saw a punk blogger I follow do this and I’m curious myself
This blog is not my main, I try to keep my personal blogging off this one since I consider this blog to be topical (regarding a-spec stuff and positivity) and my personal blogs are random as heck
Also, I am not ashamed to say I’m a proshipper and transandrophobia truther, so that’s kind of controversial and I want to keep that off this positivity/ resources blog
If someone wants to yell with me about being proship, being sickpunk, being transmasc/ transneutral… I might consider messaging you from my main or a different side blog if you ask nicely
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angled-aroace · 2 years
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Aces and Aros and all on those spectrums can be hedonistic and decadent y'all just have very narrow definitions you keep projecting onto humans which are in fact nuanced
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squirreltastic · 3 years
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[Photo ID: A digital full color art of Wednesday Addams with the Asexual Pride flag. End ID]
This art is okay to tag as kin/me/id
I combined some different designs for Wednesday I love the little noose’s from the animated movie like (chefs kiss). I was watching Addams Family Values and I was like ‘thats an ace mood’ and I realized (at the time I’m posting this) Ace Week ends on Halloween so here’s some spooky ace headcanon art. 
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asterosian · 4 years
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This is your reminder that ace rings are as old as 2005
2005
It’s almost 2020 as of writing this so do the math… that’s about 15 years old
AVEN was founded in 2001
The asexual flag was announced as the official asexual flag in 2010
The ace rings are older than the ace flag and only about four (4) years younger than AVEN
Keep this info laying around somewhere, you’ll need it whenever an acephobe on tumblr makes a claim about the asexual community
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acesartemis · 4 years
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Next time an exclusionist says aces aren't lgbtq tell them youre
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(photo courtesy of wings of fire series)
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